Help...i just need some good advice for some boy problems!!!!!?

I met this guy a few months ago.. and now we are talking.. we've gotten close but im afraid we're drifting apart.


he says he loves me and im his only girl.


he wants to spend the rest of his life with me but i do believe him but apart of me i kinda dont.


he is 23 and has three kids by two different girls... but he says he wants to start a new life with me and have kids with me. i dont have a problem with that i just want to know if hes forreal or not.. i dont know what to do cause he can go with days without talking to me and it makes me worry then he calls me and says he been busy.. i need some advice!!Help...i just need some good advice for some boy problems!!!!!?
He's 23, how old are you? I'm guessing his age or younger. Sweetie, you are seeing signs of bigger problems to come.





If he can go days without talking to you, and just offer that he ';was busy'; I would wonder what he was so busy doing that he couldn't call me once a day or so to talk a few minutes, ask how I was, tell me what he's been doing, etc.? BTW, what does he do for a living? Where does he work? Where does he live? Who does he live with? Does he pay child support for his children? (This is important because any future the two of you may have will be minus that money. And if you did ';start a new life with him and have kids'; that could make a BIG difference in your lives.) And, if he's not paying child support or is complaining that ';they're taking all his money'; that could be an indicator that he's not responsible, which you don't need.





He has 3 kids with two different women, is he maybe still seeing at least one of those women? Could that be where he spends his ';busy'; time? The most charming of men can be the most conniving of players. Also, even if he's not ';seeing'; these women, how much time does he spend with them and the children they share? That will have to be time away from you, and any children you two may someday have.





My advice is that there are other fish in the sea. I'm not saying he's a bad guy, but that maybe you should really look before you leap into anything that will be messy or unpleasant to untangle yourself from. (Say, you meet his kids, you get to really like and love them, then the two of you split for some reason, and they're all out of your life.)





Trust your feelings, pursue your interests, do things with your friends, let them know you're open to meeting someone, enjoy your life. If this guy is the real deal, let him prove it to you, don't accept him on his terms.





Take care :)Help...i just need some good advice for some boy problems!!!!!?
OK, listen up. Get on the pill. NOW. Take it every day. He obviously is VERY irresponsible is he has multiple babies from multiple women at age 23. Was he ever married? Can he afford all these kids? Do you think he can afford baby number 4?
ok i would like for u to be on bcp and for gods sake dont have unprotected sex with him..he is apparently not a responsible adult..and u dont need to be attached to a loser forever if it doesnt work out
Well think about it, is he in the kids life, do you know what ended he last relationships, don't rush into anything
3 kids by 2 different girls????





i guess you'll be number 3!