Ok this is a bit of a long one, but I really need help with this one. Ok, here goes:
My mum is a property developer and my dad is a builder but has quite severe mental problems which means that he can't leave the house and doesn't trust a lot of people and therefore does not have a job. A few years back they bought their dream house which is in the middle of nowhere, no neighbours (which my dad loves). It was a shell when they bought it and my dad has been working at building an extension adding floors, new roof, windows doors, generally making it in to an amazing house that he plans to spend the rest of his life in.
He dreams of doing odd building projects for his mate who is a businessman, living off the land and staying in that house forever. My mum wants to get rich which is why she got in to the property developing business. She has four properties all with a mortgage, one being the dream house my dad lives in, two she is renting out and the rent just covers the mortgage rates, and the fourth she lives in herself since splitting with my dad.
Last year she was rushed to hospital with heart failure, now this wasn't a clot that could be removed, this was something rare where her heart shrunk and would not pump. She was transferred to harefield hospital which is the specialist heart hospital. It was a miracle that she survived and now will be classed as disabled for the rest of her life.
Whilst in hospital in a critical condition she was still trying to sort out the finances for the house but she couldn't keep it up and now she is in arrears on everything. They have increased all mortgages so she can't afford to pay them, she now has loans and credit cards which she also cant pay. All houses have decreased in value. One is 拢10,000 negative equity. One would just break even. The one she lives in would make 拢20,000 if sold but she would then have no where to live. The only way she would get out of this mess is to sell the house my dad is in but she refuses to do it because a) it will leave him homeless b) he said he would refuse to leave, and c) she fears he will commit suicide. Now whether any of these things are true or not is irrelevant. She WILL NOT sell it and there is no persuading her otherwise. Plus at the moment she cannot sell any as they are all in arrears and soon they will all be up for repossession.
She is getting disability allowance from the government but this isn't enough to cover it plus they are giving her even less because in there eyes she owns four properties so does not need the money. My dad would never seek help for his mental illness as he does not believe he has one.
The issue now is that my mum has asked me to put her house and my dads house in to my name, which would mean i take over the mortgages. This isn't because she wants to pass the buck, it's because she feels she can afford these two mortgages and by handing them to me it will also reduce the payments quite dramatically and she can then declare herself bankrupt and just concentrate on paying those. My concern is what happens if/when she can't pay them, I certainly cannot afford to pay them myself, I will go in to arrears myself and I live with my partner and his which this will affect. My partner is also totally against this idea and we have already had numerous arguments about this. I fear he will leave me if I do this as his main concern is protecting the future of his child.
What do I do? Help my mum out and risk my own livelihood or sit back, comfortable and safe whilst watching my parents fall apart?Serious problems - financial or moral advice please?
';What do I do? Help my mum out and risk my own livelihood or sit back, comfortable and safe whilst watching my parents fall apart?';
Might I say that I have the 'luxury' of hindsight of a similar situation relating to myself and my parents though not quite as complicated as the dilemma you find yourself facing - so I will pass on my hindsight view to you.
Your parents are both adults and should not expect/ask you to shoulder this awful burden they must seek other help - the CAB
will help if asked.
I realise that for a person who has such close bonds with their parents that 'not helping' seems an anathema but if you are to hold on to what you have and go forward in your own relationship then you must distance yourself from any such arrangement however hard that may be for you to do.
Believe me when I say that if you do go ahead with your mother's request and if as I suspect things go even more pear shaped you may find yourself entangled in the nightmare (that I endured) of bankruptcy proceedings where if the official receiver so decides you may end up losing everything and I do mean everything.
I know this probably flies in the face of all you have learnt in life especially about families sticking together etc. and in an ideal world I would agree, but what you are being asked to do is beyond the call of duty as you are already aware it's threatening your relationship with your own family.
So please take this suggestion on board and seek professional advice either see a solicitor or indeed the CAB sooner rather than later.
Ask me if I would do the same for my parents (again) and I would most definitely say No! but then as I said before I do have the benefit of hindsight.
Good Fortune to you..
Serious problems - financial or moral advice please?
Can you afford the mortgages, if you can, it would be a good idea.
Don't take on the mortgages this will not help anyone least of all yourself and your partner. Also as a mum your main concern and priority should be your child not your mother and so you need to protect your financial future.
it's all very sad but your mum has obviously over-stretched herself by taking on four houses and this is the consequences. if she continues to refuse to sell any of the houses including the one your dad is in she will become bankrupt and have to give them all up anyway. if her priority is your dad she needs to sell the other three, get a job, and live in rented accommodation. if she is still worried she can get free financial advice.
did she not take out PPI? This is what you use in the case of illness meaning you can't pay off the mortgage for however long and means that the insurance will cover the payments? because if she didn't I'm sorry but that was not a wise move.
good luck :-)
from what i can tell, u don't have a problem.
leave ur dad alone. his home may be his only
security blanket and sanity.
unless your mom deserves to be ignored for some reason,
help her.
if your man loves u and his family, then he will support u.
if he cares more about money than u then u r in the
wrong place anyway.
once u help ur mom, rent the homes to people who can
afford to pay the mortgage bill.
don't make the rent too expensive...perhaps just enough
to cover the bills for each house.
if your mom gets worse and can not handle things,
then have someone to rent to own or sell them.
there may be plenty of travelors who may need a place
to live while visiting your town. rent higher to them...
make it seasonal. there may be other ideas like
advertising it as a small get away for newlyweds,
anniversary celebrations, etc.
there are ways to make money on homes and there
are ways to get rid of them.
if things get too big then just sell them w no profit
just to get them off your hands.
btw = i would not suggest this, but when i was young, a friend of a family member had similar problems. the main point was that the house was fussed over in a divorce. someone thought of the fire insurance money and torched the house. when the money came, it paid the bills and the rest was split. i never forgot that.
Hey pal
You do indeed have some dilema, however i think your first loyalty is to 'your own' family unit, and i fully appreciate that you probably do have a very good relationship with your parents, but consider this.
When things where good for your parents they never considered transfering their assets into your name, and if i am to be brutally honest, i think to some degree they have become victims of their own greed, and i firmly believe that one should always try to keep a few pennies aside mindful of unforeseen eventualities.
I think that your mother needs to adopt a pragmatic approach and consider what she needs to do, which for me means selling her own property, and maybe living with yourself and your partner until she is able to acquire her own affordable property, as she is not the only person that this has happened to.
In addition to this your fathers property is also at risk so i would strongly advise that between you all you need to consider how to acquire a property that is 'realistically' sustainable, which may not be the ideal, but hey ! welcome to the real world.
Your partner is not only considering your childs future, i think he is doing what any man should do which is to consider his family 'first' in which i see no wrong, as when family is involved we tend to make decisions of the heart where business is concerned which is always a very risky proposition (excusing any pun).
Finally, maybe rather than worrying about keeping up appearances, they should consider the fact that the greatest wealth we have is indeed our health.
I think unless your mother takes effective and appropriate action she may well loose everything, so i think this one is an exercise of damage limitation, and i wish your family the best of luck.
ps i am also a great believer in that 'the best lessons for life are the most painful'
First of all I am sorry to hear of all the issues that you have presented here. You must realize that you neither caused them, nor can you cure them. How great it would be to just put a house and mortgage in your name but bankruptcy laws don't work that way. They trace back distribution of assets and what you think of ';bailing them out'; will put you in some serious legal trouble (fraud) as the courts realize what you've done. You are not the answer to their problems. They have become over extended with debts and conditions have changed for them. Medical disability is a valid cause for bankruptcy but does not allow people to keep homes and cars and boats and all kinds of assets which creditors write off the amounts and take losses. You surely can understand that on a legal and business issue. You must bow out of the offer. This is up to your parents to figure out and with an attorney, not with a bunch of Yahoos, pardon the pun.
If your Mom and/or parents file bankruptcy, the finances will be out of their hands. It's pretty much guaranteed that they will have to sell or foreclosure on the property (or more than one) so I'm sorry to say the dream house, dream job, and dream life is now just that... a dream. It's important to live within their means now. This may mean special subsidized housing options or moving in with you or ... I cannot answer their future but they have to realize that YOU can't either.
You have to watch out for you, my dear friend. You didn't cause the problems and you surely can't cure them. It's time for an attorney, financial counselor, emotional counselor, government assistance or whatever it takes to keep your parents from living in a cardboard box but making certain that YOU don't end up in your box or prison cell.
Sorry to be blunt and not have the answer you were looking for.
I do not think transferring the mortgages to you is the appropriate choice. Has she tried refinancing the mortgages? According to your numbers, if she could sell all three of the houses, she'd come out 10,000 ahead. Letting her move in with you sounds better than taking over her mortgages.
What a complicated nightmare you are in. Sorry can't offer financial advice but have you sat down and spoken to your mum about your worries. Do you have any siblings or other close relatives you could share this burden with. Or are there any close friends of your parents you could talk to, it sounds like it would be a lot easier if your dad got help, could you speak to a doctor about him and get advice. Sorry not much help really but didn't want to read and run.
Sue xx
UK? Do not allow her to transfer the houses into yours and your dad's name, if she is going to file for bankruptcy. It is a criminal offence to get rid of property before bankruptcy. You, your dad and your mum could find yourselves in a lot of trouble. To be fair, these are not your debts and you haven't helped her to get into the state she is in now. I can understand your concerns, as she is your mum and you don't want to see her go under. What she is talking about above is not the way to go about it. She has to address the problems herself. I can see your partner's point of view here and I'm afraid there is some tough love for you to administer to your mum. In answer to one of your last questions, I'm afraid that you must let her do this herself, with support from you and the family. You cannot risk your livelihood and your own relationship for someone else's muddle. Make an appointment to see a specialist adviser at the CAB before you do anything else. You can find the link below to the public CAB site to find your nearest one and you may like to look at the PDF which is also on the site which I have put the link in for too. The CAB may also be able to find some support and help for your Dad too. Please can you keep us updated on your descision. We would like to continue to support you in this.
way to much to read sweetheart but i do have advice for a financial situation. VOTE FOR OBAMA
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Guy problems...really need some advice?
Firstly I have to say sorry to you unfortunate readers: this is one heck of a long story but I can鈥檛 shorten it because I鈥檒l keep getting people asking for more info which is a lil鈥?bit annoying. I hope you read it all the way through and can help me. Thanks in advance and God bless XXX
Okay, so I鈥檓 going to sound like one of those girls stressing out about guys but this isn鈥檛 JUST any guy, he鈥檚 a best friend. Here we go:
There鈥檚 this guy who I鈥檝e been friends with for about 5-ish years. We鈥檝e always been really close and been there for each other like nobody else ever has been for us before (he said that to me). Anyways here鈥檚 my dirty lil鈥?secret (as if u don鈥檛 already know): I am falling in love with him.
飪?The more time I spend with him, the more I want to kiss him
飪?the more I want to kiss him the less I want to be near him鈥ot because I don鈥檛 like him but because I don鈥檛 want to be one of THOSE GIRLS (you know the ones, who corrupt nice guys and turn them into man whore鈥檚 and steal other girls boyfriends)
because yes, he does have a girlfriend and I know that he would never cheat on any girl that he is dating because he is so loyal and trustworthy to everybody, he鈥檚 a truly amazing guy; so why, you ask am I even thinking about him romantically when he鈥檚 dating somebody and when we are such good friends that I wouldn鈥檛 want to risk the friendship鈥? but the thing is that as much as I want to convince myself there can NEVER be anything more than friendship between us the more he melts my heart and makes me fall in love with him. I have a real problem trusting people, especially guys~ he is the only guy who鈥檚 been able to gain my trust and to make me think about him even when I know I shouldn鈥檛.
the thing is, we constantly flirt with each other and spend WAY too much time together, any time we have spare we will normally be hanging out and having a laugh and if we can鈥檛 meet up then we talk on msn or at least are leaving lil鈥?text messages for each other. He鈥檚 a really huggy guy, which is great because I鈥檓 a really huggy gal ~ it鈥檚 kind of just how I am. He鈥檚 always grabbing hold of me or putting his arms round me, we are always using each others as pillows and stuff, always having tickle fights (lol I know how immature that sounds but oh well) and tonight when I got lost walking to a place 陆 between our houses in the dark he came and found me and he kept joking (at least I think he was joking) about taking me into the bushes (we were in a forest in the dark) and stuff: its just what we do, lol. Lately he keeps picking me up a lot and dropping on the sofa or bed or wherever we are and kind of falling onto me and pretending like he鈥檚 asleep which is quite funny mostly (hee hee). And whenever we have staring contests we always end up head to head staring into each others eyes (which are annoying because he always win as I HAVE to look away). we can talk for hours on end and never run out of things to say (unless we鈥檙e tired, but then we just send smileys) I鈥檓 even talking to him now at 12:30 am as I write this鈥 REALLY DON鈥橳 KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! HOW DO I GET HIM OUT OF MY MIND????
I know we sound extremely child-ish but we just love to mess around and act like little kids.
I pray to god to tell me what to do and make this ache in my heart go away but as yet I am having no luck鈥?br>
Two more quick things:
1) I can鈥檛 start seeing less of him because he鈥檒l think something is wrong and get upset/depressed (this happened last time I tried to stop seeing him so much)
2) We are both live in the UK (if that matters)Guy problems...really need some advice?
Please don't do this to his girlfriend. My ex-fiance was exactly as you described your friend. He helped a gal with her car problems and started going out on movie/meal dates with her, and even allowed her to stay overnights at his place, all in the name of friendship, of course. What I don't understand is how he can rationalise to keep the friendship from me for 3+ years. So please spare a thought for his girlfriend and be fair to her. Talk to him about it, and if he feels the same way about you, he should do the gentlemanly thing and break it off with his girlfriend as soon as he can. It hurt me so bad to find out what my ex was doing behind my back, all the time enjoying himself and not sparing a thought for my feelings.Guy problems...really need some advice?
ok you are in a rough situation i have that very close situation going on. but what i would do is let him make the first move. because if he does not ask u out he just does not feel the same way. do not ask him out let him ask u because 1 time i asked my friend out and he said yes and a couple days later we broke up and did not talk to me as much as he used to which really broke me down. just be really carefull with this. good luck i hope i helped.lipstick kiss
Okay, so I鈥檓 going to sound like one of those girls stressing out about guys but this isn鈥檛 JUST any guy, he鈥檚 a best friend. Here we go:
There鈥檚 this guy who I鈥檝e been friends with for about 5-ish years. We鈥檝e always been really close and been there for each other like nobody else ever has been for us before (he said that to me). Anyways here鈥檚 my dirty lil鈥?secret (as if u don鈥檛 already know): I am falling in love with him.
飪?The more time I spend with him, the more I want to kiss him
飪?the more I want to kiss him the less I want to be near him鈥ot because I don鈥檛 like him but because I don鈥檛 want to be one of THOSE GIRLS (you know the ones, who corrupt nice guys and turn them into man whore鈥檚 and steal other girls boyfriends)
because yes, he does have a girlfriend and I know that he would never cheat on any girl that he is dating because he is so loyal and trustworthy to everybody, he鈥檚 a truly amazing guy; so why, you ask am I even thinking about him romantically when he鈥檚 dating somebody and when we are such good friends that I wouldn鈥檛 want to risk the friendship鈥? but the thing is that as much as I want to convince myself there can NEVER be anything more than friendship between us the more he melts my heart and makes me fall in love with him. I have a real problem trusting people, especially guys~ he is the only guy who鈥檚 been able to gain my trust and to make me think about him even when I know I shouldn鈥檛.
the thing is, we constantly flirt with each other and spend WAY too much time together, any time we have spare we will normally be hanging out and having a laugh and if we can鈥檛 meet up then we talk on msn or at least are leaving lil鈥?text messages for each other. He鈥檚 a really huggy guy, which is great because I鈥檓 a really huggy gal ~ it鈥檚 kind of just how I am. He鈥檚 always grabbing hold of me or putting his arms round me, we are always using each others as pillows and stuff, always having tickle fights (lol I know how immature that sounds but oh well) and tonight when I got lost walking to a place 陆 between our houses in the dark he came and found me and he kept joking (at least I think he was joking) about taking me into the bushes (we were in a forest in the dark) and stuff: its just what we do, lol. Lately he keeps picking me up a lot and dropping on the sofa or bed or wherever we are and kind of falling onto me and pretending like he鈥檚 asleep which is quite funny mostly (hee hee). And whenever we have staring contests we always end up head to head staring into each others eyes (which are annoying because he always win as I HAVE to look away). we can talk for hours on end and never run out of things to say (unless we鈥檙e tired, but then we just send smileys) I鈥檓 even talking to him now at 12:30 am as I write this鈥 REALLY DON鈥橳 KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! HOW DO I GET HIM OUT OF MY MIND????
I know we sound extremely child-ish but we just love to mess around and act like little kids.
I pray to god to tell me what to do and make this ache in my heart go away but as yet I am having no luck鈥?br>
Two more quick things:
1) I can鈥檛 start seeing less of him because he鈥檒l think something is wrong and get upset/depressed (this happened last time I tried to stop seeing him so much)
2) We are both live in the UK (if that matters)Guy problems...really need some advice?
Please don't do this to his girlfriend. My ex-fiance was exactly as you described your friend. He helped a gal with her car problems and started going out on movie/meal dates with her, and even allowed her to stay overnights at his place, all in the name of friendship, of course. What I don't understand is how he can rationalise to keep the friendship from me for 3+ years. So please spare a thought for his girlfriend and be fair to her. Talk to him about it, and if he feels the same way about you, he should do the gentlemanly thing and break it off with his girlfriend as soon as he can. It hurt me so bad to find out what my ex was doing behind my back, all the time enjoying himself and not sparing a thought for my feelings.Guy problems...really need some advice?
ok you are in a rough situation i have that very close situation going on. but what i would do is let him make the first move. because if he does not ask u out he just does not feel the same way. do not ask him out let him ask u because 1 time i asked my friend out and he said yes and a couple days later we broke up and did not talk to me as much as he used to which really broke me down. just be really carefull with this. good luck i hope i helped.
Boy problems and family/relationship advice?
so, i've been talking to this boy now for about a month and a half, and he has become my FRIEND. and obviously, if you have a really good friend, you'd talk to them a lot, whether it's a boy or a girl. so, i've been talking to him a lot, about other boys for me or other girls for him and a lot of other random stuff. well,my family and my friends all think that i like him and he likes me back, but we REALLY and SERIOUSLY don't like each other like that.
like i said earlier, everyone thinks that we like each other, but this is ruining my rep and i don't like what people are thinking of me right now. even parents and kids think it.
so, anyway, how do i get everyone to realize that i don't have romantic feelings for him and that i just like to talk to him because he's good company.?Boy problems and family/relationship advice?
Tell people the truth. You sound pretty mature so Why would you lie about that?Boy problems and family/relationship advice?
idk i guess jus continue to b his friend n tell the guy u like that u guys r jus friend and there is nothin btween u guys try to convince ur parents that this guy is jus a friend to u r probably he is such a nice guy that they would want u to b w/ him ever think of that? but try to convince them that u two r only friends since u dont like him like that
like i said earlier, everyone thinks that we like each other, but this is ruining my rep and i don't like what people are thinking of me right now. even parents and kids think it.
so, anyway, how do i get everyone to realize that i don't have romantic feelings for him and that i just like to talk to him because he's good company.?Boy problems and family/relationship advice?
Tell people the truth. You sound pretty mature so Why would you lie about that?Boy problems and family/relationship advice?
idk i guess jus continue to b his friend n tell the guy u like that u guys r jus friend and there is nothin btween u guys try to convince ur parents that this guy is jus a friend to u r probably he is such a nice guy that they would want u to b w/ him ever think of that? but try to convince them that u two r only friends since u dont like him like that
BF problems....PLEASE HELP!!!! NEED ADVICE!!!?
so my bf of 2 years found out yesterday that i cheated on him in march while he was in cancun on spring break in he was really upset about it and was calling me a hoe and nasty...but after about an hour he calmed down apologized and told me he still wanted to be with me...however thru out our two yrs we have had an extreme amount of probs concerning him trusting me and me lying i do admit that i have lied to him about certain things and have only come clean after finding out that he had proof that i lied to him. However regardless of my mistakes i still love him and have now told him the complete truth about my skeletons and wish to continue our relationship i just dont know if that would be the smart thing to do. although i'm sure that he loves me isnt it possible that he will cheat on me now that he knows the truth about the things i've done???? Am i suppose to take that risk and be with him anyway hoping he won't do that or let it go and move on????? I really do love him hes my heart and i know that i've made mistakes...but i cant imagine being without him. But is that honestly the smart thing to do or am i suppose to risk my feelings now because hes already risked his?????I just need some advice!!!! please help!!!!BF problems....PLEASE HELP!!!! NEED ADVICE!!!?
SIMPLY PUT:
You're an irritating self absorbed cheater.
He's done nothing wrong. You're wrong.
Be a better human.BF problems....PLEASE HELP!!!! NEED ADVICE!!!?
If you love him then you just have to take that risk. A relationship should be based on honesty, lies are never a good thing to have in any kind of relationship especially with a bf/gf. If he truly loves you and is a good person then he won't make the move of cheating on you just because you cheated on him. I really hope you two can work it out, best of luck to you.
If he really wants to be with you that probably means he will not cheat on you and forget about the past and only think about the future, unless he is that kind of boy who like to get revenge then do not take the risk do not go out with him.
You're never going to know if he'll be completely faithful from now on. You really screwed up when you decided to treat him like dirt and cheat on him. If it was me, you'd be gone as fast as I could get rid of you, but I guess he's different. You may want to worry.
Well your the one that messed up.
If he wants to be with you, and you still want to be with him, you can try it.
But you cannot expect him to trust you, it will take a long time to earn that back,
you need to give him the trust that he cant put in you because he deserves at least that much. Just because you cheated doesnt mean that he is going to maybe he has better morals than you and you need to get them fast or you will lose him
If he loves you as much as he says he does and will take you back after what you've done most likely he loves you as much as he says he does you should give it another try you are just regretting what you have done
Sorry, but I don't think you really love him. If you honestly loved him you would never ever cheat on him. Now that he knows, he might cheat on you. Unless, he really really loves you.
He most likely will cheat. He doesn't trust you anymore and he probably never will, so this is definitely not the last of your fights. If you can get out of it, do so before you both wind up with terrible heartache.
YOU cheated on him and YOUR worried HE'LL do the same!? are you actually reading what you just wrote. i think he should leave you because by the sounds of it you dont appreciate him much and so you dont deserve him.
awh! He agreed to stay with you even when you cheated on him?
and you went and did it AGAIN?
oh my
you're a terrible person
i say you let him go!
He sounds too nice to cheat on you, he's not that LOW.
if you cheated on him, leave the option to continue or end the relationship to him.
personally, i think you guys should go your own ways.
move to novascotia and marry the guy selling chikens and tell him that u have a orange to talk about hell have all the answers...
Usually people who cheat aren't in love. You should ask yourself if you want to continue this cycle of distrust and lies, or move on and find yourself?
sounds liek you both need to sit down for a looooong talk, but doesnt sound like this relationship is going to last very long... sorry but good luck
YOU cheated on HIM and YOU are saying you should leave...? No, if anyone makes the decisions to leave or not (when you love him) it is HIM who ONLY has the right...
U are so stupid. If u love him so much then why did u cheat on him. U should probably just forget about it and move on. But keep dating him and just enjoy yourself.
just because you were a cheating liar doesn't mean he will be one as well. he sounds like a really good guy.
you're lucky he still talks to you.
you're rotten.
It depends on how much you trust him.
HELL PIERCE UR CLIT AND SWALLOW THAT LOAD AFTER HE STICKS U IN THE ***!!!THEN LET ANOTHER ***** **** HIM IN FRONT OF U!THEN U R EVEN AND **** ON HIM!NO PROBLEM 4 THE ADVICE ITS FREE LIKE U ***
stay with him
do what's fair, he deserves answers....
HAhah, I think that this is the classic example of major problems in our society. Everyone assumes that everyone else would behave in the same manner as them when they get the chance. Therefore you get immoral people behaving immorally and justifying it by saying everyone else would do it to if they had the chance....the opposite applies, most people who guide their lives with a strong set of morals must believe that deep down everyone else is moraly strong as well, but just need to be trusted to do the right thing.....classic case
oh yeah btw
SHUT UP
Seriously, there is no reason he would cheat on him. but if he did, then you would just have to deal with it......I like the person who said:
Be a better human.
thats funny.
I am one who has been lied to and cheated on. One or the other several times over the past 4 years. I hold on in hopes that he truly loves me enough to stop. I have never cheated on him not once. What he does, does not change who I am as a person. I am not a liar or cheater. I am completely committed to him. I'm not sure he will ever change. As my time with him continues, so does the lies and the women. I am now just about done with this relationship. He has virtually destroyed all that we ever had. We can't hardly talk, we hardly have any intimacy and when we do, its not right for me. Sometimes I can hardly stand to look at him. I cry every night. Sadly our relationship is not ending because of what he has done, it's ending because of what he hasn't been able to do.... be truly sorry for the pain he has caused me and STOP DOING IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN... He says he loves me, and I am all he's ever dreamed of wanting, yet when he wants... it's not always me that he wants... and I DESERVE THAT !!!
If you're going to break up with him, it should be because you love him enough to be honest with yourself and him, and realize you cannot be absolutely positive that you can stop lying and cheating. HE DESERVES BETTER THAN THAT. If you truly love him like you claim... then you shouldn't LIE OR CHEAT on him. This is why people say love hurts.... but it's not supposed to and really doesn't have to. Either be truly sorry and stop !!!! or let him go to find happiness with someone who deserves him and will treat him the way he deserves to be treated !!!! Don't break up with him because you're afraid of being cheated on. If you got cheated on... you deserve it... the only thing is, it could never hurt you like it hurt him. Even if it's not him that cheats on you ... unless you're lucky enough to keep him forever... eventually what comes around goes around.... Maybe if you stop now... maybe, just maybe you won't have to suffer the pain you have dished out !!!!
If you love someone you dont cheat on them.So I dont really understand why you did.IUnless you are unhappy deep down inside with the relationship, the issue still lies with you, not him as you felt the need to cheat on him.A man will never trust a woman who has done this and it will blaken your relationship forever.Time will get him to trust you again if thats what he wants.And being honest with him every time...even if it means you being a little out of sorts or uncomfortable, this is all anyone deserves in a relationship.You cannot make him trust you.It has to be his decison whether he can or not.
SIMPLY PUT:
You're an irritating self absorbed cheater.
He's done nothing wrong. You're wrong.
Be a better human.BF problems....PLEASE HELP!!!! NEED ADVICE!!!?
If you love him then you just have to take that risk. A relationship should be based on honesty, lies are never a good thing to have in any kind of relationship especially with a bf/gf. If he truly loves you and is a good person then he won't make the move of cheating on you just because you cheated on him. I really hope you two can work it out, best of luck to you.
If he really wants to be with you that probably means he will not cheat on you and forget about the past and only think about the future, unless he is that kind of boy who like to get revenge then do not take the risk do not go out with him.
You're never going to know if he'll be completely faithful from now on. You really screwed up when you decided to treat him like dirt and cheat on him. If it was me, you'd be gone as fast as I could get rid of you, but I guess he's different. You may want to worry.
Well your the one that messed up.
If he wants to be with you, and you still want to be with him, you can try it.
But you cannot expect him to trust you, it will take a long time to earn that back,
you need to give him the trust that he cant put in you because he deserves at least that much. Just because you cheated doesnt mean that he is going to maybe he has better morals than you and you need to get them fast or you will lose him
If he loves you as much as he says he does and will take you back after what you've done most likely he loves you as much as he says he does you should give it another try you are just regretting what you have done
Sorry, but I don't think you really love him. If you honestly loved him you would never ever cheat on him. Now that he knows, he might cheat on you. Unless, he really really loves you.
He most likely will cheat. He doesn't trust you anymore and he probably never will, so this is definitely not the last of your fights. If you can get out of it, do so before you both wind up with terrible heartache.
YOU cheated on him and YOUR worried HE'LL do the same!? are you actually reading what you just wrote. i think he should leave you because by the sounds of it you dont appreciate him much and so you dont deserve him.
awh! He agreed to stay with you even when you cheated on him?
and you went and did it AGAIN?
oh my
you're a terrible person
i say you let him go!
He sounds too nice to cheat on you, he's not that LOW.
if you cheated on him, leave the option to continue or end the relationship to him.
personally, i think you guys should go your own ways.
move to novascotia and marry the guy selling chikens and tell him that u have a orange to talk about hell have all the answers...
Usually people who cheat aren't in love. You should ask yourself if you want to continue this cycle of distrust and lies, or move on and find yourself?
sounds liek you both need to sit down for a looooong talk, but doesnt sound like this relationship is going to last very long... sorry but good luck
YOU cheated on HIM and YOU are saying you should leave...? No, if anyone makes the decisions to leave or not (when you love him) it is HIM who ONLY has the right...
U are so stupid. If u love him so much then why did u cheat on him. U should probably just forget about it and move on. But keep dating him and just enjoy yourself.
just because you were a cheating liar doesn't mean he will be one as well. he sounds like a really good guy.
you're lucky he still talks to you.
you're rotten.
It depends on how much you trust him.
HELL PIERCE UR CLIT AND SWALLOW THAT LOAD AFTER HE STICKS U IN THE ***!!!THEN LET ANOTHER ***** **** HIM IN FRONT OF U!THEN U R EVEN AND **** ON HIM!NO PROBLEM 4 THE ADVICE ITS FREE LIKE U ***
stay with him
do what's fair, he deserves answers....
HAhah, I think that this is the classic example of major problems in our society. Everyone assumes that everyone else would behave in the same manner as them when they get the chance. Therefore you get immoral people behaving immorally and justifying it by saying everyone else would do it to if they had the chance....the opposite applies, most people who guide their lives with a strong set of morals must believe that deep down everyone else is moraly strong as well, but just need to be trusted to do the right thing.....classic case
oh yeah btw
SHUT UP
Seriously, there is no reason he would cheat on him. but if he did, then you would just have to deal with it......I like the person who said:
Be a better human.
thats funny.
I am one who has been lied to and cheated on. One or the other several times over the past 4 years. I hold on in hopes that he truly loves me enough to stop. I have never cheated on him not once. What he does, does not change who I am as a person. I am not a liar or cheater. I am completely committed to him. I'm not sure he will ever change. As my time with him continues, so does the lies and the women. I am now just about done with this relationship. He has virtually destroyed all that we ever had. We can't hardly talk, we hardly have any intimacy and when we do, its not right for me. Sometimes I can hardly stand to look at him. I cry every night. Sadly our relationship is not ending because of what he has done, it's ending because of what he hasn't been able to do.... be truly sorry for the pain he has caused me and STOP DOING IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN... He says he loves me, and I am all he's ever dreamed of wanting, yet when he wants... it's not always me that he wants... and I DESERVE THAT !!!
If you're going to break up with him, it should be because you love him enough to be honest with yourself and him, and realize you cannot be absolutely positive that you can stop lying and cheating. HE DESERVES BETTER THAN THAT. If you truly love him like you claim... then you shouldn't LIE OR CHEAT on him. This is why people say love hurts.... but it's not supposed to and really doesn't have to. Either be truly sorry and stop !!!! or let him go to find happiness with someone who deserves him and will treat him the way he deserves to be treated !!!! Don't break up with him because you're afraid of being cheated on. If you got cheated on... you deserve it... the only thing is, it could never hurt you like it hurt him. Even if it's not him that cheats on you ... unless you're lucky enough to keep him forever... eventually what comes around goes around.... Maybe if you stop now... maybe, just maybe you won't have to suffer the pain you have dished out !!!!
If you love someone you dont cheat on them.So I dont really understand why you did.IUnless you are unhappy deep down inside with the relationship, the issue still lies with you, not him as you felt the need to cheat on him.A man will never trust a woman who has done this and it will blaken your relationship forever.Time will get him to trust you again if thats what he wants.And being honest with him every time...even if it means you being a little out of sorts or uncomfortable, this is all anyone deserves in a relationship.You cannot make him trust you.It has to be his decison whether he can or not.
Girl problems need a girls advice would u do this if u liked a guy?
ok so my sister have this friend and we went out to eat and she was working there i dint say hardly anything to her. she asked me if i wanted a reese peanut cup and of course i said yes who would not want one. then the next we were at church and we started talking for a while and then i saw her passing a note back and forth with a friend and then every now and then they would look at me. then this week during worship and the whole service she kept looking at me at different times so i just wanted to know if u guys think she likes me and plz don't say just ask her cause im a shy guy and that is very hard for me to doGirl problems need a girls advice would u do this if u liked a guy?
yea she likes u but shes scared to show it
yea she likes u but shes scared to show it
Relationship problems? please help,any advice?
ok so my boyfriend and i got into this huge argument about me not opening up to him,and he said it upsets him so very much and after he thought things through this is what he saidd...
'; I Realize Many Things Now And I Realize That If I Dnt Get Over It Than Itl Neuer Work Out So Il Just Accept The Fact That Wer 2 Dif Ppl And Thats The Way It Is I Had 2 Choices 0ne Was That I Can Say **** It And Walk Away From You 0r I Can Just Accept Who You Are And Stay With You And Just Be Happy So I Choose To Stay With You And Quit Being Selfish Cuz Babe I Love You With All My Heart And I Want Every Experiance To Be With U And I Know I Just Gota Wait 4 The Time You Want To Do Them =] Ily Babe';
Was some part of it rude? we talked things through and were now happy,but do you find anything wrong in this? or messed up?Relationship problems? please help,any advice?
Well I wouldn't say that it was rude but I do think that it was kinda unnecessary for him to say that.. But no not really anything wrong with it.
'; I Realize Many Things Now And I Realize That If I Dnt Get Over It Than Itl Neuer Work Out So Il Just Accept The Fact That Wer 2 Dif Ppl And Thats The Way It Is I Had 2 Choices 0ne Was That I Can Say **** It And Walk Away From You 0r I Can Just Accept Who You Are And Stay With You And Just Be Happy So I Choose To Stay With You And Quit Being Selfish Cuz Babe I Love You With All My Heart And I Want Every Experiance To Be With U And I Know I Just Gota Wait 4 The Time You Want To Do Them =] Ily Babe';
Was some part of it rude? we talked things through and were now happy,but do you find anything wrong in this? or messed up?Relationship problems? please help,any advice?
Well I wouldn't say that it was rude but I do think that it was kinda unnecessary for him to say that.. But no not really anything wrong with it.
Boyfriend problems. i need some advice please?
ok so i have been with this guy over a month now. I like him a lot! Recently he went away for a month to visit his family. We hung out a few times before he went away and it was amazing! Now that he is gone we txt all the time and we have real conversations over txt. He has been away for about a week and a half but still hasnt called me. What does this mean? Does he want me to call him? Does he even want to talk to me over the phone? Im confused. what should i do?Boyfriend problems. i need some advice please?
relax sometimes guys need a little push. Call him, and talk about a conversation over your text messages. Then tell him you have missed hearing his voice and it would be nice if you could talk more often, ask him to call you tomorrow night. good luck!Boyfriend problems. i need some advice please?
This is your boyfriend? If he hasn't called you or talked to you in a week and a half, you need to confront him. Call him, and see what the deal is. It seems like the two of you were having a great time before this started to happen, so see what is going on. Maybe he is busy or something, or his phone broke, but seriously, a week and half of no communication? There really isn't a very good excuse for that, especially when there is down time during the day. Call him and see what is going on, but try to act like you're not too torn up over it. You don't want it to seem like he has the upper hand in the relationship. Just be cool about it, and if it continues, then maybe it is time to find somebody better.
Best of luck!
You should called him, and see what's up and then wait it out. Its not like you popped off the face of the earth. Every-time he looks in his contacts he has to sees your name and number, so if he isn't calling then he doesn't want to talk. The best thing would be to call him, and just ask him how's he doing, and what he's been up tp lately...if he just be like nothing happen...then you just wait it out, he's probably having real fun with his family. If hes staying for a month, thin he's probably catching up.
he could be one of those people that just like to text. my one friend doesn't even talk to his girfriend of i think almost a year on the phone lol, hes just a texter.
or maybe ur guy has unlimited texting and not many free minutes
As long as he is texting you ';all the time'; why worry about it. Maybe he has unlimited texts, but calls will cost. That is the way with my family's phones.
its no big deal if you really want to talk to him call him
call him!
relax sometimes guys need a little push. Call him, and talk about a conversation over your text messages. Then tell him you have missed hearing his voice and it would be nice if you could talk more often, ask him to call you tomorrow night. good luck!Boyfriend problems. i need some advice please?
This is your boyfriend? If he hasn't called you or talked to you in a week and a half, you need to confront him. Call him, and see what the deal is. It seems like the two of you were having a great time before this started to happen, so see what is going on. Maybe he is busy or something, or his phone broke, but seriously, a week and half of no communication? There really isn't a very good excuse for that, especially when there is down time during the day. Call him and see what is going on, but try to act like you're not too torn up over it. You don't want it to seem like he has the upper hand in the relationship. Just be cool about it, and if it continues, then maybe it is time to find somebody better.
Best of luck!
You should called him, and see what's up and then wait it out. Its not like you popped off the face of the earth. Every-time he looks in his contacts he has to sees your name and number, so if he isn't calling then he doesn't want to talk. The best thing would be to call him, and just ask him how's he doing, and what he's been up tp lately...if he just be like nothing happen...then you just wait it out, he's probably having real fun with his family. If hes staying for a month, thin he's probably catching up.
he could be one of those people that just like to text. my one friend doesn't even talk to his girfriend of i think almost a year on the phone lol, hes just a texter.
or maybe ur guy has unlimited texting and not many free minutes
As long as he is texting you ';all the time'; why worry about it. Maybe he has unlimited texts, but calls will cost. That is the way with my family's phones.
its no big deal if you really want to talk to him call him
call him!
Girl problems..could use some advice?
Well theres this girl that I told I cared about her, and she didn't feel the same way about me, ';so I think';. any ways she told me she was happy we were friends. But afther I told her how I felt, she stopped talking to me, any ways afther a while, she was single ';she was also single when I told her, but started dating some guy'; any ways it didn't work out with that guy, so I asked her out, and well she blocked me on msn, removed me from facebook and whatever.
Any ways that was 4 months ago, and I guess ever since she has been talking about me non stop, I hear that she always is talking about me, but every time I try to talk to her, she never wants to talk to me, doesn't want to see me. But yet ever since 4 months ago, she talks about me to this day...I'm not sure if its good talk or not, but it really doesn't matter, 4 months later and your still talking about a guy who asked you out 4 months ago...thats a little strange.
anyone know what might be going on here??Girl problems..could use some advice?
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Any ways that was 4 months ago, and I guess ever since she has been talking about me non stop, I hear that she always is talking about me, but every time I try to talk to her, she never wants to talk to me, doesn't want to see me. But yet ever since 4 months ago, she talks about me to this day...I'm not sure if its good talk or not, but it really doesn't matter, 4 months later and your still talking about a guy who asked you out 4 months ago...thats a little strange.
anyone know what might be going on here??Girl problems..could use some advice?
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Family problems please help and advice.?
i am really worried about my best friend's situation. She is really worried and she gets sad with all the things happening into her house. Her dad acts weird and he seems that he does not love her mom anymore. Her mom is trying to feel good having time with her daughter. She got enclosed to herself. I remember her having friends being concerned to groups like the parents school group :S and know nothing. She is sad because she has no friends. Nothing and she does not make any move to meet people because she says she is old. [ almost 47 i think ] .
:s what should we advice her to do..please help.Family problems please help and advice.?
x_rina,
Your friend is lucky to have someone like you, your breed is rare. Now the very first thing that you and your friend need to do is to pray together and accept in your prayer that something wonderful thing will comes out after this storm in your friends family is gone. Next, try to be a good listener because your friend family is on the edge of breaking up. Give all the support to your friend and always be there when she needed you. I don't know what is the relationship of your friend and her dad. If she can still talk to him, tell her to talk to her dad and open up what she is feeling as of this moment and is afraid of. Let your friend have some private time with her dad, and ask him all the things like, does he still love her mom? or other things such as why it seems that you and mom not as sweet as before? or
Is there a way that they can still patch up? I really don't know what questions she want toa sk her dad, but pray first before doing this and let God speak for her. Next let her talk to her mom, and do the same. Is she can't do it. tell her just try to write a letter for both of her parents. Espressing how she feels, and telling them how much she wants to grow with a loving and caring family. If she want some guidance on how to write this letter., email me at ronnievicn@yahoo.com, and tell me what happy memories she had with her mom and dad while they are still together. If she know the facts on how her parents met, add it up. then I'll do the letter and one day, she needs to wake up early and leave the letter where her dad and mom could see it. Tell her that my heart is for her, and I will always pray for her and her family. God Bless, keep in touch.
:s what should we advice her to do..please help.Family problems please help and advice.?
x_rina,
Your friend is lucky to have someone like you, your breed is rare. Now the very first thing that you and your friend need to do is to pray together and accept in your prayer that something wonderful thing will comes out after this storm in your friends family is gone. Next, try to be a good listener because your friend family is on the edge of breaking up. Give all the support to your friend and always be there when she needed you. I don't know what is the relationship of your friend and her dad. If she can still talk to him, tell her to talk to her dad and open up what she is feeling as of this moment and is afraid of. Let your friend have some private time with her dad, and ask him all the things like, does he still love her mom? or other things such as why it seems that you and mom not as sweet as before? or
Is there a way that they can still patch up? I really don't know what questions she want toa sk her dad, but pray first before doing this and let God speak for her. Next let her talk to her mom, and do the same. Is she can't do it. tell her just try to write a letter for both of her parents. Espressing how she feels, and telling them how much she wants to grow with a loving and caring family. If she want some guidance on how to write this letter., email me at ronnievicn@yahoo.com, and tell me what happy memories she had with her mom and dad while they are still together. If she know the facts on how her parents met, add it up. then I'll do the letter and one day, she needs to wake up early and leave the letter where her dad and mom could see it. Tell her that my heart is for her, and I will always pray for her and her family. God Bless, keep in touch.
Roommate problems. Can anyone offer advice, please?
I am a university student who recently moved into an apartment with two friends from my dorm. Let's call them Jane and Sally. I found this beautiful apartment with wonderful landlords and I had to have it. Jane and Sally, being friends, agreed to move in with me. But before they did, I mentioned I was going to foster dogs for the local shelter. And they both agreed to it. Also before signing the lease, Jane mentioned that she was buying a cat. I told her I was fine with it so long as the cat would be her complete responsibility. We moved into the apartment a few months ago and problems arose. I was fostering a dog (German Shepherd/Bulldog Mix) and my roommates were fine with it. He was an extremely quiet and gentle dog. Most of the time he sat around the house doing nothing or was off in a corner chewing on his rawhide bone. The Smart dog he was, understood that I was his caretaker and completely ignored Jane and Sally. The way they liked it. He shed a lot so I always vacuumed the entire house weekly as he was my responsibility. So I didn't think too much of it. However, one day I received a phone call from the shelter saying they had received an email from Jane's mother saying that the dog was ';aggressive and violent, would bite and attack people.'; The email also went to say that I was ';a bad foster parent and gave no choice in the matter to Jane or Sally.'; They were ';trapped with a vicious dog.'; Usually, I stay far away from confrontation. But this email was not only an attack on my personality, but the innocent dog's personality. I was livid when I got back to the apartment so I decided to take the dog for a walk first, calm myself down and then talk to Jane. After about an hour, when I was feeling a little more calm, I returned home and confronted Jane. I did not raise my voice, but I maintained a serious tone. I told her I felt hurt and betrayed. And I asked her why her mother would send such an email. She responded by mentioning the kitten she was about to purchase from a breeder and said that the kitten needed time to settle in without a dog. To which I told her that if she had a problem, she should have talked to me directly instead of going behind my back. At which point she had a panic attack and ran out of the room. When she came back, I tried to apologize for giving her a panic attack but she screamed, ';DON'T APOLOGIZE! IT MAKES IT WORSE!'; And retreated to her room. This left Sally to explain Jane's insecurities and reasons. And because I was brought to understand that the kitten NEEDED to settle in without a dog present, I agreed that if he didn't find a permanent home within a week of the kitten's arrival, I would send him to another foster home. Unfortunately I had to send him back only to find out that Jane was lying about the kitten's arrival date, claiming that the kitten was arriving at the beginning of the month but later retracting the statement - after the dog had left - saying she was unsure. So, I became upset about sending the dog back prematurely. However, I did make an agreement, and I continue to stick to it. But at the same time, I feel that Jane made an agreement about letting me foster a dog, but yet she does not stand by her word.
On top of the dog issue, Jane and Sally are messy people. They constantly leave dirty dishes in the sink, dirty pots on the stove, hair all over the bathroom floor and then some. I suggested making a chore chart and they agreed. However, when it was their turn to do chores, they never did. I was stuck cleaning up after them. Eventually, I stopped and I only cleaned up after myself, thinking that if I let the mess accumulate they might notice and take initiative. They didn't. So having exhausted those means, I decided to leave post-it notes whenever I saw a mess that needed cleaning up. Juvenile, but it got the point across since talking and asking were doing no good. However, Jane and Sally (understandably) got upset about the post-its to which I mentioned that I was upset about a mess. They told me I was being juvenile and they were upset at me. Even still I stood my ground and said that I did not want to be the only one cleaning up the house. They both promptly walked away and the matter has yet to come to a solid conclusion.
Through this letter, it appears I find Jane more of a problem than Sally, however, Sally always defends Jane. I feel outnumbered. And because of that, I often feel that I am wrong or unreasonable. Simply because I am not in the majority. Even worse, Jane and Sally mention all our problems to our friends. I want to ask them to stop, but how can I without being accusatory? Even if I don't like Sally and Jane very much at the moment, we still share a circle of friends and it's a very fragile and delicate balance. My other friends are nice enough to ignore what Jane and Sally say, but it's the principle of the matter. I don't like to talk behind Jane and Sally's backs, especially not to mutual friends. Because it's not theRoommate problems. Can anyone offer advice, please?
It appear that being roomates is tearing your friendship apart and the animal situation isnt helping any. First whoevers name is listed as primary signer on the lease has control here and whatever agreements are made between the three of you definitely needs to be in writing and signed by those directly involved. If the apt is yours then I would say you need to find some new roomates as this live-in situation is boardering on a disaster. Too much damage done now to be corrected. You cannot live your life by what you think your friends think or will say as this is none of their business anyway. Life isnt always easy and hardly goes as planned. So take control of this situation and tell your roomies they either agree or they can find other living arrangements. Good luckRoommate problems. Can anyone offer advice, please?
Ummmm. Sounds like the perfect dog, raising my suspicions. Are you sure there wasn't something more going on? Arthur's right--perhaps you should pursue a more solitary living arrangement.
Um... if it really bothers you, move out. Jane and Sally don't really sound like people you can talk it out with.
Look, People like that don't deserve to be in an appartment, They deserve to be locked up in the loony bin.
If they are that insecure that they would tell there mothers to send a provocative email to a dog shelter about one of their cares just because the mothers daughter wanted a kitten and it ';Needs'; to settle down without a dog there, Even though the dog hardly does anything is appalling.
In my opinion, You should either kick them out, Or find another place.
Buts thats just my opinion.
Transfer the lease for the apartment to Jane or Sally. Move out. Get a smaller place for yourself without roommates.
First mistake college students make i know.. i did the same.. and you don't want to hear this but get it in writing.. your screwed on everytihng... i'm sorry to say... I suggest finding new places to hang out and find new friends for the last part.. i really can't say much just that talking to them isn't going to help i know those type of girls and its like fighting a storm your not going to win.. just keep your head up high that dog will find a nice home and at the end of this you will 2
Yes, you're being very juvenile. Either accept your roommates or move back into the dorms I guess. You can't have everything.
On top of the dog issue, Jane and Sally are messy people. They constantly leave dirty dishes in the sink, dirty pots on the stove, hair all over the bathroom floor and then some. I suggested making a chore chart and they agreed. However, when it was their turn to do chores, they never did. I was stuck cleaning up after them. Eventually, I stopped and I only cleaned up after myself, thinking that if I let the mess accumulate they might notice and take initiative. They didn't. So having exhausted those means, I decided to leave post-it notes whenever I saw a mess that needed cleaning up. Juvenile, but it got the point across since talking and asking were doing no good. However, Jane and Sally (understandably) got upset about the post-its to which I mentioned that I was upset about a mess. They told me I was being juvenile and they were upset at me. Even still I stood my ground and said that I did not want to be the only one cleaning up the house. They both promptly walked away and the matter has yet to come to a solid conclusion.
Through this letter, it appears I find Jane more of a problem than Sally, however, Sally always defends Jane. I feel outnumbered. And because of that, I often feel that I am wrong or unreasonable. Simply because I am not in the majority. Even worse, Jane and Sally mention all our problems to our friends. I want to ask them to stop, but how can I without being accusatory? Even if I don't like Sally and Jane very much at the moment, we still share a circle of friends and it's a very fragile and delicate balance. My other friends are nice enough to ignore what Jane and Sally say, but it's the principle of the matter. I don't like to talk behind Jane and Sally's backs, especially not to mutual friends. Because it's not theRoommate problems. Can anyone offer advice, please?
It appear that being roomates is tearing your friendship apart and the animal situation isnt helping any. First whoevers name is listed as primary signer on the lease has control here and whatever agreements are made between the three of you definitely needs to be in writing and signed by those directly involved. If the apt is yours then I would say you need to find some new roomates as this live-in situation is boardering on a disaster. Too much damage done now to be corrected. You cannot live your life by what you think your friends think or will say as this is none of their business anyway. Life isnt always easy and hardly goes as planned. So take control of this situation and tell your roomies they either agree or they can find other living arrangements. Good luckRoommate problems. Can anyone offer advice, please?
Ummmm. Sounds like the perfect dog, raising my suspicions. Are you sure there wasn't something more going on? Arthur's right--perhaps you should pursue a more solitary living arrangement.
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Um... if it really bothers you, move out. Jane and Sally don't really sound like people you can talk it out with.
Look, People like that don't deserve to be in an appartment, They deserve to be locked up in the loony bin.
If they are that insecure that they would tell there mothers to send a provocative email to a dog shelter about one of their cares just because the mothers daughter wanted a kitten and it ';Needs'; to settle down without a dog there, Even though the dog hardly does anything is appalling.
In my opinion, You should either kick them out, Or find another place.
Buts thats just my opinion.
Transfer the lease for the apartment to Jane or Sally. Move out. Get a smaller place for yourself without roommates.
First mistake college students make i know.. i did the same.. and you don't want to hear this but get it in writing.. your screwed on everytihng... i'm sorry to say... I suggest finding new places to hang out and find new friends for the last part.. i really can't say much just that talking to them isn't going to help i know those type of girls and its like fighting a storm your not going to win.. just keep your head up high that dog will find a nice home and at the end of this you will 2
Yes, you're being very juvenile. Either accept your roommates or move back into the dorms I guess. You can't have everything.
Boy Problems/commitment.. need some advice..?
My ex boyfriend ( who is my first love) is sending all kinds of mixed signals to me. He also suffers from depression so that causes most of it. We have been broken up for about 6 months now. But we still have been talking through out. We have had a few nights of ';hanging out'; lately. Last was about 4 days ago. He wanted to see my halloween costume we ended up laying in his bed, without clothes messing around and then just talked. He said that it was really nice. that he likes having me there next to him at night.. and its also nice to be comfortable physically and mentally with someone so much that you can just lay there naked and not worry about it. He just saying things how he didnt want the night to end. didnt want me to go home, and then gave me some clothes to wear so i didnt have to put my costume back on.. Over all it was a good night. But i dont know if it thats all it was.. just that night. I want it to be more, and him back. But idn if he feels the same. What do you think?Boy Problems/commitment.. need some advice..?
I THINK HE JUST FELT LONELY AND USED YOU FOR THE NIGHT. MAKE THINGS FINAL WITH HIM ONCE AND FOR ALL AND STOP BEING THERE EVERY TIME HE CALLS.Boy Problems/commitment.. need some advice..?
ask him........it sounds like he wants more...
it sounds like he wants more.
but u can't be sure unless u straight out ask him.
if ur comfortable enough 2 lay naked then u can ask this.
I THINK HE JUST FELT LONELY AND USED YOU FOR THE NIGHT. MAKE THINGS FINAL WITH HIM ONCE AND FOR ALL AND STOP BEING THERE EVERY TIME HE CALLS.Boy Problems/commitment.. need some advice..?
ask him........it sounds like he wants more...
it sounds like he wants more.
but u can't be sure unless u straight out ask him.
if ur comfortable enough 2 lay naked then u can ask this.
What is the best way to forget my problem of a failed marriage? I need some advice, please!?
I grew up in a conservative family, all my siblings have keep their marriage intact if not perfect. I found a partner who is not a husband-material, so to speak. I am 36 years old and so unhappy with my predicament. What is the best way to forget my problem of a failed marriage? I need some advice, please!?
ok really you loved this guy now you dont
people change
people move on
lifes too short to waste the rest of your life dwelling on it
rather you shuold move on and enjoy the rest of your life
your 36, hopefully not even half way thru ur life yet
just start over, its really not that big a dealWhat is the best way to forget my problem of a failed marriage? I need some advice, please!?
I think you have to look at the marriage vows and ask yourself whether your husband kept his before you give yourself angst about breaking yours. Marriage is a contract and if one party breaks that contract then it is null and void. This is why the catholic church allows marriages to be annulled and why civil marriages can be ended with divorce.
Just because your siblings are keeping the peace in their not-so-perfect marriages , you dont have to feel pressurized for doing the same . Remember its OK to be different. So do your thing , what makes you happy . Afterall we only live once , might as well LIVE IT UP.
I do not know how religious you are... but I took a 'divorce care' thing at my church along with 'DC4K' divorce care 4 children... and that helped a lot... maybe not even church affiliated... but a small group to help you get some closure!
hhhmm... better talk to him, tel him abt ur feeling, if nt better have nice fd, so u can share ur feeling,,, atleast ur time wil get pass...
ok really you loved this guy now you dont
people change
people move on
lifes too short to waste the rest of your life dwelling on it
rather you shuold move on and enjoy the rest of your life
your 36, hopefully not even half way thru ur life yet
just start over, its really not that big a dealWhat is the best way to forget my problem of a failed marriage? I need some advice, please!?
I think you have to look at the marriage vows and ask yourself whether your husband kept his before you give yourself angst about breaking yours. Marriage is a contract and if one party breaks that contract then it is null and void. This is why the catholic church allows marriages to be annulled and why civil marriages can be ended with divorce.
Just because your siblings are keeping the peace in their not-so-perfect marriages , you dont have to feel pressurized for doing the same . Remember its OK to be different. So do your thing , what makes you happy . Afterall we only live once , might as well LIVE IT UP.
I do not know how religious you are... but I took a 'divorce care' thing at my church along with 'DC4K' divorce care 4 children... and that helped a lot... maybe not even church affiliated... but a small group to help you get some closure!
hhhmm... better talk to him, tel him abt ur feeling, if nt better have nice fd, so u can share ur feeling,,, atleast ur time wil get pass...
Can I have some advice? I'm having some problems with my best friend.?
she's acting like an idiot lately... whenever I tell her something, she always rolls her eyes and has to say something rude, or says something like ';Uh I can't even HEAR you!'; rather than just asking me to repeat what I said. and we sit together in music class, but she doesn't say a word to me at all because she's busy talking to her other friend who sits beside her, and when i DO say something to her, she just blows me off. we've been best friends since we were 11, and we share a locker and live pretty close... but i'm SICK of her taking out all of her anger on me and acting so annoyed of me. what should I do?
And she is also nice sometimes, but a lot of the time she acts like this and it makes so mad =[Can I have some advice? I'm having some problems with my best friend.?
If she keeps this up, I would talk to her about it. That's what I did and things changed. It just takes time. If she still does that, i wouldn't worry about her because you don't deserve to be stabbed in the back like that. I would say try to find another friend, but please talk to her first. She may not change right away, but if you keep pestering her, she will. If she is acting like that, she is not a true friend. I wish you the best of luck and just relax!!!!:-)Can I have some advice? I'm having some problems with my best friend.?
ok what is happening is I dont think she wants to be friends with you anymore. I have a friend that has clung on to me for a couple of years now. I have tried acting like your friend is acting now, just telling her i dont want to be friends anymore, etc. Finally she starting to let go a little bit more everyday. I am making a lot more friends, she is making a lot more friends, and we are a lot better off than we were while we were friends. We fought a lot, got tired of each other, ignored each other, and we just could not handle to stay friends. The point of this is I think she might be trying to get you to let go of the rope. My suggestion is to DO let go of the rope, branch out, make new friends, and surround yourself with people that you want to be like, good role models. I know it might be kind of hard letting her go but it will help you in the long run. Yes she is sometimes nice (keyword sometimes) and you should be friends with people who are ALWAYS nice. When you are friends with people who are nice, you yourself become a lot nicer. Well I wish you luck! Hope this helps!
And she is also nice sometimes, but a lot of the time she acts like this and it makes so mad =[Can I have some advice? I'm having some problems with my best friend.?
If she keeps this up, I would talk to her about it. That's what I did and things changed. It just takes time. If she still does that, i wouldn't worry about her because you don't deserve to be stabbed in the back like that. I would say try to find another friend, but please talk to her first. She may not change right away, but if you keep pestering her, she will. If she is acting like that, she is not a true friend. I wish you the best of luck and just relax!!!!:-)Can I have some advice? I'm having some problems with my best friend.?
ok what is happening is I dont think she wants to be friends with you anymore. I have a friend that has clung on to me for a couple of years now. I have tried acting like your friend is acting now, just telling her i dont want to be friends anymore, etc. Finally she starting to let go a little bit more everyday. I am making a lot more friends, she is making a lot more friends, and we are a lot better off than we were while we were friends. We fought a lot, got tired of each other, ignored each other, and we just could not handle to stay friends. The point of this is I think she might be trying to get you to let go of the rope. My suggestion is to DO let go of the rope, branch out, make new friends, and surround yourself with people that you want to be like, good role models. I know it might be kind of hard letting her go but it will help you in the long run. Yes she is sometimes nice (keyword sometimes) and you should be friends with people who are ALWAYS nice. When you are friends with people who are nice, you yourself become a lot nicer. Well I wish you luck! Hope this helps!
Best Friend Problems I need some advice?
So my best friend and I just had a falling out she missed my graduation from high school to go and visit her boyfriends mother in the hospital (It wasnt her 1st day there) she knew way ahead of time about my graduation and she knew how much it meant to me that she was there. Like I said she didnt show up so after my graduation she had her cousin from out of town call me to say sorry for HER absence, then she texted me acting like someone else, then she e-mails me but she doesnt call she told me that she didnt do it on purpose but thats not how I see it then she tells me that shes not going 2 force on me anymore bcuz I didnt go to her grad. But lets be serious you missed mine did you really think that I was going 2 show up at yours. She started going into this whole thing about our friendship. I wanted her 2 do is act like a adult and call me herself so she wrote me again saying that she didn't know that I want her 2 call and then she called I missed it. When I talk 2 her what do i say?Best Friend Problems I need some advice?
if your friendship means something to you let it go. girl go crazy over their boyfriends they think that he just might be the one. So naturally she is trying to impress him through his mother, as you get older you will learn that even thought you might be friends for three years. if she really like this guy they could only be to together for 3 months......and she'll choose him. don't trip that's something all friends go through. we are just suckers for men. when you talk to her just tell her how you feel and but tell her that your sorry for being selfish, and its not worth the drama. Believe me if you let that tear y'all apart you'll re great it later. ****** smooches*****Best Friend Problems I need some advice?
maybe she is not ur best friend....i mean a best friend would never do that i mean i went to my bff graduation even i didnt felt like doing...thats just so mean u should call her and tell her frm st8 up i dont wana be ur friend anymore ...and btw finding a best friend is rele hard
You are so double standard and self serving. How dare you. Yes she new about your graduation, but you are acting like a life isn't as important. Lets say this was her mother in law (family) would you expect her to tell the one who is sick, I am sorry but my friend wont understand that it is more important for me to be her not only for you but for your son whom I love? Kudos for her for standing up for what she believes was right and shame on you for thinking you are more important. You are alive and well. How dare you. She may not have talked to you with her voice because she knew you would act like this and didn't want to be yelled at. I think you are the one who truly started this by not being understanding. If you don't go to hers than maybe she'll see how shallow a friend you really are. Did you care enough to ever ask and see how her boyfriends mother is or did you make her feel like crap that she wasn't at your graduation. How dare you. To think you are entitled and no one comes before you no matter what. I think your friend should drop you like a bad habit and never look back. That was uncalled for from you.lipstick kiss
if your friendship means something to you let it go. girl go crazy over their boyfriends they think that he just might be the one. So naturally she is trying to impress him through his mother, as you get older you will learn that even thought you might be friends for three years. if she really like this guy they could only be to together for 3 months......and she'll choose him. don't trip that's something all friends go through. we are just suckers for men. when you talk to her just tell her how you feel and but tell her that your sorry for being selfish, and its not worth the drama. Believe me if you let that tear y'all apart you'll re great it later. ****** smooches*****Best Friend Problems I need some advice?
maybe she is not ur best friend....i mean a best friend would never do that i mean i went to my bff graduation even i didnt felt like doing...thats just so mean u should call her and tell her frm st8 up i dont wana be ur friend anymore ...and btw finding a best friend is rele hard
You are so double standard and self serving. How dare you. Yes she new about your graduation, but you are acting like a life isn't as important. Lets say this was her mother in law (family) would you expect her to tell the one who is sick, I am sorry but my friend wont understand that it is more important for me to be her not only for you but for your son whom I love? Kudos for her for standing up for what she believes was right and shame on you for thinking you are more important. You are alive and well. How dare you. She may not have talked to you with her voice because she knew you would act like this and didn't want to be yelled at. I think you are the one who truly started this by not being understanding. If you don't go to hers than maybe she'll see how shallow a friend you really are. Did you care enough to ever ask and see how her boyfriends mother is or did you make her feel like crap that she wasn't at your graduation. How dare you. To think you are entitled and no one comes before you no matter what. I think your friend should drop you like a bad habit and never look back. That was uncalled for from you.
Back problems from large breasts...any advice?
I am a young woman in good health. only one problem...my breasts are DDD. I went from a small C to a DDD in a matter of one year. i've never had any children.
Lately I've been having bad back aches in my lower back. I haven't injured my back in any way,shape, or form. I personally think i'm too young to consider breast reduction b/c I do plan on having a kid within the next couple years. A majority of women i've talked to say their breasts got even larger. (a very small amount said they shrunk). i'd rather wait until i have a kid b4 breast reduction because I don't want to have it done, and then end up with the same size breasts as before. That'd be a complete waste of money and time.
Does anyone have any suggestions as for maybe exercises to strengthen back muscles? Types/brands/place to buy good supportive bras? Any ideas at all would be great!Back problems from large breasts...any advice?
You will not end up with permanent larger breasts if you get pregnant after a reduction. The increase is normally temporary. Since you are having back problems now you need the surgery so BEFORE you get pregnant as being pregnant will only cause more of a strain on your back may even cause some injury or damage. Get it done now BEFORE you have kids.Back problems from large breasts...any advice?
go and c some ppl who wear in bra shops, see what suggestions they have but other option is reduction
Surgery is probably a good idea now not later, also have your hormone levels checked, estrogen levels may be elevated if your still growing!
Usually during pregnancy the breasts get larger and go back to the previous size after giving birth.Since you are having problems now- I would go for a breast reduction now- be pregnant would cause more strain on an already strained back. D
Planks are an excellent lower back exercise that require no equipment. Google it and you'll find many variations.
Lately I've been having bad back aches in my lower back. I haven't injured my back in any way,shape, or form. I personally think i'm too young to consider breast reduction b/c I do plan on having a kid within the next couple years. A majority of women i've talked to say their breasts got even larger. (a very small amount said they shrunk). i'd rather wait until i have a kid b4 breast reduction because I don't want to have it done, and then end up with the same size breasts as before. That'd be a complete waste of money and time.
Does anyone have any suggestions as for maybe exercises to strengthen back muscles? Types/brands/place to buy good supportive bras? Any ideas at all would be great!Back problems from large breasts...any advice?
You will not end up with permanent larger breasts if you get pregnant after a reduction. The increase is normally temporary. Since you are having back problems now you need the surgery so BEFORE you get pregnant as being pregnant will only cause more of a strain on your back may even cause some injury or damage. Get it done now BEFORE you have kids.Back problems from large breasts...any advice?
go and c some ppl who wear in bra shops, see what suggestions they have but other option is reduction
Surgery is probably a good idea now not later, also have your hormone levels checked, estrogen levels may be elevated if your still growing!
Usually during pregnancy the breasts get larger and go back to the previous size after giving birth.Since you are having problems now- I would go for a breast reduction now- be pregnant would cause more strain on an already strained back. D
Planks are an excellent lower back exercise that require no equipment. Google it and you'll find many variations.
Please give your advice to this problem I have. . . addiction to spending money - Please read question!!!?
I am trying to save money so that I can put a down payment on a house. I need to save $5,000. Everytime I get some money in my bank account, I am tempted to spend it. I know I need this money but cant help wanting to shop. Also the bank has to be my bank account so they know that I saved it and did not recive a ';gift'; to pay my down payment. How do I save money and not spend it? Im addicted to spending. . .Please HELP!!!Please give your advice to this problem I have. . . addiction to spending money - Please read question!!!?
Number one, I would recommend giving the money to someone you trust to place in a bank account in your name you cannot access. This can be done by not telling you the bank it is in, or giving you the passbook or the account number until the day you need it. Another option is to start an account with someone you trust that cannot be withdrawn from without both of your signatures.
Number two, you need to seek counseling. A psychiatrist can help you through your addiction. You cannot go through life like this. You are making yourself miserable. Joining a support group would help too.
I hope this helps. Best of luck to you.Please give your advice to this problem I have. . . addiction to spending money - Please read question!!!?
I have so many things that I've bought years ago that I'm looking at now saying ';why the hell did I buy this???';
Ask if you will appreciate the item in a few years or if you will use it every single day. If you use it more than 4 times per week, then it's probably a good buy. If it's something that you already have at home, don't buy it.
really..u solved the problem by actually asking it...u do know u hav a problem...so go ahead baby...put ur foot down n work on it..u culd:
- make a plan of spending how much where n wat money goes in2 the 'untouchable' stack..this will satisfy ur desire n future
- find sum frnd/ partner 2 help u cope up wid dis who has a similar problem
- worst 2 worst google sum sites with Tips...might work fer u :D
go dude!!..Stand up for urslf
;)
Why don't you try the stock market and put money into that as then it is harder to take the money out as you will have to do paperwork. Maybe everytime you want to spend that money maybe you need to right down DO NOT SPEND MONEY NEED MONEY FOR HOUSE a hundred times. Good luck.
You sound pretty desparate. Similar to being caught or trapped between to opposing fronts. The bank account will be pretty full but, how full is your Life? That is, partly the reason behind people who are addicted to buying things. Attempting to fulfill the inner emptiness with material goods. And, the results are very short lived. Buying a new item also, brings a Newness and sense of Hope into their lives. Fulfill your life with education and accomplishment which builds Selfesteem and confidence and, a foundation of Being. This is who I am. Good is Good Enough. Having a good relationship with another human being in your Life is, also, fulfilling. But, it can't be one where they fulfill you. Each as to stand alone as mature independent people.
Love yourself and be proud of who you are and, what you have accomplished in simple preset Goals. And, your Goal of a saving acct. and home will blossom before you know it because your mind is filled with other more immediate accomplishments. You will have changed your Focus. And, the inner child will be at Peace.
Don't go to the shops.
it is hard i have the same problem as u so i feel for you. if you get a good answer pleeze forward it to me Good Luck
Ask yourself before you buy something, DO I really need this?
Avoid the mall and any other unecessary browsing.
Keep a picture of your new house in your wallet to remind you that you have to save money.
:-D hope I helped.
It is so hard to save these days...whenever you walk down a street in town there is always advertising to get you to buy more, bigger, better, new, ect...
Especially fashion clothing.
What you need to do is...
Get a picture of the home that you want to get...
put it in your purse or wallet
When ever you are going to buy something...
look at it and see what you are giving up.
Whatever you buy...whatever you spend, goes down in value.
The home you are trying to save for will increase in value.
It is something that you will be able to depend upon for the future...
will that new purse, that c.d., that ring, or anything you buy appreciate as much in value as that house would?
Realize, that you have the option to either spend or save.
Money goes out a hundred ways...and comes in for many just one way...their job.
What is more important to you?
That home is the price you are paying for those jeans.
Think about it.
Get some help.
u can always go to a bank and open an account and keep it non accessable til u reach ur goal
You already have the answer...you have a bank!
Stop in at the bank, and tell a bank officer what you told us. They will help you set up a savings account that requires both you and someone else - say, a bank employee or a trusted friend - to sign off on making any withdrawals.
This way, you can still get at your money in emergencies, but the impulsive purchases would have to wait, and give you a chance to really think the purchase through.
Keep putting that sunny kitchen window in your mind, and imagine the smell of the warm cinnamon rolls and fresh coffee in your new home. Hang in there!
- Stuart
I have a similar problem. I find that if I don't go out I manage not to spend. You can go to the park, take a walk, even go to the mall but leave the credit cards and cash at home. Only bring with you what you are willing and able to spend. Don't spend beyond your means. Think about whether or not you need it and move on.
Good luck.
First you need a plan. Second you need to change your mind. It is your way of thinking that is causing you the grief. First pride has to go. Pride is why you do this. If you were not proud then you would not act this way. In the first part of examining your problem, you will notice that you don't live for other people but just yourself. You want to make you happy. So you buy stuff. If you would spend time doing things for others you would find yourself becoming happier and not having to spend so much money. Secondly get yourself a stock account online and buy stocks under five dollars that have good concepts. Buy these stock at regular intervals. As they take time to convert back to money you won't impulsively spend it. As it grows plan to buy your house. Look for the right house. If you have it found. Plan on it. Write your goal down. Fold it and put it in your bible or on your mirror and ask God for it and rightfully live for God and he will ultimately reward you. Living for others is living for God. So as you live for Him you will get your house!
Number one, I would recommend giving the money to someone you trust to place in a bank account in your name you cannot access. This can be done by not telling you the bank it is in, or giving you the passbook or the account number until the day you need it. Another option is to start an account with someone you trust that cannot be withdrawn from without both of your signatures.
Number two, you need to seek counseling. A psychiatrist can help you through your addiction. You cannot go through life like this. You are making yourself miserable. Joining a support group would help too.
I hope this helps. Best of luck to you.Please give your advice to this problem I have. . . addiction to spending money - Please read question!!!?
I have so many things that I've bought years ago that I'm looking at now saying ';why the hell did I buy this???';
Ask if you will appreciate the item in a few years or if you will use it every single day. If you use it more than 4 times per week, then it's probably a good buy. If it's something that you already have at home, don't buy it.
really..u solved the problem by actually asking it...u do know u hav a problem...so go ahead baby...put ur foot down n work on it..u culd:
- make a plan of spending how much where n wat money goes in2 the 'untouchable' stack..this will satisfy ur desire n future
- find sum frnd/ partner 2 help u cope up wid dis who has a similar problem
- worst 2 worst google sum sites with Tips...might work fer u :D
go dude!!..Stand up for urslf
;)
Why don't you try the stock market and put money into that as then it is harder to take the money out as you will have to do paperwork. Maybe everytime you want to spend that money maybe you need to right down DO NOT SPEND MONEY NEED MONEY FOR HOUSE a hundred times. Good luck.
You sound pretty desparate. Similar to being caught or trapped between to opposing fronts. The bank account will be pretty full but, how full is your Life? That is, partly the reason behind people who are addicted to buying things. Attempting to fulfill the inner emptiness with material goods. And, the results are very short lived. Buying a new item also, brings a Newness and sense of Hope into their lives. Fulfill your life with education and accomplishment which builds Selfesteem and confidence and, a foundation of Being. This is who I am. Good is Good Enough. Having a good relationship with another human being in your Life is, also, fulfilling. But, it can't be one where they fulfill you. Each as to stand alone as mature independent people.
Love yourself and be proud of who you are and, what you have accomplished in simple preset Goals. And, your Goal of a saving acct. and home will blossom before you know it because your mind is filled with other more immediate accomplishments. You will have changed your Focus. And, the inner child will be at Peace.
Don't go to the shops.
it is hard i have the same problem as u so i feel for you. if you get a good answer pleeze forward it to me Good Luck
Ask yourself before you buy something, DO I really need this?
Avoid the mall and any other unecessary browsing.
Keep a picture of your new house in your wallet to remind you that you have to save money.
:-D hope I helped.
It is so hard to save these days...whenever you walk down a street in town there is always advertising to get you to buy more, bigger, better, new, ect...
Especially fashion clothing.
What you need to do is...
Get a picture of the home that you want to get...
put it in your purse or wallet
When ever you are going to buy something...
look at it and see what you are giving up.
Whatever you buy...whatever you spend, goes down in value.
The home you are trying to save for will increase in value.
It is something that you will be able to depend upon for the future...
will that new purse, that c.d., that ring, or anything you buy appreciate as much in value as that house would?
Realize, that you have the option to either spend or save.
Money goes out a hundred ways...and comes in for many just one way...their job.
What is more important to you?
That home is the price you are paying for those jeans.
Think about it.
Get some help.
u can always go to a bank and open an account and keep it non accessable til u reach ur goal
You already have the answer...you have a bank!
Stop in at the bank, and tell a bank officer what you told us. They will help you set up a savings account that requires both you and someone else - say, a bank employee or a trusted friend - to sign off on making any withdrawals.
This way, you can still get at your money in emergencies, but the impulsive purchases would have to wait, and give you a chance to really think the purchase through.
Keep putting that sunny kitchen window in your mind, and imagine the smell of the warm cinnamon rolls and fresh coffee in your new home. Hang in there!
- Stuart
I have a similar problem. I find that if I don't go out I manage not to spend. You can go to the park, take a walk, even go to the mall but leave the credit cards and cash at home. Only bring with you what you are willing and able to spend. Don't spend beyond your means. Think about whether or not you need it and move on.
Good luck.
First you need a plan. Second you need to change your mind. It is your way of thinking that is causing you the grief. First pride has to go. Pride is why you do this. If you were not proud then you would not act this way. In the first part of examining your problem, you will notice that you don't live for other people but just yourself. You want to make you happy. So you buy stuff. If you would spend time doing things for others you would find yourself becoming happier and not having to spend so much money. Secondly get yourself a stock account online and buy stocks under five dollars that have good concepts. Buy these stock at regular intervals. As they take time to convert back to money you won't impulsively spend it. As it grows plan to buy your house. Look for the right house. If you have it found. Plan on it. Write your goal down. Fold it and put it in your bible or on your mirror and ask God for it and rightfully live for God and he will ultimately reward you. Living for others is living for God. So as you live for Him you will get your house!
Relationship problems feel free to text me could really use some advice.5857542717?
feel free to text me could really use some advice.5857542717Relationship problems feel free to text me could really use some advice.5857542717?
Good job giving away your info to total strangers.
Good job giving away your info to total strangers.
Looking for some advice from anyone who has or knows someone who may have suffered from gallbladder problems.
What symtoms did you have and how were they treated. Have just been told I have quite a few polyps on my gallbladder. I have put on some weight and I am not sure if this is one of the symptoms. Looking for some advice from anyone who has or knows someone who may have suffered from gallbladder problems.
my daughter had gall stones acute pain for about a day then ok for awhile she had gall bladder removed the operation was not to bad she got over it quickly so go for it if you have the chance Looking for some advice from anyone who has or knows someone who may have suffered from gallbladder problems.
i had gallbladder issues for years irecently had the surgery it was emergency surgery becasue i kept putting it off belive you dont want emergency surgery i never felt better i can eat with no pain and discomfort im taking all kinds of medication i can eat things that i couldnt before i had horrible painful attacks on and off for years and nausea i always felt like there was a rock in my stomach trust me have it out i know its scary but it will be the best for you it is the only cure for gallbladder problems good luck
I had excruciating heartburn 4 a few month b4 my op but no weight gain.the op was painless and i was back at work in a week,best to have it done or you WILL suffer believe me.only side effect of op was i sometimes have loose stools as yr liver is now doing the job in effect of yr GB.
my daughter had gall stones acute pain for about a day then ok for awhile she had gall bladder removed the operation was not to bad she got over it quickly so go for it if you have the chance Looking for some advice from anyone who has or knows someone who may have suffered from gallbladder problems.
i had gallbladder issues for years irecently had the surgery it was emergency surgery becasue i kept putting it off belive you dont want emergency surgery i never felt better i can eat with no pain and discomfort im taking all kinds of medication i can eat things that i couldnt before i had horrible painful attacks on and off for years and nausea i always felt like there was a rock in my stomach trust me have it out i know its scary but it will be the best for you it is the only cure for gallbladder problems good luck
I had excruciating heartburn 4 a few month b4 my op but no weight gain.the op was painless and i was back at work in a week,best to have it done or you WILL suffer believe me.only side effect of op was i sometimes have loose stools as yr liver is now doing the job in effect of yr GB.
Sex problems with girlfriend.need advice.?
me and my girlfriend are boh bi but lately she hasn't been enjoying sex so she said she wanted to have a sex party. i'm not really comfortable with it but she says she still ganna go through with it even if i don't want to.(she is very kinky, we've had at least 18 threesomes in the past month) but i on't really want her to go through with it cuase she migh dump me for a guy who is willing to go with any of her crazy ideas. so wat should i do?Sex problems with girlfriend.need advice.?
Dump her before u get std. Then u will have something to worry about.Sex problems with girlfriend.need advice.?
im me we will talk
she sounds like a hoe 18 threesomes damn that is a lot dump her
sounds like you should dump her
I'd dump her. It will eventually happen, might as well get on with your life asap.
dump her find a CHRISTIAN GIRL
me like sex...hehe no seriously man you are a pimp man forget about her and learn to love another chick that you can have 18 threesomes with in a month, learn to love them
Agree that no relationships started that night continue past that night.
I'd get another girlfriend... she's probably just testing you.
Dump her before u get std. Then u will have something to worry about.Sex problems with girlfriend.need advice.?
im me we will talk
she sounds like a hoe 18 threesomes damn that is a lot dump her
sounds like you should dump her
I'd dump her. It will eventually happen, might as well get on with your life asap.
dump her find a CHRISTIAN GIRL
me like sex...hehe no seriously man you are a pimp man forget about her and learn to love another chick that you can have 18 threesomes with in a month, learn to love them
Agree that no relationships started that night continue past that night.
I'd get another girlfriend... she's probably just testing you.
Guy problems...i need guy advice.?
well this guy likes me and i think about him ALL the time.
however,im not sure if i like him enough.
he is in middle school and i am in high school.
he is 13 and i am 14.
how do i know if i like him enough?what does a girl have to do to find out if they like someone??
and what is on a guys mnd when they like a girl.??
questions unanswerd.i need answers.
%26lt;3Guy problems...i need guy advice.?
If I were you I would wait before I gave my heart to anyone.lipstick kiss
however,im not sure if i like him enough.
he is in middle school and i am in high school.
he is 13 and i am 14.
how do i know if i like him enough?what does a girl have to do to find out if they like someone??
and what is on a guys mnd when they like a girl.??
questions unanswerd.i need answers.
%26lt;3Guy problems...i need guy advice.?
If I were you I would wait before I gave my heart to anyone.
Girl Problems...... Need help or Advice......?
Ok this has ben in the back of my head lately, I met this girl and she knows a friend of mind and they used to talk and stuff before Met her. But anyway, we talk on the phone alot and she dosent want me to tell my friend that we talk..... i keep asking her why but she says its personal.... Does anyone know why?? Is there a conclusion to this or anything???Girl Problems...... Need help or Advice......?
is the other friend a girl?
if yes, she probably like you too and this girl try to sabotage..
i hope it just my negativity,... best of luck for you!!Girl Problems...... Need help or Advice......?
Well, if it's a girl friend, it may be that she likes you too and the girl you've been talking to isn't sure how to tell her that you two have been talking.
If it's a guy friend, you may want to look into that because it sounds like she either has a thing with him, or had a thing with him and she doesn't want him talking to you about her.
Good Luck!
Why is that a problem? Maybe she had a bad relationship with your guy friend, or maybe your guy friend is dating this girl, and he's jealous. Maybe she's protecting herself.
Just leave it at that. Not a big issue unless you make it a big issue.
hmm. well we work in mysterious ways young grasshopper (haha.). i think that maybe, your other girlfriend likes you and the current girl doesnt want your other friend to know that she's hitting on her man. either that or your other friend knows some stuff about the current girl that ms. current doesnt want you to kno.....tell your old friend anyway and find out
i think that was her ex
or it is part of her family and she does not want them to find out
either one
think how old she is if she reallys minds
if that other friend is a girl? then likely that girl likes you and this one doesn't want her to find out she's moving in on you. if that other friend is a guy, then it sounds like she might be playing both sides a bit. best to back off this until you know what's going on -- you would hate to hurt a friend unknowingly!
Drop her! She's up to something or hiding something deeper than the relationship. If that's over than she should be able to move on with you and let it be known that your are now holding the title.Telling you you are headed towards D.R.A.M.A. (damn right avoidable mess ahead). Drop her you don't need that. either she needs to tell you whats the deal or show her the road to keep it moving. Besides its way too early for her to dip in the drama bag anyway. I am warning you walk away.
Her friend might like you too same way she likes you. She's afraid that her friend might know about her backstabbing.
She might be playing u i had something like this happen to me only it was a guy anyway long story short it ended really bad not sayin it going happen to you but if she trust's you she should tell you anyways i mean if nothing wrong what is then why wouldnt she tell u
is the other friend a girl?
if yes, she probably like you too and this girl try to sabotage..
i hope it just my negativity,... best of luck for you!!Girl Problems...... Need help or Advice......?
Well, if it's a girl friend, it may be that she likes you too and the girl you've been talking to isn't sure how to tell her that you two have been talking.
If it's a guy friend, you may want to look into that because it sounds like she either has a thing with him, or had a thing with him and she doesn't want him talking to you about her.
Good Luck!
Why is that a problem? Maybe she had a bad relationship with your guy friend, or maybe your guy friend is dating this girl, and he's jealous. Maybe she's protecting herself.
Just leave it at that. Not a big issue unless you make it a big issue.
hmm. well we work in mysterious ways young grasshopper (haha.). i think that maybe, your other girlfriend likes you and the current girl doesnt want your other friend to know that she's hitting on her man. either that or your other friend knows some stuff about the current girl that ms. current doesnt want you to kno.....tell your old friend anyway and find out
i think that was her ex
or it is part of her family and she does not want them to find out
either one
think how old she is if she reallys minds
if that other friend is a girl? then likely that girl likes you and this one doesn't want her to find out she's moving in on you. if that other friend is a guy, then it sounds like she might be playing both sides a bit. best to back off this until you know what's going on -- you would hate to hurt a friend unknowingly!
Drop her! She's up to something or hiding something deeper than the relationship. If that's over than she should be able to move on with you and let it be known that your are now holding the title.Telling you you are headed towards D.R.A.M.A. (damn right avoidable mess ahead). Drop her you don't need that. either she needs to tell you whats the deal or show her the road to keep it moving. Besides its way too early for her to dip in the drama bag anyway. I am warning you walk away.
Her friend might like you too same way she likes you. She's afraid that her friend might know about her backstabbing.
She might be playing u i had something like this happen to me only it was a guy anyway long story short it ended really bad not sayin it going happen to you but if she trust's you she should tell you anyways i mean if nothing wrong what is then why wouldnt she tell u
Marriage problems...your opinion...support/advice...rea鈥?out to anyone ?
Im going to try and make this as short and sweet as possible. We got married, he shipped off the Iraq for 16 months, he came back, 3 months later, despite my in-support, his 17 yr old brother came to live with us. His brother was getting Soc sec. money, 800 a month. we were charging him 200 a month and 1/3 of the elect and water bill. He had no license, so he was walking to work across the st. at wendy's. He quit that bc of something the manager said to him about 3 months into the job. He enrolled in GED classes, I drove him back and forth everyday. The minute I couldn't drive him (bc i had surgery, and recovering for 2 weeks) he just flat out didn't go to class. He didn't even take responsibility for finding other options to get to class (2 miles max down the road). So, in oct SS ran out, bc he turned 18. He passed his GED test by the hair of his teeth. As soon as SS ran out he had no money, no job...no savings. Where did 800 a month go when all he had was living expenses that was 250 max a month? I see our mistake here, we should have taken all of the 800 a month in the first place, as insurance just in case something like the situation we are in now was to happen. I dont have kids of my own, I dont know how to be a mom or a role model to someone who needs direction like he does. I also dont have the money for it. I have tried everything in my emotional power to help this kid. My husband and I have fought countless amounts of times, many leading to me leaving my own home for hours. We have dealt with him lying, hiding, doing nasty things, being weird around the home and sleeping until 700 at night. My husband is always getting mad and frustrated with the same things I am, but he is so quick to feel bad about giving ultimatums because he claims ';I dont know the importance of family';. Well actually, I do! But, we are at the point where FINANCIALLY we are struggling so hard. We just moved to a new state due to military and I have been looking for employment since we got here, with no luck so far (its been 2 months). I had to ask my parents to send money last week because I had 22 dollars in the account. How can I keep doing this? I cant...we cant....Im done fighting about it, im done worrying about others when I HAVE to worry about myself. My brother in law has been trying to get in the mil. he failed the first time on the test, and came home last thursday happy that he got a 52, so he passed. Well, his recruiter called him today and said that his actual score was a 48, so he didnt pass! I told him (as I have been telling him...bc 3 months ago we told hiim that he has 3 months to figure things out) that something has to happen bc we cannot do this anymore, that we will all be homeless if something doesn't change. He is trying to get a ticket right now to get back down to FL with his mother. I told my husband about everything today (he is in VA training) and his response was that he is disappointed in both him and ME. !! This is EXACTLY why I did not want his brother to move in, in the first place! I knew it was not going to end up good, and I knew that we were going to fight about it, and I KNEW that it was going to end up being MY fault. I told my husband that if it was best that I move back home in MA, work (bc I had a great job there and would make money to support myself) and leave him here with his brother, figure things out on his end and get his brother straightened out with out me here. I just figure that if I stay, I am going to be miserable still, we are going to fight, we are going to go no where and the responsibility of his brother is going to be on me. There is no way I can just say, ignore me, im not here! Dont ask me to bring you anywhere, dont talk to me...not here! Ya know? If I leave, ill go stay with my family and continue working, leave my husband here to deal with what I feel i have been dealing with. I feel as though when he says ';You dont know the meaning of family';....I am not part of the ';family'; part, like I dont mean a thing to him, that his blood comes before his marriage. After all, thats the way it has been.Marriage problems...your opinion...support/advice...rea鈥?out to anyone ?
I'm really sorry for you situation. It's sounds like really troubling times.
I would suggest you sit down with your husband and talk about your plans for the future. Do you want to have you own kids? Do you want to both be working? Do you plan on staying in the same house for a while? Once you've addressed things like this then I would suggest you talk about money. I know it's tight right now but you need to be planning ahead. Make a financial plan, such as setting budgets for groceries, gas, clothing, etc. When he sees how tight money is hopefully he will realize that you honestly don't have the money to support an additional grown man.
You and your husband are a team. I don't think it's right for you to move away because you don't want to be a part of this. You and your husband made promise to work together and love eachother. I know you love your husband, so try to see things from his point of view. He doesn't want his brother to be in a harmful situation. He is trying hard to keep his family together, which is something that should be honored because many men just give up.
So what do you do with his brother? I would suggest that after talking with your husband you all three talk. Explain to him that he is now an adult. You will continue to charge him for the bills and rent. You expect him to do __ chores around the house or cook __ meals per week. He should find an independent job that doesn't rely on the help/transportation of you or your husband. He is expected to treat you and your husband kindly, since you are doing a favor for him. If he wants to live with you he is going to be treated like a part of the family, and families love unconditionally and care for eachother. If he choses to break these conditions there should be punishments. If at the end he decides he doesn't want to live with you and your husband then he can a. find his own housing b. move in with a friend c. go back to florida. It might be hard but this is really the best you can do in this situation.
As I said, don't run away from the problem because that will just crack the foundation of your marriage. If you and your husband work through this you will be that much stronger and that much more prepared for a family of your own. I hope you can figure something out, keep us updated! I'll be praying for you and hope that you and your husband can come to an agreement with his brother and that you find a job.Marriage problems...your opinion...support/advice...rea鈥?out to anyone ?
I'm sorry to hear your additional comments. I hope he'll agree to going to the marriage counseling for your sake, and that you begin to see eye-to-eye. It sounds like your husband is having a hard time deciding between facing reality about his brother and trying to create the ';perfect world';...
...Show them both as much love as possible and let your husband know that you are trying your best to support his decision of letting his brother live with you. It sounds like you're doing your part to the best of your abilities. Again, I'm sorry and I hope things take a turn for the better!
MAN!!! YOU WROTE A BOOK!!!
I'm not sure what your question is!
Doesent the military have counseling?
Maybe start there. If he won't go, you go!
Or seek free counseling in the town you live in!
Good luck!!
I'm in the military and i have a brother too. One thing he shouldnt do, bring someone else (no matter if he/she is family) home. A message for him, ';Hey man, if you decided to marry and leave your home, you need to understand that the rest of the family has to go on. Your brother needs to learn how to be responsible on its own. I know is our own blood but if he doesn't learn with his own mistakes, then its his own fault. Believe me, I learned from this, and you should do the same.';
I'm really sorry for you situation. It's sounds like really troubling times.
I would suggest you sit down with your husband and talk about your plans for the future. Do you want to have you own kids? Do you want to both be working? Do you plan on staying in the same house for a while? Once you've addressed things like this then I would suggest you talk about money. I know it's tight right now but you need to be planning ahead. Make a financial plan, such as setting budgets for groceries, gas, clothing, etc. When he sees how tight money is hopefully he will realize that you honestly don't have the money to support an additional grown man.
You and your husband are a team. I don't think it's right for you to move away because you don't want to be a part of this. You and your husband made promise to work together and love eachother. I know you love your husband, so try to see things from his point of view. He doesn't want his brother to be in a harmful situation. He is trying hard to keep his family together, which is something that should be honored because many men just give up.
So what do you do with his brother? I would suggest that after talking with your husband you all three talk. Explain to him that he is now an adult. You will continue to charge him for the bills and rent. You expect him to do __ chores around the house or cook __ meals per week. He should find an independent job that doesn't rely on the help/transportation of you or your husband. He is expected to treat you and your husband kindly, since you are doing a favor for him. If he wants to live with you he is going to be treated like a part of the family, and families love unconditionally and care for eachother. If he choses to break these conditions there should be punishments. If at the end he decides he doesn't want to live with you and your husband then he can a. find his own housing b. move in with a friend c. go back to florida. It might be hard but this is really the best you can do in this situation.
As I said, don't run away from the problem because that will just crack the foundation of your marriage. If you and your husband work through this you will be that much stronger and that much more prepared for a family of your own. I hope you can figure something out, keep us updated! I'll be praying for you and hope that you and your husband can come to an agreement with his brother and that you find a job.Marriage problems...your opinion...support/advice...rea鈥?out to anyone ?
I'm sorry to hear your additional comments. I hope he'll agree to going to the marriage counseling for your sake, and that you begin to see eye-to-eye. It sounds like your husband is having a hard time deciding between facing reality about his brother and trying to create the ';perfect world';...
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...Show them both as much love as possible and let your husband know that you are trying your best to support his decision of letting his brother live with you. It sounds like you're doing your part to the best of your abilities. Again, I'm sorry and I hope things take a turn for the better!
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MAN!!! YOU WROTE A BOOK!!!
I'm not sure what your question is!
Doesent the military have counseling?
Maybe start there. If he won't go, you go!
Or seek free counseling in the town you live in!
Good luck!!
I'm in the military and i have a brother too. One thing he shouldnt do, bring someone else (no matter if he/she is family) home. A message for him, ';Hey man, if you decided to marry and leave your home, you need to understand that the rest of the family has to go on. Your brother needs to learn how to be responsible on its own. I know is our own blood but if he doesn't learn with his own mistakes, then its his own fault. Believe me, I learned from this, and you should do the same.';
Vehicle problems. I need some advice from a real tech.?
I have a 2003 Mercury Mountaineer. Sometimes it takes 2-3 ranks before my car starts, but this never happens when the car is cold, only when at full temperature. It also will shake sometimes when driving when the engine is at full temperature. Again, this only happens rarely. I replaced the spark plugs 1 year ago and put in BOSCH Platinum plugs. I had the transmission looked at and the tech said it looks fine. So its something with the engine. Any suggestions? I am thinking about changing the plug wires and/or the coil but not sure if these steps will help. Please let me know what I should do. Thanks for the help.Vehicle problems. I need some advice from a real tech.?
Sounds like you may have a problem with the crankshaft sensor. They are notorious for being heat sensitive. I don't think the plug wire can effect the slow start problem, and they are never heat sensitive. The best way is to have someone scan the crank sensor while you are having the problem. Sometimes that is hard to do, but it is the best way to go and not waste a lot of money changing parts at random.Vehicle problems. I need some advice from a real tech.?
I would take them Bosch out and throw them away!
Put some O.E. plugs in and see how it acts.
Depending on which engine code, theres one that calls for a double platinum and one that calls for an iridium spark plug.
Remember to check/set gap. Be Carefull with platinum and iridium plugs you can knock off vital components! Both engine codes call for .054 gap.
Good Luck.
I would replace the wires if they havent been replaced, How about the fuel filter and air filter?
Have you check the following
(1)Air filter dirty
(2)Bad engine ground connection
((3)Fuel not reaching the injectors
(4)Loose connection in the ignition system
(5)Faulty idle control system
(6)Faulty emission or engine control systems
Troubleshooting when the car is hot
Sounds like you may have a problem with the crankshaft sensor. They are notorious for being heat sensitive. I don't think the plug wire can effect the slow start problem, and they are never heat sensitive. The best way is to have someone scan the crank sensor while you are having the problem. Sometimes that is hard to do, but it is the best way to go and not waste a lot of money changing parts at random.Vehicle problems. I need some advice from a real tech.?
I would take them Bosch out and throw them away!
Put some O.E. plugs in and see how it acts.
Depending on which engine code, theres one that calls for a double platinum and one that calls for an iridium spark plug.
Remember to check/set gap. Be Carefull with platinum and iridium plugs you can knock off vital components! Both engine codes call for .054 gap.
Good Luck.
I would replace the wires if they havent been replaced, How about the fuel filter and air filter?
Have you check the following
(1)Air filter dirty
(2)Bad engine ground connection
((3)Fuel not reaching the injectors
(4)Loose connection in the ignition system
(5)Faulty idle control system
(6)Faulty emission or engine control systems
Troubleshooting when the car is hot
Girl problems!!!!!!( Pease only girls advice)?
there are these to girls that i like and there both best friends with each other and there realy just so beatifull and sometimes she will look at me deep in the eyes and it feels like my heart is so full and just little spells like that. I wasent going to go for her becouse i knew she was out of my luage, but i couldnt help myself.
the other girl is vary fun to be around britty and i would cach your i couple times looking at me. Its so divicult to read them i just get so nervouse.Girl problems!!!!!!( Pease only girls advice)?
Learn to spell and things might just get better!Girl problems!!!!!!( Pease only girls advice)?
So whats your question?
you dont know who to ask out?
which girl is better???
do they like you?
umm i would make friends with them first like really good friends and then tell them you like ONE of them. Then they prolly like u bac
simpleee.
good luck!!
=)
dont ruin their friendship
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you can only like one girl! so choose one and go for her ;) go for the one you like the most and the one you think likes youu the most! good luck :) but it sounds like you have a lot of time to think about girls...considering your ';greatly'; written paragraph..... :)
Go for the girl you like the best the
one that makes you feel special
even though you like them both
you cant love them both.
If they let a guy come between then they are not really friends.. its a girl rule you dont go after the same guy if your friends. YOu should find someone else
first girl. :) she seems like the one you need,
second one you can bone before you get with the first girl, just a thought.
Get to know them both. Then choose. But do it without letting either one of them think you like them, you don't want to ruin their relationship do you?
You should not date until you learn how to write and speak properly.
What exactly is the question.. which girl you should go for?
You should go for the girl you can see yourself with,
the one you love.
Add more info i'm not sure wat the question is (and use spell check)
You think its difficult to read women? Try reading back your question. ALOUD. Hell, even to yourself, do you speak english? I've seen engrish that is more understandable than this garbled nonsense
To get them to talk to you, just ask them for sex. This always works and girls love it.
Yes, definitely learn to spell. There are 8 mispelled words in your paragraph. Girls like an intellegent guy.
Fallow your heart. If the girl makes you melt, go with her. If the other girl doesn't, and she doesn't ask you out, its probably her fault. I have these 3 friends, they have something in common. They all like(ed)the same guy. 2 of the girls are twins. ill use code names. So the twins are .... Lauren and Nikki... lauren went out with this guy.... Ned.... but nikki liked him and lauren didn't know. but eventually lauren broke up with ned. and nikki talked to ned ALL the time. and on halloween so did my other friend... Elizabeth .... well when elizabeth talked to ned she found out nikki liked him, elizabeth was hurt bec. she liked ned too. the next day elizabeth got permission from lauren and nikki to go out with ned. so she asked him out and he said yes. nikki was truly hurt and elizabeth suspected. but elizabeth thought bec. nikki waited so long and never got the courage to ask ned out, ned was free bait. my point is, is that you have to take insinuative bec. ned liked nikki to (and they're now going out haha) so test out the waters, start as friends and see where that takes you.
if your trying to fugure out if they like you i do this when i like somone:
get really close to them
ask them for help when i dont really need it
i smile all the time around them
i whisper to my friends around them to make them cirous about what were talking about
also guys say i love you all the time to me and if the guy i like says that then i look at them deeeply and say no shake my head really fast and smile uncontrolable i think i blush to :) hope this help if you need more help you can email me
i don't get what you want advice on?
I think you should learn first how to read there mind then only you can according to you first one is best for you because you are spoken about her explicitly and the other one is not so .i well some time ask directly them what you need from both .you should ask separately.and ask her to hide this with her friend.
the other girl is vary fun to be around britty and i would cach your i couple times looking at me. Its so divicult to read them i just get so nervouse.Girl problems!!!!!!( Pease only girls advice)?
Learn to spell and things might just get better!Girl problems!!!!!!( Pease only girls advice)?
So whats your question?
you dont know who to ask out?
which girl is better???
do they like you?
umm i would make friends with them first like really good friends and then tell them you like ONE of them. Then they prolly like u bac
simpleee.
good luck!!
=)
dont ruin their friendship
Happy Thanksgiving
Please Help Me-
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
you can only like one girl! so choose one and go for her ;) go for the one you like the most and the one you think likes youu the most! good luck :) but it sounds like you have a lot of time to think about girls...considering your ';greatly'; written paragraph..... :)
Go for the girl you like the best the
one that makes you feel special
even though you like them both
you cant love them both.
If they let a guy come between then they are not really friends.. its a girl rule you dont go after the same guy if your friends. YOu should find someone else
first girl. :) she seems like the one you need,
second one you can bone before you get with the first girl, just a thought.
Get to know them both. Then choose. But do it without letting either one of them think you like them, you don't want to ruin their relationship do you?
You should not date until you learn how to write and speak properly.
What exactly is the question.. which girl you should go for?
You should go for the girl you can see yourself with,
the one you love.
Add more info i'm not sure wat the question is (and use spell check)
You think its difficult to read women? Try reading back your question. ALOUD. Hell, even to yourself, do you speak english? I've seen engrish that is more understandable than this garbled nonsense
To get them to talk to you, just ask them for sex. This always works and girls love it.
Yes, definitely learn to spell. There are 8 mispelled words in your paragraph. Girls like an intellegent guy.
Fallow your heart. If the girl makes you melt, go with her. If the other girl doesn't, and she doesn't ask you out, its probably her fault. I have these 3 friends, they have something in common. They all like(ed)the same guy. 2 of the girls are twins. ill use code names. So the twins are .... Lauren and Nikki... lauren went out with this guy.... Ned.... but nikki liked him and lauren didn't know. but eventually lauren broke up with ned. and nikki talked to ned ALL the time. and on halloween so did my other friend... Elizabeth .... well when elizabeth talked to ned she found out nikki liked him, elizabeth was hurt bec. she liked ned too. the next day elizabeth got permission from lauren and nikki to go out with ned. so she asked him out and he said yes. nikki was truly hurt and elizabeth suspected. but elizabeth thought bec. nikki waited so long and never got the courage to ask ned out, ned was free bait. my point is, is that you have to take insinuative bec. ned liked nikki to (and they're now going out haha) so test out the waters, start as friends and see where that takes you.
if your trying to fugure out if they like you i do this when i like somone:
get really close to them
ask them for help when i dont really need it
i smile all the time around them
i whisper to my friends around them to make them cirous about what were talking about
also guys say i love you all the time to me and if the guy i like says that then i look at them deeeply and say no shake my head really fast and smile uncontrolable i think i blush to :) hope this help if you need more help you can email me
i don't get what you want advice on?
I think you should learn first how to read there mind then only you can according to you first one is best for you because you are spoken about her explicitly and the other one is not so .i well some time ask directly them what you need from both .you should ask separately.and ask her to hide this with her friend.
Girl problems.. please help need advice..?
i went out with this girl for about a month, 3 months ago. and i really like this girl, but she just recently just got a boyfriend this week. and i kind of told her how i felt about her after prom (prom was before she got a boyfriend) when i was alone with her which was last weekend. and we just layed together on a couch on my porch and talked for 2 hours after the dance until she had to go home. and she said stuff like sometimes she gets mad at this guy for some stupid things that he says about her hanging out with me so much. and she showed some signs that she might like me, like i layed in between her legs and she played with my hair also while i was laying down with her. and tommorw i was going to hangout with her right before i leave for spring break..Girl problems.. please help need advice..?
Ok..
First of all you worry too much..way too much about what other people think..
What do you think? And i think you want to tell her that you like her, and want to be with her right?
Than do it...dont worry about what other people are gonna react, this is your life and your chance now to make a move or not..
If you do tel her, options are she will be glad that you said it and say it back to you..or she will, think about it..
If you dont say it...You will regret it..
Your not tryin to break them up (LOL) Just tell her how you feel..and thats it...leave it up to her...but at least you told her..
I dont know if that made anysense LOL..sorry!
Good luck though!
Ok..
First of all you worry too much..way too much about what other people think..
What do you think? And i think you want to tell her that you like her, and want to be with her right?
Than do it...dont worry about what other people are gonna react, this is your life and your chance now to make a move or not..
If you do tel her, options are she will be glad that you said it and say it back to you..or she will, think about it..
If you dont say it...You will regret it..
Your not tryin to break them up (LOL) Just tell her how you feel..and thats it...leave it up to her...but at least you told her..
I dont know if that made anysense LOL..sorry!
Good luck though!
Guy problems... already?? I need advice?
First off I just got out of a 5yr emotionally abusive relationship 3 months ago. Since then I have been hanging out with my friends a lot more. Well one of my guy friends has been inviting me to hang out with him a lot and my friends have been suspicious saying that they think its bc he has feelings for me. This past weekend my friends and I got back from a party and we ended up inviting a bunch of friends over for some games. well by this time I had had a little too much to drink and that guy came over. well we ended up hanging out all night and he stayed over the night. The next night we were talking about the night before and I told them that I couldn't remember anything after the games that we played. he later hesitantly pulled my friend aside and asked if I had said anything to her bc it turns out that he had asked me out and i had no idea. I don't know what to do he's a really nice guy and I don't want to hurt him but at this point I don't know how I feel. what should I do?Guy problems... already?? I need advice?
Well, hopefully he didn't take anything you said as serious while you were drunk. That doesn't say much about him.
Meantime, be gentle but honest: tell him you just got out of a long and rough relationship (don't elaborate; that could open a different set of problems), and you just need some time on your own for a while. Tell him you think he's a good guy, and this has nothing to do with him. (He won't believe it, but you gotta cover youself anyway.)Guy problems... already?? I need advice?
if you like him you should give it a go. just go on a date and see how it goes, its not the end of the orld if it doesnt work out, just explain that you will see how things go but you dont wanna ruin your friendship with him. Tell him the truth by explaining you cant remember what happened at all and talk about your feeling s for him
Just be honest with him, and let him know you need time, but love spending time with him. That way he still knows he has a chance, and hopefully will give you your space on how you feel.
Give him a chance, if u say no u could be losing your true love so give him a chance and u 2 already know each other so thiers no pressure and make sure he respects u.lipstick kiss
Well, hopefully he didn't take anything you said as serious while you were drunk. That doesn't say much about him.
Meantime, be gentle but honest: tell him you just got out of a long and rough relationship (don't elaborate; that could open a different set of problems), and you just need some time on your own for a while. Tell him you think he's a good guy, and this has nothing to do with him. (He won't believe it, but you gotta cover youself anyway.)Guy problems... already?? I need advice?
if you like him you should give it a go. just go on a date and see how it goes, its not the end of the orld if it doesnt work out, just explain that you will see how things go but you dont wanna ruin your friendship with him. Tell him the truth by explaining you cant remember what happened at all and talk about your feeling s for him
Just be honest with him, and let him know you need time, but love spending time with him. That way he still knows he has a chance, and hopefully will give you your space on how you feel.
Give him a chance, if u say no u could be losing your true love so give him a chance and u 2 already know each other so thiers no pressure and make sure he respects u.
Guy problems...thanks for any advice (:?
I know this may seem somewhat lame, but i guess im just looking for some outside opinions. Here is the situation.My ex-bf from last summer(i ended the relationship) is also my best friend ever. He has a new gf since february-ish. We always talk and everything, but lately its been different. Our sisters andparents are great friends so we've been hanging out a lot lately. I can tell he likes me for sure, and he wont deny it. For example, today he went out to lunch with me and my sister, and he has been texting me alot more lately. So a few days ago my best girl friend(who is quite straightforward) talked to him about this situation. She told him just to break up with his girl(beth)and date me. She told him she knows he likes me and i like him and that she knows this time everything would work better. He said he'd think about it! but then today after lunch he went to hang out with beth! idk, the signs are there that he likes me.do guys break up with their girls for other girls?advice plzGuy problems...thanks for any advice (:?
yea they sure do break up with their girlfriends for other girls. it happens ALOT. but the thing is are you friends with this beth person? if so then i dont think it would right to be a ';home wrecker'; and you should just wait it out. if your not friends with her i think you should be sure because what if he does the same thing to you? he might be your best friend but it could happen. just make sure you guys really like eachother firstGuy problems...thanks for any advice (:?
That would be pretty messed up if he did.. and you sounded surprised when he went to hang out with his girlfriend after lunch?? If you ended the relationship you obviously had a reason for it, and I personally think its kind of wrong that youre trying to get back with him after that and after he got a new girlfriend..
Well, it sounds like he's playing your own game. First of all, dating a friend can lead to the best relationship of your life, or the worst. Of course he wants you!!!! That's why he wanted you to know that he's hanging with another chick, so you'll be interested!
Look, don't toy with him. It's obvious he wants you. If you mess with him and do the same thing all over, you will have broken his heart. Don't screw it up!
yes, they do sometimes. he's already taken, so i would suggest to give him time. some things are for other people to decide for themselves, and if he likes Beth, then so be it. You can always find someone better.
they do but if he breaks up with her for u he would do the same to u for some new girl. what goes around comes around. should just wait see if things don't work out between them it is ok to get back with him. until then just emjoy his company
.From an outside point of view,he does like you. However on your part it's unwise to encourage him to cheat(dump)on his gf.He may get the idea that this is correct behavior.To cheat
FAK HIM SHOW HIM U GOT ***** POWER!!!!!!!!!!
yea they sure do break up with their girlfriends for other girls. it happens ALOT. but the thing is are you friends with this beth person? if so then i dont think it would right to be a ';home wrecker'; and you should just wait it out. if your not friends with her i think you should be sure because what if he does the same thing to you? he might be your best friend but it could happen. just make sure you guys really like eachother firstGuy problems...thanks for any advice (:?
That would be pretty messed up if he did.. and you sounded surprised when he went to hang out with his girlfriend after lunch?? If you ended the relationship you obviously had a reason for it, and I personally think its kind of wrong that youre trying to get back with him after that and after he got a new girlfriend..
Well, it sounds like he's playing your own game. First of all, dating a friend can lead to the best relationship of your life, or the worst. Of course he wants you!!!! That's why he wanted you to know that he's hanging with another chick, so you'll be interested!
Look, don't toy with him. It's obvious he wants you. If you mess with him and do the same thing all over, you will have broken his heart. Don't screw it up!
yes, they do sometimes. he's already taken, so i would suggest to give him time. some things are for other people to decide for themselves, and if he likes Beth, then so be it. You can always find someone better.
they do but if he breaks up with her for u he would do the same to u for some new girl. what goes around comes around. should just wait see if things don't work out between them it is ok to get back with him. until then just emjoy his company
.From an outside point of view,he does like you. However on your part it's unwise to encourage him to cheat(dump)on his gf.He may get the idea that this is correct behavior.To cheat
FAK HIM SHOW HIM U GOT ***** POWER!!!!!!!!!!
Girl problems? 14yr old needing advice?
im a 14 yr old male and i give good dating advice but sadly....im one of those people that cant take their own advice so i need help
ok so there is this girl that is in my youth group but we go to different schools, and, i like her but my buddy in my youth group wanted her number when we were at a fall retreat but was too shy so i easily asked her for it and she gave it to me but if she didnt want me to have it she would have just given it to him right?? well i like her and i text her every once in a while
but heres the thing, she has a boyfriend shes 13, a cheerleader(but shes not stuck up and is really nice) at my rival school, and im 14, and a band member(yes dorky) who is somewhat popular but used to be popular in the past
i really want to hang out with her to get to know her so that when her and her bf break up if they do, she can start to like me because, man shes really pretty,
but like i said i cant take my own advice so i was wonderin...can u give advice on how to talk to herGirl problems? 14yr old needing advice?
all girls love sesativity, honesty, humor, strenght, smartness, sweetness so try it i garentie it will workGirl problems? 14yr old needing advice?
my advice is take your own advice. now it's not YOUR advice if im advising you to take advice about your advice.... ya know?
ok so there is this girl that is in my youth group but we go to different schools, and, i like her but my buddy in my youth group wanted her number when we were at a fall retreat but was too shy so i easily asked her for it and she gave it to me but if she didnt want me to have it she would have just given it to him right?? well i like her and i text her every once in a while
but heres the thing, she has a boyfriend shes 13, a cheerleader(but shes not stuck up and is really nice) at my rival school, and im 14, and a band member(yes dorky) who is somewhat popular but used to be popular in the past
i really want to hang out with her to get to know her so that when her and her bf break up if they do, she can start to like me because, man shes really pretty,
but like i said i cant take my own advice so i was wonderin...can u give advice on how to talk to herGirl problems? 14yr old needing advice?
all girls love sesativity, honesty, humor, strenght, smartness, sweetness so try it i garentie it will workGirl problems? 14yr old needing advice?
my advice is take your own advice. now it's not YOUR advice if im advising you to take advice about your advice.... ya know?
Having problems please help need advice ?
hiya i am from the uk and my little boy is 8 weeks old and i have been giving him sma gold formula and he gets constipated all the time !!!
its horrible to see him with constipation!!
Which formula do you advise that dosnt make babies constipated ?? i thought sma was meant to be a good formula ?
any comments would be great thanx
xxxxHaving problems please help need advice ?
I had this problem with my son. With my daughter i have aptamil and it is fantastic i can highly recommend it. They also have a 'comfortable digestion' option you can try if the regular formula is no good.
I hope you find a solution i know how hard it is to watch your child struggling like that, my son had all sorts of digestion problems. Good luck!Having problems please help need advice ?
if hes still constipated heres another trip you could try
if you have a thermometer put it in the fridge for a bit.. then ppen up his nappy on the changing mat and hold it by his back passage.. the coldness should make him go.. or try a piece of cotton wool with cold water on it.
ive always used cow and gate first infant milk without any problems.. maybe the milks not agreeing with him
also talk to your midwife!!! or health visitor
when my daughter had the same problem our health visitor told us to try her on water (boiled and left to cool) with a few drops of natural orange juice in there just to help things move again.
to be 100% sure, check with your health visitor as they can give you advice on what other formulas to try.
sma gold is not for all babies!
Do you offer him water inbetween feeds? He needs drink as well as food.
Soy Formula will help this problem but contact his dr before switching it
its horrible to see him with constipation!!
Which formula do you advise that dosnt make babies constipated ?? i thought sma was meant to be a good formula ?
any comments would be great thanx
xxxxHaving problems please help need advice ?
I had this problem with my son. With my daughter i have aptamil and it is fantastic i can highly recommend it. They also have a 'comfortable digestion' option you can try if the regular formula is no good.
I hope you find a solution i know how hard it is to watch your child struggling like that, my son had all sorts of digestion problems. Good luck!Having problems please help need advice ?
if hes still constipated heres another trip you could try
if you have a thermometer put it in the fridge for a bit.. then ppen up his nappy on the changing mat and hold it by his back passage.. the coldness should make him go.. or try a piece of cotton wool with cold water on it.
ive always used cow and gate first infant milk without any problems.. maybe the milks not agreeing with him
also talk to your midwife!!! or health visitor
when my daughter had the same problem our health visitor told us to try her on water (boiled and left to cool) with a few drops of natural orange juice in there just to help things move again.
to be 100% sure, check with your health visitor as they can give you advice on what other formulas to try.
sma gold is not for all babies!
Do you offer him water inbetween feeds? He needs drink as well as food.
Soy Formula will help this problem but contact his dr before switching it
Girl problems. Give some good advice please?
I've dated this girl 4 years ago, for about a year and half. Ever since we broke up we've never gone back out, but have usually always had a thing for each other, but we were always on and off for 3 years. Like I said we didn't go back out but we were'; together';. I was going to ask her back out when she was out of high school which is 6 months away( also when she'll be over 18), and I saw her tonight cuz she was acting funny. We had a talk and she just wants to be friends now, no kissing etc. First she said that she wants it to stay like that( us just being friends), then later she said that she doesnt know what will happen. And so as of now, I dont know if we'll ever be close like that again, and I'f I'll even ask her back out like I planned. She just wants to be friends now because she wants to concentrate on school, and for her future and stuff like that. I'll be her friend, but sometime when she's close to being out of high school I'm going to want to take out friendship to a new level. ( as in being close like we were), so then maybe I could ask her out like I planned. I just dont know how I would take our friendship to that new level. Like should I just start flirting with her all of a sudden or what? And also, is this a good chance for her to realize that being '; just friends'; isnt enough for her? ( as in she'll want to be close again)? ladies help me out here. Thankyou. As much detail as possible would help.Girl problems. Give some good advice please?
It sounds like she is conflicted with what she wants. She probably likes you, but also feels she needs to concentrate on her academics. She has already told you she just wants to be friends. You have two options. Either tell her that you're ready to take your friendship to the next level and that you're not pressuring her to make a decision now, but that you'll be waiting until she is ready when she has her academics sorted out. Then, simply just continue to be her friend and be there for her. When she is ready, she'll tell you if she decides you are the person she wants to date. If you're not willing to wait, then just continue to be her friend, but move on and start dating other girls. Of course, if you decide to wait - don't wait too long. Start dating again if you think she waits too long. You never know, it might just show her what's she's missing out on (or you might just find another girl you absolutely adore). Don't start dating other people right away because you'll look like a jerk. If you wait a reasonable amount of time, it'll be her fault, not yours. Hope I didn't confuse you with my advice. Good luck with the girl!Girl problems. Give some good advice please?
HI. My friend. Just move on. The past is the past. You cannot change her mind nor you can change hers. It is up to the individual to make a wise choice. I would suggest you moving on. She is probably doing so. Take a step forward and not backwards into the past.
Good luck.
Been there twice dude..
Sorry it's over.
:(
Just do what you think is right :)
i suggest having sex with her
i hate to break it to you, but if she has said that she just wants to be friends, then she just wants to be friends, we don't say things like that unless we really mean it, so im guessing that she has had a long think about it and that was the conclusion she came up with. so unless she is regretting the decision she has made, then staying friends is all she wants. she also may have fallen for someone else and wants to start a relationship with that person, and she may not want to tell you that just yet. so i would be careful and i would get rid of the plan to ask her out after high school and move on, she may see what she has lost, but she also may be grateful you made the decision. so leave her for a while and if she starts flirting with you then make your move, if she begins distancing herself from you then definitely move on.
i'm pretty sure this isn't what you want to hear, so i apologize in advance for my honesty.
this is a classic case of two people not wanting to move on from each other. you feel safe together because you are so very familiar with each other. And as long as you two are even very close friends it will have a negative effect on your relationships. Which brings us to the point that you both need to stop diddling each other and date other people. She's figuring that out and I don't think you should compromise that. You've already become semi-toxic for each other. like my friends ansel and liz, they hate each other 75% of the time, but they've been together for 6 years and don't know anything else. they break up all the time just to get scared of rejection from other people and get back together. They're poison for each other. And really they're both great people, just not meant for each other at all.
Get away from each other, date around. if you really still feel like you want to be together then get back together. But don't do it simply because you've drug everything out this long.
I actually kind of did this to a guy %26gt;.%26lt; He told me hhe liked me, and so we tried it, and then it didn't work for me, then we spent a bit apart and we got back together, and then it fell apart right away again.
All I can say is that if her mind is made up, don't try and change it. A girl doesn't like it when a guy forces himself on her, no matter how subtle it is.
im not a lady but with this you really just need to let her go. otherwise things will end terribly. you may still have a good chance of hooking back up again if you just be a friend. and honestly loose your feelings. things will just be very messy if you try to hold on. you will loose her. at least now if your friends there is a potential of going back later. but don't cling at all. be there as a friend and later she may see how important you are. its going to be hard but its the best decision for now. even try dating someone else to get your mind off her. good luck brother.
well i think you should respect her decision to just stay friends
because if you start flirting randomly with her again
that on and off thing might start up again
and thats bad
if you have the patience that is
you can be her real good friend,
someone whose there for her when she needs the help
when shes sad, comfort her and all that good stuff
if you try to flirt with her
she might think that you dont respect her decision
that's wat i think she might think
aye dude just chill out at like she's the past like she don't me anything to yu im not saying like cuss her out and **** and act like shes a ***** just act like yu don't want her but yu do and hangout with her a lot but don't get in her space just talk to her as a friend and act like yu just wannd be friends but don't tell her and then maybe 6 months later yah'll could hook again just let her finish school yo
It sounds like she is conflicted with what she wants. She probably likes you, but also feels she needs to concentrate on her academics. She has already told you she just wants to be friends. You have two options. Either tell her that you're ready to take your friendship to the next level and that you're not pressuring her to make a decision now, but that you'll be waiting until she is ready when she has her academics sorted out. Then, simply just continue to be her friend and be there for her. When she is ready, she'll tell you if she decides you are the person she wants to date. If you're not willing to wait, then just continue to be her friend, but move on and start dating other girls. Of course, if you decide to wait - don't wait too long. Start dating again if you think she waits too long. You never know, it might just show her what's she's missing out on (or you might just find another girl you absolutely adore). Don't start dating other people right away because you'll look like a jerk. If you wait a reasonable amount of time, it'll be her fault, not yours. Hope I didn't confuse you with my advice. Good luck with the girl!Girl problems. Give some good advice please?
HI. My friend. Just move on. The past is the past. You cannot change her mind nor you can change hers. It is up to the individual to make a wise choice. I would suggest you moving on. She is probably doing so. Take a step forward and not backwards into the past.
Good luck.
Been there twice dude..
Sorry it's over.
:(
Just do what you think is right :)
i suggest having sex with her
i hate to break it to you, but if she has said that she just wants to be friends, then she just wants to be friends, we don't say things like that unless we really mean it, so im guessing that she has had a long think about it and that was the conclusion she came up with. so unless she is regretting the decision she has made, then staying friends is all she wants. she also may have fallen for someone else and wants to start a relationship with that person, and she may not want to tell you that just yet. so i would be careful and i would get rid of the plan to ask her out after high school and move on, she may see what she has lost, but she also may be grateful you made the decision. so leave her for a while and if she starts flirting with you then make your move, if she begins distancing herself from you then definitely move on.
i'm pretty sure this isn't what you want to hear, so i apologize in advance for my honesty.
this is a classic case of two people not wanting to move on from each other. you feel safe together because you are so very familiar with each other. And as long as you two are even very close friends it will have a negative effect on your relationships. Which brings us to the point that you both need to stop diddling each other and date other people. She's figuring that out and I don't think you should compromise that. You've already become semi-toxic for each other. like my friends ansel and liz, they hate each other 75% of the time, but they've been together for 6 years and don't know anything else. they break up all the time just to get scared of rejection from other people and get back together. They're poison for each other. And really they're both great people, just not meant for each other at all.
Get away from each other, date around. if you really still feel like you want to be together then get back together. But don't do it simply because you've drug everything out this long.
I actually kind of did this to a guy %26gt;.%26lt; He told me hhe liked me, and so we tried it, and then it didn't work for me, then we spent a bit apart and we got back together, and then it fell apart right away again.
All I can say is that if her mind is made up, don't try and change it. A girl doesn't like it when a guy forces himself on her, no matter how subtle it is.
im not a lady but with this you really just need to let her go. otherwise things will end terribly. you may still have a good chance of hooking back up again if you just be a friend. and honestly loose your feelings. things will just be very messy if you try to hold on. you will loose her. at least now if your friends there is a potential of going back later. but don't cling at all. be there as a friend and later she may see how important you are. its going to be hard but its the best decision for now. even try dating someone else to get your mind off her. good luck brother.
well i think you should respect her decision to just stay friends
because if you start flirting randomly with her again
that on and off thing might start up again
and thats bad
if you have the patience that is
you can be her real good friend,
someone whose there for her when she needs the help
when shes sad, comfort her and all that good stuff
if you try to flirt with her
she might think that you dont respect her decision
that's wat i think she might think
aye dude just chill out at like she's the past like she don't me anything to yu im not saying like cuss her out and **** and act like shes a ***** just act like yu don't want her but yu do and hangout with her a lot but don't get in her space just talk to her as a friend and act like yu just wannd be friends but don't tell her and then maybe 6 months later yah'll could hook again just let her finish school yo
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