I can answer and or advice others regarding their problems but I can't resolve mine; how come?

I work with people effectively and give honest opinions to the best of my ability, but when it comes to resolving my own issues I'm not satisfied with what I come up with as an answer.


Does this happen to anyone else. I met someone I have been looking for , for a long time and yet I can't tell her what I think of her or what I feel for her. There is a third party in the picture I have no emotional ties to but it does make a huge impact on the situation in a professional way. Should I let the woman who I care for make the decision whether to go out or not or even entertain the question? Your sincere comments are welcomed...help...please.I can answer and or advice others regarding their problems but I can't resolve mine; how come?
Sometimes it is easier to solve other people's problem than ours. Because we can think rationally and objectively from afar. We are not so emotionally engaged with the other's problem and we don't see the nitty gritty details of such that's why it is so easier to give advice.





Understanding where you are coming from is a sort of blocked by a fear to be rejected because when you were given advice to others they take it as it is while in your own strait you deal it with avoidance hoping it will resolve by itself. Being an adult we take charge of our lives and stand to what we chose. Maybe get out of that comfort zone and take a chance...who knows it may lead you to something better and brighter future with her.I can answer and or advice others regarding their problems but I can't resolve mine; how come?
It is easier to answer other people's questions because it is easier to be objective.





You should be honest with the ';3rd party'; so you don't create problems. Then once you have done that just ask the other girl out. If she isn't interested you really haven't lost anything because you said you had no emotional ties to the ';third party'; anyway.
For starters, find out how her relationship is going with this third person. If it is not going well at all, tell her to give you a call when it is over. Let her know you are interested but could only be friends until it is finished. Let her know the reason for waiting is out of respect for her. That will make a HUGE impression on her.
LOL...


i am the exact way...





its easier to pass judgement and give advice then doing it urself...








so ..my very first relationship just kinda ended not on the best terms...and I see him almost everyday and try my best to avoid him.. but if i were to give someone advice i would say'; don't avoid him and be honest...';





ASK HER OUT...





life is short...