ADVICE NEEDED PLZ marriage problems?

i am 38 yrs old with 4 grown up children the youngest being 13 yrs old,i recently married in july to who i thought was the man ov my dreams,he is not the father to any of my children,i also took his 11 ty old daughter on as my own 2 years ago as her own mum disowned her.since we have been married he as changed so much,he works very hard 5 days a week and doesnt go no where without me so theres no chance of him cheating.i am british and he is originally from the carribean. he is always argumentive and saying things bout my older kids.a few days ago my grandma passed away and instead of supporting me he is just staying in the other room ignoring me,i carnt think of nothing that i have done to make him this way although we do have a lot of family problems at the moment he keeps saying we need to move away from these problems,but i carnt see why its affecting him this much,we usually have sex regularly but for the past 2 weeks he cannot get a errection and hes been sitting downstairs until late watching the tv ,can anyone advise me please i really love him and i want him understand that losing my grandmas as been the worst thing in my life that as happened to me .ADVICE NEEDED PLZ marriage problems?
He is under a lot of stress and incapable of handling it properly it seems. If you've totally ruled out an affair by checking phone records and credit card statements then he is probably just stressed financially, from work and just trying to juggle everything. Go on a date together and reconnect. Communicate and never ever make him feel inadequate for not being able to preform, be patient and just cuddle and give him lots of affection.ADVICE NEEDED PLZ marriage problems?
first of all it sounds like he doesnt accept youre kids !! and about youre grandma he may not know how to comfort you with it and you cant move away from youre problems they will follow you !! you need to set down with him and talk to him and find out what is going on and him not getting erection with you that could be alot of things stress or health problems i wish you good luck and true happiness
Well it's obvious that he is under some sort of pressure. I don't know what that could be. Only you would know I think. Or maybe you don't. Maybe there is something he's not sharing with you??? I would talk to him and let him know you are truly concerned and would like to help in some way. Or maybe some counseling would help.
This remarriage is not starting out well at all...He's clearly not inamored with your children as a step father and is ALREADY critical, nor is he supportive of your needs, especially at a time of crisis. Yes, you bet that there is something wrong. -AND, if you have to explain to this over 30/almost 40 guy, I would submit he has some problems you didn't see before. Get past the holidays, then farm out the kids for an evening and set him down to a nice quiet dinner with JUST THE TWO OF YOU (or go out if you can afford it and be the one to pick the place and make it quiet for conversation...) IF he doesn't open up AND your relationship is THIS NEW? You have a real problem and maybe you jumped too fast into this marriage...





Sincerely,





Grace
As far as am concern, age has nothing to do with love,he knew


you had children before he agreed to marry you children are a joy to every marriage,every criticism should not be negative,try to communicate your feelings to him, know why he is not concern about the death of your grand ma,are u jobless?is he tired of family responsibilities?are u too demanding?is there anything you are hiding from him?is he sick? until you have an answer to this questions, pls don,t put up a fight.
Anytime a woman wrote to a columnist in the States by the name of ';Dear Abby'; many years ago, ';Abby'; would answer by asking the woman to ask herself if she was better off WITH him, or WITHOUT him, and then act according to that answer.





Perhaps try this: Take a long lined notepad and draw a line down the middle. At the top of the left side, write ';GOOD'; and at the top of the right side, write ';BAD';. Then make a list of the ';Good'; and ';Bad'; things about your marriage and your husband, and add up the columns.





I do NOT think you should move away from YOUR family. I hope you have a close relationship with his daughter, since having her own mother disown her has done some major damage I'm sure.





If anyone should move, let HIM go back where he came from, if he won't go to counseling with you to work out your issues. The fact that he was not incredibly supportive of you when your beloved Grandmother died speaks volumes about his lack of character. He sounds like a self-centered person, and you may end up being better off WITHOUT him.

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