HELP! advice? anything...child support problems?

im going to try to make long story short. my son is 4. i received a $900 month payment for all of one year. the rest is arrears i have not recieved. the license has just been suspended for the father for non paymet.





the problem is that the fatherquit his job in june, got married in a different country in july, and is now living here again SEPARATED from his new wife already b/c upon arrival back home she saw the mail saying his license was suspended and further legal action would be taken, he has no money to pay. she refuses to help. (she knew about this before the marriage buti guess love is blind huh?)





so now i am stuck with a very angry man who does not want to pay. he tells me he owes the irs money too.





is leaving the country (spending $3k on roundtrip plain tickets) getting married and coming back and still not paying a good reason for me to file civil suit? i want to sue him for negligence, willful non payment, distress,,,,antyhing i can.





what can i do? im pretty sure if he gets pulled over he will be arressted. i never understand that bc then he really cant work and really cant pay and only will make him more angry. im afriad if he gets mad enough he will try to hurt us. wwhaaaat am i supposed to d o? im on welfare...i can't do anything bc i am so busy working....HELP! advice? anything...child support problems?
You picked him. of all the guys in the world, you chose to breed with him.





I'd say live with your mistake and move forward as he has made it quite clear , you're not getting a dime from him.HELP! advice? anything...child support problems?
I would consult a lawyer. If neither of you have any money, you want to be absolutely sure you can win the case. Legal fees are expensive.
1. It's the fathers responsibility to pay child support, not the person he is married to.





2. Contact whatever state agency deals with child support. Tell them your story.





3. You can try taking him to court, but if he's not working, what's he going to pay with. You could try filing a civil suit, you might win his car, but I doubt its going to help your situation much.
You probably don't have many options other than to let Child Support in your area deal with him. If he goes to work his check will be attached and any tax rerunds due him from the IRS will be attached and swallowed by the state to repay Welfare. You will most likely never see a dime of it one way or the other. All a civil suit will do is gain you some legal fees that neither of you can afford, worsening your financial situation.


This whole thing about revoking one's driver's license for nonpayment of child support is one of the most hare-brained ';solutions'; I have ever had the misfortune of running across. I would be interested in knowing who the idiot was that decided that taking away a non-custodial parent's driving privileges furthers the cause of collecting child support if the person can't get to work to be able to pay the child support?


And for those that are misinformed, one can work and be on Welfare, too. How much one receives from Welfare while working goes on a sliding scale according to how much you earn.


A new spouse is not responsible for her husbands child support from a previous marriage. If child support is an issue when filing income taxes, they should file separately, or the new partner should file an injured spouse claim with the IRS.
contact your local child support agency.





But if he is not working, there is not a lot you can do.





They can yank away his passport, but only for travel to other countries other then the one his estranged wife lives in.





They can throw him in jail, but he has no money so the state probably won't do a thing.





It seems to me you're just going to have to suck it up and support your kid 100%. I know it is not fair, but the sooner you don't depend on him but rather yourself the sooner you will leave the jerk behind you.





Keep in mind, Child support will follow him to the grave. He is the master of his own undoing and selfish as hell.





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I'm sorry. It sounds like you're pretty much screwed. Can't get blood from a turnip, as they say.





And yet, I can't help but think that this guy only recently became a loser. I have a feeling he's been a loser all along. So, with respect, what the heck were you thinking? Hopefully, other women and girls around you will take your example to heart and make a better decision in their mate and who they sleep with.
You can't work and be on welfare. Not legally anyway. So your story seems bogus. Anyway, I personally don't care about you and your messy life. Sell the baby on ebay, or drop him off at an orphanage or something. Having said that, maybe call Michelle Obama, tell her you hate the USA, and she'll probably pass a ';Loser Act'; in Congress and rush a check out to you.