Girl problems. Give some good advice please?

I've dated this girl 4 years ago, for about a year and half. Ever since we broke up we've never gone back out, but have usually always had a thing for each other, but we were always on and off for 3 years. Like I said we didn't go back out but we were'; together';. I was going to ask her back out when she was out of high school which is 6 months away( also when she'll be over 18), and I saw her tonight cuz she was acting funny. We had a talk and she just wants to be friends now, no kissing etc. First she said that she wants it to stay like that( us just being friends), then later she said that she doesnt know what will happen. And so as of now, I dont know if we'll ever be close like that again, and I'f I'll even ask her back out like I planned. She just wants to be friends now because she wants to concentrate on school, and for her future and stuff like that. I'll be her friend, but sometime when she's close to being out of high school I'm going to want to take out friendship to a new level. ( as in being close like we were), so then maybe I could ask her out like I planned. I just dont know how I would take our friendship to that new level. Like should I just start flirting with her all of a sudden or what? And also, is this a good chance for her to realize that being '; just friends'; isnt enough for her? ( as in she'll want to be close again)? ladies help me out here. Thankyou. As much detail as possible would help.Girl problems. Give some good advice please?
It sounds like she is conflicted with what she wants. She probably likes you, but also feels she needs to concentrate on her academics. She has already told you she just wants to be friends. You have two options. Either tell her that you're ready to take your friendship to the next level and that you're not pressuring her to make a decision now, but that you'll be waiting until she is ready when she has her academics sorted out. Then, simply just continue to be her friend and be there for her. When she is ready, she'll tell you if she decides you are the person she wants to date. If you're not willing to wait, then just continue to be her friend, but move on and start dating other girls. Of course, if you decide to wait - don't wait too long. Start dating again if you think she waits too long. You never know, it might just show her what's she's missing out on (or you might just find another girl you absolutely adore). Don't start dating other people right away because you'll look like a jerk. If you wait a reasonable amount of time, it'll be her fault, not yours. Hope I didn't confuse you with my advice. Good luck with the girl!Girl problems. Give some good advice please?
HI. My friend. Just move on. The past is the past. You cannot change her mind nor you can change hers. It is up to the individual to make a wise choice. I would suggest you moving on. She is probably doing so. Take a step forward and not backwards into the past.





Good luck.
Been there twice dude..


Sorry it's over.


:(
Just do what you think is right :)
i suggest having sex with her
i hate to break it to you, but if she has said that she just wants to be friends, then she just wants to be friends, we don't say things like that unless we really mean it, so im guessing that she has had a long think about it and that was the conclusion she came up with. so unless she is regretting the decision she has made, then staying friends is all she wants. she also may have fallen for someone else and wants to start a relationship with that person, and she may not want to tell you that just yet. so i would be careful and i would get rid of the plan to ask her out after high school and move on, she may see what she has lost, but she also may be grateful you made the decision. so leave her for a while and if she starts flirting with you then make your move, if she begins distancing herself from you then definitely move on.
i'm pretty sure this isn't what you want to hear, so i apologize in advance for my honesty.





this is a classic case of two people not wanting to move on from each other. you feel safe together because you are so very familiar with each other. And as long as you two are even very close friends it will have a negative effect on your relationships. Which brings us to the point that you both need to stop diddling each other and date other people. She's figuring that out and I don't think you should compromise that. You've already become semi-toxic for each other. like my friends ansel and liz, they hate each other 75% of the time, but they've been together for 6 years and don't know anything else. they break up all the time just to get scared of rejection from other people and get back together. They're poison for each other. And really they're both great people, just not meant for each other at all.





Get away from each other, date around. if you really still feel like you want to be together then get back together. But don't do it simply because you've drug everything out this long.
I actually kind of did this to a guy %26gt;.%26lt; He told me hhe liked me, and so we tried it, and then it didn't work for me, then we spent a bit apart and we got back together, and then it fell apart right away again.





All I can say is that if her mind is made up, don't try and change it. A girl doesn't like it when a guy forces himself on her, no matter how subtle it is.
im not a lady but with this you really just need to let her go. otherwise things will end terribly. you may still have a good chance of hooking back up again if you just be a friend. and honestly loose your feelings. things will just be very messy if you try to hold on. you will loose her. at least now if your friends there is a potential of going back later. but don't cling at all. be there as a friend and later she may see how important you are. its going to be hard but its the best decision for now. even try dating someone else to get your mind off her. good luck brother.
well i think you should respect her decision to just stay friends


because if you start flirting randomly with her again


that on and off thing might start up again


and thats bad


if you have the patience that is


you can be her real good friend,


someone whose there for her when she needs the help


when shes sad, comfort her and all that good stuff


if you try to flirt with her


she might think that you dont respect her decision





that's wat i think she might think
aye dude just chill out at like she's the past like she don't me anything to yu im not saying like cuss her out and **** and act like shes a ***** just act like yu don't want her but yu do and hangout with her a lot but don't get in her space just talk to her as a friend and act like yu just wannd be friends but don't tell her and then maybe 6 months later yah'll could hook again just let her finish school yo