Thursday, July 29, 2010

What do i do? i cant tae care of this gurl and her problems i need advice?

i have an ex girlfriend who recently said she was pregnant but she doesnt know who the dad is. when she left my house she thought it would make mjealousus by having sex with multiple partners and not to mention at least5 guys since we have broken up. it could be any oness kid. if it is minedintont want nothing to do with it... i know that sounds bad but shes crazy! she got kicked out of her house when she was 1 for stealing cars and disobeyiauthorityity. she has been prowling the internet for men to take care of her has been threatning and harrasing me since i kicked her out of my house. she will not leave me alone nd it is effecting my everyday life. if it is mine i cannot sustain a life for that kid and her gold digging self. the kid would be better off with her family knowing they want to take care of it. how do i get her to go away? the kid is better off with a family of thier value than with me as a student in college and promissing carrer. she droped out of school to move in witha guy she meet on the internet in hopes he would support her. what are your opinions and legal advice on what i should do?What do i do? i cant tae care of this gurl and her problems i need advice?
I understand the part about you being a college student with a ';promising career'; but that doesn't change the fact that indeed, if the baby is yours, you have to support it and if you don't, she can provide proof that you are the father and that you are not paying child support and the court can order an arrest on you making it even worse for you so if the baby is yours, find out how child support works and you can get out of it by helping pay for the child's need. Now, in regards to her, you do not have to support her just because you're supporting the baby. The two of you are not together which means that you are still obligated to take care of the baby but not of her. She's on her own. This works differently when the two of you are just broken up and have no serious legal documentation of marriage. You need to have a serious conversation with her explaining to her that you will take a DNA blood test to verify that the child is yours and that if the baby is yours, that you will pay for child support but that you don't want to have a relationship with her and that she needs to understand this because if she doesn't, you can get a restraining order or an order for trespassing private property and emotional distress and whatnot. Also, contact the police and explain to them what she is doing and the will settle an agreement or tell you what to do. Really, you should take a DNA test and if the baby is not yours, let her know that you do not want to have anything to do with her. Also, advise her to try to contact the potentional baby daddies to see if they can also provide a DNA test. My opinion is that every child needs a guardian and if you have the oppurtunity to be a father then be one. Don't be selfish. You slept with her, you're older now, take responsibility. In the future, it can bring emotional and mental distress not just for you but for the baby. I am trying to find my biological father now and I'm almost 18 years old so don't let that child be fatherless and wanderous like me.What do i do? i cant tae care of this gurl and her problems i need advice?
love her
before you do anything, if she is going to hound you about whether or not it's yours, get a dna test to find out if you're the father! otherwise you're wasting your time. if it is yours, you have to live up to it and do your part (ie pay child support). if it's not yours, you owe nothing to her except a restraining order.





oh, almost forgot: keep it up with school and your career! =]
Pay your child support and get a restraining order on her.
if it is yours you need to man up but she is crazy do something about her do not talk to her till u have to about the baby
get a restraining order on her. when the baby is born get a dna test. pay your child support if its yours. you might change your mind about wanting a relationship with the kid, if its yours. you sayin you want nothing to do with it right now is influenced from your idea of having to have a relationship with the mother. remember its not just you in that baby's life but your family also. maybe your parents or other relatives would like to be a part of your childs life even if you dont.
find out if it is yours and make sure you get full custody, and make sure you have proof of her being unfit because you need proof other than he say she say. get protective child services involved if it isn't yours because if she continues on she could get the baby killed or she can get killed, so i would suggest you speak to some one of authority and have some proof, but first make sure it is yours

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