Family problems i really need advice

ok to let u know ima 16teen year old dude im pretty damn cool and im really smart and creative im great in football and i think i could even become a carpenter,video game maker or somethin but i have alot of family problems...i never had a father he died before i was born and im living with my mom step dad and grandfather my mom used to do drugs as a teen but she has changed her life alot my step dad dosent have anything to do with me the only person that has something to do with me is my grandfather he spoiles me to death and hes always nice 2 me but i no he will only be here a few more years hes on oxygen and everything so i will have no one to look up to later on.my mom took methidone so she would be able to get off drugs as a teen she still took it until this year but she is still trying to get off methidone so she acts really mean and careless now its like shes losing her intelligence she really forgets alot of stuff .i also have a smaller brother and 2 sisters that my mom takes care of she does a good job but she forgets alot and shes not taking care of herself she wories about everyone else.my step dad has been cheating on her and she knows but she still wont leave him i have to here arguing everyday i had lots of friends were i used to live but my step dad moved my family to a boring town with not that many kids my age.ima cool kid i get to see my friends like every month we just chill and hangout but u no were not into smoking or drugs and stuff like that but anyway i could have a great future i just dont have anyone to look up to its hard not having a dad and my grandpa wont be here 4 that long also he dosent give me advice or anything my life used to be great until my mom married my step dad .i also have alot more family problems. i need someone to look up to so i can get far in life i want to be someone but with this family its hard my grandparents in va asked me if i wanted to live over their but i would never see my friends then how do i i get a good career and stuff when i have noone to look up 2?





i no this is alot of bull i wrote but i need advice


Family problems i really need advice
wow im sorry for your situation


i think as long as you can stick with good friends and do well in school you could have an amazing future ahead of you.





for someone to look up to.. maybe join a club or organization around your town, something that does good for the community/world, it is possible that you could find a good inspirational-figure there. (try volunteering at a hospital or clinic. maybe join a church? or any other organization that they have around your community. Invisible children maybe?)


just remember to focus on your goals, if you aim for the prize nothing can keep you from it. and oncfe you are where you want to be, maybe you can help people n your same situation :)Family problems i really need advice
You do not need someone to look up to. Chances are if you look up to someone somehow they are gonna let you down. The only person you should look up to is yourself. Believe in yourself. Its good that you aren't into drugs or anything. Its great that you are concerned about your future. Just cherish every moment you have with your grandpa i hope him the best. and you just keep on being yourself and dont worry so much about the future but keep you head up and strive to meet your goals. Jsut keep doin good and have faith in yourself. And not having anyone there for you only makes you stronger and more mature over time. You learn to be independent. I am 16 also. Just dont screw up your life.. keep doing good


If you need someone to talk to you can go to my profile on here and email me
slow down.your only sixteen you have a couple years to decide what you want to do.but on the matter of staying and your friends...you have to think of yourself.if your going to be more happy in va then go.your friends would be happy for you...better enviorment to live in and less hassle.you will not be stressed with taking care of things for your parents and you can relax and be a teen.you can make new friends and keep in contact with the others.and none of this sounds stupid and its not bull.its serious...and could turn your life around so your happy for once.
You have alot on your plate but first let me congradulate you for





1 , not getting in to drugs





2 , not disrepecting your mom even though she has her issues





3 , knowing and having the confidence that you are going to be someone with a bright future





This is not alot of bull. This is your life and its important that you do ge the help you need.





There is help for you and there are people willing to help you with support and advice . You need some strong role models that do the right thing morally ethically etc.





The bible offers practicall advice for ALL situations you have gone through /will go through but not only that you can get a free bible study tailored to your need. Some one from a local Kingdom hall of Jehovahs wittness can meet with you once a week and go over a book either ';Young People ask ,Asnwers the work'; Which is perfect for what you are going through right now or ';What the bible really teaches';





You will make real friends people who care about you and whats going on in your life and if you ever want to stop the study all you have to to do is tell them .There are so many good things that are about to happy even though things look really bleak right now there is hope.





Just look in your local yellow pages under ';Churches'; then J';ehovahs Wittnesses'; and call the one closests to you. You wont regret it.





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