New relationship...sex problems...need more advice?

My boyfriend and I just moved in together. Well i moved into his house about 2 months ago...Weve been together for 7 months....IT seems like every time I iniate sex he turns me down. But not in a aggressive';get off me way'; but a lighter,sweeter ';no baby'; . It makes me cry everytime he does this. Last night we did have sex but it was quick and barely kissed and he iniated it out of the blue...nothing leading up to it...wham bam thank you ma'am....People say I am beautiful and women are just in love with his personality and literally model good looks. People say we are the ';:perfect'; couple and ask US for advice. It seems like we have fans. I realize he is stressed with owning his own business but this is reallly taking a toll on me. It seems like we should still be banging like rabbits...we never since the day we met were in that stage... I can't think of more than twice that he fully iniated sex.... But he tells me every minute of the day that he loves me...Everyone , including himself, had told me that he and his EX WIFE of 2 years ( they divorced a 2 years ago) were like always having sex, threesomes, and even SWINGING!!! I dont know what to do...I just want to feel sexually wanted I guess...or maybe it is something else...This is humiliating when he tells me no...I feel like I should be the one telling HIM no...but it is always the other way around....I've never said no...New relationship...sex problems...need more advice?
First of all, don’t panic. Most long term relationships experience dry spells in the bedroom, you just need to work through it.





My advice first and foremost is to sit him down and talk to him. Find out why he seems disinterested. It’s best NOT to bring up this conversation right after sex, or right after you have been turned down for sex. Bring it up outside of the bedroom (make sure it’s somewhere appropriate) when you’re both in a happy and cooperative mood. Tell him how you feel, and that even though you know he loves you, that you need to feel sexually desired. But DO NOT nag or become frustrated and angry with him (if he has a problem/fear that is causing him to avoid sex, he is unlikely to be honest with you if you do not act understanding).





One problem could be he feels a lack of exhilaration. You say he has had a very unconventional sex life with his ex-wife. He possibly misses the excitement. This does NOT mean you have to engage in threesomes or swinging (unless you enjoy these activities), however look for ways to make sex different and more exciting. Spice it up with forbidden pleasures you think you may enjoy such as, role-playing, sexy costumes/lingerie, sexy holidays, taking sex outside the bedroom, adult toys, pornography (make sure its a genre that you can BOTH enjoy) etc. Also try to make sure sex is not simply a repetitive habit, try new positions, new times of day, and new locations (even just around the house). However make sure anything you do, you feel comfortable doing, don't just do it to please him, sex is about mutual enjoyment.





If he says he is always “too tired” or “too stressed” that’s usually just an excuse, after all, sex is THE BEST stress relief. I don’t know how old he is, but men over 35 tend to experience a decline in their libido compared to when they were a 18 year old hormone hornbag (but don’t panic! There are still ways to improve your sex life in these circumstances; you just have to work a little harder).





When you finally get your sex life back on the rails, why not have a little revenge. Take a chance to turn HIM down for once, make HIM beg for sex ;)





I was once the disinterested guy you are describing. Then my awesome girlfriend sat down and talked to me. Now we are rabbits!





Good luck!