Please help advice needed for family problems for our wedding!?

ok the story goes me and my partner are getting married in 7 wks all the family are happy for us and are all willing to get along for our day even tho they don't all speak and haven't for years,


the problem is my sister no one speaks to her or her other half , they want to come but i am really scared she will do something or cause a problem, now i know you are all just going to say talk to her but its not that easy she scares me as she can get violent and nasty.


i know if she comes there will be problems but if i don't invite her there will be consequences. i don't mean this lightly last time we fell out she told my partner he wasn't our babies father,


please i need advice and help my wedding is turning out to be something i am dreading instead of the best thing in the world.Please help advice needed for family problems for our wedding!?
I hardly know any wedding that some part of the family don't talk.





But you have got a problem!!





The only thing i'd do its don't invite her, you and your by then husband will know that something will come from her later so both be prepared to ingore anything she do or say.Please help advice needed for family problems for our wedding!?
wow! you need to stop being scared that's the first thing i'm going to tell you that's not good you should never be scared of her you don't live with her so if she comes by just don't let her in its that simple she cant touch you then. Its your day your suppose to be happy not stressed out and worried about people not getting along. I would just not invite her seriously and like I said if she tries to come over to beat you up just don't answer the door. I hope everything works out for you that's not right you should be able to enjoy your day.
The simple answer is not to invite your sister. If she cannot put aside her feelings for one day, just to get along with people for one day, then it not worth the hassle of inviting her.





Also what you got to consider is, who else would be effected by her not attending.





I had a similar situation in my wedding, when I had to chose which one of my wife's uncles to leave out.
Could you talk to her before hand? If she expresses any desire to cause trouble ask her not to come, and even if she doesnt maybe you could have someone to monitor the situation and keep an eye for any sign of trouble during the day and then ask them to leave if there is any sign. If you do this then you should be able to get on and enjoy the day without worying about it because you will know someone will be keeping an eye on things and you dont have too.
I just wouldn't invite her. It's your wedding, not hers. If you think she is going to show up you can always ask for a police officer, if it is actually going to be that much of a problem. I have been to one wedding that needed a police officer due to an ex-wife. Or send her an invitation telling her the wedding is the following week.lol
I would invite her, hopefully she might behave herself. Be prepared though, if she kicks off, get someone you can trust and run them out. She is a bully, you must stand up to her, or you will have her as a thorn in your side forever. I think everyone will be looking out for you on your big day. Try to put it to the back of your mind,(everyone has a loose cannon in the family) and have a glorious day.
Un invite the lot of them.


It's your big day don't waste it on a lot of miserable ungrateful people you are unfortunate enough to be related to and who will eat and drink at your expense probably end up spoiling it for you.


Invite friends and relations that you have seen in a friendly manner in the last 6 months.


Your hubby to be knows what your ghastly sister is capable off so he should be prepared.


Do it your way and sod the lot is my advice
omg i have problems with my family (my dad) so i know what you are going through. If i were you id tell her she can come but only if they keep themselves to themselves.





Ask a friend to keep an eye on her and maybe stand between to keep things calm , hope the wedding goes well and try not to let them ruin it for you , you may be pleasantly surprised.
I would not invite her due to the fact she has proved that she is violent and a danger to others.





As for worrying about what would happen later, ';if'; she shows up, get to a safe place and call the police.
Invite her. But make sure you emphasise how special you want you day to be. Explain how much it would mean to have a lovely!!!!, happy!!!! and memorable day.


Or If you have to be Straight to the point.





It depends on the type of person your dealing with.
You shouldn't invite her and if it is mine I won't invite her because she is a selfish girl
Cancel everything and elope...I did it that way to avoid all the drama..