I have refilled the black n colour carige recently but my printer is in not functioning with the remark yr printer catrige is not fixed properly.My printer is HP 3920 which is not functioning properly.
Please help n tell me abt the problem.Expert advice needed on my computer problem?
You said refilled not replaced. Refillable ink rarely works as intended.Expert advice needed on my computer problem?
Besides refillable ink not working properly, there could be damage to the ';cartridge'; themselves. I would suggest replacing the cartridge, if you can find a aftermarket cartridge all the better (so you won't spend too much money, just incase the carrier of the cartirdge is what is defective), if this didn't help i would suggest calling HP.
The trouble comes with the refilled Ink Cartridges. If you have filled up the cartridge after the ink is fully exhausted, it wont work. That is the trouble with HP printers. They wont recognize the refilled cartridges. (you have to refill it when some ink is still left, i.e. not dry up). Try with new cartridge.
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Can you give me advice for potty training problems?
My two year old was doing great. She was having maybe one mistake a day while in underwear. But she got sick, like three times in a row. Crup like cold, fever for four days, then another cold. She hasn't been doing well since then. We're lucky if she goes pee once a day. Oddly enough she goes poop in the potty about every other time she goes. But peeing is a big problem.
So I've tried rewarding with an m%26amp;m. Initially it worked. But since halloween, she knows there's a big bowl of candy on the counter and just wants candy. I'm trying to incorperate that in, but she just goes and sits on the potty for 2 seconds, flies up and says all done and wants candy.
I've tried a potty doll. That almost works. I tell her that I think the doll has to go potty and she sreams no and runs to the potty rips her pants down and sits down. But she doesn't go.Can you give me advice for potty training problems?
My daughter did that as well. She was going great....then all of a sudden my husband watched her one day (he put a diaper on her) and it took another 3 months for me to get her to even SIT on the toilet again.
Continue to put her on the potty (I would be doing it more like once an hour though) and letting her sit there. Also...if she's peeing right afterwards...then you're not letting her sit there long enough. And be firm....when she tries to get up and hasn't gone...tell her simply that no she isn't done...and she can't have her reward unless she pees.
You also need to be watching her potty cues....my daughter ALWAYS scratches her private area right before peeing (I have NO idea why) BUT that's my cue to get her on the toilet. Sometimes it only takes one actual peeing episode to reinforce what you are trying to do.
And quit rewarding with candy. That can lead to bad ideas about food being a ';good thing'; later in life and you can have a child with issues regarding proper eating.
I would reward with something better....get a calendar and put stickers on it for every time she potties...etc when she completes a row...take her to the dollar store and let her pick out a toy.
My mom wanted me to make my daughter ';wash out'; her messed underwear herself...but I couldn't bring myself to do it.
BUT what really worked with her was to go to the mall and buy some pretty underwear....';Princess underwear'; we called it. I told her that she couldn't wear them if she peed in them....she had 4 accidents like that week....it was slow but really worked. She even got so worked up for ';ruining'; her pretty underwear that she cried and apologized profusely.
Now she can even wear a diaper all day long and still not pee or poop in it at all. And she always poop in the toilet too....I think that she's simply too prissy to let her butt smell like poop once she figured out that flushing was so much better. I thought that it was supposed to be the other way around. They pee fine but not ever want to poop. UGH!!
Good luck.Can you give me advice for potty training problems?
do not reward with candy or anything else besides praise, just take a deep breath and start over just keep trucking, my son was trained by a year in a half and at two he had a serious seizure and was hospitalized for about a week, the tubes and iv's made it difficult and whenever i went home to shower and come back the nurses had him in a diaper, after getting him home i was frustrated and the amount of accidents but it was just him getting better and it returned to normal after time, your daughter might seem all better but might still be a little sick, you know how it is when you are sick you feel tired and lazy, my guess is that is all it is, just give it some time and patience
get consistent go back to what worked before and stick to it. this shouldnt have bee n let up on when she was sick. i made the same mistake with my son as well. make her go once an hour and make her stil there give her a book or special potty toy that she can only have on the potty. run water too.
I don't think you can push kids into potty training (not saying you are) but with my oldest (who was very stubborn about it) nothing would work (not even rewards) he just finally got it on his own just before the age of 3 (I know it's a lil late) however my second son had it down pat before he was 2! It just depends on the child, the parent, and finding something that works for the both of you. I wouldn't make a big deal about rewards (because it's something that must be done, not just a choice for a treat) but I also wouldn't get upset with her when she has a mistake, I probably wouldn't say anything at all about it.
Good Luck!
NO!! Don't use candy for a reward!! :) She's ok. All it's gonna take is seeing how proud of her you are when she is successful on the potty...peeing or pooping! Also, take her at the same time you are going and it can be a trip that you two do together. That will make it more fun and exciting for her because she's getting to do something with mommy! :) It will be your ';special time';. Let me know how she does, k?
ahh , every time I read about peoples baby's I want one. When I was training my Daughter years ago someone gave me a piece of advice that worked like a charm . Take her panties off and let her run around bare. The feeling that there is nothing there to absorb the pee made mine find another alternative, and that was the toilet . I hope this works for yours.
we tried running the water and it worked i would also try giving her a special gift like a token or something and when she uses the pottey so many times go to the store and buy her something it always worked with us so you should try it
So I've tried rewarding with an m%26amp;m. Initially it worked. But since halloween, she knows there's a big bowl of candy on the counter and just wants candy. I'm trying to incorperate that in, but she just goes and sits on the potty for 2 seconds, flies up and says all done and wants candy.
I've tried a potty doll. That almost works. I tell her that I think the doll has to go potty and she sreams no and runs to the potty rips her pants down and sits down. But she doesn't go.Can you give me advice for potty training problems?
My daughter did that as well. She was going great....then all of a sudden my husband watched her one day (he put a diaper on her) and it took another 3 months for me to get her to even SIT on the toilet again.
Continue to put her on the potty (I would be doing it more like once an hour though) and letting her sit there. Also...if she's peeing right afterwards...then you're not letting her sit there long enough. And be firm....when she tries to get up and hasn't gone...tell her simply that no she isn't done...and she can't have her reward unless she pees.
You also need to be watching her potty cues....my daughter ALWAYS scratches her private area right before peeing (I have NO idea why) BUT that's my cue to get her on the toilet. Sometimes it only takes one actual peeing episode to reinforce what you are trying to do.
And quit rewarding with candy. That can lead to bad ideas about food being a ';good thing'; later in life and you can have a child with issues regarding proper eating.
I would reward with something better....get a calendar and put stickers on it for every time she potties...etc when she completes a row...take her to the dollar store and let her pick out a toy.
My mom wanted me to make my daughter ';wash out'; her messed underwear herself...but I couldn't bring myself to do it.
BUT what really worked with her was to go to the mall and buy some pretty underwear....';Princess underwear'; we called it. I told her that she couldn't wear them if she peed in them....she had 4 accidents like that week....it was slow but really worked. She even got so worked up for ';ruining'; her pretty underwear that she cried and apologized profusely.
Now she can even wear a diaper all day long and still not pee or poop in it at all. And she always poop in the toilet too....I think that she's simply too prissy to let her butt smell like poop once she figured out that flushing was so much better. I thought that it was supposed to be the other way around. They pee fine but not ever want to poop. UGH!!
Good luck.Can you give me advice for potty training problems?
do not reward with candy or anything else besides praise, just take a deep breath and start over just keep trucking, my son was trained by a year in a half and at two he had a serious seizure and was hospitalized for about a week, the tubes and iv's made it difficult and whenever i went home to shower and come back the nurses had him in a diaper, after getting him home i was frustrated and the amount of accidents but it was just him getting better and it returned to normal after time, your daughter might seem all better but might still be a little sick, you know how it is when you are sick you feel tired and lazy, my guess is that is all it is, just give it some time and patience
get consistent go back to what worked before and stick to it. this shouldnt have bee n let up on when she was sick. i made the same mistake with my son as well. make her go once an hour and make her stil there give her a book or special potty toy that she can only have on the potty. run water too.
I don't think you can push kids into potty training (not saying you are) but with my oldest (who was very stubborn about it) nothing would work (not even rewards) he just finally got it on his own just before the age of 3 (I know it's a lil late) however my second son had it down pat before he was 2! It just depends on the child, the parent, and finding something that works for the both of you. I wouldn't make a big deal about rewards (because it's something that must be done, not just a choice for a treat) but I also wouldn't get upset with her when she has a mistake, I probably wouldn't say anything at all about it.
Good Luck!
NO!! Don't use candy for a reward!! :) She's ok. All it's gonna take is seeing how proud of her you are when she is successful on the potty...peeing or pooping! Also, take her at the same time you are going and it can be a trip that you two do together. That will make it more fun and exciting for her because she's getting to do something with mommy! :) It will be your ';special time';. Let me know how she does, k?
ahh , every time I read about peoples baby's I want one. When I was training my Daughter years ago someone gave me a piece of advice that worked like a charm . Take her panties off and let her run around bare. The feeling that there is nothing there to absorb the pee made mine find another alternative, and that was the toilet . I hope this works for yours.
we tried running the water and it worked i would also try giving her a special gift like a token or something and when she uses the pottey so many times go to the store and buy her something it always worked with us so you should try it
I'm having problems with my boyfriend..any advice?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and he's amazing. Lately he gets so cranky and takes everything I say in a bad way, and we've been fighting every day. I know he loves me, and I'm not gunna end things, I just need some advice about how to stop the fighting every day. Thanks!I'm having problems with my boyfriend..any advice?
most couples have fights its pretty normal but you have to tell him that you hate it when hes in a cranky mood and it makes you feel upset.
if he doesn't like something you said then ask him why and then tell him what you meant buy it but dint let him just have a fight with you because he misunderstood you xxxI'm having problems with my boyfriend..any advice?
when couples are together for years they get comfortable which other each other. you need to make him reliaze you are there because you wanna be there and not need too.
most couples have fights its pretty normal but you have to tell him that you hate it when hes in a cranky mood and it makes you feel upset.
if he doesn't like something you said then ask him why and then tell him what you meant buy it but dint let him just have a fight with you because he misunderstood you xxxI'm having problems with my boyfriend..any advice?
when couples are together for years they get comfortable which other each other. you need to make him reliaze you are there because you wanna be there and not need too.
Can anybody offer any advice for my marital problems?
I am going through a lot of issues right now and I really don’t have anybody to talk to. I tried counseling and didn’t feel that I was getting anything out of it. I guess I am really seeking the advice of others. Is there anybody out there who is willing to give me some meaningful advice?
Basically, I feel that I am going through a mid-life crisis. I am almost 31 and have been married for almost four years. We got married after four months of dating so we really didn’t get a chance to get to know and love each other the right way. I liked him and he liked me and that’s all that mattered at the time. We have been through some tough times. It started off with his porn addiction that he didn’t bother to disclose prior to marriage, then he cheated on me in 2007. I can honestly say that I am still not over that. He would like me to put that behind me but deep down inside he knows that it still eats me up inside.Can anybody offer any advice for my marital problems?
Let me start off with this simple but very deeply meaningful Words.
Matthew 19:6..Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
What's going on between you and your husband is not your problem to fix, it's God's problem if you ask Him to help you and fix it for you. If you're taking it as your problem and trying to solve it on ';your own term';, believe me, we will never get anywhere.
Marriage is a testing program that God had set for all of us. He is not asking us to deal with a bunch of people, but just one person.
After reading your statement, I noticed there are a lot of ';I';s.
I too have very strong desire in sex, but my wife is. In the beginning years, of course it was very hard for both of us. A lot of yelling, screaming, and sadness. But deep down in our hearts, we know one thing..divorce is not an option, period!
So, we try to work it out by talking openly and not putting anger in our way. Just calmly to discuss about our issues and acknowledged them. Yes, there was no resolution at time. Because we were trying to resolve it in our own term, mostly from my part.
But after giving deep thought, marriage doesn't build on ';sex';. It builds on ';love';. When you love each other so deeply, sex comes along without inviting or initiating it.
Another key is, honesty/trust. Once trust is broken, it's really hard to undo, but that doesn't mean it's not fixable. There's another remedy to it is..';forgiveness'; and it must be initiated from ourself. If we don't forgive the other, don't ever expect to be forgiven.
And I strongly agree with the others who answered here, please don't try to bring another life into this mess. And again, that's not with our own ability, it's only a blessing from God and He will give you in His own time.
So, just put everything in His hand and let Him deal with all your problems and ask for His comfort. You'll be amazed how things have changed. Just let Him be your guide, counselor, and comforter. Dr. Phil can't do darn about our situation, it's Him does it all.
You might want to consider taking a week vacation with your husband. Go somewhere that you've never been. That might bring some sparks and it's the best time to see your inner part.
Hope you both will find happiness and the true meaning of marriage and life. God bless you.Can anybody offer any advice for my marital problems?
Stop trying to conceive. Now is not the time to try for a baby.
can i answer this after 'Cliff's Notes' version hits the store?
Well talk to him. Have a heart to heart and tell him all that you are stating here. Counseling doesn't necessarily sink in until weeks, months, or even years afterward. I know a married couple that was in much of the same situation as you. He wanted to have more sex than she did. They both wanted to conceive a child and went to counseling. Both of them agreed at the time counseling did nothing for them at the time. A few months later she got pregnant and both of them are on the same page when it comes to sex and how often is enough. Not to mention much like what your dealing with in how he proceeds and initiate when he wants sex. All of that takes time and patience. Answers don't always come as quick as we like them too. Continue the counseling and continue to try. It takes work and time sometimes. That is the best advice I can give any one.
God Bless you and your husband and your marriage.
Keep trying you are the strong one when it comes to things but he is the head of the house. the thing you do you need to let go let your husband do them or they just willnot get done.
I know it hard but you can do it. God put you with this man because of his short coming you add value to your husband.
You will conieve when God see fit girl it get better.
you would be suppose of what i go though in my marriage.
I have been marriage for 8yrs and still have issue and they are worst than your Only take advise from marriage people.
do you have a church family!
GB
I would love to really help you. My heart goes out to you.
You should not try to conceive a baby right now. Your mind is over loaded. You need to destress yourself. Email me if you would like more help.
I doubt you are going through a mid-life crisis at 31 but you sound very sad. You should talk to your husband and let him know how you feel. Guys can't help fix things if they don't know they are broken. Good luck and there are happy days ahead of you but it will take work :)
You sound respossible. You can get a divorce and adopt a baby and raise it all on your own ya know! stop letting his needs and issues drain your being. You will not change him no matter how much you change. He has issues that he needs to figure out in his own. GO FOR IT! Break away from the person causing you pain,You have that control....
first, i know what you are going through because i was in the same situation, i wont give you any advice on here though, if you want, i will tell you my story and how i overcame it, just contact me!
just have a look in doctore phill site for ..the wright answer or if is that bed clear the thinks with ur husband,stay a frends but just move on.tell me honestly DO ULOVE HIM? OR U DONT WANT TO NO ONE ELSE TO HAVE HIM?? IF U CAN ANSWER THIS QUESTION U ARE DONE
Well untill you get your life together you need to put the thought of a baby on the back burner.You may need to find another job that is not mentally and emotionally tirering you out.A baby at this time wouldn't be in the cards for you at this time.You say I think I would be more interested if he’d just let it happen naturally.So your saying if he stops showing you he wants to have sex you will want to have sex.I think you both need to get a way and find the reason you got together in the first place.It sounds to me like you both need to sit down and decided if you both want to even be with one another any more. Email me if you need someone to talk to about this.But as I said you both need to get a way and find the reason you both got together in the first place. good luck and hope life gets better.
Hi, I am going through a very similar situation as you...and I feel like you do...like I have nobody to talk to! so please please please email me so we can talk and try and help each other out! please! princessyvette_2000@yahoo.com
Ok before you guys bring another life into your web of confusion maybe you guys need to decide if you can work it out or not. Him being an only child has nothing to do with him needing constant attention and reassurance. You guys got married without really knowing or understanding each other fully which doesn't automatically destine your relationship to fail but you do have a lot of work to do if you want to make it. You've been together 4 years so far so u must be doing something right. But the 1st key to success in ur marriage is gonna have to be communication. Stop holding in everything and tell him how you feel. Good Luck
This is not the right time to be thinking about a baby. It is quite clear that you and your husband are not compatible. Unless you are willing to change yourself in a major way, I would say that you are wasting your time in this marriage. You don't appear to have any respect at all for your husband (I don't mean this as a criticism). If you only dated him for 4 months and feel like you didn't really know him BEFORE you got married, the fact that you have been married 4 years means you really know him NOW. And it appears that you don't like what you now know. Before you get into the complication of children, this might be the time for serious self-evaluation and decisions regarding how and with whom you want to spend the rst of your life.
You can only control what you are doing and how you are reacting. It sounds to me like you lack self confidence, and that your husband is taking advantage of that fact. Before you can do anything else you need to learn that you are a valuble person, you have something to offer, and your opinions and interests matter.
Once you learn to accept and love yourself you will be more willing to see the relationship in a different light and make the right decision for you.
I would think very seriously about your needs, You sound very stressed and from this not too happy. Think about the relationship. Do you want a better life? Do you want to be happy? Do you still love him? It sounds like it is him that needs to change. Maybe help out some. If he won't do this I would think that maybe you are headed for more sadness and distress. Think about if this is what you want in life. You have only one life. It is you that chooses to be happy. You make yourself happy with ';your'; decisions. If you decide to ask him to change some and this helps and you become happier then good. If he doesnt change then you have to make another decision to be happy. It is your life. You CAN change it. You can be happy. Simply chart your course and decide.
I'm going to give you blunt honesty.
You need to do what you enjoy doing .....period.
You can not make your hsuband change!
You are the only one that can change yourself!
Married people make sacrifices for each other. Both people need to do some giving.
What has your husband done to help you forgive him for his affair? What have you done to help satisfy his high sexual drive?... in addition to his fantasy sexual drive so? Meet that need of his.
It is give and take. What does he do to help you take time to unwind when you get stressed out of your mind?
He needs to grow up and do some ';thinking';... marriage does not mean that suddenly he has a new mom but this one he can screw. lol He needs to ';think';.. but you also need to not yell at him when he does ';think'; and does it wrongly..lol
So many of us women set ourselves up for disaster. .. I'm not saying you did... I'm jsut saying don't be a door mat!!!
Love the man... nurture his needs .. .but it is okay foryou to be a ';person'; and not have the identity of jsut his ';wife';.
ps... Get this figured out before adding a baby into the mix
You were never in love with him. Yeah, you love him, but that's not the same thing. Hell, i love my dog. You made a bad choice/mistake. Now your trying to make the best of it. This is wrong and unfair. He's not going change, because that is who he is. You didn't know this prior to marriage. I would tell you to really think about divorce. Because your heading that way anyway. If your not fullfilling his sexual desires, he will cheat. I also think he is using you in some way. If he wants sex that bad, and know your under alot of stress, then he should try everything to alleviate the stress, so he can get what he wants. He's not doing that. That should tell you something. Either he's incapable of handling or he is comfortable with you doing all the work. Either way, its bad for you. A baby won't help, it will just stress you out more. If he won't step up to the plate now, what makes you think he will when the baby arrives. Cut your losses, and get out now. Tell him you love him, but your not in love. If he doesn't do something/anything about it, you know where you stand, and you know what you gotta do. I hope this helps, and good luck!
Whoa, whoa, whoa! I can sense the raw emotions in your words - they're really flowing out!
First of all, let me say that I really empathize. You are obviously dealing with a lot of pent-up frustration and stress, and I'm sure that it's wearing you down. You're right to be addressing these issues head on, and it's admirable that you're ready and willing to tackle them.
Then again, I'm afraid that a ';fix'; to all these problems isn't going to come from advice that a stranger is going to give you on Yahoo! Answers. You and your husband have some obvious trust and intimacy issues, and there seem be some financial concerns, some genetic challenges and some responsibility-sharing disputes, too.
When you mentioned some past counseling, I think you were definitely on the right track. There are a lot of things that seem to be going on here, but it's clear to see that many of those things are ';couple'; issues, and not just ';his'; or ';her'; issues. Any counseling that stands any hope of being successful will need to involve both of you - as active and willing participants. That doesn't mean that individual counseling, and the opportunity to spend time with the therapist alone won't be an important part of the process - it just means that joint counseling, where the two of you can talk and listen to each other (with the help of a counselor) will be a necessary part of the program.
All of these issues can be overcome, but you will have to learn how to rebuild trust, forgive the past, and focus on the future. Scars heal - eventually - but they leave a weakness that can easily be re-injured. Part of the process of getting over the old wounds is learning how to prevent them from being reopened.
While marrying early and quickly presents problems, these are certainly things that can be overcome. Obviously both parties have to be approaching the problems with the same dedication and motivation to see them resolved. One of the most difficult parts of any relationship is the ability to accommodate the physical and emotional needs of the ';other'; person. Frankly, we're programmed to think of ourselves first, though it's equally problematic when one person in a relationship allows him/herself to become the ';victim'; - always putting aside their needs and happiness to satisfy the other.
I would strongly advise that you and your husband investigate and pursue further JOINT counseling - if he refuses, then you should pursue it on your own, but accept that those circumstances would have you working on your own issues, and probably wouldn't be contributing much to promoting the long-term stability of your marriage. When you think about counseling, you have to keep in mind that counselors vary quite a bit in their ability, and even the best counselors may or may not relate to you (personally!) in a manner that works for you. If your time with a counselor leaves you frustrated and feeling that you're not talking about the things that you want to talk about - or that his/her advice isn't really ';working'; for you - don't think twice about trying another counselor. If they're truly devoted to helping other people and seeing them happy (as opposed to depositing fees in the bank), they'll understand, and even recommend other counselors in the area.
Best of luck to you - you really do need to talk these things out. But most of all, you need to develop some effective strategies that are going to alleviate the stress and the heartache that you're feeling right now. I hope this helped, if only a little.
WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU WANT TO BRING A BABY INTO THIS SITUATION?????
My goodness. You have an immature husband, and you want to complicate your lives with a baby?
The first advice I would give you, is don't. (Have a baby.)
You are with a guy who's addicted to porn, cheats on you, and can't handle paying the bills, or cooking a meal.
Is that who you want around you when your head is over the toilet while you have morning sickness, or who would probably be off with a ';girlfriend'; while you are in labor? Because once you start gaining weight with pregnancy, you won't be attractive to this guy. (Not all guys are like that, though).
I can hardly believe this question. You are already overworked at work, you're overworked at home, and neither of you are handling your life well, right now.
Please don't get pregnant and give a child this mommy and daddy.
I can't believe this question! %26gt;:K
At your age, you are still far from experiencing the mid-life crisis.The chronology of events as you have mentioned started when your husband cheated on you in 2007. And since then the stigma of what he has done is still not totally healed. You must make a conscious efforts in forgiving him of his wrongdoing and try to move on completely erasing from your mental processing unit that painful episode. The work related stress are normal but you must get over it once you are in the domain of your home. You must left in the office the chores that are to be done and never bring any work load in the house. The idea of having your first baby is by far the most exciting that you must focus and make it happen. If the frequency of your sexual activities are a little bit compromised for your busy schedule, you need to relax and remember that your priority is to have your first born. Your marriage is intact and it's working just fine. Never lose sights of your personal motivation in starting out this relationship. The satisfaction of experiencing the passion of sexual activity that made both of enjoyed to the fullest must always rekindled the ember of love that continue the journey of your marriage.I may be out of tune if I urge you to seek divine intervention in helping you for where you are right now. But try it....it works!
You made the choice to stay with this guy after he broke your heart and cheated on you all I can say to you that has helped me through some tough time in my own marriage is.
FIND GOD AND START PRAYING DAILY GET TO CHURCH OR EVEN FIND A PASTOR THAT WOULD BE WILLING TO PRAY FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND.
I have found in my over 8yrs of marriage that prayer and faith and just having hope as always brought me a great deal of strength and wisdom to work things out.
You way too young to be going through a mid-life crisis if anything I would say your having depression issues and should talk to your Dr. about medications possibilities.
I has been proved that woman remember and hold onto past conflicts longer then men where men want to carry-on and forget about the past woman love to dwell on it for a long time.
Needless to say if you do not trust your man anymore and do not feel like you could ever trust him again then the only alternative may be divorce. If this is the case do not blame yourself he was the one that destroyed the feelings you had for him when he cheated on you.
I hope this helps sometimes the most practical ideas are the ones that work.
God is the most powerful force in our lives use it to overcome this pain and sorrow and just maybe bring back the spark and joy in your marriage.
May God Bless You and Best Wishes.
Hi Dear, I think you have a lot on your plate. It will take time but since you are determined, i think you will succeed. You will have to have his cooperation. To start with, you will have to lighten your load. You are doing too much and since you worry, that is not good. Would I be right in assuming that you you have taken over some of the chores? You do not have to take care of the bills, cook, clean, and all the other house chores. Since that is too much, you will need his help. I hope you are not the type who takes on the job and then complain when it is overwhelming. You will have to have a open heart to heart talk so you 2 work out your roles to keep the marriage running smooth. When you do, PLEASE discuss the problems and not the individual (';I think we should share the work load at home'; works better than ';You should start doing some of the work at home';). Explain to him how you feel (';I am not a touchy feely person so I get uncomfortable when someone touches me every few mins';) A statment like this focuses on the problem and not him and he will be more likely to take note. You should also listen to him to know what he expects and thenyou two can work out something that will carry you thru this rough patch into greener pastures. This could take a couple of sessions before you start seeing things clearly. You will have ot work on his porn habit, not a good thing. It only distorts sex in marriage. And start thinking more of sex ( you will have to lighten your load to do that). If you need more amandas@email.com.
My dear friend, you solved half of your problem already and just didn't know it.
Worry has some detrimental effects on the human psyche. As Dr. Wayne Dyer put it, it is an exercise in futility and no amount of worry can ever help to change the past or the future. Given at your latest update to your question, sometimes you may be consumed so much of worry that you tend to forget how to live in the present and simply enjoy it.
Moreover, being tired and stressed all the time has the natural tendency to decrease one's sex drives or urges leading to impotency or frigidity to both sexes. Boredom from the same routine can also lead to depression though mistakenly and therefore loss of appetite for sex. So this would negate your feeling of mid-life crisis aside from the fact that you are still young. As far as I know, mid-life crisis usually manifests on individuals with age bracket of 40-50 years old and has a history of things that were never done at an early age, sort of ';what if'; questions that plagues their consciousness.
By the same token, feelings of guilt can also be a factor to your problem. Do you have feelings of guilt because of what your partner did to you? Or is it because you can't seem to satisfy him in a way that you cannot be somebody else that you're not? Sex is also a form of communication. One of the best communication to us talking, intellectual and superior form of animal because we can communicate exactly what we feel; things that cannot be spoken or things that would take forever to put into words. For instance, a 30 seconds touch can communicate 5 minutes of verbal communication.
Moreover, there is no such thing as ';loving each other the right way';. Marriage, or a relationship, needs a lot of working and sorting. But the biggest ingredient to its success is learning to adjust, accept and to live with one another's differences. Of course, if all things fail, then that is the time to let go.
Why don't you try to have a little space to reflect on the things that you really like? In this way, you can find what you really want and won't have a hard time accepting yourself for who you are. Just be yourself. I'm pretty sure your husband would appreciate that and he will understand if this is really how you react during your intimacy. Don't try to force things. Let it all come naturally.
Also, continue your counseling sessions together with your husband because that is where you can find the most sound advise of them all. No effort is ever wasted. So if you think during your first few sessions of your counseling doesn't seem to work just stick with the regimen because you will find later on that most of the things your counselor is teaching you is already catching on to your subconscious. Feel free to email me as soon as things get better (or not). Please do take care.
I'm sure this has already been said but I think you should take some you time and not worry about having a baby right now. I know that's hard to deal with because I'm going through the same thing right now, wanting to have a baby and still struggling with some things that happened between my hubby and I when we first got married. I've decided (just recently) that I need to get to where I need to be before we can have a baby. I grew up in a family of eleven children, so I REALLY want a baby, but there are just times when even though you want something, you need to take care of something else first. It sounds like you need to find a way to take some me time. I've found that it helps me to tell my hubby that if he wants something, then I really do need help all the time. He's really great about doing dishes and laundry now cause he always gets some lovin' after. Mostly because I don't feel quite so emotionally or physically drained. Don't bring a baby in right now, not because you couldn't handle it or because your hubby couldn't, but because it sounds like you should give yourself some time. Your hubby requires a lot of time and energy (mine does too...it was kinda funny reading your post, I could have sworn you took a peek into my life!) and you need to find one girlfriend that you have and go out with her once a month. Or go on a double date. I find that when I take time for me (and my hubby is starting to realize this!) then I feel more in the mood to help him be satisfied. I feel more loving, I feel more inclined to do stuff for him because I'm taken care of too. Just a suggestion. Good luck and email me if you really need somebody to talk to. I don't know that I give very good advice, but I'm always willing to listen!
Before you bring a baby in this world, you both need to iron out issues which are not going to be better, by sweeping them under the carpet.
1) First of all the affair is something that you need to deal before you even more on to other things. Do you have a support group or someone outside of your life you can talk too. Trust me been there and end up in divorce but not everyone is me. And infact I am seeking help to this day to try and deal with the issue so it does not effect my future.
2) Have you tried expressing this to your husband now you feel, communication is the key in any relationship.
3) Maybe book a weekend away just the two of you.
This way there is no houseclean or anyone to interrupt with
your time along.
Good luck
Basically, I feel that I am going through a mid-life crisis. I am almost 31 and have been married for almost four years. We got married after four months of dating so we really didn’t get a chance to get to know and love each other the right way. I liked him and he liked me and that’s all that mattered at the time. We have been through some tough times. It started off with his porn addiction that he didn’t bother to disclose prior to marriage, then he cheated on me in 2007. I can honestly say that I am still not over that. He would like me to put that behind me but deep down inside he knows that it still eats me up inside.Can anybody offer any advice for my marital problems?
Let me start off with this simple but very deeply meaningful Words.
Matthew 19:6..Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
What's going on between you and your husband is not your problem to fix, it's God's problem if you ask Him to help you and fix it for you. If you're taking it as your problem and trying to solve it on ';your own term';, believe me, we will never get anywhere.
Marriage is a testing program that God had set for all of us. He is not asking us to deal with a bunch of people, but just one person.
After reading your statement, I noticed there are a lot of ';I';s.
I too have very strong desire in sex, but my wife is. In the beginning years, of course it was very hard for both of us. A lot of yelling, screaming, and sadness. But deep down in our hearts, we know one thing..divorce is not an option, period!
So, we try to work it out by talking openly and not putting anger in our way. Just calmly to discuss about our issues and acknowledged them. Yes, there was no resolution at time. Because we were trying to resolve it in our own term, mostly from my part.
But after giving deep thought, marriage doesn't build on ';sex';. It builds on ';love';. When you love each other so deeply, sex comes along without inviting or initiating it.
Another key is, honesty/trust. Once trust is broken, it's really hard to undo, but that doesn't mean it's not fixable. There's another remedy to it is..';forgiveness'; and it must be initiated from ourself. If we don't forgive the other, don't ever expect to be forgiven.
And I strongly agree with the others who answered here, please don't try to bring another life into this mess. And again, that's not with our own ability, it's only a blessing from God and He will give you in His own time.
So, just put everything in His hand and let Him deal with all your problems and ask for His comfort. You'll be amazed how things have changed. Just let Him be your guide, counselor, and comforter. Dr. Phil can't do darn about our situation, it's Him does it all.
You might want to consider taking a week vacation with your husband. Go somewhere that you've never been. That might bring some sparks and it's the best time to see your inner part.
Hope you both will find happiness and the true meaning of marriage and life. God bless you.Can anybody offer any advice for my marital problems?
Stop trying to conceive. Now is not the time to try for a baby.
can i answer this after 'Cliff's Notes' version hits the store?
Well talk to him. Have a heart to heart and tell him all that you are stating here. Counseling doesn't necessarily sink in until weeks, months, or even years afterward. I know a married couple that was in much of the same situation as you. He wanted to have more sex than she did. They both wanted to conceive a child and went to counseling. Both of them agreed at the time counseling did nothing for them at the time. A few months later she got pregnant and both of them are on the same page when it comes to sex and how often is enough. Not to mention much like what your dealing with in how he proceeds and initiate when he wants sex. All of that takes time and patience. Answers don't always come as quick as we like them too. Continue the counseling and continue to try. It takes work and time sometimes. That is the best advice I can give any one.
God Bless you and your husband and your marriage.
Keep trying you are the strong one when it comes to things but he is the head of the house. the thing you do you need to let go let your husband do them or they just willnot get done.
I know it hard but you can do it. God put you with this man because of his short coming you add value to your husband.
You will conieve when God see fit girl it get better.
you would be suppose of what i go though in my marriage.
I have been marriage for 8yrs and still have issue and they are worst than your Only take advise from marriage people.
do you have a church family!
GB
I would love to really help you. My heart goes out to you.
You should not try to conceive a baby right now. Your mind is over loaded. You need to destress yourself. Email me if you would like more help.
I doubt you are going through a mid-life crisis at 31 but you sound very sad. You should talk to your husband and let him know how you feel. Guys can't help fix things if they don't know they are broken. Good luck and there are happy days ahead of you but it will take work :)
You sound respossible. You can get a divorce and adopt a baby and raise it all on your own ya know! stop letting his needs and issues drain your being. You will not change him no matter how much you change. He has issues that he needs to figure out in his own. GO FOR IT! Break away from the person causing you pain,You have that control....
first, i know what you are going through because i was in the same situation, i wont give you any advice on here though, if you want, i will tell you my story and how i overcame it, just contact me!
just have a look in doctore phill site for ..the wright answer or if is that bed clear the thinks with ur husband,stay a frends but just move on.tell me honestly DO ULOVE HIM? OR U DONT WANT TO NO ONE ELSE TO HAVE HIM?? IF U CAN ANSWER THIS QUESTION U ARE DONE
Well untill you get your life together you need to put the thought of a baby on the back burner.You may need to find another job that is not mentally and emotionally tirering you out.A baby at this time wouldn't be in the cards for you at this time.You say I think I would be more interested if he’d just let it happen naturally.So your saying if he stops showing you he wants to have sex you will want to have sex.I think you both need to get a way and find the reason you got together in the first place.It sounds to me like you both need to sit down and decided if you both want to even be with one another any more. Email me if you need someone to talk to about this.But as I said you both need to get a way and find the reason you both got together in the first place. good luck and hope life gets better.
Hi, I am going through a very similar situation as you...and I feel like you do...like I have nobody to talk to! so please please please email me so we can talk and try and help each other out! please! princessyvette_2000@yahoo.com
Ok before you guys bring another life into your web of confusion maybe you guys need to decide if you can work it out or not. Him being an only child has nothing to do with him needing constant attention and reassurance. You guys got married without really knowing or understanding each other fully which doesn't automatically destine your relationship to fail but you do have a lot of work to do if you want to make it. You've been together 4 years so far so u must be doing something right. But the 1st key to success in ur marriage is gonna have to be communication. Stop holding in everything and tell him how you feel. Good Luck
This is not the right time to be thinking about a baby. It is quite clear that you and your husband are not compatible. Unless you are willing to change yourself in a major way, I would say that you are wasting your time in this marriage. You don't appear to have any respect at all for your husband (I don't mean this as a criticism). If you only dated him for 4 months and feel like you didn't really know him BEFORE you got married, the fact that you have been married 4 years means you really know him NOW. And it appears that you don't like what you now know. Before you get into the complication of children, this might be the time for serious self-evaluation and decisions regarding how and with whom you want to spend the rst of your life.
You can only control what you are doing and how you are reacting. It sounds to me like you lack self confidence, and that your husband is taking advantage of that fact. Before you can do anything else you need to learn that you are a valuble person, you have something to offer, and your opinions and interests matter.
Once you learn to accept and love yourself you will be more willing to see the relationship in a different light and make the right decision for you.
I would think very seriously about your needs, You sound very stressed and from this not too happy. Think about the relationship. Do you want a better life? Do you want to be happy? Do you still love him? It sounds like it is him that needs to change. Maybe help out some. If he won't do this I would think that maybe you are headed for more sadness and distress. Think about if this is what you want in life. You have only one life. It is you that chooses to be happy. You make yourself happy with ';your'; decisions. If you decide to ask him to change some and this helps and you become happier then good. If he doesnt change then you have to make another decision to be happy. It is your life. You CAN change it. You can be happy. Simply chart your course and decide.
I'm going to give you blunt honesty.
You need to do what you enjoy doing .....period.
You can not make your hsuband change!
You are the only one that can change yourself!
Married people make sacrifices for each other. Both people need to do some giving.
What has your husband done to help you forgive him for his affair? What have you done to help satisfy his high sexual drive?... in addition to his fantasy sexual drive so? Meet that need of his.
It is give and take. What does he do to help you take time to unwind when you get stressed out of your mind?
He needs to grow up and do some ';thinking';... marriage does not mean that suddenly he has a new mom but this one he can screw. lol He needs to ';think';.. but you also need to not yell at him when he does ';think'; and does it wrongly..lol
So many of us women set ourselves up for disaster. .. I'm not saying you did... I'm jsut saying don't be a door mat!!!
Love the man... nurture his needs .. .but it is okay foryou to be a ';person'; and not have the identity of jsut his ';wife';.
ps... Get this figured out before adding a baby into the mix
You were never in love with him. Yeah, you love him, but that's not the same thing. Hell, i love my dog. You made a bad choice/mistake. Now your trying to make the best of it. This is wrong and unfair. He's not going change, because that is who he is. You didn't know this prior to marriage. I would tell you to really think about divorce. Because your heading that way anyway. If your not fullfilling his sexual desires, he will cheat. I also think he is using you in some way. If he wants sex that bad, and know your under alot of stress, then he should try everything to alleviate the stress, so he can get what he wants. He's not doing that. That should tell you something. Either he's incapable of handling or he is comfortable with you doing all the work. Either way, its bad for you. A baby won't help, it will just stress you out more. If he won't step up to the plate now, what makes you think he will when the baby arrives. Cut your losses, and get out now. Tell him you love him, but your not in love. If he doesn't do something/anything about it, you know where you stand, and you know what you gotta do. I hope this helps, and good luck!
Whoa, whoa, whoa! I can sense the raw emotions in your words - they're really flowing out!
First of all, let me say that I really empathize. You are obviously dealing with a lot of pent-up frustration and stress, and I'm sure that it's wearing you down. You're right to be addressing these issues head on, and it's admirable that you're ready and willing to tackle them.
Then again, I'm afraid that a ';fix'; to all these problems isn't going to come from advice that a stranger is going to give you on Yahoo! Answers. You and your husband have some obvious trust and intimacy issues, and there seem be some financial concerns, some genetic challenges and some responsibility-sharing disputes, too.
When you mentioned some past counseling, I think you were definitely on the right track. There are a lot of things that seem to be going on here, but it's clear to see that many of those things are ';couple'; issues, and not just ';his'; or ';her'; issues. Any counseling that stands any hope of being successful will need to involve both of you - as active and willing participants. That doesn't mean that individual counseling, and the opportunity to spend time with the therapist alone won't be an important part of the process - it just means that joint counseling, where the two of you can talk and listen to each other (with the help of a counselor) will be a necessary part of the program.
All of these issues can be overcome, but you will have to learn how to rebuild trust, forgive the past, and focus on the future. Scars heal - eventually - but they leave a weakness that can easily be re-injured. Part of the process of getting over the old wounds is learning how to prevent them from being reopened.
While marrying early and quickly presents problems, these are certainly things that can be overcome. Obviously both parties have to be approaching the problems with the same dedication and motivation to see them resolved. One of the most difficult parts of any relationship is the ability to accommodate the physical and emotional needs of the ';other'; person. Frankly, we're programmed to think of ourselves first, though it's equally problematic when one person in a relationship allows him/herself to become the ';victim'; - always putting aside their needs and happiness to satisfy the other.
I would strongly advise that you and your husband investigate and pursue further JOINT counseling - if he refuses, then you should pursue it on your own, but accept that those circumstances would have you working on your own issues, and probably wouldn't be contributing much to promoting the long-term stability of your marriage. When you think about counseling, you have to keep in mind that counselors vary quite a bit in their ability, and even the best counselors may or may not relate to you (personally!) in a manner that works for you. If your time with a counselor leaves you frustrated and feeling that you're not talking about the things that you want to talk about - or that his/her advice isn't really ';working'; for you - don't think twice about trying another counselor. If they're truly devoted to helping other people and seeing them happy (as opposed to depositing fees in the bank), they'll understand, and even recommend other counselors in the area.
Best of luck to you - you really do need to talk these things out. But most of all, you need to develop some effective strategies that are going to alleviate the stress and the heartache that you're feeling right now. I hope this helped, if only a little.
WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU WANT TO BRING A BABY INTO THIS SITUATION?????
My goodness. You have an immature husband, and you want to complicate your lives with a baby?
The first advice I would give you, is don't. (Have a baby.)
You are with a guy who's addicted to porn, cheats on you, and can't handle paying the bills, or cooking a meal.
Is that who you want around you when your head is over the toilet while you have morning sickness, or who would probably be off with a ';girlfriend'; while you are in labor? Because once you start gaining weight with pregnancy, you won't be attractive to this guy. (Not all guys are like that, though).
I can hardly believe this question. You are already overworked at work, you're overworked at home, and neither of you are handling your life well, right now.
Please don't get pregnant and give a child this mommy and daddy.
I can't believe this question! %26gt;:K
At your age, you are still far from experiencing the mid-life crisis.The chronology of events as you have mentioned started when your husband cheated on you in 2007. And since then the stigma of what he has done is still not totally healed. You must make a conscious efforts in forgiving him of his wrongdoing and try to move on completely erasing from your mental processing unit that painful episode. The work related stress are normal but you must get over it once you are in the domain of your home. You must left in the office the chores that are to be done and never bring any work load in the house. The idea of having your first baby is by far the most exciting that you must focus and make it happen. If the frequency of your sexual activities are a little bit compromised for your busy schedule, you need to relax and remember that your priority is to have your first born. Your marriage is intact and it's working just fine. Never lose sights of your personal motivation in starting out this relationship. The satisfaction of experiencing the passion of sexual activity that made both of enjoyed to the fullest must always rekindled the ember of love that continue the journey of your marriage.I may be out of tune if I urge you to seek divine intervention in helping you for where you are right now. But try it....it works!
You made the choice to stay with this guy after he broke your heart and cheated on you all I can say to you that has helped me through some tough time in my own marriage is.
FIND GOD AND START PRAYING DAILY GET TO CHURCH OR EVEN FIND A PASTOR THAT WOULD BE WILLING TO PRAY FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND.
I have found in my over 8yrs of marriage that prayer and faith and just having hope as always brought me a great deal of strength and wisdom to work things out.
You way too young to be going through a mid-life crisis if anything I would say your having depression issues and should talk to your Dr. about medications possibilities.
I has been proved that woman remember and hold onto past conflicts longer then men where men want to carry-on and forget about the past woman love to dwell on it for a long time.
Needless to say if you do not trust your man anymore and do not feel like you could ever trust him again then the only alternative may be divorce. If this is the case do not blame yourself he was the one that destroyed the feelings you had for him when he cheated on you.
I hope this helps sometimes the most practical ideas are the ones that work.
God is the most powerful force in our lives use it to overcome this pain and sorrow and just maybe bring back the spark and joy in your marriage.
May God Bless You and Best Wishes.
Hi Dear, I think you have a lot on your plate. It will take time but since you are determined, i think you will succeed. You will have to have his cooperation. To start with, you will have to lighten your load. You are doing too much and since you worry, that is not good. Would I be right in assuming that you you have taken over some of the chores? You do not have to take care of the bills, cook, clean, and all the other house chores. Since that is too much, you will need his help. I hope you are not the type who takes on the job and then complain when it is overwhelming. You will have to have a open heart to heart talk so you 2 work out your roles to keep the marriage running smooth. When you do, PLEASE discuss the problems and not the individual (';I think we should share the work load at home'; works better than ';You should start doing some of the work at home';). Explain to him how you feel (';I am not a touchy feely person so I get uncomfortable when someone touches me every few mins';) A statment like this focuses on the problem and not him and he will be more likely to take note. You should also listen to him to know what he expects and thenyou two can work out something that will carry you thru this rough patch into greener pastures. This could take a couple of sessions before you start seeing things clearly. You will have ot work on his porn habit, not a good thing. It only distorts sex in marriage. And start thinking more of sex ( you will have to lighten your load to do that). If you need more amandas@email.com.
My dear friend, you solved half of your problem already and just didn't know it.
Worry has some detrimental effects on the human psyche. As Dr. Wayne Dyer put it, it is an exercise in futility and no amount of worry can ever help to change the past or the future. Given at your latest update to your question, sometimes you may be consumed so much of worry that you tend to forget how to live in the present and simply enjoy it.
Moreover, being tired and stressed all the time has the natural tendency to decrease one's sex drives or urges leading to impotency or frigidity to both sexes. Boredom from the same routine can also lead to depression though mistakenly and therefore loss of appetite for sex. So this would negate your feeling of mid-life crisis aside from the fact that you are still young. As far as I know, mid-life crisis usually manifests on individuals with age bracket of 40-50 years old and has a history of things that were never done at an early age, sort of ';what if'; questions that plagues their consciousness.
By the same token, feelings of guilt can also be a factor to your problem. Do you have feelings of guilt because of what your partner did to you? Or is it because you can't seem to satisfy him in a way that you cannot be somebody else that you're not? Sex is also a form of communication. One of the best communication to us talking, intellectual and superior form of animal because we can communicate exactly what we feel; things that cannot be spoken or things that would take forever to put into words. For instance, a 30 seconds touch can communicate 5 minutes of verbal communication.
Moreover, there is no such thing as ';loving each other the right way';. Marriage, or a relationship, needs a lot of working and sorting. But the biggest ingredient to its success is learning to adjust, accept and to live with one another's differences. Of course, if all things fail, then that is the time to let go.
Why don't you try to have a little space to reflect on the things that you really like? In this way, you can find what you really want and won't have a hard time accepting yourself for who you are. Just be yourself. I'm pretty sure your husband would appreciate that and he will understand if this is really how you react during your intimacy. Don't try to force things. Let it all come naturally.
Also, continue your counseling sessions together with your husband because that is where you can find the most sound advise of them all. No effort is ever wasted. So if you think during your first few sessions of your counseling doesn't seem to work just stick with the regimen because you will find later on that most of the things your counselor is teaching you is already catching on to your subconscious. Feel free to email me as soon as things get better (or not). Please do take care.
I'm sure this has already been said but I think you should take some you time and not worry about having a baby right now. I know that's hard to deal with because I'm going through the same thing right now, wanting to have a baby and still struggling with some things that happened between my hubby and I when we first got married. I've decided (just recently) that I need to get to where I need to be before we can have a baby. I grew up in a family of eleven children, so I REALLY want a baby, but there are just times when even though you want something, you need to take care of something else first. It sounds like you need to find a way to take some me time. I've found that it helps me to tell my hubby that if he wants something, then I really do need help all the time. He's really great about doing dishes and laundry now cause he always gets some lovin' after. Mostly because I don't feel quite so emotionally or physically drained. Don't bring a baby in right now, not because you couldn't handle it or because your hubby couldn't, but because it sounds like you should give yourself some time. Your hubby requires a lot of time and energy (mine does too...it was kinda funny reading your post, I could have sworn you took a peek into my life!) and you need to find one girlfriend that you have and go out with her once a month. Or go on a double date. I find that when I take time for me (and my hubby is starting to realize this!) then I feel more in the mood to help him be satisfied. I feel more loving, I feel more inclined to do stuff for him because I'm taken care of too. Just a suggestion. Good luck and email me if you really need somebody to talk to. I don't know that I give very good advice, but I'm always willing to listen!
Before you bring a baby in this world, you both need to iron out issues which are not going to be better, by sweeping them under the carpet.
1) First of all the affair is something that you need to deal before you even more on to other things. Do you have a support group or someone outside of your life you can talk too. Trust me been there and end up in divorce but not everyone is me. And infact I am seeking help to this day to try and deal with the issue so it does not effect my future.
2) Have you tried expressing this to your husband now you feel, communication is the key in any relationship.
3) Maybe book a weekend away just the two of you.
This way there is no houseclean or anyone to interrupt with
your time along.
Good luck
I need some employment advice (UK) im having problems with my supervisor?
basically about 3 weeks ago i was given some overtime shifts but today my sup told me now her friend is working there (she started 2 weeks ago) i no longer have these shifts as her friend is going to do them. is she allowed to do that !!! do i have the right to take this to my h.o.d and make a formal complaint that she has picked on me and taken my overtime away from me. im so annoyed i feel i cant let this go. i work real hard but since her friend started she has picked holes in everything i do and moaned at me and even swore at me last week..... someone please advise meI need some employment advice (UK) im having problems with my supervisor?
You are between the rock and the hard post.
I have a hunch that you should be networking for another position. If you are working in a large organization, try to move to another Department - working for a different Supervisor. Otherwise - look for a job in another Company.
You are between the rock and the hard post.
I have a hunch that you should be networking for another position. If you are working in a large organization, try to move to another Department - working for a different Supervisor. Otherwise - look for a job in another Company.
When switch pc on screen goes fuzzie and no pics please advice on problem and how to resolved prob?
Sounds like your video card overheated at one point and is now dead, try a different video card in your system (if you have one), if the VC is onboard then youll need a new motherboard. Also, try a different monitor too just to rule out the monitor from being bad. Good Luckmaybelline foundation
Im having friend problems, i need some advice!?
ok, my best friend stoped talking to me reasently and i dont know what to do, ive kinda been stuck up about it , but i still want to be friends. what should i do?or how should i talk to him? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!Im having friend problems, i need some advice!?
be really nice 2 him like get him a gift or invite him in ur house
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be really nice 2 him like get him a gift or invite him in ur house
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Single father needs advice on work related problems?
I am an emergency responder for my job. This requires me to be on call 24/7. I share custody of my son with my ex. Recently I have missed 2 after hours calls due to the fact that I had my son with me, and no babysitter was available. Even if I had a babysitter available, it would be nearly impossible to get the babysitter here in time for me to respond out to a call. I have to be able to respond to any call within 30 mins. One of the officers at my work has repremanded me in a way that is completely unfair, and unjust. I dont have family near me, or friends that I would be able to call at 2 or 3 in the morning to race over to my place to watch my son, and still have enough time to respond to the call. Somone had mentioned to me that there is some sort of law out there that states that this type of situation is work related discrimination. If this is true, can anyone point me in the right direction of attaining some type of copy of this law.Single father needs advice on work related problems?
I am not sure about a definitive law that would make your circumstance a ';discrimination'; case. However, maybe you may want to look into having a full time nanny to watch your kids when they stay with you incase you do have to run out in the middle of the night.
If that is not an option, you could take the route of contacting the higher ups in your company, or even an internal affairs department to file your complaint of discrimination. But unless you are a contracted employee, most positions are at-will. Which pretty much means, if your employer (or yourself) feels you cannot commit to the job needed then they can fire you, just as easily as you can quit.Single father needs advice on work related problems?
I really don't think you have a leg to stand on. See if you can find your employee agreement and figure out what exactly you agreed to. If you agreed to be on-call 24/7 and are no longer able to.. that's your issue, not your companies. You should have discussed with your boss BEFORE missing 2 calls.
Happens to single mom's all the time. It doesn't make it right though. You accepted a job that has you on call, it's your responsibility to make sure you have child care available. My ex tells me I'm a lazy parent because I work and don't stay home with the kids even though he doesn't exercise his summer or spring break visitations he accuses me of dumping them on daycare. I think it's great that you get your son even though it's not convenient for you.
I am not sure about a definitive law that would make your circumstance a ';discrimination'; case. However, maybe you may want to look into having a full time nanny to watch your kids when they stay with you incase you do have to run out in the middle of the night.
If that is not an option, you could take the route of contacting the higher ups in your company, or even an internal affairs department to file your complaint of discrimination. But unless you are a contracted employee, most positions are at-will. Which pretty much means, if your employer (or yourself) feels you cannot commit to the job needed then they can fire you, just as easily as you can quit.Single father needs advice on work related problems?
I really don't think you have a leg to stand on. See if you can find your employee agreement and figure out what exactly you agreed to. If you agreed to be on-call 24/7 and are no longer able to.. that's your issue, not your companies. You should have discussed with your boss BEFORE missing 2 calls.
Happens to single mom's all the time. It doesn't make it right though. You accepted a job that has you on call, it's your responsibility to make sure you have child care available. My ex tells me I'm a lazy parent because I work and don't stay home with the kids even though he doesn't exercise his summer or spring break visitations he accuses me of dumping them on daycare. I think it's great that you get your son even though it's not convenient for you.
I need Professional advice about my gynecology problems.?
Okay so for the past five months I have been having vaginal burning, itching, discharge, and odor. Back in October I was diagnosed with chlamydia, I took the meds but still was having problems. In December I got tested again and it said I still have chlamydia and something called BV (bacterial vaginosis). I was treated for both. Although my problems continued. In January I went back to the doctor to get tested, and she told me there was nothing wrong, even though I was still experiencing these conditions. At the beginning of this month I went to a different doctor and he told me I had BV still. But just recently I have been experiencing incredibly painful abdomen cramps, even though I'm no where close to being on my period. I've finished the medication for the BV again but still have the conditions. Somebody please help! I'm going back to the doctor soon and would like to know the possibilities of what I may have.I need Professional advice about my gynecology problems.?
It may be PID which is pelvic inflammatory disease. Definitely see your MD. You may need a different antibiotic to treat the bacteria.
It may be PID which is pelvic inflammatory disease. Definitely see your MD. You may need a different antibiotic to treat the bacteria.
I need some advice about some court problems I'm having.?
My sons grandmother took custody from me. I am a 23 year old female now stable and have my own home. We are in the process of going through a custody battle. Well I was made to pay child support each week. I have my son almost 5 days out of the week. Should I still have to pay child support? If so will they lower it. I have court tomorrow. Its looking good. I know I am getting him back. As far as support goes. I have been paying what I can. I got served with papers yesterday yet again for support because I was late on 3 payments and didn't pay the full amount on another one. I give what I can. The last time we went to court for this the judge said if I miss 3 consecutive payments that I could and probably will go to jail for 3-6 months. I didn't miss any payments I was just late mailing them out. So now I have to go back to court and I am deathly afraid he is going to put me in jail. I also have another 8 month old son at home. I mean I can see if I wasn't paying at all but I give what I can. Anyways, yesterday when I got served I owed a total of $1100 is support. I had to go and borrow $900 from a friend in hopes that it will help me when I go to court Because than I will only owe $233. Tomorrow I have court for custody first than support right after. If I get my son back tomorrow do you think the judge will still throw me in jail, even tho I have my son back and I owe barely any support? I need some advice. I mean I am doing everything in my power to do what I can. Some one help. I live in new york state by the way.I need some advice about some court problems I'm having.?
If you get your son back, you won't go to jail. If he sends you to jail, what is he going to do, send the kids to your house to fend for themselves? No the problem you have is that he might not give you custody. If you aren't keeping up with the payments, your mom? your mom-in-law? whatever, the grandmother, can argue because you aren't making those payments you aren't responsible enough to have full custody. Prove you can't pay that much. Make up a budget, track your expenses, and show the judge you are sticking to it. Find areas to cut back, like bagging your lunch for work and limiting discretionary purchases.
You should really have a lawyer for this, and your local bar association can refer you to legal aid or women's organizations that will provide a lawyer for free, if there is one.I need some advice about some court problems I'm having.?
Don't listen to that jerk. Since you are making an effort they won't throw you in jail but you should put more of an effort into getting your payment out in time. Don't worry so much just be the best mother you can be and it will all be fine.
Just wondering what kind of person borrows $900 to pay child support instead of borrowing $900 to hire a lawyer... and what kind of person posts on Yahoo seeking legal advice. Wow! unbelievable.
If you get your son back, you won't go to jail. If he sends you to jail, what is he going to do, send the kids to your house to fend for themselves? No the problem you have is that he might not give you custody. If you aren't keeping up with the payments, your mom? your mom-in-law? whatever, the grandmother, can argue because you aren't making those payments you aren't responsible enough to have full custody. Prove you can't pay that much. Make up a budget, track your expenses, and show the judge you are sticking to it. Find areas to cut back, like bagging your lunch for work and limiting discretionary purchases.
You should really have a lawyer for this, and your local bar association can refer you to legal aid or women's organizations that will provide a lawyer for free, if there is one.I need some advice about some court problems I'm having.?
Don't listen to that jerk. Since you are making an effort they won't throw you in jail but you should put more of an effort into getting your payment out in time. Don't worry so much just be the best mother you can be and it will all be fine.
Just wondering what kind of person borrows $900 to pay child support instead of borrowing $900 to hire a lawyer... and what kind of person posts on Yahoo seeking legal advice. Wow! unbelievable.
I need some advice on some personal problems...?
A couple years back i had a massive argument with a girl i once new. I apparently had done something that really annoyed her but she had never told me what it was that annoyed her.. so i had un-knowingly continued... i had heard word from a friend that she had been constantly bitching about me behind my back... n i cracked it at her for it... she had accused me of being selfish having always wanted to talk about myself (despite having always asked her if she had anything on her mind) and was continually harassing her - sending her msg after msg (trying to talk to her to figure out wat bothering her)... after this argument, i pulled away from the group... but what happened has always haunted me ever since...
I need some advice on how to deal with this feeling... i have been going out with my girlfriend now for about a month now n absolutley love her to death! but cant seem to shake the feeling of what had happened between me and the other girl...I need some advice on some personal problems...?
i say contact her and confront her about it. Closure is healthyI need some advice on some personal problems...?
my opinion is that just leave the past behind. you already found another beautiful girl that really loves you and you love her back!!
I need some advice on how to deal with this feeling... i have been going out with my girlfriend now for about a month now n absolutley love her to death! but cant seem to shake the feeling of what had happened between me and the other girl...I need some advice on some personal problems...?
i say contact her and confront her about it. Closure is healthyI need some advice on some personal problems...?
my opinion is that just leave the past behind. you already found another beautiful girl that really loves you and you love her back!!
I need some advice on some boy problems.?
So I like this guy that I met about 2 weeks ago.
After the first day we met, I went home and he had sent me a myspace comment saying that he wish he could have met me sooner and he hopes to see more of me.
Then I see him again at a party and we make vague plans to have a movie night and to go dancing.
I knew he wanted to get my phone number but it would have been awkward with all the people listening to our conversation.
I go home and MySpace him my number and he says that he was planning on asking for it... but he doesn't give me his number.
He hasn't texted or called. He only messages me back if I am online at the same time he is.
He's at the beach and I'm just a little frustrated that I haven't had any contact with him.
Does he like me, or does he just want to be friends?
What do I do?I need some advice on some boy problems.?
Okay, kids, repeat after me:
If they don't call or write, they aren't interested.
I will not obsess about people who don't call or write.
I will realize I am worth someone picking up the damn phone to call.
If they don't, I will move on.
Now, repeat.I need some advice on some boy problems.?
The best answer that you can get for this particular question would come from the person that you are asking it about. Go straight to the source and ask him straight up if he wants a relationship or does he just want to be your friend.
Well, its hard to tell at this point. next time you guys are online at the same time, ask for his number so u can hang out. hang out a couple times as friends first, then talk to him about your confusion! Do NOT worry, you will be fine! Everything will work out great!
Good luck!
Aqua.
leave him alone, if he wants to see you believe me he will make it happen. dont waste your time.
DO NOT ASK HIM FOR HIS NUMBER, like the other girl said. He has yours. if he wants you he will make it happen.
sounds like he likes you, but he doesnt know how to express his feelings.he could possibly be nervous.
Sorry, but uhm that just sounds creppy.
Ask him for his number and start a conversation... see where it goes :)
Just wait it out. If he does like you he will message you or something. Dont act desperate. Play hard to get guys always like that.
Good luck!
Hes wants to be friends only trust me im a guy and i know what that means.... because if u guys liked other girl he wouldh be like o i love u o ur sooo cute o i adore u
go straight to jail
do not pass go
do not collect $200
ummm i think he just wants to be friends. why dont u try asking him? tell him how u feel. u never know if u never trymaybelline foundation
After the first day we met, I went home and he had sent me a myspace comment saying that he wish he could have met me sooner and he hopes to see more of me.
Then I see him again at a party and we make vague plans to have a movie night and to go dancing.
I knew he wanted to get my phone number but it would have been awkward with all the people listening to our conversation.
I go home and MySpace him my number and he says that he was planning on asking for it... but he doesn't give me his number.
He hasn't texted or called. He only messages me back if I am online at the same time he is.
He's at the beach and I'm just a little frustrated that I haven't had any contact with him.
Does he like me, or does he just want to be friends?
What do I do?I need some advice on some boy problems.?
Okay, kids, repeat after me:
If they don't call or write, they aren't interested.
I will not obsess about people who don't call or write.
I will realize I am worth someone picking up the damn phone to call.
If they don't, I will move on.
Now, repeat.I need some advice on some boy problems.?
The best answer that you can get for this particular question would come from the person that you are asking it about. Go straight to the source and ask him straight up if he wants a relationship or does he just want to be your friend.
Well, its hard to tell at this point. next time you guys are online at the same time, ask for his number so u can hang out. hang out a couple times as friends first, then talk to him about your confusion! Do NOT worry, you will be fine! Everything will work out great!
Good luck!
Aqua.
leave him alone, if he wants to see you believe me he will make it happen. dont waste your time.
DO NOT ASK HIM FOR HIS NUMBER, like the other girl said. He has yours. if he wants you he will make it happen.
sounds like he likes you, but he doesnt know how to express his feelings.he could possibly be nervous.
Sorry, but uhm that just sounds creppy.
Ask him for his number and start a conversation... see where it goes :)
Just wait it out. If he does like you he will message you or something. Dont act desperate. Play hard to get guys always like that.
Good luck!
Hes wants to be friends only trust me im a guy and i know what that means.... because if u guys liked other girl he wouldh be like o i love u o ur sooo cute o i adore u
go straight to jail
do not pass go
do not collect $200
ummm i think he just wants to be friends. why dont u try asking him? tell him how u feel. u never know if u never try
Need Your Help! Advice is welcomed! Boy problems...?
There's this boy I like at my school...
We've been talking for about 5 months now and still aren't ';official';.
We're both single, but he's the only one that talks to other people.
He is talking to an ex friend of mine (We stopped talking because she turned brand new after she found out we were talking to the same boy) and they've been talking for about three months. We have taken things to the next level (if you know what I mean), but we're still are not a couple. The other girl went around telling people that she was pregnant, but she was lying through her teeth. Whenever I'm near her, she feels the need to start talking about what they have ';supposedly'; done together. This makes me want to smack the taste out of her mouth and tell her to grow up, but I keep my cool...
Last night, I texted him and told him that I loved him and asked me why and I told him. After I told him, he stopped texting me and I haven't spoken to him since. I have been trying to get him to see that I would a good girlfriend for the past five months but he still hasn't seen the light. What should I do about him and that other girl, because seriously, I'm starting to get sick of both of them......Need Your Help! Advice is welcomed! Boy problems...?
I think that this guy wont even like the girl if shes going around saying they did whatever and he got her pregnant. and eventually she'll get caught because she'll never get any bigger or anything like that. And if he doesnt accept you or even give you a chance then he's obviously not worth your time. if its meant to be, it'll happen.Need Your Help! Advice is welcomed! Boy problems...?
Sounds like you need to give up on him and ignore them both. He doesn't want to be exclusive; sounds like he was happy to have a harem to play with, and dropped you like a rock once he found that you wanted more. You might be a good girlfriend, but that's not what he's looking for, sorry. You can't change him to suddenly want to be a straight player; he is who he is and you have to either accept him as he is, or find someone who better matches what you want in a relationship.
ok if ur smart do this
smack that sluts face and tell her to grow up that she aint a baby any more and that she aint pregnant then go up to the boy tell him if he loves u and if he denies it say ok and just pretend like nothing happened between u two like if u were just friends and if he wants to be ur boyfriend say no because he had his chance and blew it (asshole) so any way if u cant smak that sluts face then do the boy part first then if she says something like ';oh this is what i did with him '; u should tell her ';how much did he pay u'; or what a ****** slut
and just walk away if she bothers u ignore her and act like she is not there and shell get tired and leave u alone
hoped i helped
p.s i would rather slap her and cuz at her lol
We've been talking for about 5 months now and still aren't ';official';.
We're both single, but he's the only one that talks to other people.
He is talking to an ex friend of mine (We stopped talking because she turned brand new after she found out we were talking to the same boy) and they've been talking for about three months. We have taken things to the next level (if you know what I mean), but we're still are not a couple. The other girl went around telling people that she was pregnant, but she was lying through her teeth. Whenever I'm near her, she feels the need to start talking about what they have ';supposedly'; done together. This makes me want to smack the taste out of her mouth and tell her to grow up, but I keep my cool...
Last night, I texted him and told him that I loved him and asked me why and I told him. After I told him, he stopped texting me and I haven't spoken to him since. I have been trying to get him to see that I would a good girlfriend for the past five months but he still hasn't seen the light. What should I do about him and that other girl, because seriously, I'm starting to get sick of both of them......Need Your Help! Advice is welcomed! Boy problems...?
I think that this guy wont even like the girl if shes going around saying they did whatever and he got her pregnant. and eventually she'll get caught because she'll never get any bigger or anything like that. And if he doesnt accept you or even give you a chance then he's obviously not worth your time. if its meant to be, it'll happen.Need Your Help! Advice is welcomed! Boy problems...?
Sounds like you need to give up on him and ignore them both. He doesn't want to be exclusive; sounds like he was happy to have a harem to play with, and dropped you like a rock once he found that you wanted more. You might be a good girlfriend, but that's not what he's looking for, sorry. You can't change him to suddenly want to be a straight player; he is who he is and you have to either accept him as he is, or find someone who better matches what you want in a relationship.
ok if ur smart do this
smack that sluts face and tell her to grow up that she aint a baby any more and that she aint pregnant then go up to the boy tell him if he loves u and if he denies it say ok and just pretend like nothing happened between u two like if u were just friends and if he wants to be ur boyfriend say no because he had his chance and blew it (asshole) so any way if u cant smak that sluts face then do the boy part first then if she says something like ';oh this is what i did with him '; u should tell her ';how much did he pay u'; or what a ****** slut
and just walk away if she bothers u ignore her and act like she is not there and shell get tired and leave u alone
hoped i helped
p.s i would rather slap her and cuz at her lol
Please giveme some advice! having terable dating problems. PLEASE HELP!!!?
Im 16, and all i have is problems when it comes to dating. girls always make guys out to be the evil ones. but my world is completely up side down. i have been in a few relationships. every girl has dumped me. all but 1 have cheated on me...at least i don't think she did. i just don't understand. i never lie to them. i Always give them things. the last thing im looking for is sex. and i have always been raised with pure respect especially for girls. i would risk my life for almost any girl worth saving. and about the only ones that aren't are criminals. so just picture the protection the president gets. that's the protection any girl i know gets. especially my girl friends. so what's the deal? and they all seem so nice at first then they take what you give them and head for the hills. like i bought one of my girl friends a $100 necklace for her birthday. made with all the real stuff and like 2 days later she dumped me. same thing happened with older relationship. sept she stuck around for a week or so. so my question is: Whats the problem?
And my other problem is, now that this has happened so many times. i am scared of a relationship, i want to be in one sooooo bad cus there is a girl i really like.and we have ALOT in common. but i just don't have he guts to ask any more. I've been hert to much.....So what do i do? any help appreciated deeplyPlease giveme some advice! having terable dating problems. PLEASE HELP!!!?
Women sometimes suck at life.
A couple tips for the future.... if you buy her jewelry, buy it at Target. Take things slower in the future. Be sure to spend a lot of time talking. Continue to treat them with respect. If someone cheated on you, it was not your fault. Make sure this girl is a good person first. You can ask her to a movie or something, but take things very slowly, build up a solid friendship before you start showering her with gifts words of love.
Good luck. Hopefully this other girl will appreciate you.
And my other problem is, now that this has happened so many times. i am scared of a relationship, i want to be in one sooooo bad cus there is a girl i really like.and we have ALOT in common. but i just don't have he guts to ask any more. I've been hert to much.....So what do i do? any help appreciated deeplyPlease giveme some advice! having terable dating problems. PLEASE HELP!!!?
Women sometimes suck at life.
A couple tips for the future.... if you buy her jewelry, buy it at Target. Take things slower in the future. Be sure to spend a lot of time talking. Continue to treat them with respect. If someone cheated on you, it was not your fault. Make sure this girl is a good person first. You can ask her to a movie or something, but take things very slowly, build up a solid friendship before you start showering her with gifts words of love.
Good luck. Hopefully this other girl will appreciate you.
Need ALOT of advice for all my problems! Before this emotionally wrecks me?
Alrite, well, I need some help. This has been going on for a few years, or since I pretty much came into this world. My dad is rather abusive and so is my mom. I really don't know what to do and I'm always panicking about something I highly doubt EVER happened, yet its been my biggest fear of my father since I was eight years old and I don't know why.
Problems will be listed by number.
1) My dad. I sometimes beleive he is an amazing christian and someone I can actually admire, but then I think on how abusive he is. When I was eight years old and my brother was seven, I remember at a soccer game I pushed my little brother out of my way for tag and a stick landed on the side of his eye and he picked me up by the hair infront of my babysitter and called me a fxcking brat, my baby sitter told him to back off, then my dad threatened to murder me the entire ride to the hospital and said he hated me and he wished I was never born, and its still affecting me today.
Then it turned out nothing was wrong and that my dad was over reacting and then my dad said he would beat me if I told my mom what happened that day. Luckily my babysitter told her and my mom freaked out, but my dad just got abusive again.
Then the abusiveness stopped, until I was eleven then during my birthday, my dad skipped it and went out, I noticed for a month he would go out every night and never come home, and then on my birthday, he gave me nothing but the news to find out he was cheating on my mom with another women he met at a bar who was never going to be as pretty or nice as my mother. He would harasse my mother and threatened to burn the house down, but always swears he is a christian and that I'm going to go to hell for dishonouring my father. I also remind him that he is not supposed to teach his children how to be angry people, like how he abuses my brothers and little sister.
Then during this Summer 07 he kept harassing me and my mom, he told me he was going to kill himself and that he hated me and we were all curses and he was pushing and abusing my mom, to the point where I grabbed the phone and called the cops. He ran away and I told him to stay here and wait, then he punched me and gave me a bleeding nose. I was crying. So since my mom and dad were no longer together and my dad said he wanted nothing to do with us, my mom and my gran dad on my mom's side drove us across America to Nova Scotia, we used to live in British Columbia.
Then after five months of never talking to him, his new girlfriend left him and he stalked/tracked us down and demanded to live with us, irritated enough my mom gave in. Things were doing okay, then he started getting verbally abusive with me again and always would call me and my mother names like physco ***** and saying my mom was a fat whore, all the same abuse as when we lived in B.C but verbal and not so much abusive.
Then one time after nine months of living in N.S, my little sister started randomly crying and I told her to shut up or else I'm going to get beaten, my dad favours who ever is younger. He ran in and started hitting me, I picked up my pocket knife and told him to back off, of course I never had any intentions of killing him because I knew that would be a sin, I love my siblings, but my parents are always a problem.
I got up and walked out of the house, came home an hour later after crying at my friends house explaining how abusive he is, and then came home and he grounded me for a week, I didn't care, it doesn't feel any different, the fact of livng with him to me is punishment. Then when my mom left the house, he started harassing me and I told him to fxck off and stay away from me and told me he is the reason my family will never be happy and wished that god never gave him to me as a father, then he pinned me to the ground and started trying to suffocate and slammed my head five times against the wooden floor, my brothers were crying and the oldest of my two brothers punched him in the face.
I told my mom what happened and written it on my walls what happened, then I got grounded for two weeks and my brother two weeks. I started talking to the counciller, then he started guilt tripping me %26amp; saying I'm the reason this family is broken apart, so I stopped.
The physical abuse from my father calmed down. Then around December 08 I noticed my period was four days late and I started panicking, I am fourteen years old and it has always been regular and heavy. Then I got two periods during January only a week apart from one another and extremely heavy. I started panicking that my father might have raped me because I would wake up with a wet vagina for no reason and in the middle of the night wake up to find my dad walking out of my room then see him with a b0ner, I was looking for every sign and looked it up on the internet, then got positive pregnancy signs, and my February and March period were five days long, three heavy days, two light days then clear disNeed ALOT of advice for all my problems! Before this emotionally wrecks me?
Wow, I am soo soo sorry for all that you and your family is going through. First thing..you need to get out of that situation. You need to be in a safe environment where you are not scared of his return. Please talk to a counselor, pastor, cop, etc. There are also domestic violence hotlines. You need listening ears and a safety net.
Please know that you are a beautiful creation of God. Your father is in the wrong, not you. Don't let him make you feel guilty for his sins. You are innocent, but caught in a bad situation. I'm sure this has really damaged you, but there is always healing. You can be restored to feel joy and happiness again once he is out of your life. I also encourage you to turn to God for prayer and support. He will let you lean on Him and will help you deal with this situation. Although it's hard, pray for your dad too. He is very sick and needs help.
Please email me if there's anything I can do for you. God bless!Need ALOT of advice for all my problems! Before this emotionally wrecks me?
Your problem is too complex to address in this venue.
Call someone at this number:
1-800-759-0700
You need to call the cops (when he's not around) ASAP!!!! You also need to press charges,too. If he's not convicted,you need to get a restraining order. The longer you wait,the worse it is going to get.
After you do that,you need to get counseling.
Try www.twloha.com
I hope everything works out for you!!!!!!!
That's a really tough situation but the best advice I can give you is to read the Glorious Quran, it provides tremendous guidance to those who are in difficulty
http://islamawakened.org/Quran/default.h…
http://quraan.com/index.aspx?tabindex=1%26amp;…
http://www.al-islam.org/quran/
http://www.quranexplorer.com/quran/
http://arthursclassicnovels.com/arthurs/…
http://www.qtafsir.com/index.php?option=… (TAFSEER)
http://www.harunyahya.com/Quran_translat…
(Your choice for translation)
Peace be upon you
God always heals a broken heart.
I suggest you talk to God. Prayer helps, trust me. Tell him that you need strength to overcome it and to heal your heart. Reading the Bible helps A LOT as well. You should start in John. :)
When you say positive pregnancy signs, have you taken a test?
If you havn't, don't you think that would be a damn good idea?
Just remember one thing - If you are pregnant and you had sex with a boy from your own choice, it would be cruel and dishonest to say your father raped you just so you can save face.
As for what you found in the basement - weird things are found in basements, sweetie.
Take a damn pregnancy test and then go from there.
oh for crying out loud, she needs help not scripture.
I'm not familer with social services in your country, is it possible to talk to a child help line service that could advise you, or even voice your concerns to the police,? other relatives who might be able to help?
you should inform someone even if its the police at least they will be aware of whats been going on.
its a really tough one, and I hope you pull through ok
Sorry I can't help any more than that.
Problems will be listed by number.
1) My dad. I sometimes beleive he is an amazing christian and someone I can actually admire, but then I think on how abusive he is. When I was eight years old and my brother was seven, I remember at a soccer game I pushed my little brother out of my way for tag and a stick landed on the side of his eye and he picked me up by the hair infront of my babysitter and called me a fxcking brat, my baby sitter told him to back off, then my dad threatened to murder me the entire ride to the hospital and said he hated me and he wished I was never born, and its still affecting me today.
Then it turned out nothing was wrong and that my dad was over reacting and then my dad said he would beat me if I told my mom what happened that day. Luckily my babysitter told her and my mom freaked out, but my dad just got abusive again.
Then the abusiveness stopped, until I was eleven then during my birthday, my dad skipped it and went out, I noticed for a month he would go out every night and never come home, and then on my birthday, he gave me nothing but the news to find out he was cheating on my mom with another women he met at a bar who was never going to be as pretty or nice as my mother. He would harasse my mother and threatened to burn the house down, but always swears he is a christian and that I'm going to go to hell for dishonouring my father. I also remind him that he is not supposed to teach his children how to be angry people, like how he abuses my brothers and little sister.
Then during this Summer 07 he kept harassing me and my mom, he told me he was going to kill himself and that he hated me and we were all curses and he was pushing and abusing my mom, to the point where I grabbed the phone and called the cops. He ran away and I told him to stay here and wait, then he punched me and gave me a bleeding nose. I was crying. So since my mom and dad were no longer together and my dad said he wanted nothing to do with us, my mom and my gran dad on my mom's side drove us across America to Nova Scotia, we used to live in British Columbia.
Then after five months of never talking to him, his new girlfriend left him and he stalked/tracked us down and demanded to live with us, irritated enough my mom gave in. Things were doing okay, then he started getting verbally abusive with me again and always would call me and my mother names like physco ***** and saying my mom was a fat whore, all the same abuse as when we lived in B.C but verbal and not so much abusive.
Then one time after nine months of living in N.S, my little sister started randomly crying and I told her to shut up or else I'm going to get beaten, my dad favours who ever is younger. He ran in and started hitting me, I picked up my pocket knife and told him to back off, of course I never had any intentions of killing him because I knew that would be a sin, I love my siblings, but my parents are always a problem.
I got up and walked out of the house, came home an hour later after crying at my friends house explaining how abusive he is, and then came home and he grounded me for a week, I didn't care, it doesn't feel any different, the fact of livng with him to me is punishment. Then when my mom left the house, he started harassing me and I told him to fxck off and stay away from me and told me he is the reason my family will never be happy and wished that god never gave him to me as a father, then he pinned me to the ground and started trying to suffocate and slammed my head five times against the wooden floor, my brothers were crying and the oldest of my two brothers punched him in the face.
I told my mom what happened and written it on my walls what happened, then I got grounded for two weeks and my brother two weeks. I started talking to the counciller, then he started guilt tripping me %26amp; saying I'm the reason this family is broken apart, so I stopped.
The physical abuse from my father calmed down. Then around December 08 I noticed my period was four days late and I started panicking, I am fourteen years old and it has always been regular and heavy. Then I got two periods during January only a week apart from one another and extremely heavy. I started panicking that my father might have raped me because I would wake up with a wet vagina for no reason and in the middle of the night wake up to find my dad walking out of my room then see him with a b0ner, I was looking for every sign and looked it up on the internet, then got positive pregnancy signs, and my February and March period were five days long, three heavy days, two light days then clear disNeed ALOT of advice for all my problems! Before this emotionally wrecks me?
Wow, I am soo soo sorry for all that you and your family is going through. First thing..you need to get out of that situation. You need to be in a safe environment where you are not scared of his return. Please talk to a counselor, pastor, cop, etc. There are also domestic violence hotlines. You need listening ears and a safety net.
Please know that you are a beautiful creation of God. Your father is in the wrong, not you. Don't let him make you feel guilty for his sins. You are innocent, but caught in a bad situation. I'm sure this has really damaged you, but there is always healing. You can be restored to feel joy and happiness again once he is out of your life. I also encourage you to turn to God for prayer and support. He will let you lean on Him and will help you deal with this situation. Although it's hard, pray for your dad too. He is very sick and needs help.
Please email me if there's anything I can do for you. God bless!Need ALOT of advice for all my problems! Before this emotionally wrecks me?
Your problem is too complex to address in this venue.
Call someone at this number:
1-800-759-0700
You need to call the cops (when he's not around) ASAP!!!! You also need to press charges,too. If he's not convicted,you need to get a restraining order. The longer you wait,the worse it is going to get.
After you do that,you need to get counseling.
Try www.twloha.com
I hope everything works out for you!!!!!!!
That's a really tough situation but the best advice I can give you is to read the Glorious Quran, it provides tremendous guidance to those who are in difficulty
http://islamawakened.org/Quran/default.h…
http://quraan.com/index.aspx?tabindex=1%26amp;…
http://www.al-islam.org/quran/
http://www.quranexplorer.com/quran/
http://arthursclassicnovels.com/arthurs/…
http://www.qtafsir.com/index.php?option=… (TAFSEER)
http://www.harunyahya.com/Quran_translat…
(Your choice for translation)
Peace be upon you
God always heals a broken heart.
I suggest you talk to God. Prayer helps, trust me. Tell him that you need strength to overcome it and to heal your heart. Reading the Bible helps A LOT as well. You should start in John. :)
When you say positive pregnancy signs, have you taken a test?
If you havn't, don't you think that would be a damn good idea?
Just remember one thing - If you are pregnant and you had sex with a boy from your own choice, it would be cruel and dishonest to say your father raped you just so you can save face.
As for what you found in the basement - weird things are found in basements, sweetie.
Take a damn pregnancy test and then go from there.
oh for crying out loud, she needs help not scripture.
I'm not familer with social services in your country, is it possible to talk to a child help line service that could advise you, or even voice your concerns to the police,? other relatives who might be able to help?
you should inform someone even if its the police at least they will be aware of whats been going on.
its a really tough one, and I hope you pull through ok
Sorry I can't help any more than that.
I need some advice on hand;ing problems while transitioning as male to female!?
I am having quite some problems since I have figured out that I am a transsexual. I don't speak to my father anymore because he is a Mexican, macho biggot who only regulates what is considered ';appropriate'; for me and my mother relies solely on the bible and instills that I am an ';abomination in God's eyes';. And besides them, I have an ongoing depression due to their harsh criticism and how I will transition. I made a decision that my parents would only cause more problems and wouls eventually lead me to self-destruction if I ever took their advice. I am seeking some guidance on how to make it past these kinds of situations or some constructive critisism. I knew when I found out that I wanted to be a woman, that I would face these challenges. But I don't know anyone who has surpassed these problems. And thank you for your response. :)I need some advice on hand;ing problems while transitioning as male to female!?
It's a sad fact that most transsexual people lose the support of their families; that's one of the reasons the transsexual community is so close-knit, because most of us know exactly how you feel, and we are the only family we have.
I recommend that you find, and join, a support group; ideally one local to you, but if that's not possible, there are several excellent online groups that will offer you help and support. I suggest you start looking at these websites for direction to either of these;
http://www.tsroadmap.com/
http://www.gender.org/resources/index.ht鈥?/a>
and of course, there are a few of us on here.
I'm sure you can email any of us (I hope no-one minds me volunteering them...)
[';island girl';; I rather suspect you're going to run out of dollars...that's three of us you owe already. Don't you wish you'd educated yourself before offering money?]I need some advice on hand;ing problems while transitioning as male to female!?
There is nothing in the Bible about Transsexual people. The Bible does say that God loves everyone. So your mother's comments, though very hurtful, are not based on any facts. She may well have been told by other people at some stage in her life, but it is not true.
By all means you may want to distance yourself from your family, but it will be good if they can be with you. Personally I transitioned for me, not my parents. Personally I feel that if they want to get to know me they can, but they have never tried. That is their choosing. In the mean time I am a lot happier now than ever before.
Many people have transitioned successfully. We don't all go around waving banners advertising our history to everyone. How then can you know if everyone who has gone through this change has not got on well with their parents? Some of my friends are quite close now, others aren't.
hey sweetie i am a trans woman I'm very happy everyones life has a little pain now and again. island girl is clueless pay her no mind. I'm sorry to hear about your family its their loss not yours. I'm glad you are finally being true to yourself and wish good luck
Hey there... the journey you are on is a very hard and difficult one.
I am glad that you have found yourself.. and you seem to be very strong inside..
You will need to find some friends in your area.. people you can trust and will be there for you..
I am always open for chat..
NOW.. Island Girl..... I will take that last dollar...
I am transsexual.. I am extremely happy with my life.. Life is what we make it..not what others say it should be.
I got to the point where those I had loved and supported that couldn't handle my simple change of sex did not belong in my life.
I divorced my own sister over this, that's not to say it didn't hurt, but the hurtful crap being spewed was worse. You did not say how old you are, if you are over 18, move out and move on.
you will never surpass these problems because you will always be a man, no matter what you do. You may as well go with the flow and figure out how you can be the best man you can be. Stop fooling yourself, you are not a female in a Male's body. I don't care how many transvestites, homosexuals, or bisexuals you talk to. Not one of them is 100% happy, I can bet my last dollar on that. All they do is try to talk themselves into being happy.
It's a sad fact that most transsexual people lose the support of their families; that's one of the reasons the transsexual community is so close-knit, because most of us know exactly how you feel, and we are the only family we have.
I recommend that you find, and join, a support group; ideally one local to you, but if that's not possible, there are several excellent online groups that will offer you help and support. I suggest you start looking at these websites for direction to either of these;
http://www.tsroadmap.com/
http://www.gender.org/resources/index.ht鈥?/a>
and of course, there are a few of us on here.
I'm sure you can email any of us (I hope no-one minds me volunteering them...)
[';island girl';; I rather suspect you're going to run out of dollars...that's three of us you owe already. Don't you wish you'd educated yourself before offering money?]I need some advice on hand;ing problems while transitioning as male to female!?
There is nothing in the Bible about Transsexual people. The Bible does say that God loves everyone. So your mother's comments, though very hurtful, are not based on any facts. She may well have been told by other people at some stage in her life, but it is not true.
By all means you may want to distance yourself from your family, but it will be good if they can be with you. Personally I transitioned for me, not my parents. Personally I feel that if they want to get to know me they can, but they have never tried. That is their choosing. In the mean time I am a lot happier now than ever before.
Many people have transitioned successfully. We don't all go around waving banners advertising our history to everyone. How then can you know if everyone who has gone through this change has not got on well with their parents? Some of my friends are quite close now, others aren't.
hey sweetie i am a trans woman I'm very happy everyones life has a little pain now and again. island girl is clueless pay her no mind. I'm sorry to hear about your family its their loss not yours. I'm glad you are finally being true to yourself and wish good luck
Hey there... the journey you are on is a very hard and difficult one.
I am glad that you have found yourself.. and you seem to be very strong inside..
You will need to find some friends in your area.. people you can trust and will be there for you..
I am always open for chat..
NOW.. Island Girl..... I will take that last dollar...
I am transsexual.. I am extremely happy with my life.. Life is what we make it..not what others say it should be.
I got to the point where those I had loved and supported that couldn't handle my simple change of sex did not belong in my life.
I divorced my own sister over this, that's not to say it didn't hurt, but the hurtful crap being spewed was worse. You did not say how old you are, if you are over 18, move out and move on.
you will never surpass these problems because you will always be a man, no matter what you do. You may as well go with the flow and figure out how you can be the best man you can be. Stop fooling yourself, you are not a female in a Male's body. I don't care how many transvestites, homosexuals, or bisexuals you talk to. Not one of them is 100% happy, I can bet my last dollar on that. All they do is try to talk themselves into being happy.
I need advice on some friend problems...?
I started at a new school in junior high grade7, I am now in grade 9. I made some friends that year and kept them till the near end of grade eight. We got in a really bad fight, I tried to make up with them but they were to stubborn to listen.
The new friends I made at the end of grade eight and now the beginning of grade 9 are not very close to me. I never know what to talk about, they always laugh untill they cry with some of the other friends they just made, but never with me. I am STILL friends with my friends from elementry, and I love them! My parents won't let me go to their school though.
I need advice on how to communicate with them better, get rid of them or make new friends, please be open and specific if you can! I really need this. GRADE 9 IS SENIOR YEAR AND IS SUPPOSE TO BE AWESOME, but so far ive been crying on the inside. PLEASE HELP!I need advice on some friend problems...?
don't try to make friends with anyone you will likely regret attempting to work w/ later. as for the friends you made in 8th, coast it. keep in contact, but don't force it. if the friendship doesn't catch, drop it. meanwhile try approching people you are intrested in. ex: a girl who sits in front of you has an intellectual personality, like yourself. talk to that person.I need advice on some friend problems...?
don't beat urself up about this, it is very common. friends fight sumtimes-ask anyone. wat it sounds like 2 me is that u r slightly depressed-or maybe u r just really stressing out or upset.. this would be affecting how u act around ppl and how they act around u. U need to fix this problem-because laughing until u cry is kinda hard when u r upset. talk 2 sum1 about this-friends, family, trusted adult, councillor.
What did u do 2 make ur friends so upset? how do u think u can make this up 2 them?
The new friends u hav r close? then y r u worrying-if u don't know what 2 say, then ask the common questions: Hi, What r u up 2? How r u? Wat did u do on the weekend? What r u doing this weekend? have u watched ';insert show/movie here';? etc.
Sooner or later u'll find out something interesting and u can hav a convo about it.
as for ur friends at ur old school: email them, call them, text them, write them a letter, visit them on weekends/holidays-a good story to talk to ur new friends about-it is easy 2 keep in contact if u put in the effort.
Good luck.
u should just go out there and make new friends or more friends anywhere it doesnt have to be in you high school but if u want to make friends there too just be more socialable and out there and bring out the best of u to ppl u think will become more friends with you!=]
The new friends I made at the end of grade eight and now the beginning of grade 9 are not very close to me. I never know what to talk about, they always laugh untill they cry with some of the other friends they just made, but never with me. I am STILL friends with my friends from elementry, and I love them! My parents won't let me go to their school though.
I need advice on how to communicate with them better, get rid of them or make new friends, please be open and specific if you can! I really need this. GRADE 9 IS SENIOR YEAR AND IS SUPPOSE TO BE AWESOME, but so far ive been crying on the inside. PLEASE HELP!I need advice on some friend problems...?
don't try to make friends with anyone you will likely regret attempting to work w/ later. as for the friends you made in 8th, coast it. keep in contact, but don't force it. if the friendship doesn't catch, drop it. meanwhile try approching people you are intrested in. ex: a girl who sits in front of you has an intellectual personality, like yourself. talk to that person.I need advice on some friend problems...?
don't beat urself up about this, it is very common. friends fight sumtimes-ask anyone. wat it sounds like 2 me is that u r slightly depressed-or maybe u r just really stressing out or upset.. this would be affecting how u act around ppl and how they act around u. U need to fix this problem-because laughing until u cry is kinda hard when u r upset. talk 2 sum1 about this-friends, family, trusted adult, councillor.
What did u do 2 make ur friends so upset? how do u think u can make this up 2 them?
The new friends u hav r close? then y r u worrying-if u don't know what 2 say, then ask the common questions: Hi, What r u up 2? How r u? Wat did u do on the weekend? What r u doing this weekend? have u watched ';insert show/movie here';? etc.
Sooner or later u'll find out something interesting and u can hav a convo about it.
as for ur friends at ur old school: email them, call them, text them, write them a letter, visit them on weekends/holidays-a good story to talk to ur new friends about-it is easy 2 keep in contact if u put in the effort.
Good luck.
u should just go out there and make new friends or more friends anywhere it doesnt have to be in you high school but if u want to make friends there too just be more socialable and out there and bring out the best of u to ppl u think will become more friends with you!=]
I am having problems receiving picture and audio emails on my LG ax8600 with alltel. Any ax8600 advice?
Text messages or emails....i have that same phone I havent had any problem with text or media messaging.... you may want to go to a alltel store and check if they could fix it.... if not you have 1 year warranty with the lg company and they could exchange the phone there in alltel at no charge... did that once...maybelline foundation
I Need advice on my relationship problems; can anyone help?
OK, Ive been with my boyfriend for about 1 year and 7 months and lately we have been getting really frustrated with each other and apparently don't know how to deal with our anger towards one another other. We both love each other very much and don't want to lose each other. It's not only emotional but starting to get really physical and getting out of hand.
For example: last night we were having a good time and then he starts bringing up my past with ex-boyfriends (like he does all the time) and it frustrates me because he has a jealous issue with them. And i get mad and he sees that, and i tell him to stop that it was the past and don't bring it up again, because I'm not with them I'm with you. and i love you and all this other stuff, so he will let it go. but no he doesn't and wants to make another argument out of my past again. so i just try to get away from him and he holds me back and doesn't let me go. i tell him please let me go. and he still doesn't so i push him off of me but he is so strong. so i scratch him and he grabs my arm really tight and kinda like twisted it..... ugh it just got HORRIBLE.
I just need help on my relationship to try to make things better again.I Need advice on my relationship problems; can anyone help?
sweetie the best thing you can do is leave him. he has no right to grab you like that. and the longer you stay with him, the worse its going to get. my dad used to do that with my mom, and it started with little things like that, then it turned to him beating her to the point where she had black eyes and she couldn't go anywhere and she couldn't tell anyone because if he found out he would beat her more. and i don't want anything like that to happen to you since the warning signs are there. although you love him its the best thing to do..please leave him!
For example: last night we were having a good time and then he starts bringing up my past with ex-boyfriends (like he does all the time) and it frustrates me because he has a jealous issue with them. And i get mad and he sees that, and i tell him to stop that it was the past and don't bring it up again, because I'm not with them I'm with you. and i love you and all this other stuff, so he will let it go. but no he doesn't and wants to make another argument out of my past again. so i just try to get away from him and he holds me back and doesn't let me go. i tell him please let me go. and he still doesn't so i push him off of me but he is so strong. so i scratch him and he grabs my arm really tight and kinda like twisted it..... ugh it just got HORRIBLE.
I just need help on my relationship to try to make things better again.I Need advice on my relationship problems; can anyone help?
sweetie the best thing you can do is leave him. he has no right to grab you like that. and the longer you stay with him, the worse its going to get. my dad used to do that with my mom, and it started with little things like that, then it turned to him beating her to the point where she had black eyes and she couldn't go anywhere and she couldn't tell anyone because if he found out he would beat her more. and i don't want anything like that to happen to you since the warning signs are there. although you love him its the best thing to do..please leave him!
Looking for advice from others, dating problems...?
Is it my looks or do I just not have enough confidence talking to women. ';Just a tad embarrased'; but I'm 22, never had a girlfriend, never even kissed a girl before. Over the past several years I've walked up to girls and said Hey, how are you? and some girls just give me blank looks and don't respond. I paid for a subscription to e-harmony, tried it for awhile, messaged girls and got nothing in return. Now im trying match.com and it's going the same way.
I'm sure the low confidence im having is from not having a girlfriend, but I would like to settle down one day.
I have included a picture of myself with this message, if it helps. Thank you
http://s448.photobucket.com/albums/qq210/erchadwick/?action=view%26amp;current=meohyea.jpgLooking for advice from others, dating problems...?
Your 22 your still young you have a while to settle down. I think your problem is confidance. Girls will sense it. Why would a girl want to feel good about a guy who doesn't even feel good about hisself. You probably need to start girls off as friends first to get you used to the right things to say. Go to places of your own interest, so when you come up to a girl, you already know you have something in common to start a conversation.
Don't rush it, love usually comes when you least expect it just enjoy your life. It will happen.Looking for advice from others, dating problems...?
Ur 22 and never kissed a girl?? Whatta loser!!!!! Quit bein a girl and get some balls or ull be alone forever!!
I'm sure the low confidence im having is from not having a girlfriend, but I would like to settle down one day.
I have included a picture of myself with this message, if it helps. Thank you
http://s448.photobucket.com/albums/qq210/erchadwick/?action=view%26amp;current=meohyea.jpgLooking for advice from others, dating problems...?
Your 22 your still young you have a while to settle down. I think your problem is confidance. Girls will sense it. Why would a girl want to feel good about a guy who doesn't even feel good about hisself. You probably need to start girls off as friends first to get you used to the right things to say. Go to places of your own interest, so when you come up to a girl, you already know you have something in common to start a conversation.
Don't rush it, love usually comes when you least expect it just enjoy your life. It will happen.Looking for advice from others, dating problems...?
Ur 22 and never kissed a girl?? Whatta loser!!!!! Quit bein a girl and get some balls or ull be alone forever!!
I need advice on acne medication problems?
I'm currently on doryx (oral medicine), benzaclin (on the spot topical cream), and retina micro (all over topical cream). I wash my face twice a day with oil free acne wash and take the doryx once a day. Benzclin in the morning and retina micro at night. My doctor says if my face doesn't clear up two weeks with this then he's going to put me on acutane. Unfortunately the combination of all this is making me peel extremely badly. And at the same time I'm still breaking out. I keep putting oil free lotion on but it doesnt do the job. I'm still breaking out but now my skin is dry on top of it! Do I stop any one? Or should I just keep drying my skin till the 2 weeks is up?I need advice on acne medication problems?
Keep with it. Skin care takes a bit of time. With retina, peeling and worsening of acne is common for the first bit (even a few weeks). This is because the retina is pushing all the acne from deep within your skin to the surface to be eventually washed away. Retina micro works faster than retina, so just stick it out for now. Give it a fair try and it may end up working wonders. However, if you do end up on accutane, your condition will drastically improve--almost guaranteed!
Maintain a consistent daily routine...and treat your skin like a fine silk. Pat dry, don't scrub. Don't overwash! Don't let your sking air-dry (it will dry out your skin more). Stay moisturized. Don't scratch, pick, or touch your face too much.
Consistency is key. This will also allow the doc to use his/her best judgement regarding treatment.
Good luck! I hate skin problems.I need advice on acne medication problems?
Acne
Also called: Pimples, Zits
Acne is a common skin disease that causes pimples. Pimples form when hair follicles under your skin clog up. Most pimples form on the face, neck, back, chest and shoulders. Anyone can get acne, but it is common in teenagers and young adults. It is not serious, but it can cause scars.
No one knows exactly what causes acne. Hormone changes, such as those during the teenage years and pregnancy, probably play a role. There are many myths about what causes acne. Chocolate and greasy foods are often blamed, but there is little evidence that foods have much effect on acne in most people. Another common myth is that dirty skin causes acne; however, blackheads and pimples are not caused by dirt. Stress doesn't cause acne, but stress can make it worse.
If you have acne
Clean your skin gently
Try not to touch your skin
Avoid the sun
Treatments for acne include medicines and creams.
National Institute of Arthritis and Musculoskeletal and Skin Diseases
Keep with it. Skin care takes a bit of time. With retina, peeling and worsening of acne is common for the first bit (even a few weeks). This is because the retina is pushing all the acne from deep within your skin to the surface to be eventually washed away. Retina micro works faster than retina, so just stick it out for now. Give it a fair try and it may end up working wonders. However, if you do end up on accutane, your condition will drastically improve--almost guaranteed!
Maintain a consistent daily routine...and treat your skin like a fine silk. Pat dry, don't scrub. Don't overwash! Don't let your sking air-dry (it will dry out your skin more). Stay moisturized. Don't scratch, pick, or touch your face too much.
Consistency is key. This will also allow the doc to use his/her best judgement regarding treatment.
Good luck! I hate skin problems.I need advice on acne medication problems?
Acne
Also called: Pimples, Zits
Acne is a common skin disease that causes pimples. Pimples form when hair follicles under your skin clog up. Most pimples form on the face, neck, back, chest and shoulders. Anyone can get acne, but it is common in teenagers and young adults. It is not serious, but it can cause scars.
No one knows exactly what causes acne. Hormone changes, such as those during the teenage years and pregnancy, probably play a role. There are many myths about what causes acne. Chocolate and greasy foods are often blamed, but there is little evidence that foods have much effect on acne in most people. Another common myth is that dirty skin causes acne; however, blackheads and pimples are not caused by dirt. Stress doesn't cause acne, but stress can make it worse.
If you have acne
Clean your skin gently
Try not to touch your skin
Avoid the sun
Treatments for acne include medicines and creams.
National Institute of Arthritis and Musculoskeletal and Skin Diseases
Friendly Physics Advice requested on these Problems...?
How does one go about solving these...
1. At an amusement park, a swimmer uses a water slide to enter the main pool. If the swimmer starts at rest, slides without friction, and decends through a vertical height of 2.50 m, what is her speed at the bottom of the slide?
m/s
2. To enter the main pool at an amusement part, a swimmer uses a water slide which has a vertical height of 2.89 m. Find her speed at the bottom of the slide if she starts with an initial speed of 0.990 m/s.
m/s
3. A 2.0 kg block slides with a speed of 1.1 m/s on a frictionless, horizontal surface until it encounters a spring.
(a) If the block compresses the spring 5.0 cm before coming to rest, what is the force constant of the spring?
N/m
(b) What initial speed should the block have to compress the spring by 1.6 cm?
m/s
4. Catching a wave, a 65 kg surfer starts with a speed of 1.3 m/s, drops through a height of 2.00 m, and ends with a speed of 8.2 m/s. How much nonconservative work was done on the surfer?
kJ
TY.Friendly Physics Advice requested on these Problems...?
For the first two questions:
Somewhere in your text books it should state the acceleration of gravity... I believe its 10.9 metres per second squared (m/s^2). No, my mistake, its 9.8 metres per second squared, which means 9.8 metres per second, every second.
The formula can be found at the wikipedia link below. Use the classic formula.
Remember, vertical and horizontal calculations should be separate and all variables should be converted to metres (m), metres per second (m/s), metres per second squared (m/s^2) and seconds (s).
For questions 3 and 4 you will need the formula F=MA
ie: force equals mass multiplied by acceleration.
and W=Fd
ie work = force multiplied by distance.
Good luck.Friendly Physics Advice requested on these Problems...?
1. P.E.g initial = K.E.final
mgh = (1/2)mv^2
gh = (1/2)v^2
v = sqrt[2gh]
v = sqrt[2(9.8 m/s^2)(2.50 m)]
v = 7 m/s ANS
2. P.E.initial + KEinitial = P.Efinal + KEfinal
mghi + (1/2)mvi^2 = mghf + (1/2)mvf^2
ghi + (1/2)vi^2 = ghf + (1/2)vf^2
(9.8)(2.89) + (1/2)(0.990)^2 = 9.8(0) + (1/2)(vf^2)
vf = sqrt[{(9.8)(2.89) + (1/2)(0.990)^2}2]
vf = 5.31 m/sec ANS
3. a) KE. = P.E.elastic
(1/2)(2kg)(1.1 m/s)^2 = (1/2)k(0.05m)^2
(2)(1.1)^2 = k(0.05)^2
k = (2)(1.1)^2/(0.05)^2
k = 968 N/m ANS
b) KE = P.E.elastic
(1/2)(2)(vi)^2 = (1/2)(968)(0.016)^2
(2)(vi)^2 = (968)(0.016)^2
vi = sqrt[(968)(0.016)^2/2]
vi = 1.32 m/s
1. At an amusement park, a swimmer uses a water slide to enter the main pool. If the swimmer starts at rest, slides without friction, and decends through a vertical height of 2.50 m, what is her speed at the bottom of the slide?
m/s
2. To enter the main pool at an amusement part, a swimmer uses a water slide which has a vertical height of 2.89 m. Find her speed at the bottom of the slide if she starts with an initial speed of 0.990 m/s.
m/s
3. A 2.0 kg block slides with a speed of 1.1 m/s on a frictionless, horizontal surface until it encounters a spring.
(a) If the block compresses the spring 5.0 cm before coming to rest, what is the force constant of the spring?
N/m
(b) What initial speed should the block have to compress the spring by 1.6 cm?
m/s
4. Catching a wave, a 65 kg surfer starts with a speed of 1.3 m/s, drops through a height of 2.00 m, and ends with a speed of 8.2 m/s. How much nonconservative work was done on the surfer?
kJ
TY.Friendly Physics Advice requested on these Problems...?
For the first two questions:
Somewhere in your text books it should state the acceleration of gravity... I believe its 10.9 metres per second squared (m/s^2). No, my mistake, its 9.8 metres per second squared, which means 9.8 metres per second, every second.
The formula can be found at the wikipedia link below. Use the classic formula.
Remember, vertical and horizontal calculations should be separate and all variables should be converted to metres (m), metres per second (m/s), metres per second squared (m/s^2) and seconds (s).
For questions 3 and 4 you will need the formula F=MA
ie: force equals mass multiplied by acceleration.
and W=Fd
ie work = force multiplied by distance.
Good luck.Friendly Physics Advice requested on these Problems...?
1. P.E.g initial = K.E.final
mgh = (1/2)mv^2
gh = (1/2)v^2
v = sqrt[2gh]
v = sqrt[2(9.8 m/s^2)(2.50 m)]
v = 7 m/s ANS
2. P.E.initial + KEinitial = P.Efinal + KEfinal
mghi + (1/2)mvi^2 = mghf + (1/2)mvf^2
ghi + (1/2)vi^2 = ghf + (1/2)vf^2
(9.8)(2.89) + (1/2)(0.990)^2 = 9.8(0) + (1/2)(vf^2)
vf = sqrt[{(9.8)(2.89) + (1/2)(0.990)^2}2]
vf = 5.31 m/sec ANS
3. a) KE. = P.E.elastic
(1/2)(2kg)(1.1 m/s)^2 = (1/2)k(0.05m)^2
(2)(1.1)^2 = k(0.05)^2
k = (2)(1.1)^2/(0.05)^2
k = 968 N/m ANS
b) KE = P.E.elastic
(1/2)(2)(vi)^2 = (1/2)(968)(0.016)^2
(2)(vi)^2 = (968)(0.016)^2
vi = sqrt[(968)(0.016)^2/2]
vi = 1.32 m/s
I need advice like bad sister problems?
okay she's 22 but still living @ home and the main rule is no sex, so she's been dating this guy mike for a long time and they had sex and then she said she broke up with him cuz we told her to cuz of his temper then said she was with this really hot cute guy but she lied and was really with mike and they have been having sex and she wants to be a lawyer and go to harvard but yet mike is bad news he has a temper and is controlling and a sweet talker and he was her first b/f and first to have sex with and now me and my older sis and mom kn she's been lieing about dating zach the one after mike and my mom told her if she wants to be with mike then she needs to move out cuz my mom went though a alot of s*** with my older sis and she's older too the one f****** mike is kate and my other sis is liz, well liz is now married with 3 kids two different dads and she went a lil wild and my mom doesn't want kate to do the same thing but it seems like she has to learn the hard way and i want to kn how do i tell her how i feel about her basically giving up on college and being a lawyer cuz she'll most likely end up knocked up by mike then he'll leave her so how do i go about talking with her about all this and i'm 20 so i kn more then i let on, and it makes me mad that she would go for a titie man u kn with man boobs and ugly and just becuz he talked sweet to her. oh n we were homeshooled till my 10th grade then i went to high school so i kn how guys r, so if u would plz give me some advice that'd be great thanx.
P.S. we just don't want her to end up with a kid and no future like liz cuz she can't go back to college with 3 young kids and a husband, so we don't want her to mess up her life just becuz she's horny sorry but it's true and thinks she can find love though sex, and she just graduated a 2 year college the first degree u get and idk if she's even applied to ou cuz she wants to go there cuz they got a good law program so plz help.I need advice like bad sister problems?
When a women stoops to that level it is usually because she does not know her worth. And she is worth living her dream to become that lawyer. No matter what you can still support your sister with out supporting her choice. Let her Know her worth and it is to be real to her self. Best WishesI need advice like bad sister problems?
dude she is over 18 and she should be able to decide what she does. i think the no sex rule is stupid especially at that age, your parents must be psycho religious or something. it is possible to have a love life AND be successful, its called SAFE SEX. that should be the rule instead. it sounds like she is infatuated because it is her first boyfriend and she has no experience, she just needs to learn about this stuff. when i turned 18 and was gonna start college my mom got me birth control and told me she knew it was gonna happen but she wanted me to be careful, prepared, and be comfortable with asking her for help and not hiding it from her. it was actually kinda cool and we are very close...so yeah, everyone gets horny just some people don't admit it, its part of being human she just needs to be smart about it and not get with the douches
ok i dont know anyone like liz or mike but tell her a sweet and caring person will come to her when the time is right, tell her harvard is more important tell her the right person WILL come and theres a harsh way to deal with this to get rid of mike
make sure she is at home but not near you and cant see what ur doing, bite yourself or something and yell out and tell her mike did it hehe my first solution works better but this is kinda fun,
P.S. we just don't want her to end up with a kid and no future like liz cuz she can't go back to college with 3 young kids and a husband, so we don't want her to mess up her life just becuz she's horny sorry but it's true and thinks she can find love though sex, and she just graduated a 2 year college the first degree u get and idk if she's even applied to ou cuz she wants to go there cuz they got a good law program so plz help.I need advice like bad sister problems?
When a women stoops to that level it is usually because she does not know her worth. And she is worth living her dream to become that lawyer. No matter what you can still support your sister with out supporting her choice. Let her Know her worth and it is to be real to her self. Best WishesI need advice like bad sister problems?
dude she is over 18 and she should be able to decide what she does. i think the no sex rule is stupid especially at that age, your parents must be psycho religious or something. it is possible to have a love life AND be successful, its called SAFE SEX. that should be the rule instead. it sounds like she is infatuated because it is her first boyfriend and she has no experience, she just needs to learn about this stuff. when i turned 18 and was gonna start college my mom got me birth control and told me she knew it was gonna happen but she wanted me to be careful, prepared, and be comfortable with asking her for help and not hiding it from her. it was actually kinda cool and we are very close...so yeah, everyone gets horny just some people don't admit it, its part of being human she just needs to be smart about it and not get with the douches
ok i dont know anyone like liz or mike but tell her a sweet and caring person will come to her when the time is right, tell her harvard is more important tell her the right person WILL come and theres a harsh way to deal with this to get rid of mike
make sure she is at home but not near you and cant see what ur doing, bite yourself or something and yell out and tell her mike did it hehe my first solution works better but this is kinda fun,
I need advice for ex-husband problems/confusion!!!!!?
PLEASE HELP!!!
I have divorced from my husband for one and a half years, I stll love him very much. I married him through justice of the peace the first time, divorced him because I know he cheated, I never proved it, but there were plenty of signs. He then proceeded to make it look like my fault to all of his family. I then begged him back and we remarried through the church the second time, we have 3 children together. Things were going good for a while, then he started a new job and started flirting alot, in front of me, who knows about what happened behind my back, but I started feeling insecure again, so I messed around and got together with a great guy who loves me and who I am still with. Needless to say we divorced a second time. Anyway, this guy I am with is very good to me, however, my heart still belongs to my ex-husband, and he knows it. Well, we've been civil to each other for the kids sake, but last night, he made a move on me, and today he said it was a mistake?I need advice for ex-husband problems/confusion!!!!!?
It's great you get along when it comes to the kids but stay out of his pants! Your kids don't need their parents to go through a third divorce.
And if you can't or aren't ready to move on, break up with the new boyfriend and let him find someone who can give her heart to him.I need advice for ex-husband problems/confusion!!!!!?
You said ';this guy I am with is very good to me, however, my heart still belongs to my ex';. The ex whom you have divorced twice? The ex whom you cheated on with your new guy? The ex who cheated on you?
I think you might be addicted to all this drama. You should see a counsellor if you want to save your relationships with your new guy and your children.
sweetie you need to move on and be with your bf who loves you. if you cant give him 100% of you time heart and energy than you need to let him go on about his business. your ex is respecting the relationship you have with your bf since you are not. you need to grow up and let him go. or you need to stop playing games and leave the bf alone and get back with the ex and communicate you true and honest feelings to him about you and him. life is too short for this back and forth, cheating and lying, and divorcing over STUPID stuff that you cant even confirm. GodBless
You got out of your marriage when you weren't finished with it yet, and you got into this one with that baggage. You can't keep perpetuating the same decisions and expect a different result. If you leave this relationship prematurely just to satisfy the closure you never got with your ex you know it will be a mess.
Why not make a decision you can be proud of instead?
I know what it's like to be in love, and how it feels like you can't possibly live life without the one you love. I know the desperation of even thinking it. I also know that it IS possible to love someone and never be with them. That sometimes for the sake of sanity and serenity we must love them from a distance.
I am also aware of what it feels like to be cheated on, even if there is no proof that anything happened, there was still a betrayal. Even if he never did anything but think it, it's still a betrayal because he dang well knew he was supposed to go to you for all of his needs for friendship, love, sex, flirtiness, grumpiness, everything. You were supposed to be the one woman who got his devotion and loyalty, but it sounds like maybe you didn't (I don't know, but I know what intuition is, and I know it's usually right).
Who knows, maybe you don't have enough proof to convict him, and maybe you made some decisions then with insecurities that you don't care to nurture anymore. There comes a time when we have to be a big girl, and sometimes that requires us dealing with the consequences of our decisions.
But, there is still the fact that you LOVE him. That is a bond that seems to easily come and go, but I know better. I know that there are only a few people we will love even when we hate in this world. I know that the rest are just infatuations that go away when the newness goes away.
I can't tell you what to do, and to be honest I don't even know what I would do if I were you in this situation. I do know that if you decided to go back to your ex-husband that you would be going with double baggage, but that if you two really love each other then anything can be overcome if you are both willing to work on it everyday for the rest of your life (how else do you think people make it, lol). If you went back to him you would need to take off your running shoes and be willing to stick it out forever, no matter what because I agree that continuing to bounce back and forth with him is SCREWING with your children!!!!
They are paying for your immaturity, because they have no choice in the matter. Their lives are changed forever even if you don't mean your decisions once your anger wears off. From what it sounds like you aren't even sure he was doing anything but trying to re ';mark'; his territory and make sure you're still his (by making a move on you). Just like dogs and trees, they don't want someone else to mark their tree, but sometimes they just aren't willing to be loyal to their yard are they??
Children will always suffer from the mistakes of adults because nobody ever asks them how they feel about things. Nobody ever gives them the chance to have an opinion in broken relationships. Of course I know that kids don't really have the tools to know what is best for them, but that doesn't change the fact that they love their dad and want you to figure it out no matter what it takes. Because they need to wake up to parents that love each other every day. They think the sun rises and sets in your butt, and that daddy must be who made all that happen, so of course they get hurt when daddy can never come home again. Nobody asked them if that was ok, and nobody can mourn that for them. They will quietly suffer in their hearts everyday. So if you can't say that you won't do that to them again if he turns out to be unwilling to change, then just make that sacrifice and YOU do the suffering instead. Right now Daddy is gone, and they think that decision is forever. If you can't bring Daddy back forever, then don't tease them.
But if this boyfriend seems to just be a pretend solution, then don't allow them get attached to him when you already know he's not going to be forever either. If you are scared to be alone, learn to be happy with the one person you will be spending the most time with... yourself. Being a single mom is better than being a ';dating a guy you don't love because he fulfills some needs I have'; mom.
But, if this guy you are with seems to be the better choice just by looking at the pros and cons, then maybe you could examine it? See if you can really picture yourself with him in ten years. Find out if you love him, but are just confused because you never got closure with your ex. Ask yourself if you would still be with your ex if you knew he would be faithful? If you answered yes to that you're still not ready to let go of him and that needs to be examined too.
It's your life sweetheart, and it seems to me that you really just need to figure out what you WANT and then make your decisions accordingly. If you are feeling lonely with this boyfriend then maybe you are letting loneliness motivate you, which is like grocery shopping when you're hungry.... it's only ok if you have the money to pay for it all.
Can you pay the price if it turns out you are just lonely?
Are you really prepared to get back on that roller coaster with your ex again? (it may be that you can't WAIT to get back on, lol I know what it's like to miss someone that bad!)
Have you longed to be with your ex everyday?
Do you feel like you are cheating on him by being with your current mate?
Do you feel like this boyfriend was never real to begin with but instead was just you ';killing time?';
Are you just punishing your ex by being with this boyfriend?
If you are ready to walk out on your boyfriend and feel you would not miss him, not feel bad for him, not be angry with him then you already have your answer. If you could just tell him it was a mistake and gather up your things go, and never see him again, then you need to do just that. And you need to not feel guilty about it at all, because if you have just been waiting for a reason, then don't wait another day. Don't wait until you are in a big fight and have a reason, if you don't want to be with him set him free now. That's a decision you can be proud of later because it's the right thing to do. Letting our emotions (which change at the drop of a dime) make all of our decisions has to stop at some point. Because when we are no longer angry, or hurt, it turns out we discover that we are still very much in love and because of allowing ourselves to be blinded by our unpredictable emotions we made a very big mistake. It's commonly called letting our mouths write a check that our butts can't cash. The thing is that when we do that, (particularly in this case), our kids are the ones that have to pay up. And to do that they have to take from an account of funds that is supposed to be their future. Who they will become is determined by what we let happen to them as children.
I don't know what else to say, it seems sticky no matter which way you turn, and I am just grateful I'm not you (once it WAS me, but I didn't leave my husband and though it's still not perfect, I'm glad I had the guts to stay). Hang in there, and if nothing else, just pay attention to your gut. If every thought about doing something just feels icky (whether it's staying with your boyfriend, or running back to your ex), then don't do it, whatever it is. Do the opposite no matter how scared THAT makes you feel. You only have this life to live, so don't waste it trying to make other people happy. Nobody else is going to magically make YOU happy are they? NO!! Because it's not possible, only we know what makes us happy. Even if someone else desperately wants to make us happy they can't, and that's just the way it is, so don't worry about not being able to make everyone happy. At least if you're happy you can be the best mom for your kids, and we both know that children are so precious that they deserve the very best you.
Good luck!
You need serious help. You accuse him of cheating and then go cheat yourself. Your only proof of this alleged cheating is this ';fliritng';, which we can't be sure of now anyway. Cut this new guy loose for a bit and get into soem serious counseling, so you can decide what you want. I don't blame him for callling it a mistake. Women are right- people who cheat do point the finger at the other spouse.
Dose door mat to your first husband sound like a fair description of your relationship To him you could be a bit of a challenge. The chase can be better than the catch. Lets face it he's ';been there done that ';with you now it is a case of ';Lets see if she will come around again';
What sort of a person do you want to be ???
If you are in a happy relationship then why even give a hint of interest. If you are not then why are you in the relationship you are in.
Answer this question.
Who would you let your daughter marry ???
Your X or your current partner
The answer should help you make up your mind.
This one is easy, ';you can't always get what you want. You can try sometimes but you may just find, you get what you need.';
Committ to someone, and get on with your life. Stop always looking for a better deal. Do you like the role of the VICTUM? If you have someone who is treating you good and loves you committ yourself to him and quit ******* around with your looser x-husband. Trust me, you will live longer and be at peace.
Good Luck
if you didn't have children i would say that the 2 of you deserve each other but seeing as there are children involved STOP PUTTING THEM THROUGH HELL AND STOP THINKING OF YOURSELF AND MESSING WITH THESE POOR CHILDRENS HEADS, ITS BAD ENOUGHT YOU HAVE SCREWED UP YOUR LIFE STOP SCREWING UP THEIRS AND BEING SO SELFISHmaybelline foundation
I have divorced from my husband for one and a half years, I stll love him very much. I married him through justice of the peace the first time, divorced him because I know he cheated, I never proved it, but there were plenty of signs. He then proceeded to make it look like my fault to all of his family. I then begged him back and we remarried through the church the second time, we have 3 children together. Things were going good for a while, then he started a new job and started flirting alot, in front of me, who knows about what happened behind my back, but I started feeling insecure again, so I messed around and got together with a great guy who loves me and who I am still with. Needless to say we divorced a second time. Anyway, this guy I am with is very good to me, however, my heart still belongs to my ex-husband, and he knows it. Well, we've been civil to each other for the kids sake, but last night, he made a move on me, and today he said it was a mistake?I need advice for ex-husband problems/confusion!!!!!?
It's great you get along when it comes to the kids but stay out of his pants! Your kids don't need their parents to go through a third divorce.
And if you can't or aren't ready to move on, break up with the new boyfriend and let him find someone who can give her heart to him.I need advice for ex-husband problems/confusion!!!!!?
You said ';this guy I am with is very good to me, however, my heart still belongs to my ex';. The ex whom you have divorced twice? The ex whom you cheated on with your new guy? The ex who cheated on you?
I think you might be addicted to all this drama. You should see a counsellor if you want to save your relationships with your new guy and your children.
sweetie you need to move on and be with your bf who loves you. if you cant give him 100% of you time heart and energy than you need to let him go on about his business. your ex is respecting the relationship you have with your bf since you are not. you need to grow up and let him go. or you need to stop playing games and leave the bf alone and get back with the ex and communicate you true and honest feelings to him about you and him. life is too short for this back and forth, cheating and lying, and divorcing over STUPID stuff that you cant even confirm. GodBless
You got out of your marriage when you weren't finished with it yet, and you got into this one with that baggage. You can't keep perpetuating the same decisions and expect a different result. If you leave this relationship prematurely just to satisfy the closure you never got with your ex you know it will be a mess.
Why not make a decision you can be proud of instead?
I know what it's like to be in love, and how it feels like you can't possibly live life without the one you love. I know the desperation of even thinking it. I also know that it IS possible to love someone and never be with them. That sometimes for the sake of sanity and serenity we must love them from a distance.
I am also aware of what it feels like to be cheated on, even if there is no proof that anything happened, there was still a betrayal. Even if he never did anything but think it, it's still a betrayal because he dang well knew he was supposed to go to you for all of his needs for friendship, love, sex, flirtiness, grumpiness, everything. You were supposed to be the one woman who got his devotion and loyalty, but it sounds like maybe you didn't (I don't know, but I know what intuition is, and I know it's usually right).
Who knows, maybe you don't have enough proof to convict him, and maybe you made some decisions then with insecurities that you don't care to nurture anymore. There comes a time when we have to be a big girl, and sometimes that requires us dealing with the consequences of our decisions.
But, there is still the fact that you LOVE him. That is a bond that seems to easily come and go, but I know better. I know that there are only a few people we will love even when we hate in this world. I know that the rest are just infatuations that go away when the newness goes away.
I can't tell you what to do, and to be honest I don't even know what I would do if I were you in this situation. I do know that if you decided to go back to your ex-husband that you would be going with double baggage, but that if you two really love each other then anything can be overcome if you are both willing to work on it everyday for the rest of your life (how else do you think people make it, lol). If you went back to him you would need to take off your running shoes and be willing to stick it out forever, no matter what because I agree that continuing to bounce back and forth with him is SCREWING with your children!!!!
They are paying for your immaturity, because they have no choice in the matter. Their lives are changed forever even if you don't mean your decisions once your anger wears off. From what it sounds like you aren't even sure he was doing anything but trying to re ';mark'; his territory and make sure you're still his (by making a move on you). Just like dogs and trees, they don't want someone else to mark their tree, but sometimes they just aren't willing to be loyal to their yard are they??
Children will always suffer from the mistakes of adults because nobody ever asks them how they feel about things. Nobody ever gives them the chance to have an opinion in broken relationships. Of course I know that kids don't really have the tools to know what is best for them, but that doesn't change the fact that they love their dad and want you to figure it out no matter what it takes. Because they need to wake up to parents that love each other every day. They think the sun rises and sets in your butt, and that daddy must be who made all that happen, so of course they get hurt when daddy can never come home again. Nobody asked them if that was ok, and nobody can mourn that for them. They will quietly suffer in their hearts everyday. So if you can't say that you won't do that to them again if he turns out to be unwilling to change, then just make that sacrifice and YOU do the suffering instead. Right now Daddy is gone, and they think that decision is forever. If you can't bring Daddy back forever, then don't tease them.
But if this boyfriend seems to just be a pretend solution, then don't allow them get attached to him when you already know he's not going to be forever either. If you are scared to be alone, learn to be happy with the one person you will be spending the most time with... yourself. Being a single mom is better than being a ';dating a guy you don't love because he fulfills some needs I have'; mom.
But, if this guy you are with seems to be the better choice just by looking at the pros and cons, then maybe you could examine it? See if you can really picture yourself with him in ten years. Find out if you love him, but are just confused because you never got closure with your ex. Ask yourself if you would still be with your ex if you knew he would be faithful? If you answered yes to that you're still not ready to let go of him and that needs to be examined too.
It's your life sweetheart, and it seems to me that you really just need to figure out what you WANT and then make your decisions accordingly. If you are feeling lonely with this boyfriend then maybe you are letting loneliness motivate you, which is like grocery shopping when you're hungry.... it's only ok if you have the money to pay for it all.
Can you pay the price if it turns out you are just lonely?
Are you really prepared to get back on that roller coaster with your ex again? (it may be that you can't WAIT to get back on, lol I know what it's like to miss someone that bad!)
Have you longed to be with your ex everyday?
Do you feel like you are cheating on him by being with your current mate?
Do you feel like this boyfriend was never real to begin with but instead was just you ';killing time?';
Are you just punishing your ex by being with this boyfriend?
If you are ready to walk out on your boyfriend and feel you would not miss him, not feel bad for him, not be angry with him then you already have your answer. If you could just tell him it was a mistake and gather up your things go, and never see him again, then you need to do just that. And you need to not feel guilty about it at all, because if you have just been waiting for a reason, then don't wait another day. Don't wait until you are in a big fight and have a reason, if you don't want to be with him set him free now. That's a decision you can be proud of later because it's the right thing to do. Letting our emotions (which change at the drop of a dime) make all of our decisions has to stop at some point. Because when we are no longer angry, or hurt, it turns out we discover that we are still very much in love and because of allowing ourselves to be blinded by our unpredictable emotions we made a very big mistake. It's commonly called letting our mouths write a check that our butts can't cash. The thing is that when we do that, (particularly in this case), our kids are the ones that have to pay up. And to do that they have to take from an account of funds that is supposed to be their future. Who they will become is determined by what we let happen to them as children.
I don't know what else to say, it seems sticky no matter which way you turn, and I am just grateful I'm not you (once it WAS me, but I didn't leave my husband and though it's still not perfect, I'm glad I had the guts to stay). Hang in there, and if nothing else, just pay attention to your gut. If every thought about doing something just feels icky (whether it's staying with your boyfriend, or running back to your ex), then don't do it, whatever it is. Do the opposite no matter how scared THAT makes you feel. You only have this life to live, so don't waste it trying to make other people happy. Nobody else is going to magically make YOU happy are they? NO!! Because it's not possible, only we know what makes us happy. Even if someone else desperately wants to make us happy they can't, and that's just the way it is, so don't worry about not being able to make everyone happy. At least if you're happy you can be the best mom for your kids, and we both know that children are so precious that they deserve the very best you.
Good luck!
You need serious help. You accuse him of cheating and then go cheat yourself. Your only proof of this alleged cheating is this ';fliritng';, which we can't be sure of now anyway. Cut this new guy loose for a bit and get into soem serious counseling, so you can decide what you want. I don't blame him for callling it a mistake. Women are right- people who cheat do point the finger at the other spouse.
Dose door mat to your first husband sound like a fair description of your relationship To him you could be a bit of a challenge. The chase can be better than the catch. Lets face it he's ';been there done that ';with you now it is a case of ';Lets see if she will come around again';
What sort of a person do you want to be ???
If you are in a happy relationship then why even give a hint of interest. If you are not then why are you in the relationship you are in.
Answer this question.
Who would you let your daughter marry ???
Your X or your current partner
The answer should help you make up your mind.
This one is easy, ';you can't always get what you want. You can try sometimes but you may just find, you get what you need.';
Committ to someone, and get on with your life. Stop always looking for a better deal. Do you like the role of the VICTUM? If you have someone who is treating you good and loves you committ yourself to him and quit ******* around with your looser x-husband. Trust me, you will live longer and be at peace.
Good Luck
if you didn't have children i would say that the 2 of you deserve each other but seeing as there are children involved STOP PUTTING THEM THROUGH HELL AND STOP THINKING OF YOURSELF AND MESSING WITH THESE POOR CHILDRENS HEADS, ITS BAD ENOUGHT YOU HAVE SCREWED UP YOUR LIFE STOP SCREWING UP THEIRS AND BEING SO SELFISH
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I need advice really bad boyfriend problems?
well me and this guy have been going out for 6 months and we were really good friends for about 2 years but i broke up with my x and me and him started dateing he was head over heals about me.. but he changed i preasured he says into him about telling me somethin cause something was bothering him u know i wanted to help and do the right thing i men who wouldnt do that? hes like i dont want to talk about it jus leave it alone.. so like a month before that he talked to me about he dosnt like to talk about things an it gets him mad so the next dy hes actin weird towards me he had his friend call me and said he was done he hasnt talked to me scince monday night im really worried and i love him alot i dont know what to do its killing me should i give him space it hurts really bad. he always wants to be with his friends and stuff im just really confused and need help do u think its a stupid reason why he broke up with me u just dont throw a girl away like that after 2 fightsI need advice really bad boyfriend problems?
just let him be, maybe he needs to calm down. try contacting him in a few days and try to talk him, tell him your sorry for upsetting him but u dont feel u did anything wrong, u were just trying to help. if hes still throwing you to the side over a simple issue of you wanting to help then maybe its time to move on and he isnt worth your love anyway.I need advice really bad boyfriend problems?
lesson 1 men dont talk so dont ask if theres a problem u will find out soon enough ,,,,but reading that id run he sounds like a head wrecker escape now
Well, personally that seems really stupid. You wanted to help and he didn't want it? That's a gay reason to break up w/ a girl. If you're going out with someone you should be able to help them any way you're comfortable helping them. You should be able to talk about anything, tell each other anything.
I guess give him some space, see what happens. If that doesnt work try talkin to him in a week or something.
The problem with relationships advice, is that people who are in the problem rarely take it. However, that being said...
If he broke up with you, he broke up with you. Some people seem to break up over stupid things, but that's how it is.
If someone doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, then you have to just let them.
Yes, it can be painful. Just don't get caught up in all the negative thoughts. You'll deal with it, and come out the better. One day a guy who's better for you will come along.
I'm sorry, but your spelling and grammar is too poor to understand. If you clean up what you wrote into standard, understandable English, I promise to read it and take it seriously.
Tough situation! To really understand what he's up to, you have to think like a guy. They don't like to talk about feelings or problems. In fact, most of them won't even admit they have them! So when a girl wants to know, like we all do, he feels pressured. The best way to get a guy to open up to you is just to build a relationship of trust where he can tell you anything, but doesn't ever feel like he has to.
As for you right now, I think you should definitely give him some space, but don't back off completely. Act cool, just be around him in a friendly, nonthreatening way.
just let him be, maybe he needs to calm down. try contacting him in a few days and try to talk him, tell him your sorry for upsetting him but u dont feel u did anything wrong, u were just trying to help. if hes still throwing you to the side over a simple issue of you wanting to help then maybe its time to move on and he isnt worth your love anyway.I need advice really bad boyfriend problems?
lesson 1 men dont talk so dont ask if theres a problem u will find out soon enough ,,,,but reading that id run he sounds like a head wrecker escape now
Well, personally that seems really stupid. You wanted to help and he didn't want it? That's a gay reason to break up w/ a girl. If you're going out with someone you should be able to help them any way you're comfortable helping them. You should be able to talk about anything, tell each other anything.
I guess give him some space, see what happens. If that doesnt work try talkin to him in a week or something.
The problem with relationships advice, is that people who are in the problem rarely take it. However, that being said...
If he broke up with you, he broke up with you. Some people seem to break up over stupid things, but that's how it is.
If someone doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, then you have to just let them.
Yes, it can be painful. Just don't get caught up in all the negative thoughts. You'll deal with it, and come out the better. One day a guy who's better for you will come along.
I'm sorry, but your spelling and grammar is too poor to understand. If you clean up what you wrote into standard, understandable English, I promise to read it and take it seriously.
Tough situation! To really understand what he's up to, you have to think like a guy. They don't like to talk about feelings or problems. In fact, most of them won't even admit they have them! So when a girl wants to know, like we all do, he feels pressured. The best way to get a guy to open up to you is just to build a relationship of trust where he can tell you anything, but doesn't ever feel like he has to.
As for you right now, I think you should definitely give him some space, but don't back off completely. Act cool, just be around him in a friendly, nonthreatening way.
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