Ohk, so theres this girl who i once went out with for awhile and i loved her but she loved her Ex.
Im 18 shes 16 and her Ex's 21 but the problem is that she broke up with me because she wanted to get back with him at the end of the year but now she wants to get back with him in 19months because they went out for less then 1month and fell apart and she says it because when ever shes free he isnt and when his free she isnt and that when shes 18 shes gonna have more freedom
We broke up 5weeks ago and shes still in my mind everyday, and sometimes i just wanna call her but i dont. She knws that i love her and we recently started talkin again.
She called me the day b4 they broke up and i spoke to her on msn today and she told me EVERYTHING. I just wanna no if theres any chance she might be willin to forget about him, and be with me
I love her and allways have, i dont no if i should take her serious anymore or not, it just playin up on my head to much these days.
i need some advice from a girl.
Thanks,
-BoyNeedsHelpEx problems, need a girls advice.?
It sounds to me like she is completely hung up on this guy and all the time she feels that way i don't think things will change with you and her.
You could wait and hope but personally i would try to move on,their 'relationship' sounds very messy and it could take a very long time to sort that one out.Ex problems, need a girls advice.?
I think she doesn't know what she wants...
My personal opinion is if you can't stay in a relationship for more than 2 years with out breaking up then it's never going to work.
This is a mess. Stay out of it and continue to keep your distance from her. All you will end up with is frustration and hurt. you will be surprised how easy it is to move on when you get to looking around at all of your options (other females!)
Sorry but - move on. She wants to be with this other guy. Put yourself first, get over her (in time) and find someone who wants to be with you. Best of luck :)
Monday, August 23, 2010
Family problems? I need an advice.?
well...
my father got this illness but I don't know what it is...but my mother said that it was brain stroke(she said that all part of left side of my father doesn't function well and he always cannot sleep)...in this case..., my father is in bad health situation and needed to do an operation for the stoke and the doctors said its just 50/50 but my father said that he don't want the operation...
so now, what should I do now? I'm afraid that my father will end up his world because of the bad illnesses...
please give me some advice
priest or family experts are highly recommended...
ThanksFamily problems? I need an advice.?
I know you're worried about your dad, sounds like you love him a lot. He's going through a lot right now and having surgery scares him. He has evidently come close to death and I'm thinking that he doesn't want to hurry it either. You and your family are having a hard time watching him go through this but just try to remember that it's affecting him the most. Sometimes people just get tired and don't want to go through anything else. If the odds of his surgery were higher, I'm sure he'd have it done. Try to respect his decision, however hard it may be. Make sure you tell your dad that you love him every day, and do as much for him as you can. He'll love you more and respect you more for it, and you'll respect yourself more, too.Family problems? I need an advice.?
I am so sorry to hear about your father, I cannot understand how you feel. I am hoping this website will be able to offer some understanding of his condition:
http://www.stroke.org.uk/information/when_a_stroke_happens/going_into.html
I will leave it to another soul to help you otherwise as I am not intelligent enough to offer sound advice.
I hope he has a full recovery and you all stay well.
Sorry man if I haven't helped.
I am sorry to here about your dad's poor health.
Your dad doesn't like the odds. He had rather live a while longer than take a chance on dying now since they only gave in a 50/50 chance.
You are going to have to except his decision and be ready for the time to come when he will lose his life. Your mom will be expecting it also but it will still be hard on both of you. You will both have to be strong and depend on each other. Blessings!
I will look at my dad. first feel how much he suffers.
then investigate what kind of illness it was. the good and the bad.
if its curable. help him with some healthy food and herbal. then if i know that it is a dangerous situation that anytime i cud lose my father. i will prepare myself ahead and be strong enough to handle it. so i can be there for my mother and siblings to help them accept the fact also. pray also. sorry to hear ur problem that must be hard.
hope ur father will get better., god bless!
Without going for the operation, your Father could get well by his strong will. ( he seems to be strong willed)
Let Him make a choice, also inquire if he wants to try an alternate therapy.
my father got this illness but I don't know what it is...but my mother said that it was brain stroke(she said that all part of left side of my father doesn't function well and he always cannot sleep)...in this case..., my father is in bad health situation and needed to do an operation for the stoke and the doctors said its just 50/50 but my father said that he don't want the operation...
so now, what should I do now? I'm afraid that my father will end up his world because of the bad illnesses...
please give me some advice
priest or family experts are highly recommended...
ThanksFamily problems? I need an advice.?
I know you're worried about your dad, sounds like you love him a lot. He's going through a lot right now and having surgery scares him. He has evidently come close to death and I'm thinking that he doesn't want to hurry it either. You and your family are having a hard time watching him go through this but just try to remember that it's affecting him the most. Sometimes people just get tired and don't want to go through anything else. If the odds of his surgery were higher, I'm sure he'd have it done. Try to respect his decision, however hard it may be. Make sure you tell your dad that you love him every day, and do as much for him as you can. He'll love you more and respect you more for it, and you'll respect yourself more, too.Family problems? I need an advice.?
I am so sorry to hear about your father, I cannot understand how you feel. I am hoping this website will be able to offer some understanding of his condition:
http://www.stroke.org.uk/information/when_a_stroke_happens/going_into.html
I will leave it to another soul to help you otherwise as I am not intelligent enough to offer sound advice.
I hope he has a full recovery and you all stay well.
Sorry man if I haven't helped.
I am sorry to here about your dad's poor health.
Your dad doesn't like the odds. He had rather live a while longer than take a chance on dying now since they only gave in a 50/50 chance.
You are going to have to except his decision and be ready for the time to come when he will lose his life. Your mom will be expecting it also but it will still be hard on both of you. You will both have to be strong and depend on each other. Blessings!
I will look at my dad. first feel how much he suffers.
then investigate what kind of illness it was. the good and the bad.
if its curable. help him with some healthy food and herbal. then if i know that it is a dangerous situation that anytime i cud lose my father. i will prepare myself ahead and be strong enough to handle it. so i can be there for my mother and siblings to help them accept the fact also. pray also. sorry to hear ur problem that must be hard.
hope ur father will get better., god bless!
Without going for the operation, your Father could get well by his strong will. ( he seems to be strong willed)
Let Him make a choice, also inquire if he wants to try an alternate therapy.
Does anyone know of a reputable body piercer in Manhattan. I have a nose piercing lump problem & need advice.?
Apparently it is called a ';granuloma'; - some people say to to put tea tree oil on it to encourage it to dry up and peel off - does anyone know about these things?Does anyone know of a reputable body piercer in Manhattan. I have a nose piercing lump problem %26amp; need advice.?
Every morning, clean it with antibacterial soap. Then apply the tea tree oil. Try to do this once in the morning, and before you go to bed. If you have time and can remember, apply the tea tree oil in the middle of the day (lunchtime). It may take about two weeks or so, but it should gradually get smaller.
You can also try using hydrocortisone cream. Apply the hydrocortisone cream 4-6x/day for 2 weeks.
It might be hypertrophic scarring. You can read about it here:
http://encyc.bmezine.com/?Hypertrophic_S鈥?/a>
Or granuloma. There's a first-hand experience with a granuloma on a nose piercing here:
http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/03-nose/A5鈥?/a>
I don't think it's a keloid, a more serious form of scarring, but you can read about them here:
http://encyc.bmezine.com/?Keloid
Every morning, clean it with antibacterial soap. Then apply the tea tree oil. Try to do this once in the morning, and before you go to bed. If you have time and can remember, apply the tea tree oil in the middle of the day (lunchtime). It may take about two weeks or so, but it should gradually get smaller.
You can also try using hydrocortisone cream. Apply the hydrocortisone cream 4-6x/day for 2 weeks.
It might be hypertrophic scarring. You can read about it here:
http://encyc.bmezine.com/?Hypertrophic_S鈥?/a>
Or granuloma. There's a first-hand experience with a granuloma on a nose piercing here:
http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/03-nose/A5鈥?/a>
I don't think it's a keloid, a more serious form of scarring, but you can read about them here:
http://encyc.bmezine.com/?Keloid
BF problems I need your advice?
Ok my BF and I got into a Fight to the point he said ';I think its obvious that we are better off apart'; So I said ok well take care. then he said '; So just break up with me then'; and I said no I dont have a reason to so he's like well im not gonna break up with you I want you to break up with me. Well anyways Its been a year and four months that we've been together
So why wont he just break up with me? why does he want me to break up with him? I dont get it someone Help please
Oh and by the way he didn' t call me last nightBF problems I need your advice?
maybe he still has deep feelings 4 u
and doesnt wanna breakup with you
and only said that in the heat of the moment
and if he didnt call it was probably because hes scared ull break up with himBF problems I need your advice?
If you are not not getting along what difference does this make? You need to do what will make you happy. If that is to break up and find someone that treats you better than so be it. As far as him not wanting to break up that is his own personal thing that might just justify things in his mind. That does not matter.
He obviously cares about you and don't want to hurt you. He wants you to break up with him so he can be really mad at you and leave. I've been this way with a few of my boyfriends before: wishing they'd break up so I wouldn't have to. Do you think that you NEED to break up? If so, give him what he wants.
dont give in... make him break up with you.
he wants you to break up with him, so that you cant be sad bcoz you did the breaking up.
basicly he doesnt want to see you sad because hes broken up with you get it. because he still does care... just wants to be friends.
Your boy friend doesn't know his own mind or make decisions, it has to be done for him, he doesn't want to take the responsibility for anything
Sometimes they want you to break-up with them so they won't feel guilty. ( ex.. when y'all break up he gets a new girlfriend and it hurts your feelings or you get mad his response will be how you getting mad when you broke up with me.)
He probably doesn't want to actually break up, but I'm sure he wants to stop arguing. If your arguing over petty stuff, maybe you should take some time apart.
maybe you really love each other so much that both of you cant afford losing each other. just talk things out and everything will be fine.
Just break up with him and get it over with.
Just ask him why
So why wont he just break up with me? why does he want me to break up with him? I dont get it someone Help please
Oh and by the way he didn' t call me last nightBF problems I need your advice?
maybe he still has deep feelings 4 u
and doesnt wanna breakup with you
and only said that in the heat of the moment
and if he didnt call it was probably because hes scared ull break up with himBF problems I need your advice?
If you are not not getting along what difference does this make? You need to do what will make you happy. If that is to break up and find someone that treats you better than so be it. As far as him not wanting to break up that is his own personal thing that might just justify things in his mind. That does not matter.
He obviously cares about you and don't want to hurt you. He wants you to break up with him so he can be really mad at you and leave. I've been this way with a few of my boyfriends before: wishing they'd break up so I wouldn't have to. Do you think that you NEED to break up? If so, give him what he wants.
dont give in... make him break up with you.
he wants you to break up with him, so that you cant be sad bcoz you did the breaking up.
basicly he doesnt want to see you sad because hes broken up with you get it. because he still does care... just wants to be friends.
Your boy friend doesn't know his own mind or make decisions, it has to be done for him, he doesn't want to take the responsibility for anything
Sometimes they want you to break-up with them so they won't feel guilty. ( ex.. when y'all break up he gets a new girlfriend and it hurts your feelings or you get mad his response will be how you getting mad when you broke up with me.)
He probably doesn't want to actually break up, but I'm sure he wants to stop arguing. If your arguing over petty stuff, maybe you should take some time apart.
maybe you really love each other so much that both of you cant afford losing each other. just talk things out and everything will be fine.
Just break up with him and get it over with.
Just ask him why
Guy problems , anyone have any advice?
so , i dated this guy a while ago but we had to break up because we didn't get to see each other alot and stuff , then he started dating this other girl and they broke up , and we started to get closer again, and whenever i would hang out with him , i'd get really nervous. and like shaky nad shy , and ii dont know why . Well at least at first i was liek that , then i started getting more comfortable around him when we started carrying on and stuff , he has this really bad habit of tickling me and stuff , and like we were watching a movie and he was like all over me . ( not in a perverted way) but idk it i should act on my feeling after we dated and it didnt work out, any body got any advice for me ??Guy problems , anyone have any advice?
.As you feel more comfortable around him now.This then is good.You've got rid of the goose bumps and the butterflies in the tummy have flown away.So give it a try
.As you feel more comfortable around him now.This then is good.You've got rid of the goose bumps and the butterflies in the tummy have flown away.So give it a try
StOmach problems.....[plz!] offer ur advice!?
wat do these signs indicate? upset stomach for days now but on/off......sudden pulsating like pains near the belly button to the left and now right and now in it that come as soon as they go or vs. versa lol.....burping and being thirsty but when drinking water it makes u feel sick even if its just a lil so tehn ur stomach feels even worse.....and a funny feeling head that hurts and a feeling that u just feel nauses or just dizzish but not necessarily...and they just come and go like crazy. Wat could all this be ????
and no i'm not preggo or take any drugs etcStOmach problems.....[plz!] offer ur advice!?
Idk thats weird.................. try Pepto Bismo and tumbs also ask your doctor......sorry im not much help but hope i helped a lilttle!StOmach problems.....[plz!] offer ur advice!?
not sure about the other parts but the water part definetly sounds like rabies.wrinkles
and no i'm not preggo or take any drugs etcStOmach problems.....[plz!] offer ur advice!?
Idk thats weird.................. try Pepto Bismo and tumbs also ask your doctor......sorry im not much help but hope i helped a lilttle!StOmach problems.....[plz!] offer ur advice!?
not sure about the other parts but the water part definetly sounds like rabies.
Boy problems please i need advice?
well today i just found out that my boyfriend was with my enemy in 6th grade. i mean its not a big deal but i'm still angry. so since we were being honest i told him that i was with his friend in the summer turns out it was his blood cousin i have no idea what to tell him he says he won't get ova it i'm just really scared that he might break up with me. he tells me he loves me and i know he means it and i love him to i just don't know whats going to happen. we still kissed and hugged but he just kept sayin not with my cousin. Should i be worried about if he'll break up with me or should i just not worry? Any advice what to tell him. THANKSBoy problems please i need advice?
thats what happens when you feel spite towards someone you love. all you can do is ask for his forgiveness. the situation is tough and to tell you the truth i dont think you are in a good position. if you really open up to him and apologize things may get better. hope i helped and good luck. be positive and things may go your way.
thats what happens when you feel spite towards someone you love. all you can do is ask for his forgiveness. the situation is tough and to tell you the truth i dont think you are in a good position. if you really open up to him and apologize things may get better. hope i helped and good luck. be positive and things may go your way.
Guy problems , anyone have any advice?
so , i dated this guy a while ago but we had to break up because we didn't get to see each other alot and stuff , then he started dating this other girl and they broke up , and we started to get closer again, and whenever i would hang out with him , i'd get really nervous. and like shaky nad shy , and ii dont know why . Well at least at first i was liek that , then i started getting more comfortable around him when we started carrying on and stuff , he has this really bad habit of tickling me and stuff , and like we were watching a movie and he was like all over me . ( not in a perverted way) but idk it i should act on my feeling after we dated and it didnt work out, any body got any advice for me ??Guy problems , anyone have any advice?
.As you feel more comfortable around him now.This then is good.You've got rid of the goose bumps and the butterflies in the tummy have flown away.So give it a try
.As you feel more comfortable around him now.This then is good.You've got rid of the goose bumps and the butterflies in the tummy have flown away.So give it a try
Girl problems. i need some advice plz?
i met this girl at our friends b-day party. we quickly became friends and then friends wit privilages. we were like that for 1 month then she got a boyfriend. we kinda stopped doing stuff but would talk every night. so when they broke up about a week later she came to me and i comforted her and stff we became friends wit privilages again but then after really getting to know her i wanted to have her as a gf. wen she found out she started avoiding me and told me she just wanted to be friends. we went on vacation nd didn talk at all. now we r back in school and i still like her, but i noticed she listens to sad love songs, seems happy to see me and wants me to walk her to class again. Does she like me? what do i do? i still like her but idk what to doGirl problems. i need some advice plz?
Always ask her friends. There is always at least one friend of the girl who will be nice enough to find a straight and confidential answer for you. Or you could always ask her out to the movies. Not quite serious but a good first step at trying to make it happen.Girl problems. i need some advice plz?
gmoney, you sound like a loser.
she doesn't know what she wants herself so don't try to figure her out just go with the flow
Always ask her friends. There is always at least one friend of the girl who will be nice enough to find a straight and confidential answer for you. Or you could always ask her out to the movies. Not quite serious but a good first step at trying to make it happen.Girl problems. i need some advice plz?
gmoney, you sound like a loser.
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she doesn't know what she wants herself so don't try to figure her out just go with the flow
Problems with my marraige. need advice please.?
my wife through a peice of cheese and me, and she is really not like that. I asked her whats wrong shes like 'you left the fridge open, the milk curdled.' makes me so mad. that chesse really hurts me deep inside. i can still see it lying there on the ground, its swiss wholes staring at me. I should cleaned it up weeks ago. How can i get my life back in order, my marraige less cheesy, and that chesse off the floor.Problems with my marraige. need advice please.?
I hate it so effing much when pathetic people with nothing better to do post fake ';funny'; questions.
Grow up.Problems with my marraige. need advice please.?
I can't help with the cheese, but your question is very corny! Thx 4 the 2 points cheese boy!
these people are mean
well you guys should talk it out take her out to eat
to the movies make her fell like a princess
but you guys should really talk it out
I hate it so much when pathetic people with nothing better to do answer fake ';funny'; questions.
Grow up.
Try to talk to her about the problem, the only way to solve a problem is to talk about it. If that fails mabey marriage counseling, and if that don't work mabey divorce is the best thing for you two.
Hahaha. My boyfriend and I are in a fight right now and this is the first thing that has succeeded in making me laugh. Thanx :)
go get a tattoo and stop asking dumb *** questions
Are you on some kinda drugs? Cause that sounds really stupid.
You got the same problem with mine. Though my advice would be do what you got to do. If you don't like it anymore just divorce her. But then again it depends on which country you are in. If you are in Philippines, then my advice will be different. Try as much as possible to forget it. In Philippines marriage is sacred, you have to do all you can to save the marriage. If not the essence of getting married and loving her in the beginning until death do you part will just go down the drain.
Ah wow do i not find your idiotic satire like questions amusing.
omg whats ur problem man??
I hate it so effing much when pathetic people with nothing better to do post fake ';funny'; questions.
Grow up.Problems with my marraige. need advice please.?
I can't help with the cheese, but your question is very corny! Thx 4 the 2 points cheese boy!
these people are mean
well you guys should talk it out take her out to eat
to the movies make her fell like a princess
but you guys should really talk it out
I hate it so much when pathetic people with nothing better to do answer fake ';funny'; questions.
Grow up.
Try to talk to her about the problem, the only way to solve a problem is to talk about it. If that fails mabey marriage counseling, and if that don't work mabey divorce is the best thing for you two.
Hahaha. My boyfriend and I are in a fight right now and this is the first thing that has succeeded in making me laugh. Thanx :)
go get a tattoo and stop asking dumb *** questions
Are you on some kinda drugs? Cause that sounds really stupid.
You got the same problem with mine. Though my advice would be do what you got to do. If you don't like it anymore just divorce her. But then again it depends on which country you are in. If you are in Philippines, then my advice will be different. Try as much as possible to forget it. In Philippines marriage is sacred, you have to do all you can to save the marriage. If not the essence of getting married and loving her in the beginning until death do you part will just go down the drain.
Ah wow do i not find your idiotic satire like questions amusing.
omg whats ur problem man??
Problems with authority figures .Please advice.?
just go places with friends so they can control you if you have a problem.
Problems with my chest. Any advice?
In the past few days my chest feels like it has doubled in size. My nipples are extremely sensitive and my whole boob is hard (almost like a fake one) My period is about 2 1/2-3 weeks away. I'm clueless as to what it could be. Any ideas? I've never had any problems like this before.Problems with my chest. Any advice?
i agree you could never be to careful go check it out.but , i have the same problem about a week are two before i get my period .my breast swells and my nipples become very sensitive to the touch.this never use to happen to me before though this started about 8 months now . it can also be if you are sexually active this can be from rough play.Problems with my chest. Any advice?
I think this is common in women. some dont notice, some do i think yours, and dresssedinblue could be a sign of ending puberty and maturing completely.
time to visit the gyno.wrinkles
i agree you could never be to careful go check it out.but , i have the same problem about a week are two before i get my period .my breast swells and my nipples become very sensitive to the touch.this never use to happen to me before though this started about 8 months now . it can also be if you are sexually active this can be from rough play.Problems with my chest. Any advice?
I think this is common in women. some dont notice, some do i think yours, and dresssedinblue could be a sign of ending puberty and maturing completely.
time to visit the gyno.
I have these dents on my jaw from acne and i really need advice from people who have had similar problems.?
This is all you need to do
1. Lime juice will get rid of ance and scars
2. Honey will get your skin young soft and smooth
3. Drink lots of water for healthy glowing skin
4. Eat healthy for nice clear skinI have these dents on my jaw from acne and i really need advice from people who have had similar problems.?
Use polyfillaI have these dents on my jaw from acne and i really need advice from people who have had similar problems.?
try proactiv and change your diet it really works
1. Lime juice will get rid of ance and scars
2. Honey will get your skin young soft and smooth
3. Drink lots of water for healthy glowing skin
4. Eat healthy for nice clear skinI have these dents on my jaw from acne and i really need advice from people who have had similar problems.?
Use polyfillaI have these dents on my jaw from acne and i really need advice from people who have had similar problems.?
try proactiv and change your diet it really works
Sick dog. Having #2 problems after drinking/visiting a man-made pond. Advice?
Stupid BF brought dog to man made pond. Now dog has # 2 problems. Had an accident in the house and has to go outside every few hours and she now STINKS. Taking dog to vet tomorrow. Anyone had this problem before? What did the vet prescribe to your dog?Sick dog. Having #2 problems after drinking/visiting a man-made pond. Advice?
most likely giardia from drinking the water. He will probably get antibiotics to clear it up
most likely giardia from drinking the water. He will probably get antibiotics to clear it up
I'm having guy problems..just need some advice...?
so me and this guy have known eachother for a long time now and we had feelings about eachother ever since the day we met...we kinda ignored the feelings and had other relationships but recently he and i have been moving more closer to eachother...and i really had seemed to like him and he told me that he liked me to..he put his girlfriend on hold to see whats me and him may have... so the other night we expressed our feelings intimatley to see where our relationship stands and we thought maybe it would show or let us feel our true feelings..the next day i was waiting for his call for the whole day but he didnt call...and today i actually talked to him and he told me that he wasnt feeling the same way anymore. he tells me that i am too ';immature and insecure'; ... and that hes not looking for that..
so what do i do? is love stronger than pride? do i try to change myself to meet his standards? mind you, that i really do feel for this guy..maybe im infactuated..but what can i do ?I'm having guy problems..just need some advice...?
Sounds like this guy was feeding you a bunch of lines just to get in your drawers. The question is, why would you trust some fool whose willing to put his current girlfriend on hold, just to see if the sparks between you two are real? Dumb move.... Anyway, this sounds like nothing but infatuation on your end. So, my advice to you is, move on and forget that that butt munch ever existed.I'm having guy problems..just need some advice...?
drop this guy. find someone that likes you for you. you shouldn't have to change for anybody but yourself. besides if
he put his girlfriend on hold to see if he had anything with you what makes you think he wont do the same to you if you got serious?
Well I know and im sure others will too but how far is intimate to you. But never change yourself for anyone no matter what the reasons. second he put his girlfriend on hold thats a cheater right there. Third maybe your not just right for each other and maybe you need to ask a friend for a blind date to get your mind off him. even a bad one works cause you can always laugh at it later.
don't try to change ourself to meet his standards. If he says that just leave him and try to move on.
Well I meen heres my opinion. Hes eather a jerk or really scared to tell u how he feels but if u love him as much as u say u do then tell him and tell him that u will do what ever it takes to be with him.
He said that to you and you still have feelings for him? O, no - you need to find someone else. There are plenty of guys around, who won't insult you like that.
so what do i do? is love stronger than pride? do i try to change myself to meet his standards? mind you, that i really do feel for this guy..maybe im infactuated..but what can i do ?I'm having guy problems..just need some advice...?
Sounds like this guy was feeding you a bunch of lines just to get in your drawers. The question is, why would you trust some fool whose willing to put his current girlfriend on hold, just to see if the sparks between you two are real? Dumb move.... Anyway, this sounds like nothing but infatuation on your end. So, my advice to you is, move on and forget that that butt munch ever existed.I'm having guy problems..just need some advice...?
drop this guy. find someone that likes you for you. you shouldn't have to change for anybody but yourself. besides if
he put his girlfriend on hold to see if he had anything with you what makes you think he wont do the same to you if you got serious?
Well I know and im sure others will too but how far is intimate to you. But never change yourself for anyone no matter what the reasons. second he put his girlfriend on hold thats a cheater right there. Third maybe your not just right for each other and maybe you need to ask a friend for a blind date to get your mind off him. even a bad one works cause you can always laugh at it later.
don't try to change ourself to meet his standards. If he says that just leave him and try to move on.
Well I meen heres my opinion. Hes eather a jerk or really scared to tell u how he feels but if u love him as much as u say u do then tell him and tell him that u will do what ever it takes to be with him.
He said that to you and you still have feelings for him? O, no - you need to find someone else. There are plenty of guys around, who won't insult you like that.
Problems with a Friend, Advice?
I have this friend who is a girl and i'm a guy. We don't have a relationship but we have good friendship even thought we don't know each other to well. To make a long story short, we didn't talk for a few months and some how got into a argument cuz i felt she didn't show the respect i thought she had for me and i hurt her feelings(not what i intended). We said sorry to each other but now i really feel like our friendship is gone even thought we said sorry.
Is there a way to restore the friendship we once had ?? Or is it to late and its never going to be the same ??? ThanksProblems with a Friend, Advice?
If your friendship was real, then the two of you can work this out. Talk to her again. Tell her that you are sorry for what you said and tell her why you said it. Then ask her to go and do something that you both enjoy. Spending some quality time together helps to heal the wounds that we sometimes inflict with our mouths.
Is there a way to restore the friendship we once had ?? Or is it to late and its never going to be the same ??? ThanksProblems with a Friend, Advice?
If your friendship was real, then the two of you can work this out. Talk to her again. Tell her that you are sorry for what you said and tell her why you said it. Then ask her to go and do something that you both enjoy. Spending some quality time together helps to heal the wounds that we sometimes inflict with our mouths.
Problems between adult siblings...advice? (long)?
I am in a situation that has me very upset. It is with my sister. She is older, we are both in our 30's. She has two children, I am pregnant with my first. We live 1000 miles apart. We have never gotten along the best (we are complete opposites) but we always stay in contact. Speaking on the phone usually several times a month and visiting when we lived closer to each other. Our parents live in another state as well. Over the summer I visited my parents for a few weeks since I am not currently working. The plan was to fly to my sisters then drive with her and her kids to my parents house, 10 hours away. I kept asking my sister when she could go, she never gave me a straight answer and said she wasn't even sure if she could go. Finally I just booked a ticket straight to my parents house but made it for the few weeks that my sister was toying with coming. Well once I got to my parents she said she didn't feel comfortable driving by herself with her two kids and that her car was acting up and she wondered if my parents would come to pick them up halfway the following week. I told her that it seemed last minute and I didn't think they would go for that, but to ask my mom and see. She chose not to ask and didn't end up coming. But in the meantime she stopped talking to me and my parents. I figured she was mad because I didn't think my parents were going to drive all that way last minute. I found out the sex of my child in the meantime, sent a text to her saying it's a boy and got one word back, congrats, she never called or anything. I let it go and finally just texted her like nothing was wrong and we chatted via text a little. Things were looking up. Until last week. My mom flew to my house because my hubby is away on business for a month and I wanted company. Well my sister happened to call my mom while she was at my house. When my mom said she was with me, my sister got upset and said she wouldn't bother her then and hung up. She sent me a message and said don't bother coming to visit them in the fall (we were all planning to visit my sister and her family in November) because she is tired of being the black sheep in the family. Obviously she is upset that my mom and I have spent so much time together, but my mom and I have always been close and get along really well. Her and my mom don't always get along either.
Anyway I don't know what to do. I am hurt by how she is acting, but I don't think I did anything wrong. She is the type of person who gets mad so easily and I have found myself always being the one to make nice. I am sick of it! Not to mention she doesn't even seem at all interested in her nephew to be. Even when I have done so much for her kids! I even offered to fly my 14 year old niece to my house for a visit, she couldn't come due to cheer camp so I helped pay for camp instead. I am so mad! I wouldn't care as much if it wasn't for my niece and nephew. I am at a loss and just need to vent. If anyone bothers to read this whole thing and has any good advice I would appreciate it.Problems between adult siblings...advice? (long)?
You are about to be a Mom (congratulations!) so that needs to be your focus, not being emotionally blackmailed by your passive aggressive sister. She's an adult, so if she has a problem with you, it's her responsibility to come right out and tell you what it is, not play all these childish games. People like her feed into the drama of it and crave a reaction from you. Don't give her a reaction. Just remain calm and mature, not reactive and emotional. This might make her become even more extreme...so be it. That is not your problem. Nor is her petty and unhealthy jealousy over your relationship with your parents. You are expecting a child, it's NATURAL for your parents to spend more energy on you. Focus on that positive energy, not the negative energy your sister gives off. It's not healthy for you and it's not healthy for your baby.Problems between adult siblings...advice? (long)?
ha i read it all :P any way i don't really know what to tell you except call her and be like ';don't be so damn jelous'; lol jking but tell her to invite your mom out to her house if she wants and that you arent stopping them two from visiting and you don't get why it was that big of deal if your mom came out and visited you
What you can do is, let it go. Because she has no self esteem and she is jealous. And stop doing things for her kids. If she wants to be a ***** let her be a *****. Because you shouldnt be helping her children if she is doing that. But you can have other relatives to talk to :) Like your cousins or something. But leave her alone and she will come running back sometime soon. :) And Congragulations on the boy :)
I don't see anything that you can (or should) do differently. You've bent over backwards to be accommodating, yet your sister insists on doing what she can to hinder you.
I feel you should just continue being pleasant, but don't go out of your way. Nothing you do will change her behavior. And, most importantly, you're pregnant and don't need to deal with her silliness.
(I have a nutty sister, too. I'm 40, and she's 57.)
Anyway I don't know what to do. I am hurt by how she is acting, but I don't think I did anything wrong. She is the type of person who gets mad so easily and I have found myself always being the one to make nice. I am sick of it! Not to mention she doesn't even seem at all interested in her nephew to be. Even when I have done so much for her kids! I even offered to fly my 14 year old niece to my house for a visit, she couldn't come due to cheer camp so I helped pay for camp instead. I am so mad! I wouldn't care as much if it wasn't for my niece and nephew. I am at a loss and just need to vent. If anyone bothers to read this whole thing and has any good advice I would appreciate it.Problems between adult siblings...advice? (long)?
You are about to be a Mom (congratulations!) so that needs to be your focus, not being emotionally blackmailed by your passive aggressive sister. She's an adult, so if she has a problem with you, it's her responsibility to come right out and tell you what it is, not play all these childish games. People like her feed into the drama of it and crave a reaction from you. Don't give her a reaction. Just remain calm and mature, not reactive and emotional. This might make her become even more extreme...so be it. That is not your problem. Nor is her petty and unhealthy jealousy over your relationship with your parents. You are expecting a child, it's NATURAL for your parents to spend more energy on you. Focus on that positive energy, not the negative energy your sister gives off. It's not healthy for you and it's not healthy for your baby.Problems between adult siblings...advice? (long)?
ha i read it all :P any way i don't really know what to tell you except call her and be like ';don't be so damn jelous'; lol jking but tell her to invite your mom out to her house if she wants and that you arent stopping them two from visiting and you don't get why it was that big of deal if your mom came out and visited you
What you can do is, let it go. Because she has no self esteem and she is jealous. And stop doing things for her kids. If she wants to be a ***** let her be a *****. Because you shouldnt be helping her children if she is doing that. But you can have other relatives to talk to :) Like your cousins or something. But leave her alone and she will come running back sometime soon. :) And Congragulations on the boy :)
I don't see anything that you can (or should) do differently. You've bent over backwards to be accommodating, yet your sister insists on doing what she can to hinder you.
I feel you should just continue being pleasant, but don't go out of your way. Nothing you do will change her behavior. And, most importantly, you're pregnant and don't need to deal with her silliness.
(I have a nutty sister, too. I'm 40, and she's 57.)
Problems in marriage - Need Advice?
Hi Everyone,
I got married 2 years back but the level of understanding with wife is bare minimal. When ever we have an argument she threatens me with a suicide due to which I cannot argue further and give up on my desires.I am an IT professional working in U.S and here in India for a vacation and Planning to take control of my life. I would like to go for a divorce but I am scared about this dowry harassment cases and all the false cases that can be created.I seek your advice on what are the options available to me. I do not want to discuss this neither with my parents nor with hers. I am undergoing lot of mental trauma due to this.
Thanks in advance.Problems in marriage - Need Advice?
The hype with which media/press has made mountain out of the mole with regard to dowry/cruelty issue in every matrimonial home, sometime I feel I after 27years of marriage or my father in law after 55year of marriage will find both behind the bars for these charges, the media/press has really spoiled the happy matrimonial homes, %26amp; even if a peaceful settlement with regard to dissolution of marriage was possible, the lawyers sitting in the premises of the various district courts %26amp; the various so-called social welfare organizations just misguide the innocent people to indulge in false criminal complaints/proceedings with regard to dowry, cruelty, domestic violence etc. The fuel is added by the media/press in giving to much hype to such issues, even if there are few real cases where these happen, almost every disgruntled wife of the present generation bring this issue on one ground or other even in simple divorce proceedings.
The best thing which both parties in marriage where the marriage is not happening for any reason is to sit down sort out the matter amicably between them, for God sake don't involve your parents or friends in this discussion, come to a simple conclusion either to compromise %26amp; live together as good couple, forget %26amp; forgive previous misgivings, try not to indulge in unnecessary arguments with each other in future, try to keep cool even other party for some reason is in bad mood as this may be because of the his or her official reasons etc OR just call of the marriage by seeking divorce by mutual consent where both of them jointly move the petition %26amp; seek the dissolution of marriage. The issues such as Alimony %26amp; child custody can be settled between both of them without involving any outsider.
I see no reason why a dead marriage be tried to be revived if that has miserably failed %26amp; no chance for the two to live together as husband %26amp; wife, then to bring false criminal complaints in the matter is most misappropriate, after all the young generation is well educated %26amp; understand the implications of making all such false criminal charges against the other, then why do so?Problems in marriage - Need Advice?
It sounds like your marriage was arranged and your never picked your wife. I am wrong then there must have been some character traits of hers that attracted you enough to offer her a ring.
Do you love her?
If you do then go to marriage counseling together and figure out her needs and your needs. Then work on making the relationship work.
If you are through with this relationship -- then see a matrimonial lawyer immediately. First consultation is usually free. He/She will explain to you what to do next.
she is full of ****. if she wanted to kill her self she would of done it long time a ago. if u think u are done with her u guys cant work this out any more then there is no reason for u guys to be together right? y go through a relationship if there is nothing. argument is common in marriage but that doesn't mean ever time u guy get in argument she is threatens u to kill her self that is very immature of her to tell u that. just i would say do what u think it's right.
If you are done with your marriage then move on, she may need help, make sure you have an attorney and explain everything. The next time she talks about suicide call the police they will take her to a hospital for a review up to 72 hours. Don't allow her to threaten you. Life is to short .
shes trying to get attention if she wanted to kill herself she would of done it but id def get her help, and if you want to divorce her do so she just wants attention though as i have been in the mental hosp for wanting to do so when i was 14 she just wants attention
I have gone through your query.first you need a genral counselling regarding the whole issue then a decision can be taken whether to file a divorce or not.
I am a Lawyer, based at chennai.
she is not gonna kill herself if she were gonna do that she would do it without an announcement; she wouldn't threaten all that crap when things get heated... be happy don't be manipulated by a drama queen!
Just try to get to know from her dat whether she loves u. Or take her to a physciatrist and get to know why she does such stuffs n whether will ever she be fine. N den decide if u want to get divorce from her or not. All the best
contact save india family foundation. meet a lawyer. u have to be very strong. if u can prove that she is threatening suicide than it will make ur job easy. find an expensive experienced lawyer
Basic principle is : Where there is fire, certainly there occurs smoke. You must disclose and own the fault in you, in dealing with your soul mate and towards your wife. Please mind yourself and seriously realise the social bonding in you and your wife. The day you have realised your responsibility and are ready to share your true love and affection towards her, no material on this earth would come in your path in breaking the bondage in you and your wife. Another very crucial part of your bonding is having a child of your own from her. At that stage, 60% of your wife's attention will automatically be diverted from you to her child. Hence, you will find your tension over this issue has been released by the same 60% on a whole. Try yourself. Best of luck. Thanks.
I think her threat to kill herself was to try and control you. She may well have insecurities that make her feel like she will loose you. My Sister-in-law had the same problem with her boyfriend. He was obsessive about her and wanted to know where she was all the time. She asked me for some advice and I told her to tell him ';I think we need to slow down a bit and I will have some time to myself. We can go out together in a weeks time. If you don't like it at all then I suggest you find someone else..';
His possessiveness and threats of suicide were making her ill before. But after leaving him for a week and setting a day for a date, she was able to take control of the relationship more and he then stopped being so possessive. The message was clear... Trust me for who I am otherwise find someone else you can trust.
They are happy now and their relationship works and his possessiveness has nearly gone.
My advice for you... it looks like she is frightened of either loosing you or of something else and is resorting to blackmail to keep you or to keep control of the situation. I suggest you tell her you need a little time to yourself to think things over, take a week off for yourself, and give her a date you will be back and that you would like to take her out for a meal and spend some time with her. You could pay for her to do something in that week if you like.
Spend some time in that week thinking over your marriage and yourself. Think of how you can be the best person you can be, not for her but for yourself. You have desires, are those desires causing fear in her, just what is she afraid of? Think it over. If you feel you are having mental trauma, then I would suggest you are allowing the situation to hurt you emotionally. Learn to let go. Be happy regardless if she tries to blackmail you or hurt you.Decide to make good decisions. Be calm and assertive, don't shout or get frustrated.
After the week is up, see how she is and re-evaluate the situation. Has the time apart allowed her to feel that you are in control of the situation?
If she wants to argue etc. let her and agree with her feelings. You may feel she is wrong but she may also be partly right.
Its down to you, deal with your emotions and feelings first, if you are always frustrated, hurt and angry you will never be able to help your wife. If you are clam, understanding and assertive and show that you cant be pushed around you she will most likely want to change and want you. Don't try and change her, she needs time to change herself so be patient.
And my best advice, learn to be happy being you regardless if the relationship ends in divorce or if it all goes well. Love and respect yourself first and don't let your feelings rule your life.
Write down some positive steps, positive things about yourself and what you want to change and read some books on marriage if you like. And then once a week read through your list to reassure yourself and help you refocus.
first of all try to understand her . why fight is taking place on what ground. if u can avoid such part ur half the problem will be over. secondly if she tries to threaten u without any fault of urs try to tape the conversations . now these days its not so difficult to do so , all mobile phones have such features. u can show this her parents if they r sensible they will make her understand. before u contact her parents u spk to her when she in good mood why she is doing so ? if u think basic decency or love is not left any longer then better to say good bye. but u r very right abt this dowry part. in that case tapping the evidence is very important.wrinkles
I got married 2 years back but the level of understanding with wife is bare minimal. When ever we have an argument she threatens me with a suicide due to which I cannot argue further and give up on my desires.I am an IT professional working in U.S and here in India for a vacation and Planning to take control of my life. I would like to go for a divorce but I am scared about this dowry harassment cases and all the false cases that can be created.I seek your advice on what are the options available to me. I do not want to discuss this neither with my parents nor with hers. I am undergoing lot of mental trauma due to this.
Thanks in advance.Problems in marriage - Need Advice?
The hype with which media/press has made mountain out of the mole with regard to dowry/cruelty issue in every matrimonial home, sometime I feel I after 27years of marriage or my father in law after 55year of marriage will find both behind the bars for these charges, the media/press has really spoiled the happy matrimonial homes, %26amp; even if a peaceful settlement with regard to dissolution of marriage was possible, the lawyers sitting in the premises of the various district courts %26amp; the various so-called social welfare organizations just misguide the innocent people to indulge in false criminal complaints/proceedings with regard to dowry, cruelty, domestic violence etc. The fuel is added by the media/press in giving to much hype to such issues, even if there are few real cases where these happen, almost every disgruntled wife of the present generation bring this issue on one ground or other even in simple divorce proceedings.
The best thing which both parties in marriage where the marriage is not happening for any reason is to sit down sort out the matter amicably between them, for God sake don't involve your parents or friends in this discussion, come to a simple conclusion either to compromise %26amp; live together as good couple, forget %26amp; forgive previous misgivings, try not to indulge in unnecessary arguments with each other in future, try to keep cool even other party for some reason is in bad mood as this may be because of the his or her official reasons etc OR just call of the marriage by seeking divorce by mutual consent where both of them jointly move the petition %26amp; seek the dissolution of marriage. The issues such as Alimony %26amp; child custody can be settled between both of them without involving any outsider.
I see no reason why a dead marriage be tried to be revived if that has miserably failed %26amp; no chance for the two to live together as husband %26amp; wife, then to bring false criminal complaints in the matter is most misappropriate, after all the young generation is well educated %26amp; understand the implications of making all such false criminal charges against the other, then why do so?Problems in marriage - Need Advice?
It sounds like your marriage was arranged and your never picked your wife. I am wrong then there must have been some character traits of hers that attracted you enough to offer her a ring.
Do you love her?
If you do then go to marriage counseling together and figure out her needs and your needs. Then work on making the relationship work.
If you are through with this relationship -- then see a matrimonial lawyer immediately. First consultation is usually free. He/She will explain to you what to do next.
she is full of ****. if she wanted to kill her self she would of done it long time a ago. if u think u are done with her u guys cant work this out any more then there is no reason for u guys to be together right? y go through a relationship if there is nothing. argument is common in marriage but that doesn't mean ever time u guy get in argument she is threatens u to kill her self that is very immature of her to tell u that. just i would say do what u think it's right.
If you are done with your marriage then move on, she may need help, make sure you have an attorney and explain everything. The next time she talks about suicide call the police they will take her to a hospital for a review up to 72 hours. Don't allow her to threaten you. Life is to short .
shes trying to get attention if she wanted to kill herself she would of done it but id def get her help, and if you want to divorce her do so she just wants attention though as i have been in the mental hosp for wanting to do so when i was 14 she just wants attention
I have gone through your query.first you need a genral counselling regarding the whole issue then a decision can be taken whether to file a divorce or not.
I am a Lawyer, based at chennai.
she is not gonna kill herself if she were gonna do that she would do it without an announcement; she wouldn't threaten all that crap when things get heated... be happy don't be manipulated by a drama queen!
Just try to get to know from her dat whether she loves u. Or take her to a physciatrist and get to know why she does such stuffs n whether will ever she be fine. N den decide if u want to get divorce from her or not. All the best
contact save india family foundation. meet a lawyer. u have to be very strong. if u can prove that she is threatening suicide than it will make ur job easy. find an expensive experienced lawyer
Basic principle is : Where there is fire, certainly there occurs smoke. You must disclose and own the fault in you, in dealing with your soul mate and towards your wife. Please mind yourself and seriously realise the social bonding in you and your wife. The day you have realised your responsibility and are ready to share your true love and affection towards her, no material on this earth would come in your path in breaking the bondage in you and your wife. Another very crucial part of your bonding is having a child of your own from her. At that stage, 60% of your wife's attention will automatically be diverted from you to her child. Hence, you will find your tension over this issue has been released by the same 60% on a whole. Try yourself. Best of luck. Thanks.
I think her threat to kill herself was to try and control you. She may well have insecurities that make her feel like she will loose you. My Sister-in-law had the same problem with her boyfriend. He was obsessive about her and wanted to know where she was all the time. She asked me for some advice and I told her to tell him ';I think we need to slow down a bit and I will have some time to myself. We can go out together in a weeks time. If you don't like it at all then I suggest you find someone else..';
His possessiveness and threats of suicide were making her ill before. But after leaving him for a week and setting a day for a date, she was able to take control of the relationship more and he then stopped being so possessive. The message was clear... Trust me for who I am otherwise find someone else you can trust.
They are happy now and their relationship works and his possessiveness has nearly gone.
My advice for you... it looks like she is frightened of either loosing you or of something else and is resorting to blackmail to keep you or to keep control of the situation. I suggest you tell her you need a little time to yourself to think things over, take a week off for yourself, and give her a date you will be back and that you would like to take her out for a meal and spend some time with her. You could pay for her to do something in that week if you like.
Spend some time in that week thinking over your marriage and yourself. Think of how you can be the best person you can be, not for her but for yourself. You have desires, are those desires causing fear in her, just what is she afraid of? Think it over. If you feel you are having mental trauma, then I would suggest you are allowing the situation to hurt you emotionally. Learn to let go. Be happy regardless if she tries to blackmail you or hurt you.Decide to make good decisions. Be calm and assertive, don't shout or get frustrated.
After the week is up, see how she is and re-evaluate the situation. Has the time apart allowed her to feel that you are in control of the situation?
If she wants to argue etc. let her and agree with her feelings. You may feel she is wrong but she may also be partly right.
Its down to you, deal with your emotions and feelings first, if you are always frustrated, hurt and angry you will never be able to help your wife. If you are clam, understanding and assertive and show that you cant be pushed around you she will most likely want to change and want you. Don't try and change her, she needs time to change herself so be patient.
And my best advice, learn to be happy being you regardless if the relationship ends in divorce or if it all goes well. Love and respect yourself first and don't let your feelings rule your life.
Write down some positive steps, positive things about yourself and what you want to change and read some books on marriage if you like. And then once a week read through your list to reassure yourself and help you refocus.
first of all try to understand her . why fight is taking place on what ground. if u can avoid such part ur half the problem will be over. secondly if she tries to threaten u without any fault of urs try to tape the conversations . now these days its not so difficult to do so , all mobile phones have such features. u can show this her parents if they r sensible they will make her understand. before u contact her parents u spk to her when she in good mood why she is doing so ? if u think basic decency or love is not left any longer then better to say good bye. but u r very right abt this dowry part. in that case tapping the evidence is very important.
Problems with my ex...advice please?
Ok so I haven't seen my ex since July, well I ran into him the other night while I was out with friends and he was with another girl. Which pretty much ripped my heart out, but I played it cool. Well then he calls me saturday night and apologizes for me seeing him with the girl, and tells me that she isn't his girlfriend they are just friends like not even dating. I was just like ok that's cool whatever I really don't care what you do. Then Sunday morning I get a text from him saying he misses me so much and he loves me. Well now he wants to go out tonight....should I go, is he just lonely, what does he want from me?? It didn't work the first time why would it work now....what should I do?Problems with my ex...advice please?
He says he's not with that other girl, but my guess is that it's a lie. He figures you still have feelings for him and figures he can play both of you two girls. Sounds like it may be working. Don't fall for his silly game. Like you said, it didn't work out, and move on...he did.
Also, I'd advise breaking contact. When you find a nice guy, this ex-BF can be around and mess things up for your new relationship later...don't allow that. You live your life, and let him live his.
Good luck.Problems with my ex...advice please?
i know its really hard when you have to see the ex with another girl. its been a year and im still dreading having to go through that. but listen you know if it didnt work out the first time it may not this time. and if your moving forward dont go taking steps back. but if you feel you can handle it than ok. but you have to decide because this can cause some feeling to be brought back to life
He says he's not with that other girl, but my guess is that it's a lie. He figures you still have feelings for him and figures he can play both of you two girls. Sounds like it may be working. Don't fall for his silly game. Like you said, it didn't work out, and move on...he did.
Also, I'd advise breaking contact. When you find a nice guy, this ex-BF can be around and mess things up for your new relationship later...don't allow that. You live your life, and let him live his.
Good luck.Problems with my ex...advice please?
i know its really hard when you have to see the ex with another girl. its been a year and im still dreading having to go through that. but listen you know if it didnt work out the first time it may not this time. and if your moving forward dont go taking steps back. but if you feel you can handle it than ok. but you have to decide because this can cause some feeling to be brought back to life
Problems with my dad+advice?
My mom%26amp;dad both work very hard...but my dad always complains that he's working for ';other peple'; (my sister and I) to enjoy it. He also says that if I don't want to go to college that's my problem and when my parents fight, he says that when he leaves, he's not comingback because there's nothing here for him. I feel like he doesn't love us at all..could it be because his parents never showed him love? I cry all the time because it sucks to know your own dad knows nothing about you :(Problems with my dad+advice?
Dad's are like that, and some are worse. They cannot be changed. what you can do is express in some way by a Christmas card. or a Birthday card or in person, that you do care for all the work he is doing for your and your sister. Remind him often that you care and appreciate all that he does for his children. Angry words are often spoken after a fight. Yes we all bring our past into our marriages and our families, and so does your Dad. It may be good to assure him that you would like to go to College, and that hopefully you will get a scholarship to help with the expenses. The education will provide you with a better income, and that you might be able to return some of the financial support that he has provided for you. Things will look up again, keep a positive attitude, Merry Christmas to you and yoursProblems with my dad+advice?
You don's say how old you and your sister are. I think you should have a dad and me night just the two of you. Ask your dad out for a daughter and dad special day. That way he will know you put thought into it and it will make him feel special. Try going out for a maybe a movie and a burger afterwords. The movie gives you both something in common to start talking about. Then you can get onto other subjects to let him know how you feel about the fighting, how you feel about going to college etc. I am sure that your dad is working hard to support the family and is feeling stressed out or maybe he is feeling a bit neglected also. Good luck and talk it out. That is the best thing to do. Hug and kiss him too.
Unfortunately your Dad is not a happy person and he is taking it out on the ones closest to him. Please understand that it is not you or your sister who are to blame, and in fact the two of you should have a serious talk with your mom and tell her how your Dad is affecting your lives. You might also try showing your Dad a bit of affection....Hugs, a kiss on the cheek, and a Thanks can work miracles. There is a lot of stress right now, Holidays are always a bad time, the economy is a disaster, people are losing their jobs. All of these things are very hard on people.
your father loves you.
it's just that some people have more loving nature, like they love to show how they feel more that others.
your father is that way. of course he loves you. he's just not very good at showing it :)
so don't worry or get sad about what he saids.
understand him, and understand that that's the way he is.
he works for you indeed, so try to show how you love him and thank him often for that
I'm sure he wants to know you, just he's not used to be so loving around his children when his parents were not like that with him.
so first try to understand him.
then you try being more friendly and loving, and he'd soften surly.
Your dad loves you or he wouldn't provide for you. He is stressed and blowing off steam, but he is just doing it the wrong way and doesn't realize how he is hurting you. Have you tried to tell him quietly (not when he is upset) about how he has made you feel? Have you discussed this with your mom? You could think about trying this, or writing it out. Sometimes, people say things but don't mean them that way...I hope you can talk to him soon. Don't cry..hugs.
Miserable people make other people miserable. He may be doing all that he can believe it or not. Thats hard to not take very personal but try to figure things out with your mom. Try ( hard I know) not to judge your worth on the things he says. He is obviously not happy and doesn't care who knows. Maybe he was never shown love, but either way - its not fair for him to do that to you and your sis. Stay strong..you'll be a better person for keeping your head up despite it all. Best Wishes. - And Merry Christmas...
go up to him and give him a long hug for like 4 minutes and swear your not letting go
I think your parents really want the best for you and they ';think'; it's sending you to college. Your parents don't get along because they are loosing tough. It's like having an affair and the other woman/man is their job! Stealing you of your precious time with your parents. If money is what drives them you cant really put the breaks on it. More money more problems! Gotta pay for the house, the cars....college! They have a lifestyle they don't want to give up. It's like the movie ';Click';. That's what opened my husbands eyes, that and the economy pushed us out of our home and hummer and escalade. When we lost it all (including me and the kids) he vowed never to put his job first and spend time with the family (he didnt go to 1 softball game and our son is 4yrs old). One of two things to do, you can try to express your feelings to him where he can understand, or focus your time and energy on something else like school/friend/work and wait till this chapter in your life goes by. The more energy you put in him the more your going to hurt about how it could have been. If he's working for your college money, don't let it go to waist-use it. Maybe he'll come around, sadly might be much later than sooner. Somethings gonna give. Your parents need to spend some time together before the whole family breaks down, but then sometimes it's not a good thing if they are so far apart they realize they have nothing in common anymore. Try and make the best of a bad situation. For starts, if he knows nothing about you make him a homemade card telling him you love him. tell him good things about him cause im sure he can thing of all the bad himself. My husband was so stress from working hard, he was the first one in and the last one out and i wouldnt see him till 9:30 every nite and only on sunday he was off. He neglected all of us, including me. Come to find out he was consumed by his work thinking that money made his family happy, giving them what he never had. Now he tells people that he rather his kids have a relationship with him and not his money. Theres gonna have to be a drastic change from your parents or your perspective on the whole situation. take care
It could very well be that he doesn't know how to deal with being a parent and what a ';normal'; household is like because of his own childhood. Whatever the reason, acknowledge that it hurts. Take him aside (when he's not in the midst of a fight with your mother) and let him know that when he says he has nothing to come back for that hurts you and you want to have a better relationship with him. You may discover that he is saying that more as a phrase directed at your mother than at you. Often when couples fight the children are seen temporarily as ways at getting at the other spouse and forget that their children hear and process everything that is being said.
If your dad does mean it, and really feels that he has no attachment to you or your sister, this is very sad. Unfortunately, however, it is not unheard of. If this is the case you will need to accept that he is incapable of showing you the proper affection (for whatever reason--maybe because he wasn't loved as a child) and find people in your life who can love you. Find other relatives (aunts, uncles, grandparents), good friends, and ultimately a good partner so that you can fill the void in your life your father's absence causes.
Best wishes.
Dad's are like that, and some are worse. They cannot be changed. what you can do is express in some way by a Christmas card. or a Birthday card or in person, that you do care for all the work he is doing for your and your sister. Remind him often that you care and appreciate all that he does for his children. Angry words are often spoken after a fight. Yes we all bring our past into our marriages and our families, and so does your Dad. It may be good to assure him that you would like to go to College, and that hopefully you will get a scholarship to help with the expenses. The education will provide you with a better income, and that you might be able to return some of the financial support that he has provided for you. Things will look up again, keep a positive attitude, Merry Christmas to you and yoursProblems with my dad+advice?
You don's say how old you and your sister are. I think you should have a dad and me night just the two of you. Ask your dad out for a daughter and dad special day. That way he will know you put thought into it and it will make him feel special. Try going out for a maybe a movie and a burger afterwords. The movie gives you both something in common to start talking about. Then you can get onto other subjects to let him know how you feel about the fighting, how you feel about going to college etc. I am sure that your dad is working hard to support the family and is feeling stressed out or maybe he is feeling a bit neglected also. Good luck and talk it out. That is the best thing to do. Hug and kiss him too.
Unfortunately your Dad is not a happy person and he is taking it out on the ones closest to him. Please understand that it is not you or your sister who are to blame, and in fact the two of you should have a serious talk with your mom and tell her how your Dad is affecting your lives. You might also try showing your Dad a bit of affection....Hugs, a kiss on the cheek, and a Thanks can work miracles. There is a lot of stress right now, Holidays are always a bad time, the economy is a disaster, people are losing their jobs. All of these things are very hard on people.
your father loves you.
it's just that some people have more loving nature, like they love to show how they feel more that others.
your father is that way. of course he loves you. he's just not very good at showing it :)
so don't worry or get sad about what he saids.
understand him, and understand that that's the way he is.
he works for you indeed, so try to show how you love him and thank him often for that
I'm sure he wants to know you, just he's not used to be so loving around his children when his parents were not like that with him.
so first try to understand him.
then you try being more friendly and loving, and he'd soften surly.
Your dad loves you or he wouldn't provide for you. He is stressed and blowing off steam, but he is just doing it the wrong way and doesn't realize how he is hurting you. Have you tried to tell him quietly (not when he is upset) about how he has made you feel? Have you discussed this with your mom? You could think about trying this, or writing it out. Sometimes, people say things but don't mean them that way...I hope you can talk to him soon. Don't cry..hugs.
Miserable people make other people miserable. He may be doing all that he can believe it or not. Thats hard to not take very personal but try to figure things out with your mom. Try ( hard I know) not to judge your worth on the things he says. He is obviously not happy and doesn't care who knows. Maybe he was never shown love, but either way - its not fair for him to do that to you and your sis. Stay strong..you'll be a better person for keeping your head up despite it all. Best Wishes. - And Merry Christmas...
go up to him and give him a long hug for like 4 minutes and swear your not letting go
I think your parents really want the best for you and they ';think'; it's sending you to college. Your parents don't get along because they are loosing tough. It's like having an affair and the other woman/man is their job! Stealing you of your precious time with your parents. If money is what drives them you cant really put the breaks on it. More money more problems! Gotta pay for the house, the cars....college! They have a lifestyle they don't want to give up. It's like the movie ';Click';. That's what opened my husbands eyes, that and the economy pushed us out of our home and hummer and escalade. When we lost it all (including me and the kids) he vowed never to put his job first and spend time with the family (he didnt go to 1 softball game and our son is 4yrs old). One of two things to do, you can try to express your feelings to him where he can understand, or focus your time and energy on something else like school/friend/work and wait till this chapter in your life goes by. The more energy you put in him the more your going to hurt about how it could have been. If he's working for your college money, don't let it go to waist-use it. Maybe he'll come around, sadly might be much later than sooner. Somethings gonna give. Your parents need to spend some time together before the whole family breaks down, but then sometimes it's not a good thing if they are so far apart they realize they have nothing in common anymore. Try and make the best of a bad situation. For starts, if he knows nothing about you make him a homemade card telling him you love him. tell him good things about him cause im sure he can thing of all the bad himself. My husband was so stress from working hard, he was the first one in and the last one out and i wouldnt see him till 9:30 every nite and only on sunday he was off. He neglected all of us, including me. Come to find out he was consumed by his work thinking that money made his family happy, giving them what he never had. Now he tells people that he rather his kids have a relationship with him and not his money. Theres gonna have to be a drastic change from your parents or your perspective on the whole situation. take care
It could very well be that he doesn't know how to deal with being a parent and what a ';normal'; household is like because of his own childhood. Whatever the reason, acknowledge that it hurts. Take him aside (when he's not in the midst of a fight with your mother) and let him know that when he says he has nothing to come back for that hurts you and you want to have a better relationship with him. You may discover that he is saying that more as a phrase directed at your mother than at you. Often when couples fight the children are seen temporarily as ways at getting at the other spouse and forget that their children hear and process everything that is being said.
If your dad does mean it, and really feels that he has no attachment to you or your sister, this is very sad. Unfortunately, however, it is not unheard of. If this is the case you will need to accept that he is incapable of showing you the proper affection (for whatever reason--maybe because he wasn't loved as a child) and find people in your life who can love you. Find other relatives (aunts, uncles, grandparents), good friends, and ultimately a good partner so that you can fill the void in your life your father's absence causes.
Best wishes.
Problems at work....need advice. ?
I work in a small office. Me, one guy (the boss) and two other women. They aren't my friends, but you try to keep things civil at work. Honestly. Me and the boss date. Have been for a few months now. everything is good with , but I always feel they talk about us. They are friends and I hate the way I feel here. I am not going to quit I just don't know how to handle it. I have gotten better about it, but I just feel weird here. I try not to care, but I do. The office has been segregated now for a few months. I feel like me and him work together and they work together. It isn't like that, but I feel that way. I just hate the way I feel at work. It drains me and puts me in a bad mood. What do I do? How do I act? I don't want to care anymore and I don't want them to influence my mood. Problems at work....need advice. ?
Try reaching out to the other co-workers. It could be a misunderstanding between you and the other workers and a little communication can clear things up. Dating in the workplace can raise a lot of issues if you're not careful. Make sure you boss/boyfriend isn't treating you any differently than he's everyone else.
Try reaching out to the other co-workers. It could be a misunderstanding between you and the other workers and a little communication can clear things up. Dating in the workplace can raise a lot of issues if you're not careful. Make sure you boss/boyfriend isn't treating you any differently than he's everyone else.
Problems with condoms, need advice?
ok look, i havnt had sex in a year or two, and ima senior now, so i kno my penis has grown, so da otha day i practiced putting a condom on and i kept fuc*** up, i tried like 2 of them, and dey didnt come on right. dam i do it all right, i dnt kno if my willie is too big or if im doin somethin wrong, or do i need a magnum condom, or wasup, sheesh, i put da rubba on da top, squeeze da tip for da air to come out start to roll it down, (no i am not circumsized, but dat foreskin was never a problem,) i roll it down and about half - way n it jus starts fuc*** up and it doesnt roll anymore, den i try forcin it and my dick hurts, and becomes hus a mess, ugh,its like im putting a condom on for a person who has a 4 inch ding-a -ling, den my willie gets soft n it fuks da whole process up.ugh and before i prolly used a condom bout 3 times, and 2 out of those times da girl put it on, and i withdrew before ejaculatin soo, can somebody please tell me wat im doin wrong. (i kno it long and excuse da spelling.) thank uProblems with condoms, need advice?
yea try a bigger condomProblems with condoms, need advice?
You may be trying to put it on upside down. Practice with a condom that you are not going to use. Do not use it because precum does have sperm in it and precum will get on the condom and your partner could get pregnant. When it feels like it won't unroll anymore, try rolling it back down and flipping it over.
yea try a bigger condomProblems with condoms, need advice?
You may be trying to put it on upside down. Practice with a condom that you are not going to use. Do not use it because precum does have sperm in it and precum will get on the condom and your partner could get pregnant. When it feels like it won't unroll anymore, try rolling it back down and flipping it over.
Problems with 2 friends....advice please.?
Ok so my x-friend is being so mean to me and my best friend Morgan. I told Morgan that she should probably end things with her and Morgan said ok. So she sent Aliya (that's my x-friend) a very nasty text message and Aliya told her mom. And i think i should tell u that Aliya sent pretty much the same text message to me a couple days before that. So Aliya's mom went to Morgan's house a couple days later and told Morgan's mom. Well me and Morgan were planning a big trip to Idaho and Morgan's mom told her she couldn't go after what Aliya's mom told her. Well Morgan talked her mom into letting her go after like 2 days. haha. Well anyway after all that happened she forgave Aliya and she still wants to be friends with Aliya and me at the same time and i told her that probably won't work out cuz me and Aliya are like arch enemies now and don't want to see or talk to each other ever again. So what should i do? Should i forget about both of them? Oh and by the way me and Aliya have tryed to be friends before and it never worked out so think about that before u give me and answer. Thank you!Problems with 2 friends....advice please.?
Well you can't make someone chose between two friends. You could try telling Morgan that if you two are going to hang out or do things, she cannot include Aliya in these activities and that you do not want to be around Aliya at all. If you don't feel you can make a compromise then it is probably best to not be friends with Morgan. Life is so much happier without DRAMA and this seems like total drama. You have to do with you think would make you the happiest, even if its not being friends with Morgan anymore.Problems with 2 friends....advice please.?
i've had the same problem before, except i was the one being torn in the middle
for morgans sake, u just have to put up with it
just because you're morgans friend doesn't mean you have to associate with aliya
just make sure morgan is being fair, spending the sam amounts of time with you as she does with aliya, so no one gets jealous
believe me, this is gonna be harder on morgan than on you, so give it a chance
well,tell your mom that aliya gave you that text.but,if you guys aren't comfortable being against each other and all then just not be friends but give up on the war charades thing.and just act like 3 people who haven't really met.but just say a casual hello now and then.you know?cover up the x-friends and act like classmates or something that never hung out.
It seems to me that if you value your friendship with Morgan enough, then you can find a way to still be friends regardless of her choice. If you all aren't that close of friends, then maybe she's not a friend worth having. Follow your heart!
will still be friend with morgan tell her that we hangout just us ok then when the other gril and ur fiend have a fight that will hate each other then try to keep ur friend away from her
i agree with Danasaurus Rex
Ya, well remember this, a friend in need is a friend indeed and since you've tried everything to make it work between Aliya and you, it's sad that nothing worked. Morgan's a free agent. Your fight is with Aliya. Why should Morgan suffer because of that. Aliya has not done anything to hurt Morgan and if Morgan is friends with Aliya that should not hurt you. You ought not to try and control her life too. Given the circumstances, it would seem as though I were telling you to leave them both, but actually what I think you ought to do, is be friends with Morgan and let her be friends with whomsoever she wants.
If you were falling of a cliff and Aliya was the only one close by who could help you, I'm sure she would. Think about that before you finalize your enmity. You ego will bring you a lot of pain in your life if you let it. Sometimes you have to try and be the first to say sorry. |Maybe the fault is not yours at all. I mean, not even an atom size part is your fault. Still if you're willing to let go of your ego, you'll make great friends.
Life is very short and there's is no time for fighting and hating my friend. Try to make friends instead. You'll be a much happier person.
If Aliya is a awful person then your friend will see it... don't worry!!! It can be hard hanging out with people you don't like - trust me I know because I had to do it too! I wouldn't forget about a friend as good as Morgan! The trip to Idaho will bring you two even closer - Aliya won't stand a chance after that bonding between you guys!!! Think about it though - does Aliya have friends? Could she be jealous of how close you two are? Maybe she does want to be your friend but because shes feeling like this she doesn't know how to show it and she gets all defensive around you. If this is the case you would need to be super patient and things will work themselves out - you could end up being good friends (that may be a horrible thought at the moment lol) but it could happen. Think about it... and don't lose a good friend over it.
Girl, you cant make her choose between the both of you. Your friends are allowed to have other friends even if you dont like them. Put yourself in her shoes and think about it a little. I could never choose between any of my friends and sure i have a friend who doesnt like my bestie, but hey thats life and people arent always gonna get along. Just move on if you dont like her, but then again dont be talking about her behind her back to your other friend, because then she will most likely stick up for her and you'll be in a mess. lol Goodluck
Well you can't make someone chose between two friends. You could try telling Morgan that if you two are going to hang out or do things, she cannot include Aliya in these activities and that you do not want to be around Aliya at all. If you don't feel you can make a compromise then it is probably best to not be friends with Morgan. Life is so much happier without DRAMA and this seems like total drama. You have to do with you think would make you the happiest, even if its not being friends with Morgan anymore.Problems with 2 friends....advice please.?
i've had the same problem before, except i was the one being torn in the middle
for morgans sake, u just have to put up with it
just because you're morgans friend doesn't mean you have to associate with aliya
just make sure morgan is being fair, spending the sam amounts of time with you as she does with aliya, so no one gets jealous
believe me, this is gonna be harder on morgan than on you, so give it a chance
well,tell your mom that aliya gave you that text.but,if you guys aren't comfortable being against each other and all then just not be friends but give up on the war charades thing.and just act like 3 people who haven't really met.but just say a casual hello now and then.you know?cover up the x-friends and act like classmates or something that never hung out.
It seems to me that if you value your friendship with Morgan enough, then you can find a way to still be friends regardless of her choice. If you all aren't that close of friends, then maybe she's not a friend worth having. Follow your heart!
will still be friend with morgan tell her that we hangout just us ok then when the other gril and ur fiend have a fight that will hate each other then try to keep ur friend away from her
i agree with Danasaurus Rex
Ya, well remember this, a friend in need is a friend indeed and since you've tried everything to make it work between Aliya and you, it's sad that nothing worked. Morgan's a free agent. Your fight is with Aliya. Why should Morgan suffer because of that. Aliya has not done anything to hurt Morgan and if Morgan is friends with Aliya that should not hurt you. You ought not to try and control her life too. Given the circumstances, it would seem as though I were telling you to leave them both, but actually what I think you ought to do, is be friends with Morgan and let her be friends with whomsoever she wants.
If you were falling of a cliff and Aliya was the only one close by who could help you, I'm sure she would. Think about that before you finalize your enmity. You ego will bring you a lot of pain in your life if you let it. Sometimes you have to try and be the first to say sorry. |Maybe the fault is not yours at all. I mean, not even an atom size part is your fault. Still if you're willing to let go of your ego, you'll make great friends.
Life is very short and there's is no time for fighting and hating my friend. Try to make friends instead. You'll be a much happier person.
If Aliya is a awful person then your friend will see it... don't worry!!! It can be hard hanging out with people you don't like - trust me I know because I had to do it too! I wouldn't forget about a friend as good as Morgan! The trip to Idaho will bring you two even closer - Aliya won't stand a chance after that bonding between you guys!!! Think about it though - does Aliya have friends? Could she be jealous of how close you two are? Maybe she does want to be your friend but because shes feeling like this she doesn't know how to show it and she gets all defensive around you. If this is the case you would need to be super patient and things will work themselves out - you could end up being good friends (that may be a horrible thought at the moment lol) but it could happen. Think about it... and don't lose a good friend over it.
Girl, you cant make her choose between the both of you. Your friends are allowed to have other friends even if you dont like them. Put yourself in her shoes and think about it a little. I could never choose between any of my friends and sure i have a friend who doesnt like my bestie, but hey thats life and people arent always gonna get along. Just move on if you dont like her, but then again dont be talking about her behind her back to your other friend, because then she will most likely stick up for her and you'll be in a mess. lol Goodluck
Problems with work, any advice??
i work at a vet clinic as a vet assistant. i really like my job, just not the people i work with. they cuss ALL time as a second language.they exclude me in things. they ALWAYS gossip, talk crap about everyone (including me). they will be cutting back my hours even more because business has been slow. im only working about 30 hrs a week, and they will prbably cut back to 20 - 25 hrs a week. i dont the money for them to be cutting back my hours even more. what would you do? i've been praying about it all day today, and i wont make a split decision. i just want your opinion. what would you do, quit, or stick with it?Problems with work, any advice??
first of all stick with it, it you been praying then here your answer.
Colossians 3:23
Whatever you do, work at it wholeheartedly as though you were doing it for the Lord and not merely for people.
God Bless YouProblems with work, any advice??
Stick with it. The hours you're cut back can be time to look for another job. It'll be tough with a smaller salary but if you quit you'll have NO salary. Just hustle to find that new job quickly. Also, by hanging in there they should at least be a good reference for you at the new job. Good luck.wrinkles
first of all stick with it, it you been praying then here your answer.
Colossians 3:23
Whatever you do, work at it wholeheartedly as though you were doing it for the Lord and not merely for people.
God Bless YouProblems with work, any advice??
Stick with it. The hours you're cut back can be time to look for another job. It'll be tough with a smaller salary but if you quit you'll have NO salary. Just hustle to find that new job quickly. Also, by hanging in there they should at least be a good reference for you at the new job. Good luck.
Girl problems, boy problems, I need some advice. Please help, please, its alot to me. Please.?
So theres this girl I met 2 years ago and we were friends at first but I have always always liked her and held my eyes on her. I never expressed to her, talked to her that much, or try to be with her because of something else that Im not going to go deep into this question on here because its personal. But i've always had my eyes on her, the day I saw her, i saw through her and it blew me away of what I was seeing. February of 2008, she found a guy and they started dating but I got upset because I couldnt talk to her, or do anything to her because of that ';deep'; part. Remember, the deep part I'm not saying has a big part in this but its between me and god only. Just to sum it up a little, I couldnt express to her until I found hope. I had to find it by myself.
It was December of 2008 and I was still looking for hope at the time, still not coming into contact with her at all. One night, I ';flew';. I flew high above everything, and when I reached god, he told me about rainforests, philosophy of many things, and the construction of clocks, but I didnt understand what he was talking about, but I liked his words. He told me one last thing, and he said, ';Dylan, you've gone through bad situations over the past 8 years, you've been looking for hope for the past 8 years. Hope is just one step away, even though I've given you many steps. The last step is love. Dylan, it is now time to express to her.';
I woke up the next morning, I thought it was a dream, but it wasnt. So now it was my time to talk to this girl, tell her how i feel, enter her life and show her everything I can hold inside me, BUT...the guy is in the way. They were dating for 9 months at the time and yes, i felt bad doing what I was/still am doing but it is what I was told to do, she was all I needed at the time, shes my hope.
After only talking to her for a month and a half, she told me she loved me. And I asked her why. She told me so much, how I'm so sweet, how I'm upfront but not in a mean way, how shes happy when shes with me, how much I actually care for her, how I'm different than anyone shes ever met in her life, how I help her, how of everything. She told me I am perfect, but she has her boyfriend, her first love.
She fell in love with me in a short period of time, I fell in love with her a long time ago. Ever since she fell in love with me which was in February of 2009 which was 5 months ago, I actually have fell in more love with her, she's fallen in more love with me, we have gained so much over these past months but her boyfriend is still in the way today. She's in love with me still, she has cheated on him with me alot of times, shes gained respect for me and her and us, shes gained so much with me and for me to the point she told me 3 weeks ago she plans on spending the rest of her life with me. I was shocked. I was shocked because I wanted to die, live, be, with her until my day has come. I told her I want everything. I told her if that did happen, we'd be perfect but yes, their would be problems every now and then but not as much as she is with her boyfriend because he is just a jerk to her. He does drugs, he hangs out with people who talk mess about her, hes just a jerk. I told her we have problems to learn and gain from it. I want it all, I need her in my life, shes my last step to hope. She knows how much she is to me and how much I am to her but her boyfriend is still in the way.
But since summer is here, she's been different. Like this, she'd go a whole 24 hours without texting me or having any contact with me. But over the past hours of not hearing from her, I get worried. I get really worried. I dont get crazy, I just try to find out where shes at and all. Once I find out where shes at and what shes doing, I would wait until she'd text me and Id ask her, ';Where have you been?'; And she always gets defensive and when she'd tell me where shes at, I'd tell her that i know what she was doing and where she was so thats when she'd start telling me the truth about where she was. And I ask her why she hasnt talked to me when she has her phone and she comes up with an excuse but she talks to my other friends when shes not talking to me so therefore, ill confont her like this, ';babe, you had this and that to talk to this person, but why not me?';.
I have been having to ask her and confront her alot lately, and she told me 3 days ago when I last heard from her that I've changed. How have I changed? Because I've had to confront her alot lately? Ive been upfront or something? I really dont know what I've done to deserve this. I havnt heard from her in 3 days.
And if you are going to tell me to move on and forget about her, no i will not because ive told her everything i've been through, ive told her everything i want with her, we have everything in common, and most importantly, I cant fall for someone else the way I fell for her, I cant get anyone else to believe the words that have came out my mouth that i've told her. TGirl problems, boy problems, I need some advice. Please help, please, its alot to me. Please.?
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It was December of 2008 and I was still looking for hope at the time, still not coming into contact with her at all. One night, I ';flew';. I flew high above everything, and when I reached god, he told me about rainforests, philosophy of many things, and the construction of clocks, but I didnt understand what he was talking about, but I liked his words. He told me one last thing, and he said, ';Dylan, you've gone through bad situations over the past 8 years, you've been looking for hope for the past 8 years. Hope is just one step away, even though I've given you many steps. The last step is love. Dylan, it is now time to express to her.';
I woke up the next morning, I thought it was a dream, but it wasnt. So now it was my time to talk to this girl, tell her how i feel, enter her life and show her everything I can hold inside me, BUT...the guy is in the way. They were dating for 9 months at the time and yes, i felt bad doing what I was/still am doing but it is what I was told to do, she was all I needed at the time, shes my hope.
After only talking to her for a month and a half, she told me she loved me. And I asked her why. She told me so much, how I'm so sweet, how I'm upfront but not in a mean way, how shes happy when shes with me, how much I actually care for her, how I'm different than anyone shes ever met in her life, how I help her, how of everything. She told me I am perfect, but she has her boyfriend, her first love.
She fell in love with me in a short period of time, I fell in love with her a long time ago. Ever since she fell in love with me which was in February of 2009 which was 5 months ago, I actually have fell in more love with her, she's fallen in more love with me, we have gained so much over these past months but her boyfriend is still in the way today. She's in love with me still, she has cheated on him with me alot of times, shes gained respect for me and her and us, shes gained so much with me and for me to the point she told me 3 weeks ago she plans on spending the rest of her life with me. I was shocked. I was shocked because I wanted to die, live, be, with her until my day has come. I told her I want everything. I told her if that did happen, we'd be perfect but yes, their would be problems every now and then but not as much as she is with her boyfriend because he is just a jerk to her. He does drugs, he hangs out with people who talk mess about her, hes just a jerk. I told her we have problems to learn and gain from it. I want it all, I need her in my life, shes my last step to hope. She knows how much she is to me and how much I am to her but her boyfriend is still in the way.
But since summer is here, she's been different. Like this, she'd go a whole 24 hours without texting me or having any contact with me. But over the past hours of not hearing from her, I get worried. I get really worried. I dont get crazy, I just try to find out where shes at and all. Once I find out where shes at and what shes doing, I would wait until she'd text me and Id ask her, ';Where have you been?'; And she always gets defensive and when she'd tell me where shes at, I'd tell her that i know what she was doing and where she was so thats when she'd start telling me the truth about where she was. And I ask her why she hasnt talked to me when she has her phone and she comes up with an excuse but she talks to my other friends when shes not talking to me so therefore, ill confont her like this, ';babe, you had this and that to talk to this person, but why not me?';.
I have been having to ask her and confront her alot lately, and she told me 3 days ago when I last heard from her that I've changed. How have I changed? Because I've had to confront her alot lately? Ive been upfront or something? I really dont know what I've done to deserve this. I havnt heard from her in 3 days.
And if you are going to tell me to move on and forget about her, no i will not because ive told her everything i've been through, ive told her everything i want with her, we have everything in common, and most importantly, I cant fall for someone else the way I fell for her, I cant get anyone else to believe the words that have came out my mouth that i've told her. TGirl problems, boy problems, I need some advice. Please help, please, its alot to me. Please.?
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Problems help need more advice?
as sum of yall know i like this boy named k.but his bf likes me.one day after school i was walking home wen i saw his bf on a bike.he ask me many ?'s about do i really like k nd i said yes.well he got off his bike and hit me on my butt i told him that wasnt rite and that i didnt want to start any mess with him.then he touched my cheast nd pushed my on the ground i kicked,screamed,bit, everything but that didnt stop him.thats wen k came by and saw.he said he couldnt believe it and never to talk to him again and rode away.on the other hand his friend was still on top of me but then he let me go .what should i do also im in middle school nd hes in a high grade than me and kProblems help need more advice?
Tell your parents! That's sexual assault and you should NOT let this slide. If he did it to you once and you say nothing he is going to do it again. Tell someone, it is not your fault and you have done nothing wrong. This boy has a problem he needs help.
Tell an adult that is going to do something about it. If he approaches you again kick him dead center and run to someone to help. I don't usually promote violence however if that is the only way to stop him then kick away! I pray that God's protection will be over you.Problems help need more advice?
You need to tell an adult about what k's ';friend'; did to you -- that is hugely inappropriate and you need to inform either school officials or your parent/guardian.
Tell your parents! That's sexual assault and you should NOT let this slide. If he did it to you once and you say nothing he is going to do it again. Tell someone, it is not your fault and you have done nothing wrong. This boy has a problem he needs help.
Tell an adult that is going to do something about it. If he approaches you again kick him dead center and run to someone to help. I don't usually promote violence however if that is the only way to stop him then kick away! I pray that God's protection will be over you.Problems help need more advice?
You need to tell an adult about what k's ';friend'; did to you -- that is hugely inappropriate and you need to inform either school officials or your parent/guardian.
Problems with my boyfriend.. Advice please.?
About two months ago, my boyfriend broke up with me for his ex girlfriend who lives in Maryland ( We live in Indiana) because she said she wanted him back. Well, he realized that he didn't want her and he actually wanted to be with me and he completely stopped talking to her because he seen how bad it hurt me.
At the beginning of this month, his best friends went to Maryland to see her, and One of them caused a lot of trouble between him and I. His friend even told me to just Kill myself because no body likes me.
My boyfriend was pissed, he wanted to beat the hell out of him.
When they came back, his friend apologized to me and told me he doesn't blame me that I hate her and of course I told my boyfriend. But now that they're cool again, he's been a real big Dick to me. And I told him that he hurt my feelings but we just ended up getting into an argument.
We were so Happy when his friend was gone, and now we're just falling apart all over again..Problems with my boyfriend.. Advice please.?
eh... your relationship isnt working ... i mean.. dont let your friends to get involve with ur relationship. its between you and your bf not him. talk to him about how you feels? maybe it will work again? but if this happens again. you really have to think about it. good luck
At the beginning of this month, his best friends went to Maryland to see her, and One of them caused a lot of trouble between him and I. His friend even told me to just Kill myself because no body likes me.
My boyfriend was pissed, he wanted to beat the hell out of him.
When they came back, his friend apologized to me and told me he doesn't blame me that I hate her and of course I told my boyfriend. But now that they're cool again, he's been a real big Dick to me. And I told him that he hurt my feelings but we just ended up getting into an argument.
We were so Happy when his friend was gone, and now we're just falling apart all over again..Problems with my boyfriend.. Advice please.?
eh... your relationship isnt working ... i mean.. dont let your friends to get involve with ur relationship. its between you and your bf not him. talk to him about how you feels? maybe it will work again? but if this happens again. you really have to think about it. good luck
Problems with breastfeeding..need advice please.?
I had my baby girl almost a month ago and I have been breastfeeding her with some formula supplements (I pump (Evenflo electric pump and it is ok but not wonderful) when she takes the formula or breastmilk bottles.) I have not really had any problems with my milk supply but I am having some problems with her latching on my breast. She's latching on good only 50% of the time now and it seems as though she is very frustrated and she kicks and cries. She also chews a bit at the nipple and then rejects it.
I am on maternity leave now and have two more weeks left. She will be bottle fed after that. I have supplemented her with formula because of her not being satisfied after breastfeeding even though I try to put her back on my breast and she will kick and cry out of frustration. So, after about 30 minutes of trying to get her to relatch I get frustrated and give her formula.
What could be the problem? How can I get her to latch on better?
Also, I can feel my breast milk ';letting down'; but they aren't hard as a rock full with milk anymore. I pump if she takes a bottle but lately I have only been able to pump an ounce or so. A week or two ago I could pump about 2-2 1/2 ounces and it was increasing. I have had some stressful things happen lately ... could it be that?
I'm a bit confused, but I need help.
Problems with breastfeeding..need advice please.?
Make sure that you are drinking plenty of water. Especially if you are supplementing with formula, you need to make sure that you are pumping regularly. Milk production is all based on supply and demand. If you want to increase your milk supply, get yourself on a pumping/feeding schedule. Either feed your baby, or pump like every 3 hours. Do this for a few days and then you can taper off again. Remember that babies are able to suck more out of you than pumping does. Also, make sure that when you are pumping, you need to be relaxed!
As for the latching problems, I would visit a hosiptal near you. Most hospitals have lactation specialists that can help you with the latch. A good latch can make all the difference. Hang in there!!!Problems with breastfeeding..need advice please.?
Find a lactation consultant in your area. Sometimes your hospital or peditrician can set you up with one. Or visit La Leche League to find one.
http://www.llli.org
They are awesome at helping!
Best of luck to you!
It has to do with something you are eating that is getting into your breastmilk. Do you eat spicy foods? Write down what you eat for a couple of days and take the list to your doctor.
tell this to your doctor.
try different positions, laying down, the football hold, placing her on a pillow, sometimes as weird as it sounds babies can latch better if you lay down with her with her laying on her side.
The thing that really sucks about the whole 6 weeks off that you do get is that at around a month, your body starts to realize how much milk you should supply for the baby so you could notice a decrease in your milk and then 2 weeks later at around 6 weeks old, your baby goes through another growth spurt, thus meaning you have to supply more milk and feed baby more often.
Try drinking a ton of water and make sure you eat good healthy meals, other than that try not to stress yourself out about how much your feeding your baby, at least your doing the breastfeeding buisness and your succeeding. Thats all that matters. Maybe try contacting your local laleche group and get a consult as to what you could do to get your baby to eat better.
Congrats on th baby girl,
first of all I know it can be a frustrating time for the 2 of you and especially for you mom. Before you know it you will be out to work - so even she gets use to the breast or the bottle. It could be either 2 things that your breast are bit engorged, your breast are to hard for baby to latch on - so express the milk (not squeezing the breast - cause that can cause bruising) squeeze around as if he lips were on your breast and mssage your breast. Scondly it could be that sh is confused, babies need sometime as well with nursing mothers to get comfortable while breastfeeding. Getting to know each other - and I wouldnt advise any nipple/bottle till baby is 8 weeks.... Thirdly use a NUK nipple that is shaped like your breast - so baby don't get as confused much....
Your baby ned to be at your breast - cause the pump dosent get as milk as your baby's suck does....I hope I helped...
Stress can cause it. My wife had a similar problem with our first child when the child was about 6 weeks old. For about 2 or 3 days she refused.
Part of the problem could be that you are supplementing with formula. Some babies who've not fully gotten used to breastfeeding that are given the bottle realize how easier it is to get milk from the bottle. They try to suck on your breast similar to how they suck on the bottle and it just doesn't come out, making your baby frustrated and it starts crying and wailing.. and then you get frustrated and it's a nice viscious cycle.
Also, are you giving more formula because you feel you aren't breast feeding enough? If so, your baby is getting enough food through the formula and so isn't taking as much from the breast so your breasts are producing less because the demand on them is decreasing. That would cause you being able to pump less.
I am on maternity leave now and have two more weeks left. She will be bottle fed after that. I have supplemented her with formula because of her not being satisfied after breastfeeding even though I try to put her back on my breast and she will kick and cry out of frustration. So, after about 30 minutes of trying to get her to relatch I get frustrated and give her formula.
What could be the problem? How can I get her to latch on better?
Also, I can feel my breast milk ';letting down'; but they aren't hard as a rock full with milk anymore. I pump if she takes a bottle but lately I have only been able to pump an ounce or so. A week or two ago I could pump about 2-2 1/2 ounces and it was increasing. I have had some stressful things happen lately ... could it be that?
I'm a bit confused, but I need help.
Problems with breastfeeding..need advice please.?
Make sure that you are drinking plenty of water. Especially if you are supplementing with formula, you need to make sure that you are pumping regularly. Milk production is all based on supply and demand. If you want to increase your milk supply, get yourself on a pumping/feeding schedule. Either feed your baby, or pump like every 3 hours. Do this for a few days and then you can taper off again. Remember that babies are able to suck more out of you than pumping does. Also, make sure that when you are pumping, you need to be relaxed!
As for the latching problems, I would visit a hosiptal near you. Most hospitals have lactation specialists that can help you with the latch. A good latch can make all the difference. Hang in there!!!Problems with breastfeeding..need advice please.?
Find a lactation consultant in your area. Sometimes your hospital or peditrician can set you up with one. Or visit La Leche League to find one.
http://www.llli.org
They are awesome at helping!
Best of luck to you!
It has to do with something you are eating that is getting into your breastmilk. Do you eat spicy foods? Write down what you eat for a couple of days and take the list to your doctor.
tell this to your doctor.
try different positions, laying down, the football hold, placing her on a pillow, sometimes as weird as it sounds babies can latch better if you lay down with her with her laying on her side.
The thing that really sucks about the whole 6 weeks off that you do get is that at around a month, your body starts to realize how much milk you should supply for the baby so you could notice a decrease in your milk and then 2 weeks later at around 6 weeks old, your baby goes through another growth spurt, thus meaning you have to supply more milk and feed baby more often.
Try drinking a ton of water and make sure you eat good healthy meals, other than that try not to stress yourself out about how much your feeding your baby, at least your doing the breastfeeding buisness and your succeeding. Thats all that matters. Maybe try contacting your local laleche group and get a consult as to what you could do to get your baby to eat better.
Congrats on th baby girl,
first of all I know it can be a frustrating time for the 2 of you and especially for you mom. Before you know it you will be out to work - so even she gets use to the breast or the bottle. It could be either 2 things that your breast are bit engorged, your breast are to hard for baby to latch on - so express the milk (not squeezing the breast - cause that can cause bruising) squeeze around as if he lips were on your breast and mssage your breast. Scondly it could be that sh is confused, babies need sometime as well with nursing mothers to get comfortable while breastfeeding. Getting to know each other - and I wouldnt advise any nipple/bottle till baby is 8 weeks.... Thirdly use a NUK nipple that is shaped like your breast - so baby don't get as confused much....
Your baby ned to be at your breast - cause the pump dosent get as milk as your baby's suck does....I hope I helped...
Stress can cause it. My wife had a similar problem with our first child when the child was about 6 weeks old. For about 2 or 3 days she refused.
Part of the problem could be that you are supplementing with formula. Some babies who've not fully gotten used to breastfeeding that are given the bottle realize how easier it is to get milk from the bottle. They try to suck on your breast similar to how they suck on the bottle and it just doesn't come out, making your baby frustrated and it starts crying and wailing.. and then you get frustrated and it's a nice viscious cycle.
Also, are you giving more formula because you feel you aren't breast feeding enough? If so, your baby is getting enough food through the formula and so isn't taking as much from the breast so your breasts are producing less because the demand on them is decreasing. That would cause you being able to pump less.
Problems with Significant Other *Advice Needed*?
My partner's friend is getting married in Jamaica in April. By that point we will have a 6-8 week old baby boy. I'm really not comfortable with him gallivanting off to Jamaica for a week when we have an infant. As well, money is going to be tight no matter what and we definitly can't afford for him to go. I would understand if this was a close friend or family but it's a person he only sees maybe once ever 2-3 months. He compared missing the wedding to missing his child's birth but I don't think their in the same league at all.
Am I totally out of line not wanting him to go?
What should I do in this situation?Problems with Significant Other *Advice Needed*?
It really all depends on two things... #1: How are your finances? and #2: How comfortable are you on him going alone and leaving you alone with a 6 - 8 week old infant, regardless if you have a natural birth or an emergency c-section. The first question is the most important... you've already said your finances are tight, so he would have to give up things in order to go. Is he willing to give up Christmas presents (are you) ? Willing to give up eating lunch out? etc. If there's no money to go, there's no money to go -- don't put ANYTHING on credit, you're ruining your life if you stick to credit as the answer (especially with a child on the way). If you find you *can* afford it, can you cope with him gone? I'll be honest -- the first few months are murder with a newborn. They sleep in 2 - 3 hour stretches, cry often (especially if the baby has colic or reflux, as mine did), or has extenuating health issues (let's not even discuss postpartum depression, which is real and might still be hanging around at 6 - 8 weeks).
In any case, you need to sit down with the husband and talk to him (a real talk). Do some research first -- find out cost of hotels/food/airfare/etc -- and come to the table armed with facts about your budget/finances vs. the cost of the trip. Then, have an open and honest discussion of how your life will change after childbirth (it will). Discuss the difficulties both will face (what if you have a c-section? You're supposed to be taking it easy for six weeks after major surgery... can you do that with an infant, alone for a week? Don't assume you won't have one, either, because it can happen. Is he willing to sacrifice your happiness/sanity to go? Why does he feel this way? Don't let him give you the crap about ';missing a child's birth'; -- a wedding, even of a brother, isn't in the same league and deep down inside, he knows it... that line is a way of playing on your emotions to get you to let him go. Don't get emotional, don't bring drama, just bring facts and a reasoned discussion. Any time he starts to bring emotional drama into the conversation, stop it immediately.
If he still insists on going, even after seeing it's fiscally unreasonable and it creates a potential hardship on you... well, I can't help you there... the best thing to do is just to have a good talk with him and hope he won't be unreasonable. Good luck!
Edited to say: Why the thumbs' down? Is it because it's a rational response not dedicated to beating your husband over the head with a mallet? You know, there's a reason the divorce rate is so high in this country... married couples cannot communicate with each other effectively. They argue, scream, nag, cry, act the martyr, etc, but they don't communicate. Learn to communicate and have a happy marriage... don't and either be unhappy or get divorced. It's a simple equation. If he's really so much of an a-hole that he disregards a well-reasoned and well-presented discussion on why he shouldn't go, then there's nothing that will help her (not even ';putting your foot down';). An a-hole is an a-hole, whatever you end up demanding, so there's no good answer in that scenario.Problems with Significant Other *Advice Needed*?
Well, discuss the finances. Some of my best friends I only see a few times a year because of distance and time. But I would DEFINITELY want to be there for their wedding. See if there is a way he can find the money in the budget to go, and then let him enjoy it. And if you and he decide together that you can't afford it, then it's partly his decision. If YOU make the decision, then he will resent you (and maybe the baby)for it. But if you help him decide, he will only have himself to blame either way.
Good luck.
no your not out of line at all. my hubby wanted to go to vegas with a work buddy next month when ill be 7.5 months preggo and i refused to let him go, i said he cant leave his pregnant wife, and 8 yr old son alone for a week. tell him that your not okay with it, he will have bigger responsibilities to take care of then. tell him you ';need'; him to stay around for the baby and your sake.
You're not out of line..if anythig he is out of line comparing this weeding to the birth of your child. How does that compare?!?!? Maybe discuss w/ him the money situation %26amp; the fact that you have an infant that you BOTH are responsible for.
If you can't afford it you can't afford it, and the baby should come first. His friend will understand.
If the father of my child was going to blow off the family budget, the birth of my child, and my expressed wishes that he stay....I'd kick his assss into next week.
It looks like the new daddy is using his ';friends'; wedding as an excuse to have a week long vacation without the ball and chain on a tropical island.
It's complete bulllshiit and I'd be totally against it too.
The first two months with a new baby are the hardest...he has no business ditching you to go on a tropical vacation...and breaking the bank to boot.
He's being a selfish idiot if he's even CONSIDERING going.
Print this and give it to him, have a conversation about him going...and if all else fails...sic his mother on him.
For one he should not want to go with NEW BABY AT HOME, also with the cost of everything now and having a baby he must of lost his mind. then to compare it to his child being born was just wrong . Tell him this do you know your friends birthday . does he think his friend would do the same for him if it was the other way around. tell him money is tight also with the new baby you don't see why he would even want to go also to compare his baby to someone he barely see is way wrong . I would put my foot down
Men never seem to grow up. It sounds as if he knows that having a child is going to cut a lot of stuff from his life, and he needs to exert his dominance, as in ';I am a man and can do what I please';. But he has to realize that being a father comes first and there is no excuse for him to go, especially if he is an acquaintance. Why not plan a trip with him, just the 2 of you, when the baby is a bit older. You can save up a bit at a time, adn both go, maybe in a year or so, and maybe get friends in on it too, usually resorts give good deals when a bunch of people go together. Let him know that just because you will be parents, it doesnt mean you wont be able to do fun stuff still. And there are more important things to spend the money on, like baby food, formula, diapers, groceries for the both of you....essentials, not trips to paradise.
Look I dislike my significant other so much right now that I can pretty much sympathize with you in a every word I am reading . i say you are NOT out of line.
My significant other wants to go out every week this his friends, I can't go because I am pregnant and because I gotta work at 6am. If i say I don't want him to go then I am psycho and I need to give him space. I don't think is fair at all. I feel like he wants to get away from me and the house every chance he gets. I get so angry. I am the one home tired with backaches and aches everywhere for that matter. And the worst part is he doesn't get it.. I don't think he ever will. He is so close minded when it comes to the real thing he only sees he's own side of the story
Am I totally out of line not wanting him to go?
What should I do in this situation?Problems with Significant Other *Advice Needed*?
It really all depends on two things... #1: How are your finances? and #2: How comfortable are you on him going alone and leaving you alone with a 6 - 8 week old infant, regardless if you have a natural birth or an emergency c-section. The first question is the most important... you've already said your finances are tight, so he would have to give up things in order to go. Is he willing to give up Christmas presents (are you) ? Willing to give up eating lunch out? etc. If there's no money to go, there's no money to go -- don't put ANYTHING on credit, you're ruining your life if you stick to credit as the answer (especially with a child on the way). If you find you *can* afford it, can you cope with him gone? I'll be honest -- the first few months are murder with a newborn. They sleep in 2 - 3 hour stretches, cry often (especially if the baby has colic or reflux, as mine did), or has extenuating health issues (let's not even discuss postpartum depression, which is real and might still be hanging around at 6 - 8 weeks).
In any case, you need to sit down with the husband and talk to him (a real talk). Do some research first -- find out cost of hotels/food/airfare/etc -- and come to the table armed with facts about your budget/finances vs. the cost of the trip. Then, have an open and honest discussion of how your life will change after childbirth (it will). Discuss the difficulties both will face (what if you have a c-section? You're supposed to be taking it easy for six weeks after major surgery... can you do that with an infant, alone for a week? Don't assume you won't have one, either, because it can happen. Is he willing to sacrifice your happiness/sanity to go? Why does he feel this way? Don't let him give you the crap about ';missing a child's birth'; -- a wedding, even of a brother, isn't in the same league and deep down inside, he knows it... that line is a way of playing on your emotions to get you to let him go. Don't get emotional, don't bring drama, just bring facts and a reasoned discussion. Any time he starts to bring emotional drama into the conversation, stop it immediately.
If he still insists on going, even after seeing it's fiscally unreasonable and it creates a potential hardship on you... well, I can't help you there... the best thing to do is just to have a good talk with him and hope he won't be unreasonable. Good luck!
Edited to say: Why the thumbs' down? Is it because it's a rational response not dedicated to beating your husband over the head with a mallet? You know, there's a reason the divorce rate is so high in this country... married couples cannot communicate with each other effectively. They argue, scream, nag, cry, act the martyr, etc, but they don't communicate. Learn to communicate and have a happy marriage... don't and either be unhappy or get divorced. It's a simple equation. If he's really so much of an a-hole that he disregards a well-reasoned and well-presented discussion on why he shouldn't go, then there's nothing that will help her (not even ';putting your foot down';). An a-hole is an a-hole, whatever you end up demanding, so there's no good answer in that scenario.Problems with Significant Other *Advice Needed*?
Well, discuss the finances. Some of my best friends I only see a few times a year because of distance and time. But I would DEFINITELY want to be there for their wedding. See if there is a way he can find the money in the budget to go, and then let him enjoy it. And if you and he decide together that you can't afford it, then it's partly his decision. If YOU make the decision, then he will resent you (and maybe the baby)for it. But if you help him decide, he will only have himself to blame either way.
Good luck.
no your not out of line at all. my hubby wanted to go to vegas with a work buddy next month when ill be 7.5 months preggo and i refused to let him go, i said he cant leave his pregnant wife, and 8 yr old son alone for a week. tell him that your not okay with it, he will have bigger responsibilities to take care of then. tell him you ';need'; him to stay around for the baby and your sake.
You're not out of line..if anythig he is out of line comparing this weeding to the birth of your child. How does that compare?!?!? Maybe discuss w/ him the money situation %26amp; the fact that you have an infant that you BOTH are responsible for.
If you can't afford it you can't afford it, and the baby should come first. His friend will understand.
If the father of my child was going to blow off the family budget, the birth of my child, and my expressed wishes that he stay....I'd kick his assss into next week.
It looks like the new daddy is using his ';friends'; wedding as an excuse to have a week long vacation without the ball and chain on a tropical island.
It's complete bulllshiit and I'd be totally against it too.
The first two months with a new baby are the hardest...he has no business ditching you to go on a tropical vacation...and breaking the bank to boot.
He's being a selfish idiot if he's even CONSIDERING going.
Print this and give it to him, have a conversation about him going...and if all else fails...sic his mother on him.
For one he should not want to go with NEW BABY AT HOME, also with the cost of everything now and having a baby he must of lost his mind. then to compare it to his child being born was just wrong . Tell him this do you know your friends birthday . does he think his friend would do the same for him if it was the other way around. tell him money is tight also with the new baby you don't see why he would even want to go also to compare his baby to someone he barely see is way wrong . I would put my foot down
Men never seem to grow up. It sounds as if he knows that having a child is going to cut a lot of stuff from his life, and he needs to exert his dominance, as in ';I am a man and can do what I please';. But he has to realize that being a father comes first and there is no excuse for him to go, especially if he is an acquaintance. Why not plan a trip with him, just the 2 of you, when the baby is a bit older. You can save up a bit at a time, adn both go, maybe in a year or so, and maybe get friends in on it too, usually resorts give good deals when a bunch of people go together. Let him know that just because you will be parents, it doesnt mean you wont be able to do fun stuff still. And there are more important things to spend the money on, like baby food, formula, diapers, groceries for the both of you....essentials, not trips to paradise.
Look I dislike my significant other so much right now that I can pretty much sympathize with you in a every word I am reading . i say you are NOT out of line.
My significant other wants to go out every week this his friends, I can't go because I am pregnant and because I gotta work at 6am. If i say I don't want him to go then I am psycho and I need to give him space. I don't think is fair at all. I feel like he wants to get away from me and the house every chance he gets. I get so angry. I am the one home tired with backaches and aches everywhere for that matter. And the worst part is he doesn't get it.. I don't think he ever will. He is so close minded when it comes to the real thing he only sees he's own side of the story
Problems with shyness... any advice?
I've always been pretty shy, and recently I've made some progress with it, but it's still a problem, and as I go through college, I'm realizing that I can't keep living like I do.
I miss out on a lot of things I should do or that I want to do because I'm shy and afraid of what people are thinking, etc. For example, I won't go to the gym on my campus because I get really nervous about working out in front of and in close proximity to other people. I really want to go to the gym, but I just can't unless it's a holiday and no one else is really there. Going with my boyfriend during the holiday with a total of 5 other people in the gym was a pretty big step for me. I carefully scan my professors before choosing classes to ensure that they don't require any class presentations and minimal group-activities because I CANNOT speak in front of other people. I get severe anxiety about it- shaking, sweating, turning red, my voice quivers and I stumble over words. I've really stalled about getting a new job because I'm afraid of that too- being the new girl, messing up and people thinking I'm stupid, etc. I don't join clubs on campus unless my boyfriend is going beause I'm afraid of being left out and looking/feeling awkward. I also have a tough time making new friends because I'm so quiet and I think my shy demeanor is sometimes mistaken as being mean or snobby. Once I do make friends, things go really well, but it's the inital start of things that's really rough for me and puts me off from even trying. Not only are all of these kinds of things a problem for me personally, but they're putting some strain on my relationship with my boyfriend.
I realize that the things I get so nervous about are pretty silly, but when I'm in the moment, I can't get past it and just do it. Like I said, I'm missing out on a lot of things- school functions and opportunities, a healthier lifestyle, and money (job) and I need help changing this.
Does anyone have or know someone with a similar problem? Any ideas on things I could try to do to get better about this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!Problems with shyness... any advice?
PRACTICE in front of your mirror is a good place.When a social event is coming up,promise yourself that you are going and that you are going to have a good time and right away start practicing. Treat yourself to something special that makes you feel good(pedicure?),new haircut?, really cool gym outfit?. Walk tall, smile(even if it is hard), even assume a superior personality.Keep repeating this everyday in every situation and soon it will be natural and you will be having the time of your life! - About feeling stupid - you are not the center of the universe,so why do you think people will care or even notice for that matter. Good Luck. Stay tall! *practice small conversations before you leave home ( I used to even write them out on a little paper,so that I wouldn't forget!)Problems with shyness... any advice?
well, i know cuz i am. but it's really hard to change from being shy to social in front of people who already know you're shy. People who don't know you will be meeting you for the first time, so show them a side that you don't know, take a chance! maybe you'll like what they think of you. -good luck:)
what the hell do you need to be d*** shy for, god, just be a b**** for once. Smoke that will make you look awesome! heh. heh.
I had that kind of anxiety present and whatnot in high school. Really the only way to get over it is to get some experience behind you that you _can_ perform in front of groups and not have them think you're an idiot.
Simply put, you'll have to put yourself intentionally into situations that you cannot avoid the group scene. Go with your boyfriend to work out at busy times, take classes with presentations, hell, take a speech class. After some time up in the spotlight you'll notice you get up there again and know you'll be fine because the last ten times you did it no one threw rotten tomatoes at you.
Its painful and nerve racking and you'll definitely trip up a few times but you had to do that when you learned to ride a bike didn't you? Everything takes practice, so go out and get some.
I have a very introverted personality as well...but its not nearly as bad as yours.
The underlying issue might be little to no self esteem perhaps? That's what it is for me. What helped was that my boyfriend (now my husband) told me that every time I thought something bad about myself to picture him clubbing a baby seal (so...that sounds really mean, but it was an inside joke so it was funny...don't hate me!) and at first I was like...whatever. But after while I did notice my self esteem growing significantly not because of that poor beaten baby seal, but because I was learning that it doesn't matter what other people think of me because I have someone who thinks the world of me no matter how many times I look stupid in public. %26lt;3
Anyway, I hope that helps you too! Good luck!wrinkles
I miss out on a lot of things I should do or that I want to do because I'm shy and afraid of what people are thinking, etc. For example, I won't go to the gym on my campus because I get really nervous about working out in front of and in close proximity to other people. I really want to go to the gym, but I just can't unless it's a holiday and no one else is really there. Going with my boyfriend during the holiday with a total of 5 other people in the gym was a pretty big step for me. I carefully scan my professors before choosing classes to ensure that they don't require any class presentations and minimal group-activities because I CANNOT speak in front of other people. I get severe anxiety about it- shaking, sweating, turning red, my voice quivers and I stumble over words. I've really stalled about getting a new job because I'm afraid of that too- being the new girl, messing up and people thinking I'm stupid, etc. I don't join clubs on campus unless my boyfriend is going beause I'm afraid of being left out and looking/feeling awkward. I also have a tough time making new friends because I'm so quiet and I think my shy demeanor is sometimes mistaken as being mean or snobby. Once I do make friends, things go really well, but it's the inital start of things that's really rough for me and puts me off from even trying. Not only are all of these kinds of things a problem for me personally, but they're putting some strain on my relationship with my boyfriend.
I realize that the things I get so nervous about are pretty silly, but when I'm in the moment, I can't get past it and just do it. Like I said, I'm missing out on a lot of things- school functions and opportunities, a healthier lifestyle, and money (job) and I need help changing this.
Does anyone have or know someone with a similar problem? Any ideas on things I could try to do to get better about this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!Problems with shyness... any advice?
PRACTICE in front of your mirror is a good place.When a social event is coming up,promise yourself that you are going and that you are going to have a good time and right away start practicing. Treat yourself to something special that makes you feel good(pedicure?),new haircut?, really cool gym outfit?. Walk tall, smile(even if it is hard), even assume a superior personality.Keep repeating this everyday in every situation and soon it will be natural and you will be having the time of your life! - About feeling stupid - you are not the center of the universe,so why do you think people will care or even notice for that matter. Good Luck. Stay tall! *practice small conversations before you leave home ( I used to even write them out on a little paper,so that I wouldn't forget!)Problems with shyness... any advice?
well, i know cuz i am. but it's really hard to change from being shy to social in front of people who already know you're shy. People who don't know you will be meeting you for the first time, so show them a side that you don't know, take a chance! maybe you'll like what they think of you. -good luck:)
what the hell do you need to be d*** shy for, god, just be a b**** for once. Smoke that will make you look awesome! heh. heh.
I had that kind of anxiety present and whatnot in high school. Really the only way to get over it is to get some experience behind you that you _can_ perform in front of groups and not have them think you're an idiot.
Simply put, you'll have to put yourself intentionally into situations that you cannot avoid the group scene. Go with your boyfriend to work out at busy times, take classes with presentations, hell, take a speech class. After some time up in the spotlight you'll notice you get up there again and know you'll be fine because the last ten times you did it no one threw rotten tomatoes at you.
Its painful and nerve racking and you'll definitely trip up a few times but you had to do that when you learned to ride a bike didn't you? Everything takes practice, so go out and get some.
I have a very introverted personality as well...but its not nearly as bad as yours.
The underlying issue might be little to no self esteem perhaps? That's what it is for me. What helped was that my boyfriend (now my husband) told me that every time I thought something bad about myself to picture him clubbing a baby seal (so...that sounds really mean, but it was an inside joke so it was funny...don't hate me!) and at first I was like...whatever. But after while I did notice my self esteem growing significantly not because of that poor beaten baby seal, but because I was learning that it doesn't matter what other people think of me because I have someone who thinks the world of me no matter how many times I look stupid in public. %26lt;3
Anyway, I hope that helps you too! Good luck!
Problems with my dad?? Advice please.?
Alright, so my dad is a really great guy and I love him very much. However, he has a tendency to lecture and nag about every single thing in every single minute of every single day. I'm not even exagerating. It's gotten so bad that's its at the point where I can't have a conversation with him without being harped on. It can also be about anything from forgetting to turn off the lights to not riding my horse. I've had three emotional breakdowns so far where I have cried and cried after the pressure mounts up and it just gets to me. After these, the nagging seems to stop for about a week and then it picks up again right where it left off. I really cannot take any more of this. I will go insane. Please don't say it's just what dads do because I guarantee you this is way beyond normal. How can I get him to stop?Problems with my dad?? Advice please.?
I know this may be hard to do, but try to ignore it when he does it. Just tune it out. I know this may sound weird, but some people just do not know how to communicate well. I do not think he really means to hurt you when he does this. I think that he is just on auto pilot, and just keeps spewing bile, as my Granny used to say. Try not to take it personally. And when he starts going off, just tune him out some. Mentally, take a step back, and just say to yourself, ';here he goes again!';, and just nod and say stuff like- oh yeah, I'll take care of that, and OK, dad. And just move on. He is not likely to listen or even know how to change how he communicates. If he is a good dad in other ways, maybe you can find a way to de-personalize his rants, and separate it from the good parts of your dad.Problems with my dad?? Advice please.?
Hello there. Sounds like you have an Irish banshee in your ears. (1) You are right about 'all dads nitpick.' They do because it is like purging by fire. In his head he's trying to make you the best [young] woman that you can be. (2) Seems a harsh question to ask, but - - are you a bit absent-minded on everyday stuff? Such as turning lights off; care of the horse; chores; school work??? (3) If so again, he is just trying to make you better. If someone: a dad, a mom, friend did ';not care'; about YOU they would not say a word. (because they don't 'care' ). I have picked on a zillion girlfriends in my life, all for their betterment, and encouraged them to do ';constructive criticism'; on me, also. Destructive criticism is just hateful, bad picking. IF someone (Dad) is doing it ';to make YOU better = they Love you. And be Buddhist about it. ';Action follows Thought.'; When you hear him criticise, ask yourself - hmmm, did I forget to dump the trash? If so, go dump it, go back to dad %26amp; say ';Sorry about not getting to the trash earlier, but I just took it out..';
Then, ANTICIPATE. If some of his remarks are the same every week, e.g.- the horse, light off, homework, then Duh, do them and ';Let him know you did them.'; Say ';See dad, I'm getting better huh ! '; Try that and see if he doesn't tone it down.
IF that doesn't work confront him in a ';friendly way'; and say ';You know dad, I have a difficult time handling your verbal crtique of my life. Could we please compromise? How about you make a checklist, put it on the frig, and I'll try my best to handle your requests. Deal ? ';
Hope it helps !
well, I am a young dad 35 yo my dauther shes 12 now and I love her Big big ..... as much as your dad loves you !
what u said helped me also understand that she will not apreciate me nagging and lecturing ! but this is in our blood, its because we love our daughters.
Now my advice is to give it the time and acceptance, dont do a stupid move to harm his feelings, an arab proveb says :
Love the heart, that hates you, BUT, Never hate the heart that loves you.
G.Luck
OK my dad is not that bad but he does like to nag. I don't know how much I can help you but I will try. Maybe you could try to sit down with him and tell him how you feel. I know things are bad but you never know.I hope this will help you some.
Nope sorry my dad has the record for being the worst nagging parent on the planet. Driving to the 7/11 was a major undertaking according to him. He would actually lucture on how much pressure to place on the gas pedal of the car in order to properly back it out of the driveway...and lord help you if you backed out wrong...you'd get another lecture when you got home about it. Of course that is IF you lived long enough to get out to the car in the first place. After the gas he had to discuss letting off the brake. Then putting the car in gear to go forward, to how much speed you should build up before stopping at the stop sign at the end of the street and the precise moment to turn on the turn signal to indicate a right hand turn to get onto the next street. Yes it was THAT bad. It's a wonder I lived long enough to actually DRIVE a damn car! What to do? Nothing. Just stand there and nod, learn how to occupy your mind with something else.
Don't let it get to you. My dad doesn't even know me that well or knows what he talks about. He always makes his own assumptions about everything (especially me) and just flat out makes statements in a fake voice. That's all he says and the only way he says things but at least your dad doesn't look down on you. he just wants you to be better.
My mother use to be the same exact way! Still now she kind of is like that. I did cry a lot and thought when I turned 18 I would get a job and leave. But I turned 18 and didnt. I think you should do what your dad nags about. Do things exactly how he would want them to see if that prevents the nagging.
I know this may be hard to do, but try to ignore it when he does it. Just tune it out. I know this may sound weird, but some people just do not know how to communicate well. I do not think he really means to hurt you when he does this. I think that he is just on auto pilot, and just keeps spewing bile, as my Granny used to say. Try not to take it personally. And when he starts going off, just tune him out some. Mentally, take a step back, and just say to yourself, ';here he goes again!';, and just nod and say stuff like- oh yeah, I'll take care of that, and OK, dad. And just move on. He is not likely to listen or even know how to change how he communicates. If he is a good dad in other ways, maybe you can find a way to de-personalize his rants, and separate it from the good parts of your dad.Problems with my dad?? Advice please.?
Hello there. Sounds like you have an Irish banshee in your ears. (1) You are right about 'all dads nitpick.' They do because it is like purging by fire. In his head he's trying to make you the best [young] woman that you can be. (2) Seems a harsh question to ask, but - - are you a bit absent-minded on everyday stuff? Such as turning lights off; care of the horse; chores; school work??? (3) If so again, he is just trying to make you better. If someone: a dad, a mom, friend did ';not care'; about YOU they would not say a word. (because they don't 'care' ). I have picked on a zillion girlfriends in my life, all for their betterment, and encouraged them to do ';constructive criticism'; on me, also. Destructive criticism is just hateful, bad picking. IF someone (Dad) is doing it ';to make YOU better = they Love you. And be Buddhist about it. ';Action follows Thought.'; When you hear him criticise, ask yourself - hmmm, did I forget to dump the trash? If so, go dump it, go back to dad %26amp; say ';Sorry about not getting to the trash earlier, but I just took it out..';
Then, ANTICIPATE. If some of his remarks are the same every week, e.g.- the horse, light off, homework, then Duh, do them and ';Let him know you did them.'; Say ';See dad, I'm getting better huh ! '; Try that and see if he doesn't tone it down.
IF that doesn't work confront him in a ';friendly way'; and say ';You know dad, I have a difficult time handling your verbal crtique of my life. Could we please compromise? How about you make a checklist, put it on the frig, and I'll try my best to handle your requests. Deal ? ';
Hope it helps !
well, I am a young dad 35 yo my dauther shes 12 now and I love her Big big ..... as much as your dad loves you !
what u said helped me also understand that she will not apreciate me nagging and lecturing ! but this is in our blood, its because we love our daughters.
Now my advice is to give it the time and acceptance, dont do a stupid move to harm his feelings, an arab proveb says :
Love the heart, that hates you, BUT, Never hate the heart that loves you.
G.Luck
OK my dad is not that bad but he does like to nag. I don't know how much I can help you but I will try. Maybe you could try to sit down with him and tell him how you feel. I know things are bad but you never know.I hope this will help you some.
Nope sorry my dad has the record for being the worst nagging parent on the planet. Driving to the 7/11 was a major undertaking according to him. He would actually lucture on how much pressure to place on the gas pedal of the car in order to properly back it out of the driveway...and lord help you if you backed out wrong...you'd get another lecture when you got home about it. Of course that is IF you lived long enough to get out to the car in the first place. After the gas he had to discuss letting off the brake. Then putting the car in gear to go forward, to how much speed you should build up before stopping at the stop sign at the end of the street and the precise moment to turn on the turn signal to indicate a right hand turn to get onto the next street. Yes it was THAT bad. It's a wonder I lived long enough to actually DRIVE a damn car! What to do? Nothing. Just stand there and nod, learn how to occupy your mind with something else.
Don't let it get to you. My dad doesn't even know me that well or knows what he talks about. He always makes his own assumptions about everything (especially me) and just flat out makes statements in a fake voice. That's all he says and the only way he says things but at least your dad doesn't look down on you. he just wants you to be better.
My mother use to be the same exact way! Still now she kind of is like that. I did cry a lot and thought when I turned 18 I would get a job and leave. But I turned 18 and didnt. I think you should do what your dad nags about. Do things exactly how he would want them to see if that prevents the nagging.
I have someACNE problems and i TOTALLY need advice ..please help.?
so i started using proactive a few years back. it cleared my acne but eventually i noticed it came back. it no longer had effect on my acne. i felt like it now caused it. neutrogena scrub has helped a bit. do you guys know of any other really good neutrogena acne products!? ointment...lotion...etc. i appreciate any advice i hate having acne..its depressing.I have someACNE problems and i TOTALLY need advice ..please help.?
i really like Acne Free Terminator 10I have someACNE problems and i TOTALLY need advice ..please help.?
Acne products help in the begining...and then your skin becomes used to it. Its the companys way of making you think its working and when it comes back you buy more and more...talk about sneaky huh...
Try to just use your usually soft soap and water...and spot treat with toothpaste. Always worked for me and most everyone i shared with
try the clean and clear 3 step system
cleanser- neutrogena oil free acne wash.
spot treatment- clean and clear invisible blemish treatment, or clean and clear advantage spot tratment.
works for me. hope this helps.
i really like Acne Free Terminator 10I have someACNE problems and i TOTALLY need advice ..please help.?
Acne products help in the begining...and then your skin becomes used to it. Its the companys way of making you think its working and when it comes back you buy more and more...talk about sneaky huh...
Try to just use your usually soft soap and water...and spot treat with toothpaste. Always worked for me and most everyone i shared with
try the clean and clear 3 step system
cleanser- neutrogena oil free acne wash.
spot treatment- clean and clear invisible blemish treatment, or clean and clear advantage spot tratment.
works for me. hope this helps.
Me and my boyfriend are having problems.Can you give me advice?
We both agree that we love each other but we don't live by each other and we haven't talked in a long time but I really love him and he talks to his cousins who are really my friends and tell them that we go together and he loves me.So tell me wat to do.I haven't called him in a long time but I love him.Should I forget about him ?Me and my boyfriend are having problems.Can you give me advice?
If your truly in love with him then you won't be able to forget about him.
-NmD!Me and my boyfriend are having problems.Can you give me advice?
No dont leave him if u really love him
Talk to your boyfriend or at least wait until he talks to you! One of you has got to do something. If you love him then how can you think about forgetting him? Just tell him how you feel and what you want in the relationship. Hopefully, he'll understand you and everything works out for the best!
Forget about him, find some close to you
If you really love each other...go there or have him come to you and give it a real chance...true love is special...good luck!
No u shouldnt leave him.When u both love each other y u both r not in contact.Go ahead n meet him.Enjoy ur moments with him.
I have a feeling that you are very young. If the two of you are adults and truely love each other then its time to be in the same city. If you are young........then daily commuination is difficuilt and the word love is more like Puppy Love. Not mature eough for making a future.....yet.
If your truly in love with him then you won't be able to forget about him.
-NmD!Me and my boyfriend are having problems.Can you give me advice?
No dont leave him if u really love him
Talk to your boyfriend or at least wait until he talks to you! One of you has got to do something. If you love him then how can you think about forgetting him? Just tell him how you feel and what you want in the relationship. Hopefully, he'll understand you and everything works out for the best!
Forget about him, find some close to you
If you really love each other...go there or have him come to you and give it a real chance...true love is special...good luck!
No u shouldnt leave him.When u both love each other y u both r not in contact.Go ahead n meet him.Enjoy ur moments with him.
I have a feeling that you are very young. If the two of you are adults and truely love each other then its time to be in the same city. If you are young........then daily commuination is difficuilt and the word love is more like Puppy Love. Not mature eough for making a future.....yet.
Step-dad problems! i need major advice?
ok, my dad died when i was four and my mom remarried shortly after. that was what? 9, 8 years ago. im still not over my dads death, and i really dont like my stepdad. my older brother and i feel like he treats his kids differently, treats them somewhat better. hes in the navy, and hes a real strong christian. so clearly hes very very strict. hes always on his butt watching sports when he comes home from work, and he never helps with chores. my mom does alot around the house, and my brother and i help as much as we can. i just feel so neglected or hated or something when hes around. i get depressed because i miss my dad and i feel like my stepdad is trying to replace him. he changed my brothers and my last name to his like, 5 years ago and we have to call HIM dad and address our real dad by his name. i think thats real unfair, and my friends do too. i just need help or advice on what to do. my brother says hes going to disown himself in a year (hes 15) but then id be alone. PLZ HELP!Step-dad problems! i need major advice?
My first piece of advice would be to get over your father's death. Dwelling on the past can bring nothing good to the equation. It's the unfortunate truth but people die every day. We mourn their loss but we move on. We have to if we are to live our own lives.
That aside, your step-dad sounds like a real ***. But once again, you are not the first person to be in such a situation, nor will you be the last. I am assuming you are a teenager(or a pre-teen) in which case, your view of the situation would be typical. If all your step-dad is is a lazy ***, then I would say let it go. While his approach to you may be emotionally abusive, if he is not physically abusing you, I would say to once again let it go. There is nothing wrong with remembering your father. Hell you don't even have to look at your step-father as being your real father. People play favorites all the time. It might suck, but that is life. Do well in school, get into a good college, and don't look back when that day comes. Look to the future, not the past to guide you!Step-dad problems! i need major advice?
But he is giving you a home, food on the table, and clothes on your back. Try not to be rebellious to your stepdad. Sorry about your loss. Just remember that your stepdad could never replace your real dad. So maybe cut him a little slack. You can do what you want to do when you become an adult, but in the meantime, don't hurt your mom by being rebellious to your stepdad. If you think he's being unfair, then talk to your mom about this. If he's a decent guy, then talk to him about it. Just have patience, eventually you'll be of age to do what you want to do. Try your best to be an example to younger siblings. Believe it or not, they do look up to you. Be there for them, they'll need an older sister's wisdom. You'll be ok. I wish you the best of luck.
First I know how you feel! Second you should sit down with your brother and your stepdad when your mom is not around and ask him why he acts the way he does and make him sign a contrat or something to make sure he deosn't tell your mom about the conversation because that might lead to more problems! So just ask him how come he treats his kids better then you and your brother because now yall are his kids so yall should be treated equally no matter what! he signed on for that when he married your mom! So then if that conversation does not take in affect ask your brother if you could leave with him when he leaves! Or go leave with a relative or something! Ask a relative to adopt you! Just don't stay somewhere where you are not confertable!
your dad will always be your dad no matter what, your stepdad is just that a stepdad but respect your mum choice in a husband and just try to get along you dont have to like him just pretend after all he is just jealous of your feelings for your real dad
My first piece of advice would be to get over your father's death. Dwelling on the past can bring nothing good to the equation. It's the unfortunate truth but people die every day. We mourn their loss but we move on. We have to if we are to live our own lives.
That aside, your step-dad sounds like a real ***. But once again, you are not the first person to be in such a situation, nor will you be the last. I am assuming you are a teenager(or a pre-teen) in which case, your view of the situation would be typical. If all your step-dad is is a lazy ***, then I would say let it go. While his approach to you may be emotionally abusive, if he is not physically abusing you, I would say to once again let it go. There is nothing wrong with remembering your father. Hell you don't even have to look at your step-father as being your real father. People play favorites all the time. It might suck, but that is life. Do well in school, get into a good college, and don't look back when that day comes. Look to the future, not the past to guide you!Step-dad problems! i need major advice?
But he is giving you a home, food on the table, and clothes on your back. Try not to be rebellious to your stepdad. Sorry about your loss. Just remember that your stepdad could never replace your real dad. So maybe cut him a little slack. You can do what you want to do when you become an adult, but in the meantime, don't hurt your mom by being rebellious to your stepdad. If you think he's being unfair, then talk to your mom about this. If he's a decent guy, then talk to him about it. Just have patience, eventually you'll be of age to do what you want to do. Try your best to be an example to younger siblings. Believe it or not, they do look up to you. Be there for them, they'll need an older sister's wisdom. You'll be ok. I wish you the best of luck.
First I know how you feel! Second you should sit down with your brother and your stepdad when your mom is not around and ask him why he acts the way he does and make him sign a contrat or something to make sure he deosn't tell your mom about the conversation because that might lead to more problems! So just ask him how come he treats his kids better then you and your brother because now yall are his kids so yall should be treated equally no matter what! he signed on for that when he married your mom! So then if that conversation does not take in affect ask your brother if you could leave with him when he leaves! Or go leave with a relative or something! Ask a relative to adopt you! Just don't stay somewhere where you are not confertable!
your dad will always be your dad no matter what, your stepdad is just that a stepdad but respect your mum choice in a husband and just try to get along you dont have to like him just pretend after all he is just jealous of your feelings for your real dad
I am having problems finding a girlfriend can any girls give me advice on what you like in a boyfriend?
First off, all girls have their own tastes is guys, so it's hard to narrow it down to the main things that girls look for in a boyfriend. However, these are the things that will definitely get you noticed by girls (they're ordered from most important to least important):
1.) The biggest thing girls look for in guys, believe it or not, is a sense of humor. That's a huge turn.
2.) They have to be physically attracted to you. Not every girl is gonna be since we all have our own tastes, but the right girl for you will think you're cute. This causes chemistry if you think she is cute as well.
3.) Personality. Most girls like laid-back, charming guys who can make them laugh and who have plenty of interests of their own. My boyfriend, for example, always makes me smile with his little quirks, and he's passionate about baseball and playing the drums.
4.) Sensitivity. Act like the girl you're interested in is the most beautful (not 'hot') thing to walk the earth. Connect with her and really listen to her. Don't pressure her to do anything she may not be comfortable with.
5.) Intelligence. Don't be an air-head. Contrary to popular belief, REAL girls are definitely not attracted to brainless, high-status jocks. The girls who do date these guys only do it to make themselves more popular and to steal the guy's money. Stay smart and have common sense.
This, to any sane woman, is a very attractive guy. Good luck!I am having problems finding a girlfriend can any girls give me advice on what you like in a boyfriend?
All girls like a man who is confident and doesn't let you walk all over you, but still treats you with respect. Girls like guys who are themselves and don't worry about looking cool or in style in front of their friends. I also like guys with integrity most of all. If a guy has a little honor mixed with some balls, yummmm. The first step is being confident enough to ask a girl out if you've been chatting her up for a while. Do it with confidence. If she says no, smile, and say worth a shot. Wave nicely as you walk away. Rejection's not so bad. Go for it.I am having problems finding a girlfriend can any girls give me advice on what you like in a boyfriend?
every girl is different. i know everybody says this, but you honestly need to be yourself. because if you act like somebody else that your not, you could be in a relationshp all about lies and be unhappy. but if you just be yourself, than a girl will like you for who you are and it will be a much better relationship.
Don't act desperate....WallaHHH!
I like guys that are nice, respectful, and polite. Someone who isn't a flirt and whose life doesn't revolve around dating me.
You have to know that girls are special and need to be treated with respect and care. I like a guy who is true, honest, has a good sense of humor and charming. I personally hate guys who are serious and lots of girls think the same. But never change ur personality for a girl. its wrong. when the right girl comes yull know it and im sure yull act ur best
I like a guy that's funny and charming.
But most of all I like him to be himself and real.
Hun don't try to change yourself for a girl to like you because that would be a real drag so all I can say is be you!
You'll find someone. I know someone who didn't have there FIRST boyfriend till she was in her 20s and they are getting married next year.
Compared to my last boyfriend, my current boyfriend of 2 1/2 years actually has a future, is sweet, funny, doesn't EVER try to get me to do something I don't want to, supportive...
somethings i like in a boyfriend would be that he wouldnt lie, tells me sweet things in my ear all time, holds me, and to act like i mean the world to him!
ya...
we like guys who are very respectful of us, have a nice personality, a very good sense of humor, are not a total bumb with no money at all or at least no job, respect our family as well as us, are very trust worthy, and sometimes are really good looking but to some girls if you have all the rest then that just doesn't matter.
but don't worry you'll find that girl out there. so don't get too down on yourself! she's just waiting for you to come along and sweep her off her feet! :)
I like an honest and sweet guy who will take time to spend with me loving and strong and have the same religious beliefs as me
i love a guy who's funny and charming;
not about he's cute or hott.
no!
not right.
i love a guy who cares about you so much
he'll give you a jacket when its raining.
someone who is really funny %26amp; can make u laugh. who gets alot of attention %26amp; is loud. who's not afraid to handel things. who got alot of respect for girls.
smile just a little and show her tht u would rather be with her than with the guys. The key is being sweet and mild.
Be true to yourself and when and I do mean ';WHEN'; the right girl comes along you will know it. Take the pressure off yourself and just have fun dating.
1.) The biggest thing girls look for in guys, believe it or not, is a sense of humor. That's a huge turn.
2.) They have to be physically attracted to you. Not every girl is gonna be since we all have our own tastes, but the right girl for you will think you're cute. This causes chemistry if you think she is cute as well.
3.) Personality. Most girls like laid-back, charming guys who can make them laugh and who have plenty of interests of their own. My boyfriend, for example, always makes me smile with his little quirks, and he's passionate about baseball and playing the drums.
4.) Sensitivity. Act like the girl you're interested in is the most beautful (not 'hot') thing to walk the earth. Connect with her and really listen to her. Don't pressure her to do anything she may not be comfortable with.
5.) Intelligence. Don't be an air-head. Contrary to popular belief, REAL girls are definitely not attracted to brainless, high-status jocks. The girls who do date these guys only do it to make themselves more popular and to steal the guy's money. Stay smart and have common sense.
This, to any sane woman, is a very attractive guy. Good luck!I am having problems finding a girlfriend can any girls give me advice on what you like in a boyfriend?
All girls like a man who is confident and doesn't let you walk all over you, but still treats you with respect. Girls like guys who are themselves and don't worry about looking cool or in style in front of their friends. I also like guys with integrity most of all. If a guy has a little honor mixed with some balls, yummmm. The first step is being confident enough to ask a girl out if you've been chatting her up for a while. Do it with confidence. If she says no, smile, and say worth a shot. Wave nicely as you walk away. Rejection's not so bad. Go for it.I am having problems finding a girlfriend can any girls give me advice on what you like in a boyfriend?
every girl is different. i know everybody says this, but you honestly need to be yourself. because if you act like somebody else that your not, you could be in a relationshp all about lies and be unhappy. but if you just be yourself, than a girl will like you for who you are and it will be a much better relationship.
Don't act desperate....WallaHHH!
I like guys that are nice, respectful, and polite. Someone who isn't a flirt and whose life doesn't revolve around dating me.
You have to know that girls are special and need to be treated with respect and care. I like a guy who is true, honest, has a good sense of humor and charming. I personally hate guys who are serious and lots of girls think the same. But never change ur personality for a girl. its wrong. when the right girl comes yull know it and im sure yull act ur best
I like a guy that's funny and charming.
But most of all I like him to be himself and real.
Hun don't try to change yourself for a girl to like you because that would be a real drag so all I can say is be you!
You'll find someone. I know someone who didn't have there FIRST boyfriend till she was in her 20s and they are getting married next year.
Compared to my last boyfriend, my current boyfriend of 2 1/2 years actually has a future, is sweet, funny, doesn't EVER try to get me to do something I don't want to, supportive...
somethings i like in a boyfriend would be that he wouldnt lie, tells me sweet things in my ear all time, holds me, and to act like i mean the world to him!
ya...
we like guys who are very respectful of us, have a nice personality, a very good sense of humor, are not a total bumb with no money at all or at least no job, respect our family as well as us, are very trust worthy, and sometimes are really good looking but to some girls if you have all the rest then that just doesn't matter.
but don't worry you'll find that girl out there. so don't get too down on yourself! she's just waiting for you to come along and sweep her off her feet! :)
I like an honest and sweet guy who will take time to spend with me loving and strong and have the same religious beliefs as me
i love a guy who's funny and charming;
not about he's cute or hott.
no!
not right.
i love a guy who cares about you so much
he'll give you a jacket when its raining.
someone who is really funny %26amp; can make u laugh. who gets alot of attention %26amp; is loud. who's not afraid to handel things. who got alot of respect for girls.
smile just a little and show her tht u would rather be with her than with the guys. The key is being sweet and mild.
Be true to yourself and when and I do mean ';WHEN'; the right girl comes along you will know it. Take the pressure off yourself and just have fun dating.
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